Growing Up In A Polygamous Home.

Some of us don't know the comfort we enjoy growing up in a monogamy family.
There is more to growing up in a polygamous family than it appears to be. The comfort i enjoyed growing up in a polygamy family is the vibe that goes around the house. There is never a boring moments, its full of drama, fighting or been fought. But there is more bad than good.

The competition is on grade A, you have to compete with your half siblings in all facts of life, you wont never want to be left behind. Talking about fatherly love and affection, it certainly don't go around equally. And this builds fake love fake smile in the family. There is always this feeling of schadenfreude when things are not going well with you, take it or leave it nobody wants you to be as successful as they are.

Do you think there could be an ideal family in a polygamous home?

Did you grow up in a polygamous home? how has it been? kindly share your experience.


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  • Growing up in a polygamous home is nothing to write home about. I mean, my step mom literally made an attempt on my life when I was but a year old. 

    My half sister is a pain, there was this certain time she burnt all of my clothes and shoes just cos I called her stupid. 

    - Gbenga Adeosun - 2019-10-05 14:08:46 Quote

  • Growing up in a polygamous home is seriously an experience. If you have not been born into polygamy, thank God for His love upon you. Polygamy is a situation l do not want my children to experience because l was there.                My greatest annoyance is that , as the original firstborn and first son,my dad saw my step brother who is 10 years my junior as his first son. That was my greatest slap. I fought it and got my position back. 

    - Light Udoyo - 2019-10-05 14:16:21 Quote

  • It is always not easy to grow up in a polygamous home. I am an example. The hate that comes from your step brothers and sisters can sometimes make you react in a way you shouldn' times I wonder why fathers choose to marry more than one wife 

    - Bana Regina - 2019-10-05 14:17:47 Quote

  • Polygamous home, I wouldn't say I prefer is the responsibility of the head of the family. Whosover that is initiating it should bear in mind that he is bringing in people of great difference. If He can't handle the family living together then it is advised he separates the home. Give the wives different locations otherwise, he should do the needful : making sure that they all live peacefully. 

    - Okonkwo Blessing - 2019-10-05 14:18:13 Quote

  • Growing up in a polygamous family is not really the best you have to compete with your siblings in almost every thing you can get distracted easily in little frivolities to adds little or no value to your life

    - Babatunde Akande - 2019-10-05 15:58:44 Quote

  • Growing up in a polygamous family is not really the best you have to compete with your siblings in almost every thing you can get distracted easily in little frivolities to adds little or no value to your life

    - Babatunde Akande - 2019-10-05 15:59:00 Quote

  • Hmm! This is a pure truth. I didn't come from a polygamous family but I have them all around me. A man with three , four wives. Each of these wives having more than two children each, it's not been easy for the whole family, enmity is the order of each day.

    Infact, feeding of the family is no longer the man's job as each wife tries to do all she could to gain the man's attention over other lives. It's a bad life all our youth must detest polygamous marriage with perfect hater.

    - Folakemi Obatimehin - 2019-10-05 16:01:59 Quote

  • For me I grew uo in a polygamous home. Its not easy though because sometime my step mom thinks I don't listen to her or do what she wants because she's not my mom,  this sometimes this brings side talks and grummling. Most times the two women are not easy going g because they feel one gets more love and attention than the other. My dad on the other hand tries not to let our mother's disputes affect us the children 

    - grace Ofozor - 2019-10-05 16:03:06 Quote

  • Polygamous family is a thing I don't want my children to have experience. Fake smile, fake love. You will be extra careful with your things, most especially food. So they won't poison you and so many more. It's nothing to write home about

    - Omosowon Temitope - 2019-10-05 16:03:06 Quote

  • Growing up in a polygamous home is a wonderful thing to behold. When my dad was tired of my mother he married another woman. That was the beginning of another life for me. My step mother was wickedness personified. She represented Lucifer her senior brother. I saw hell. Just believe me that l saw hell . Let me not go into full details. 

    - Aniekan Etim - 2019-10-05 17:12:15 Quote

  • Well I know everything has it own up and down but not all polygamous home is actually evil. I know of families which despite the disparities there's a great bond among the wives and children.

    - Manthurat Adebisi - 2019-10-05 17:21:51 Quote

  • Polygamous marriage always affect the children, you can hardly see a peaceful polygamous house, men should stop bringing problems to themselves and their unborn children, just get one wife and have peace.

