Am In Love With Another Man But My Baby Daddy Want Me Back

Am a 25 year old lady a student. I met the father of my child when I got an admission into the university. It was love at first sight I always wanted him to be mine and he did became mine. A year into the relationship he wanted s*x but I couldn't give because I was a virgin at that time and then he cheated on me.

I blamed myself for him cheating on me and I gave into his demand for s8x. Even after then he cheated on me again and I didnt leave because I loved him too much. Not long after I got pregnant. My parents got to know about it and he didn't deny being the father he said he wants nothing to do with me anymore. I was shattered and broken. I dropped out of school and was depressed. 

I had my child and she was the most beautiful thing that ever happened to me. 4years after I had her I went back to school. Before I went back to school I had given up on men. Not until I met someone who is so sweet loving caring and my best friend.

But now at the same time the father of my child is back saying he was sorry and he didn't mean to hurt me and he was jst scared of his parents at the time. Hes now being nice and caring and some are telling me to go back to him and I still have a little bit of love for him because he was my first love. Am really confused cos I don't want to get my heart broken anymore.

Please I need advice on what to do

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  • Actually, try thinking about it deeply... Think about the future you want for yourself and your daughter... Let me tell you something ,"The devil you've known for a long time, is better than the angel you are going to meet " whereas "you dont know what the angel you're going to meet has in mind for you "....So because of your daughter think about this deeply and ask for God's help. 

    - Toluwalase Disu - 2019-10-02 18:24:14 Quote

  • See ...on my own opinion don't go back to that your baby daddy because is still going to cheat again .My advice for you is to go for the man you just met if you guys truly love each other but one thing you must take note of,don't stop him from seeing his daughter cause in the future your daughter is still going to ask for her real dad so let them know each other now.That all I have to say.

    - Onifade Abimbola - 2019-10-02 18:33:40 Quote

  • You need to follow your heart,your babe father has come back to apologise for his immature act.

    and you confess that you love her ,I will advice you to give him second chance.

    he might have be a new person as she claimed.

    - Ozidiah Isaac - 2019-10-02 18:34:32 Quote

  • This is indeed a big issue. But I will advise you not to mess up with the new man, he came for you when you were depressed, he stood by you. And I'm sure you'd have promised him a future with him,  so don't get him broken just like the way you were. 

    - Joshua Salau - 2019-10-02 18:44:28 Quote

  • This is a serious one . Well, I'd say you should go with your baby daddy if he really wants,its better than taking another man's daughter to someone else . 

    Follow your heart tho.

    - Ogo Samuel - 2019-10-02 18:45:54 Quote

  • Every one makes mistake, though not everyone gets a second chance, but i really think your baby daddy deserves a second chance. They said a "a devil that we know is better than an angel we dont know" Its just advisable to go back to your baby daddy, since you confirmed he is caring again and your heart is still with him. And you guys have something extra beyond love, which is your baby. 

    - Billy John - 2019-10-02 18:52:54 Quote

  • Listen even as innocent as the father of your child frames himself to be, you cannot let all his years of absence slide. He left you to live your life not caring what might happen to you. Truth be told, what if you lost the child and your life during your time is struggling to survive? God forbid. So I suggest you dont jump into conclusions just yet and hold on a bit before taking any steps especially because two lives are at stake now.

    - Duru Emmanuel - 2019-10-02 18:54:00 Quote

  • Hmmmm, my sister in a situation like this,who you need is God to choose for you among them o, for me I will advise you to go back to your baby daddy because the devil you have know before is better than the angel you just meet, the new guy you just meet you haven't know his behaviors

    - Oluwayemisi Adebisi - 2019-10-02 18:55:34 Quote

  • This is a very difficult situation. I think you should talk to some elders or better still ask yourself what you really want. Your baby father might be saying the truth, who knows and there is the case of your new found man. It's better to talk to your dad or better still go into counseling 

