A Young Married Woman With A Child Is In Love With Me

Some months back I met a lady in church. She was a new comer to our church along side her husband. She had a child, a beautiful baby girl. She was beautiful and well endowed. Soon after her arrival to our church she joined the choir, which I was the choir director. She was a talented singer so I got close with her. We spend some time together. We talk, we play, we joke around.

Later, I noticed some changes in her behavior towards me. She calls me almost every day to hang out, She sends me morning messages and so. Few days later my friend who was also close with her told me what she told him, that she was in love with me. I was shocked and I didn't know what or how to react to that. So I started avoiding her but something happened. I was sent and errand to give her something. And when I was at her house, she confess to loving me and she kissed me. I didn't stop her I kissed her back. We romanced but never had sex. Since then, she has been inviting me to her house and I have been going again and again. Now I don't even know how to stop it cos of my guilt.

What do you think I should do about this?

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  • Since she is married with kids, and your reputation in church, i would advise you stop visiting her because this situation might not end well and it won't be nice if her husband knows about you two. And also tell her about the way you feel guilty and let her know you won't like to continue with this

    - Uncle Inec - 2019-11-24 20:44:33 Quote

  • First of all to remove alot of pressure from yourself you tell her husband what is going on I know that may sound like you are rating yourself out but it will help you stay away and it will solve the problem because if you continue like this you may never stop and that is when the things get though. And you could also report her to your pastor in church so they can intervene after

    - Adeoluwa Emioluwa - 2019-11-24 21:13:06 Quote

  • You should stop going to her house and also tell her to control her feelings for you. Put yourself in her husband's shoes and imagine how he would feel, I'm sure you won't want someone else to do that to your wife when you get married. So stop this relationship before it gets too far

    - oluwafikayo moronkeji - 2019-11-24 22:12:09 Quote

  • I think the very first thing you should do is to have a conversation with her about the issue. Let her know you don't feel comfortable with this. Who knows, she might understand and back off. But if she doesn't maybe you should get a counsellor to advice you

    - Yusuf Ali - 2019-11-25 10:33:19 Quote

  • First and foremost, you have to stop visiting her secretly in order to avoid causing problems for her and yourself as well. Secondly, you have to sit her down ( that should be in church)and make her understand that apart from church rehearsals, you don't want to have anything to do with her anymore. Remember you have to be kinda strict when saying this and end whatever is between you both because it's obvious the relationship was a bad idea to begin with, so u just have to end it

    - Adeoti Mary - 2019-11-25 12:54:28 Quote

  • You should put yourself in her husband's shoes, the man will not be happy with what you are doing, so I advise you to cut off every atom of intimacy and be formal with her because this is pure lust and it can ruin your reputation in church if it ever gets out, so I am pleading with you to save that marriage and stay away from her 

    - Nwokike Chidera - 2019-11-25 17:20:35 Quote

  • My dear the devil is trying to pull you down through that woman. As a choir director you should watch what you do. It's not every house that you are being invited to that you will go to. You have to stop visiting her and also talk to her. Then you have to still pray about it.

    - Progress Ottuh - 2019-11-27 06:27:09 Quote

  • Since she is married with a child too..please stop visiting her. It very dangerous and the situation will surely not end well if her husband finds out your affair with her, put yourself in her husband shoe's.what will you do if u were her husband and she is having an affair with another guy?

    - Ezenwa Onyinye - 2019-11-27 11:30:27 Quote

  • Well I think you should publicise your friendship with her and try minimize the time you spend with her because her husband might be a busy type and just maybe he doesn't have all the time to spend with her so when you spend time with her she will grow found of you and start developing feelings for you just avoid her if you have to snice she is married

    - Nelson Okafor - 2019-11-27 17:57:13 Quote

  • This is a serious matter. Please if she is really married and has a child too just try and stop seeing her because she also has a role to play in her family too. Please don’t because of infatuation destroy your future. You can always find a woman as good as her in the world.

    - Christopher Eze - 2019-11-28 01:43:09 Quote

  • Please, do all you can to stop going to her house to see her. If she wants to see you, let it be in a public environment so that the spark won't arise and if it does. You will be able to control yourself. Having anything to do with a married woman is not nice at all. 