    - Cecilia Tolulope - 2019-10-05 17:50:02 Quote

  • It has been indeed a terrible experience for me. My father has 3 wives and we are 13 children in our home. My mother is the second wife and it always has been abput hate and envy from other wives. The fact that I just graduated from the University hurt my father's first wife a lot. And this is becuase her son spilled over the year due to failure in some courses. I'd never let my sister go into a polygamous home. It's a whole lot of bad experiences

    - Ademola Jayesimi - 2019-10-05 17:56:45 Quote

  • i actually grew up in a monogamous home, but based on people's stories its not actually easy because every day is a competition and rivalry is everywhere. But some polygamous homes are actually peaceful, based on the premise that the wives understand themselves but this is a rare case though.

    - John Olamide - 2019-10-05 18:34:48 Quote

  • Growing up in a polygamous home was actually fun filled for me.there was actually no such moment that me and my brothers from my step mom based had to fight or quarrel base on hatred for one actually coexisted between us and we had to work together as one family.Till date we eat from the pot of food..I think my dad played a vital role towards uniting us as one family

    - Destiny Nwaigwe - 2019-10-05 18:52:34 Quote

  • There’s nothing good about polygamy, even if there’s not witchcraft, the competition makes the siblings act like witches who don’t fly at night, as a kid I always admired families who come together to eat dinner or breakfast, I never experienced this because I grew up to see my parents living apart, it was a sad experience, and I pray my own children do see such.

    - Ofejiro Oseya - 2019-10-05 19:23:35 Quote

  • My family is actually a polygamous family but my step mother is not a wicked woman though she has her own flaws too but she is the kind of stepmother you will wish for regardless of any competition in the family.

    - Kameel Itunu - 2019-10-05 20:55:03 Quote

  • Not everyone in a polygamous family wants you happy. I mean you have to be really careful abt everything you do and at the same time you have to be a prayer addict so that no one is able to do you any harm spiritually

    - Subomi Oloyede - 2019-10-05 21:04:21 Quote

  • For those born into a polygamous home,they really are the best,they go through fire either from the step mother or step sister,even the fatber can just develop hatred for a particular wife or child

    - Taiwo Itunuoluwa - 2019-10-05 21:39:39 Quote

  • Is not easy growing up in a polygamuos home because, many of your siblings will be loved by your differently and you. And there must be a one person that will be mostly loved by the parents and that brings trouble between the family.

    - Tsekar Leonard Aondoakula - 2019-10-05 22:03:41 Quote

  • Growing up in a polygamous family for me was nothing but hell but I learnt the greatest life lessons from my large family because my grandfather had lots of wives and my father has 2 so its war from my parents down to my own self and my step mother is another story. The way she hears up the family is fire..I am a survivor and i am strong 

    - Adeonigbagbe Anuoluwapo Ibhade - 2019-10-05 22:54:13 Quote

  • well.. I grew up in a polygamous home,  mum was the first wife and there was a share of fights at the beginning but I don't understand how my dad maneuvered the whole situation.. I can't remember the last time there was a fight,  maybe because mum stopped caring about the whole issue and we children hardly stayed at home but it's been fairly good I'd say.. 

    - Adedamola Ajayi - 2019-10-05 22:55:43 Quote

  • My family is a polygamous family also , but mine is kind of different because we don't stay in the same house , so I don't know how it feels to be in the same house with my stepmom but i know for sure that if we staying together the house will be on fire

    - Maroofdeen Jumoke - 2019-10-05 23:13:35 Quote

  • never lived in a polygamous home or came from a polygamous home but hav friends and teachers who has the story they tell us is worst because most times there is hatred between the different wives children and competition isn't soo easy ,one can loose focus in such family .