    - Ibrahim Olatunde - 2019-10-02 19:02:02 Quote

  • In life we should be resposible for our actions.Because he came back begging doesnt mean he is right, or a good person. Everything that matters is your feelings. I will you to monitor him check those attitudes  that you dont like in him. If he is still potraying them dont go with him.meanwhile dont leave the new guy

    - Igbo Ebuka Gideon - 2019-10-02 19:06:35 Quote

  • It is better you don’t go back to him because of his parents that he is scared for before they may come back and said they don’t want you, and for the new guy if you truly love him and he loves you back then I think you should go with him 

    - Olayemi Bolaji - 2019-10-02 19:09:31 Quote

  • What a delima. You shouldn't go back to him because he left you when you need him the most and now when your life is back on track he still want you back. Sister ignore him because he will use you and still dump you gain. Learn from your first mistake. Mistake twice is a stupidity

    - Yusuf Binuwa - 2019-10-02 19:18:30 Quote

  • My dear, first I will say the devil u know is better than the angel u Dont know. You've already known that the father of ur child cheated on u twice when u were together, bit what canbu really say about this new guy? Just that he loves u, from ur story u said the father of ur child loved u too, until he started misbehaving. To me, I will say go back to the real father of ur child, because when that ur new catch start feeding and providing for u and ur baby, surely he will one day get tired. All men are the same, but there are still those really ready to change, maybe ur man have really changed. Just ask God for the right direction.  

    - Ezinne Kalu - 2019-10-02 19:22:24 Quote

  • Experience is the best teacher, also learning and understanding your failure from your past mistakes is also a great teacher. You can offer him a second chance, cos he is your first and best choice, further more a father to your baby.

    Now he realized his mistakes, forgive him! And also review his excuse.

    - Najib Sani - 2019-10-02 19:32:18 Quote

  • I will advice you go back to him for the sake of your daughter if you still have love for him... You have to consider the fact of having your kids with different father so you settle for him if he already admit his mistake and want you back 

    - Oretan Ayomipo Micheal - 2019-10-02 19:39:39 Quote

  • Make up your mind on who you want to be with the rest of your life, I can tell you to marry a certain person because know one is perfect and knows tomorrow. Pray over it may God guide you through.

    - Olawole Taofeek - 2019-10-02 19:41:06 Quote

  • Make up your mind on who you want to be with the rest of your life, I can tell you to marry a certain person because know one is perfect and knows tomorrow. Pray over it may God guide you through.

    - Olawole Taofeek - 2019-10-02 19:41:41 Quote

  • It is better for you to accept the father of your child because it will help the child while growing up. Children feel better when they have both fatherly and motherly love.

    - Bana Regina - 2019-10-02 19:41:50 Quote

  • well, my advice for you is that u should stick to your new-found love and forget your baby daddy because he's still gonna cheat on you over and over again, so forget about him and move on with the new person and remember to tell the new guy about your past and your daughter okay...

    - Idowu Samuel - 2019-10-02 19:43:15 Quote

  • Hmm my dear please leave that love matter some men are fund of that. After disgracing and hurting a woman leaving them shattered they will claim that they are sorry. Sorry my foot. Next time you won't be alive

    - Chinwe Okeke - 2019-10-02 19:49:14 Quote

  • if you must go back to your babys daddy,  then you should  study him properly, be careful  because  guys can be very deceitful, Tho there's nothing like your first love

    - Essien Mary - 2019-10-02 19:49:33 Quote

  • My dear,  he will hurt you again and again if you keep making the mistake of loving him, it's true that some men are scum he might be among those, I'm telling you out of experience, there's this guy I loved so so much, but I don't know if he loved me back, but I knew what he wanted at that point but I was blinded because of the fact that I loved him 

    - Wofai Ikpi - 2019-10-02 19:50:28 Quote

  • At time some guys do f*ck up into the relationship, I wonder why you will be into a relationship with a girl and something will come up and you deny the girl left her to suffer it only her letter run you will come back begging you don't know what came over you, please any guy that know that he is not ready to get involved into marriage should hold him self until you are ready to be a man. 

