Parents should be aware and be able to discover that the generation in which today's children are, is spectacular. Some people call it 'jet age.' Parents have to be quite aware that there's a great generational gap apart you? "Train up a child in the way he should go". Not in the way you were trained; what worked for you then, may not exactly work for them now.
Your duty as a caretaker, caregiver and guardian of your children, is that of guidance, admonition, counseling, supervision, instruction in righteousness and correction. It's not that of coaxing, brutality, intimidation, or even rains of abuses. Dear parents, if you do it this way, remember they won't stay under your roof forever, like till eternity. One day they will leave your house for one reason or another, some of them may pretend to be good while in your house, but go out there to do the opposite of what you know them for and by. This is simply because you trained them your own way, not 'in the way they should go'.
This issue is the reason a boy gets to a higher institution and indulge in cultism, others criminality and all forms of crime. This is the reason 'the holier than thou' girl child at home gets out there and joins in prostitution without the parents knowing about it until things fall apart. Some of them, begin by having two kinds of dress code.
Dear parents, train up your child in the way he should go. You should scold them in love, you spank them to correct, not to show cruelty. Tell them all they need to know, I repeat; ALL, not some, cos they may get to know them somewhere else the wrong way. Tell them all the HOWs, WHYs, WHATs, and WHENs at each right time... Do this as the Lord grants you wisdom and ability. Then, experience happy parenting.
This piece gives me joy
Some parents think that every child should be trained the same way when its a lie
There should be differential ways and methods of training kids
Every child is unique... I hope the parents can take note
Well spoken!!! I think parents need to take note of all this and understand that we the children needs breathing space, they should stop choking us with their constant rules and regulations and let us be who we want to be... With their guidance am sure we wont drift from the good side
Parents sometimes think that it is good to only beat the child. That is why at every slight mistake the child does parent resort to beating,at the long run the child becomes immune to cane at that point parents resort to fighting with him or her
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As if you know what has been on my mind and put it into words,thank so much for sharing I wish all parents can hear this voice that they shouldn't train children the way they were trained.
I think our parents should see this so that they will understand that we were not born at the same time and it is not what worked for them that will work for us too.Beating is not needed actually most times because eventually the child will get used to it and if he does something bad,he will never make a big deal out of it then he will just say is it more than beating me?
When I say that Technology has done more harm than good in every facets of our lives... Arguments always pops.. Thing children watch and see i the TV and on net has turned them into someone else
Men things has go out of hand if we are to talk about this matter, technology nowadays has spread like a virus on this children i mean see everything am seeing on net this days children are doing is some thing els my brother but at the same time technology is really helpful don't let us forget that we just have to teach the the deference between bad and good as a parent.
Parents should learn from this and try to befriend their children and help guide them into becoming something in life rather than be a dictator to them. Dictating how your children should live will not help as they will one day leave your presence and go indulge into something else.
Many parents have forgotten that this age we are now is way different from theirs , because what wasnt then, is now, hence the "Jet age", i think parent should make their children closer than ever, because if they tend to want to train them their own way, there is never a perfect wat to train a child, it just wisdom needed
This idea is great because the moral decadence of children nowadays are traces to the inability of their parents to train them the right way. Children needs to be praised with love, punished with love, advises with love, anything you do for them should be done with love. They need love and care
There is intermission between the parent of today and the children of today, the parent believe that to trained children of this generation parent need to be harsh and the children believe that the era of harshness has gone, but I think both parent and the children need to understand the way of life and word of God
I would say this is awesome.
How i wished all parents can see this, know this and practice it, it would bring a positive change to the society. Not everything deserves beating, but most parents don't seem to hear. Maybe an awareness programme should be set up for parents on how to nurture a child well.