    - Akinfenwa David - 2019-10-05 23:30:58 Quote

  • My family is a monogamous home. And honestly my mom is going through a lot to keep the family tied together

    I can feel the pains those from polygamous came out from. If my mom could be going through so much then how much more those from polygamous

    - Ealefoh Adesuwa - 2019-10-05 23:39:49 Quote

  • There is hardly another peaceful polygamy family. Polygamous family is characterized by jealousy and war. While some rich kids polygamous family don't face inadequare care,the poor ones do. Polygamy should be put to a stop

    - Christopher Peace - 2019-10-05 23:45:35 Quote

  • Growing up in a polygamous home is a tempting but a beautiful experience. When you grow up in a polygamous home you are always smart and very wise. And the most beautiful thing about that is the massive number in the house. Even though,sometimes you never get what you want but some homes are monogamous and yet the same

    - Muhammad Faeezah - 2019-10-06 01:02:12 Quote

  • Growing up in a polygamous home is a tempting but a beautiful experience. When you grow up in a polygamous home you are always smart and very wise. And the most beautiful thing about that is the massive number in the house. Even though,sometimes you never get what you want but some homes are monogamous and yet the same

    - Muhammad Faeezah - 2019-10-06 01:02:13 Quote

  • I personally didn't grow up in a polygamous home but I've heard lots of ills stories about them, there was this one where the stepmother tried to poison the other wife's son which is the only son of her husband but fortunately the poison didn't kill him although it messed with his vocal chords. I've also heard peaceful stories although they are few compared to the terrible ones. The fact still remains that as human beings everyone cannot be loved equally, there will always be favouritism so thus challenge will always be a struggle in polygamous homes.

    - Nnacheta Chinonye - 2019-10-06 01:04:51 Quote

  • Growing up in a polygamous home can be very confusing and funny sometimes 

    you can have siblings that you don’t even know of, you might even pass them on the road not knowing that he or she is your blood especially when the father happens to marry more than three wives and some of them are separated 

    - Ekeh Michael - 2019-10-06 03:20:19 Quote

  • Polygamous family is full of different crises, envy and enmity. It's not advisable for the young ones of today cause they are impatient. Though those that found themselves in a polygamous home has no choice of picking where they wanted to be born but am sure that you will over come it and do not make your children go through the same stress. Someone once said to me that "one wife equals one problem".

    - Rachael Omikunle - 2019-10-06 04:36:53 Quote

  • I seriously do feel for those that come from the polygamous home.,. My bestie became a saddist because of this....cos she wanted her father to show her love..for she loved the father so much....but no... Its a competition galore...and this will affect her in her family (marriage)

    - Adewunmi blessing - 2019-10-06 04:54:30 Quote

  • I never experienced such, neither do I pray for my kids for polygamist family. Due some children from polygamous family engaged in competition, quarrelling, misunderstand and the husband dies pre mature because of family crisis.

    - Odoh Jane Ukamaka - 2019-10-06 06:15:48 Quote

  • Well, as far as a polygamous family is concerned, there exist pros and cond.  The disadvantages might be considered greater though. 

    The children would be many in the family to such extent that one would be deprived one's ordinary treatment that should have been accrued on one. One may be eating less foods in every senses. Spiritually, one may be attacked by other step wife etc. 

    - Issa Abdulazeez - 2019-10-06 06:55:33 Quote

  • I will say in my polygamous family, it's part of the worst one I av experience so far, because my dad had 4 wives and I lived with all of them simultaneously, what they all use my eyes to see ehn, It's God that save my life and soul, but look at me now, thank God.

    - Yusuf Abiola Waliu - 2019-10-06 07:01:28 Quote

  • I Grew up in a polygamous family,  but I never noticed any jealousy or something of that kind,  we live together as if we all have just one mother,  thought they two mother's live together in same apartment, I never noticed or heard them quarreling,  they've always cooperated with each other 

    - Chukwubuikem Ifiona - 2019-10-06 07:12:10 Quote

  • Well i did not grow up in a polygamous family but  i know quite sure that the disadvantage of it outweigh its advantage. Every one seems to be competition virtualy in everything in life. No rest of mind everyday one problem or the other. Children are seen as rivals to one another.

    - IFEANYI NWOKEDI - 2019-10-06 07:15:20 Quote

  • Polygamous home is never the best both the good the bad and the ugly things are happen in a polygamous home a father can not give his wives equal love problem will start... Father will not give his children equal love another wahala go start I never think in my life to practice a polygamous home because I dong want my children to experience a polygamous home

    - Luckru Bako - 2019-10-06 07:34:00 Quote

  • People that are born into a polygamous family are really trying. I have a friend who's father got married to another woman not that the first wife has any problem and she has 5 children two girls and three boys , the two girls are through with their Uni. and NYSC , but this man went on to marry another wife and now the fight day in day out , this will make every body focused on what he or she is doing , trying to be the best and not to put each of their parents to shame, they struggle so hard to be successful. Apart form the ugly side of polygamous family I think the positive part is good. It builds people to become what the never could have been in the essences of the best among children or the best wife . 