    My dear if you still love him try and give him second chance but don't love will all your heart again until he really changed to your choice 

    - Igwe Francis - 2019-10-02 20:03:54 Quote

  • I believe you should consider the future of your child without a father, also understand the fact that your baby's dad must have been under real pressure at first. Above all, follow your heart.

    - Peculiar Olasupo - 2019-10-02 20:05:40 Quote

  • Wow, this is serious, firstly kudos to you for  the real love you have for the man, and secondly you have to understand that most man even and woman do act willingly in a negative way if something tend to be an hurdles for them, for the fact that he has come back and apologize, you have to forgive him and continue your relationship.

    - Ayomide Tanimowo - 2019-10-02 20:05:41 Quote

  • My dear sister check yourself well to really ascertain if you love himnor not. Then if you really think you do then go back to him and let they Child feel the union of his mum and daddy together. give your child the privillege of growing up not with a single parent.

    - Ukaha Edith - 2019-10-02 20:09:19 Quote

  • I think you shouldn't go back to him because if he really loved u he would have not left you at the first place maybe friends has advised him to go back because of your child so its best if u withdraw from him and try giving the other guy a chance besides all men are not the same remember to always keep that at the back of your mind you never can tell the guy will love you for whom u are and protect you and your child from harm.

    - Shadi Love - 2019-10-02 20:09:50 Quote

  • This can be so complicated,dear.All the answers you want are right in your heart.You only can make your decision but an advice from me is that:Based on what you wrote,I don't think you really want to be with your first love, I feel you only love him cause he's your first love and the father of your child...For the other one,I feel you should stick to him,he loves you for who you are...Like how sure are we that your first love really  loves you or just wants you back as an alternative...*Once bitten,twice shy* goes an adage...It won't be good to be bitten twice.

    - Christopher Poppy - 2019-10-02 20:10:52 Quote

  • My sister please open your eyes. As Yoruba will say it that; oju toba ma bani kale koni faaro sepin. Meaning the eye that will last you till night will not start to bring dirt from the morning. And Saturday that will sweet it's from Friday that you will know. Think wise.

    - Dairo Idowu - 2019-10-02 20:12:17 Quote

  • I can't advice you on choosing but out of the 2 men available, which one is your daughter close to? Which one does she love selflessly and out of the men, which of them truly loves her selfless and willing to show her to the world as his not someone that will runaway or care just because you are there. You have to be wise enough!

    - Odeyale Oluwafemi - 2019-10-02 20:15:48 Quote

  • Been your first love doesn't really matter its just a phrase 

    The time you need him most he didn't support you what's the probability that if something else happens he won't flew again... I will advice you to go with the man that supported you but make sure you don't deny him from seeing his daughter... 

    - Adegoke Afeez - 2019-10-02 20:17:51 Quote

  • Due it not easy to go back to ur vomit but the truth is the devil you have known is better than the angel you just met and he is ur baby father you have a child for eachother just go back to him since he as known his mistakes 

    - Adepitan Adebimpe - 2019-10-02 20:18:35 Quote

  •  Even if he has change, i would advise you to take time to watch him very well observe all this character and maybe you can take him back. For him to come back, he has attain that level of maturity and am sure he will do better 

    - Temitope Ogungbemi - 2019-10-02 20:23:20 Quote

  • Life is the best teacher in the world all I can say is don't you dare fall for this trap cuz he will regret it later after you accept it he just missed you that's why you saying you should come back and focus on your studies to and finish the studies so you work hard and make sure that I also don't fall for those guys I guess that will better and take care of her very well

    - Abubakar Sadeeq Salihu - 2019-10-02 20:24:53 Quote

  • I really understand the dilemma you are into and the confusion that might bedeviled you but use to our brains to choose who you actually want to be with for the rest of your life. It is certain that your baby's dad might have denied you before and you still love him. Find out if he is sincerely want you back in his life or not.