Firstly nowadays our parents are extremely busy with there jobs and some other things which makes them not to have time for there kids in that case they won't know what there kids Do,eat,watch or listen to,in some homes you can find a kid of 13years old using a smart phone which they do use it to do so many immoral activities such as watching porn videos and the rest
I think our parents should put a good eye on their kids for a better generation
Wow! This is so helpful especially to the parents and parents to be. Your major problem as a parent start when you get to discover that your child has gotten used to your beating and flogging. Every time shouldn't be about beating and flogging. There must be a time you need to sit them down and talk to them. Most importantly, live by example and pray to God for wisdom. Don't forget to pray for your children always. It goes a long way.
I love this article very well. So many parents nowadays thinks that this age is still the same age then. They don't know that things have changed . Something done on 19's is different from 21st century. That's while parents should endeavor to train there children in the right way not the way you where treated in the 19's . Also the causes of so many children getting pregnant are because the way they were treated at home. I just wish parents of nowadays could change
Well to me i would say if your parents are trained in a well mannered way there is nothing wrong there to train you also like that. Though it may be the old fashioned way but i thibk if it is right i would accept that kind of training. This so called fashion has destroyed most of the youths life anyways. So it nothing bad to train your child in the way you were trained,if it is a good way.But a parents should never choose what the chikd should do all they have to do is to train him on how to become whatever he wants to become.
Well said, children should not be trained the way they were trained, technology, society has evolved,if you as a parent wants to live in the idea of my child is holy please forget it, in the 21st century things have changed.
We ought to pay attention to our children...especially now that we are in the Jet age... Most things can be seen through media, both social and On Tv and radio... African children are gradually adopting the western culture which is leading to so many menaces in our country today.
The past should remain in the past, civilization is everywhere so things are to be handle in different ways, old life should not be recall in this modern days, that doesn't mean children should be brought up without training but there should be limitation to everything.
This write up is very nice and important.
Parents of nowadays should also be more open to their children because with or without them they are able to get some certain informations.. especially through the internet.
This comes down to s8x education. Yes, what has been perceived a taboo topic by our parents should not be neglected with this new generation of children. These days, from a tender age children know some certain things. So when they get to the right age, this topic should definitely not be neglected.
And also putting the perception of a woman's biggest achievement is marriage, into the girl child must stop. It has lead so many women into wrong marriages, abusive homes, etc.
Everybody has his or her own life to live the parent life doesn't determine the children life because we are now in computer age everything has change so the parents should teach there children the best way of life not forcing them to live the life they live in there early age
I think think it's time parent began to know how best to train there children, most parent especially in African homes believe flogging the wards is the best way of correcting them which is not so, and not the best way
This article deserves 5stars really. Some parents think being strict will make their children better but that’s a lie. The world is quite different from how it was during their youthful days but they fail to understand that. Being too strict will only ruin kids
You just nailed it. True talk. Parents should train a child in a way he should go and not in their own way. There are so many things children of this age know our fathers don't know. Parents should allow their children experience the world.
I can say we should train all children and treat them equally and do not over pamper a child much cause that could spoil the child, and try to avoid keeping husband and wife's privates stuffs at the reach of kids
whaooo this write up gives me joy in my heart God bless you the writer . May God help all parent and God should please give the children listening ears in Jesus Name. Amen
That's a good point of reasoning, I really don't blame the parents, cause they try their best to train us the same way they where been trained. Every mother tries to educate there child their own way which is in their capacity or capabilities then later on they are been exposed to the world which is full of different characters, and different peoples way of reasoning. So when this child see's a new thing which his or her parents told them nothing about they tries and get involded in different sphases of life either in good or bad way.
Yes, this is actually true as the bible says, Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go and he will not depart from it
i strongly believe. Due to the fact that parents influencs children who are of course thiers tend to mend them in a way that is not pleasing UNKNOWINGLY.Such that they grow up in that way and manner of living in the society.
how can this be eradicated?
it is by conducting of seminars for parents and the upcoming youth on the advantages and disadvantages of guardians or parents to their offspring who will in turn grow up as a parent one day etc
Train up a child in a way he will grow, this recipe should be a must read to some parent that disregard their children. There is another word from the Bible that says spare the rod and spoil the child, it is so unfortunate that children of this 21th centuary are not remorseful and they lack respect. The answer to all this is talk to them with no partiality so they'll learn and grow maturely
Thats really true now a days,parents should know they really need to train their child the way this century is not of those old days
I think they would all know the right thing by now and they would surely see the truth
This is a big fact i must recommend, parents shouldn’t take because they were trained with this way then would want to impose that same training on their children..things changes it must not have to be your way parents but the right and proper way a child should grow and things that should be made known to them
Parents should discover their children and support them in the journey of life to stand not forcing a child to your own directions of life all the time.