    - Paschal Iheanyichukwu - 2019-10-06 07:58:19 Quote

  • I'm not a stranger to the troubles and woes of growing up in a polygamous family. I was born in a monogamous family but both my parents came from polygamous homes and one of them is still been troubled by the effects till date. But generally a polygamous family is not necessarily a bad thing, you have a lot to gain from having a large family if you all can leave peacefully together.

    - Aliyu Gana Aliyu - 2019-10-06 09:20:12 Quote

  • The moment a man decides that one woman is not enough for him and he decides to marry another wife, he has brought problems to his life. A polygamous family is not in any way ideal. It brings a lot of bad blood, fighting and some even go as far as being fetish just to attack other family members. Polygamy is mot ideal in any way

    - Maryam Mumuni - 2019-10-06 11:37:44 Quote

  • A polygamous family is not a good background for a child to grow up in. It affects the psychological and mental state of being of a child. In a polygamous family, the most affected member of the family is the child. As you have said, there are several forms of competition in a polygamous family arising hatred, detest, irritation, fight for superiority. It is even more harmful when the head of the family is rich. In such cases, the children being to fight for who is confident enough to inherit the father. Mothers begin to apply any means possible to see their children on top even if it requires the execution of other children in the family standing as a hindrance to the success of their goals

      A polygamous family is nothing to write home about.

    - Ismail Damiyato - 2019-10-06 11:56:46 Quote

  • My family is not polygamous, but my grandfather married two wives before he died. He apparently married the second one after I was born and she had two sons. So I have uncles (sort of) who are my juniors in age...

    - Ella Della - 2019-10-06 12:18:46 Quote

  • My dad married four wives,it's not that easy for the children because you enjoy base on the wealth of your mum.My blood siblings and I have most of things we wanted through our mum. Polygamous family made me to be very focus because of the competition between my half siblings.

    - Akewusure Wasiu - 2019-10-06 12:35:11 Quote

  • Yes I am one of you people, in our own polygamy when our father was still alive the is a kind of drama, that do happen sometimes. You know our mothers do have this kind jealous character they do have among themselves. You know what I mean, any wives of my father notice that my father too much love one mostly, they others will plan against or three will work against two. Is a kind of fun as my brother said, sometimes if our mothers cook finish, we do eat together and one of us will carry the food and started running, and all of us will go after him. Full of fun. Mothers is the problem will have in polygamy family. Thanks

    - Anoke Richard O. - 2019-10-06 12:49:23 Quote

  • I didn't grow in a polygamous home, but I grew up in a very full house cos I lived with my cousins. It was always fun with them especially when our parents weren't home. I was the youngest so I enjoyed quite a lot of love. That's something that's different with polygamous homes. There, the competition is extreme. We see cases of half siblings poisoning their other siblings. And I believe this is caused by the mothers. Its always the mothers who stare up this kind of problems in the family, where they will be jealous of each other and their children will be watching behind the scenes. I feel that if the mothers are united in a polygamous home, their children will be best of friends and would always look out for each other. That's my opinion

    - Paula King - 2019-10-06 13:41:47 Quote

  • The love in a polygamous family is never full. There would be a particular group of people that won't love themselves. It affects the children in some areas too when a particular child is doing better the other woman would be hating on the child and try to harm the child for her own children to do better. 

    - Abolarin Deji - 2019-10-06 14:00:33 Quote

  • Truth be told, growing up in a polygamous family isn't always rosy, the competition between the two or more wives are passed on to the children. 

    Growing up in a monogamous home is the ideal place to grow, those who did are very lucky. 

    - Amebeobari Agba - 2019-10-06 14:00:42 Quote

  • Growing up in a polygamous home could really affect a grwoing child adversely. Especially in a Nigerian environment. It's even worse when the family is of low to medium social class.

    - Abubakar Oresanwo - 2019-10-06 14:01:37 Quote

  • My father married 8 wifes And things have not be easy for us, every day fight and trouble. My children and I will never marry two wife over in my generation .

    - Nwodo Ifeanyi Emmanuel - 2019-10-06 14:21:52 Quote

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