    - Chidinma Eze - 2019-11-28 16:15:46 Quote

  • Honestly speaking you are not doing the right thing as a director of choir in a church you are the one to tell someone doing something like that to stop and you yourself trying to push yourself into hell. What you would do is stop visiting her place or meeting her at any relaxing place, tell her you don't want the relationship again because she's a married woman with a kid and if she didn't report her to the pastor in your church, I think she would listen to him.

    - Mohammed Najib - 2019-11-29 06:20:42 Quote

  • She is already married and there's no way you can marry her. 

    The best thing to do is to meet your pastor,  explain to him all that have been going on between you and her. He will counsel you then,  know how to settle the issue between you,  the husband and wife. 

    Make sure you delete or disconnect any means in which both of you sees each other. 

    Block her contact so that you won't receive any SMS or calls  from her again.

    - Favour Chinecherem Chukwubuikem - 2019-11-29 09:54:51 Quote

  • The best thing is to stop going over to her side,  I believe she is beautiful that's why you can't resist her beauty,  but the best I can say is stop seeing her,  because the consequences will be great on you,  you won't only be disgraced but it will be a stigma on you when caught... Pray hard tell your pastor about your deeds and pray for God's forgiveness... 

    - Onyenwosa Samuel - 2019-11-30 09:06:37 Quote

  • You have to be bold enough to discontinue the relationship because

    firstly she has a husband 

    Secondly you are a choir director which means your reputation is at stake here.

    Sooner or later the affair might be discovered which will be very embarrassing so I advice that you end the relationship.

    - Ubongabasi Sampson Akpan - 2019-11-30 09:07:13 Quote

  • What is best for you to do now is the quit the relationship. If possible u can sit her down and talk to her on reason why the both of you should stop the ungodly act considering your status in the church and her own integrity as a married woman. And if she doesn’t listen I think the best thing is to stop visiting her and cut off every easy means of communication between you two.

    - Aribilola Adedoyin - 2019-11-30 11:45:17 Quote

  • My dear I will advise you to stop visiting her, because the devil is trying to use her to ruined your reputation, both in church and public, and also try to remember she is married and put your self in the husband shoes how will you feel if it were to be your own wife.

    So please try to end any form of relationship with her 

    - Emmanuel Goodness - 2019-12-04 11:24:36 Quote

  • Since she's married with a kid, you have to let go. She's already belong to another man. All you have to do is sit her down one day and tell her what you both are doing is wrong. Advice her on how to love her husband more and don't keep too closely relationship with her in church and outside the church.

    - Umoru Joseph - 2019-12-06 00:35:39 Quote

  • Please brother try to flee, even the bible desist us from doing this act, because you are not her legal husband, you are not permitted to have anything to do with her, kindly cut all communications with her and if you have someone you are close to as spiritual brother or father, kindly report yourself so they can aid.

    - Sajuyigbe Victor - 2019-12-07 10:49:31 Quote

  • My dear i will advice you better stop such wicked act with someone's wife,what if it was to be your wife...how would you feel if you mistakenly caught her

    What you will do..just start avoiding her and don't go to her house again,because one day her husband might come back unexpected

    - Joseph Victor - 2019-12-08 02:26:50 Quote

  • My advice for u is to stop going to her house,let her know that you don't have interest in her all what you have done together,let it become past,and try not to be close to her anymore,that should be the best solution for you....... before it's too late

    - Quadri Ololade - 2019-12-11 09:21:18 Quote

  • My dear

    just run for your dear life.  leave her alone.  just like u said she is married and had a child.  how will you feel when another man chases after your wife.  just let her be and stop visiting and or picking her call.  that way the feeling she has for u will quench

    - Chizoba Joy - 2019-12-12 12:15:13 Quote

  • Since she's married you should not find yourself doing anything with her..Give her space and let her know that you are not interested any longer.. Stop paying her visit and if you have been calling her stop it..This kind of relationship don't end well,cos if you are caught by her husband you won't find it funny and you may be suspend in church too if they hear such thing..so stay away from her

    - Itunu Ajide - 2020-01-05 16:32:04 Quote

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