This article is a great write up to enlighten some ignorant parent out there. As a parent you have to be free minded with your child don't see your children as slave but a close friend that you scold with care and not harsh not until you get harsh with your children before you can scold them
Children raised in isolation or not the most functional of children especially when they grow up and are giving some level of freedom. Because they don't really know how to handle life they are even worse than the criminals which we are familiar with and so they really need to be giving some space as they grow up and give me some words of wisdom as they grow up and also at the right time when they need to be floor they should also be floor but all combination of these need to be done for a proper child to be groomed and for him or her to be an asset and not a liability to not only his or her family but also the society.
One thing parents of nowadays do is they try to train thier children as they were trained forgetting that they did not grow up in the same setting and times as their kids are growing which results into making so many mistakes in parenting.
Nice article mehn you really hit the point and that's the main problem Nigerian parents have. They tend to train their children in the way they were trained which is not supposed to be they've forgotten that times has change. The way is was then is different from the way it is now. I therefore endeavor all parents to train their wards in the way they should go and not the way they'll like them to go.
Very true, parents should correct children in love and not inflicting high level brutality in the name of scolding, love should be the basis of how they act to thier children. God help all parents
I totally agree with you. The makeup of children these days is different from children in the 90's. Most parents try to use the way they were trained to follow up their children and obviously its going to be a dead end. Parents need to learn and adopt new parenting skills in order to raise these 21st century kids.h
When I say that Technology has performed more harm than good in every facets of our lives... Arguments always pops.. Thing children view and see i the TV and on net has turned them into someone else
This piece made my day, I wish mom could see this,
African parents need to see this, so many things happening today is their fault, due to what my mom did, I can't even say it boldly to her that I don't want to date the person she's matchmaking me with. What a sad world
Well said!!! Some parent think all children must have a degree to be successful in life,well they are mistaken. Some children are very talented in what they call extra curriculum activities parent should please encourage them. Not all children will use their certificate to eat
I really think that every parent should see this article as a matter of fact because a lot of parents have made and are still make grave mistakes in the name of "training my child in the way I was trained" which is absolutely wrong and definitely unacceptable
Being a parents requires a lot,yo gotta know the kinda child you gave birth to cos some children requires to be beaten to be able to change while some needs just a little advice to change
I love this post. If only African parents can heed to this intelligent advice. Though most of them try their best. I saw a tweet recently that said one shouldn't treat our children in a way just because our parents treated us so, we should treat them in a way we wished we were treated
Moat today's children don't obey there parents any longer and parents of nowadays don't know the techniques to train up children of nowadays and this is really causing a great problem in the society.
I love this. Gone are those days where everything you watch on TV set teach majorly morals but now it otherwise, I will love to urge both parents and kids cause it a different thing that you talk to the kids of nowadays and it another thing for them to pay heed.
For our parents our children is our first priority we should be their guild and protect them as well we should teach them the right way and not the other way round, also teach them the world of God so as the grew they grew with it so that fear of God will be in them, God bless us as we do this Amen...
This is fact
So many children have gone astray today because they weren't given the proper training and some parents still believes in old methods not wanting to adapt to the jet age method
This new generation has evolved into many technological changes that has made things easy in one way or another but also it has brought so much problem to the world at large but it has so many negative effects on the youths of this new generation because so many of them have involve themselves in internet fraud
Gone are the days children sit around the camp fire and listen to words of wisdom.. Now its camping out with friends and jumping into the raging fire of hell...21st century brought with itself a lot of good stuff and a great lot of negative site attractions... Culture/Morals is important at this juncture as a symbol of checks and balance