    - IFEANYI NWOKEDI - 2019-10-02 20:26:02 Quote

  • I will advise you to give him second chance... because the devil you have known for the long time better than the angel you just know now and he's also your baby father

    Also if you give him chance back don't relay on him..if you have 100% love for him don't show him everything

    - Wasiu Abiodun Adegboye - 2019-10-02 20:29:53 Quote

  • The best thing to do for you to do is to pray things out 

    And follow your heart

    Because there's no way you can love the two the same way

    And check where the relationship will lead to....so that you don't end up being kna relationship that yiukl just waste your time and and jeopardise the future of your daughter

    - Joseph Lawrence - 2019-10-02 20:32:44 Quote

  • The best thing to do for you to do is to pray things out 

    And follow your heart

    Because there's no way you can love the two the same way

    And check where the relationship will lead to....so that you don't end up being kna relationship that yiukl just waste your time and and jeopardise the future of your daughter

    - Joseph Lawrence - 2019-10-02 20:34:49 Quote

  • The best thing for u to do is to go back to him bcx he is the owner of the the child so u have to give him a second chance and also pray to God for his guidance. For him to come back means something. Just watch and pray

    - Omoloye David - 2019-10-02 20:42:02 Quote

  • An adage says the devil you have known for long is better than the Angel you just met,also another adage says if one doesn't learn from the mistress of the past,he or she will likely repeat the mistress of the past ,so the decision is left for you

    - Taiwo Itunuoluwa - 2019-10-02 20:43:53 Quote

  • You have to make up your mind, and just give him a second chance. As for your daughter, tell her the truth if she wants to go let her go, she will still come back. So you have to forgive your first love 

    - Chiemerie Okorie - 2019-10-02 20:44:23 Quote

  • there's an adage that says a devil we have known for a long time is better than an angel we just met, so i will advise you to go back to the father of your child nd u can start afresh with ur baby

    - oluyede titilayo - 2019-10-02 20:45:55 Quote

  • there's an adage that says a devil we have known for a long time is better than an angel we just met, so i will advise you to go back to the father of your child nd u can start afresh with ur baby

    - Ezeh Somtoo Emmanuel - 2019-10-02 20:51:53 Quote

  • As a matther of fact you should focus on the future of your child, so that it won't affect the child. Let her know her father but whether you love him or not is up to you, you have learnt your lesson and gain experience from the past, you can use it improve yourself on what to choose and what not to choose. That is all i have to say.

    - emeka ofuonye - 2019-10-02 20:52:36 Quote

  • Both of them loved you and its only you can evaluate the degree of the love,we don't know how much they care but you can frfe it I believe that you are the one to advise yourself better not us thank you.

    - Obika Foster - 2019-10-02 21:11:32 Quote

  • It wont be nice for you to go back to someone that abadoned you when you needed him most. There is all possibility of him disposing you again. It better to stay with somone that stayed with you while things aint playing nice on you.

    - Ealefoh Adesuwa - 2019-10-02 21:26:29 Quote

  • I believe there’s what we can second chance, you can forgive him but don’t put all your mind in it cause he might still end up getting you hurt. So you’ve to be careful and sensitive

    - Usman Mustapha - 2019-10-02 21:28:05 Quote

  • You might want to go back to him bcux of your daughter, but the issue is that :Will you be happy with him??  Knowing that he had betrayed you before, and its possible for it to happen again. Your daughter should know her dad, but make sure you're happy. 

    - Titiloye Mofiyinfoluwa - 2019-10-02 21:29:41 Quote

  • Since he's your first and the father of your baby, I think its high time you put a lot into consideration.

    Do you wanna risk going back to him? Has he really changed?

    These are the kind of questions you should ask yourself.

    I pray you make the right decision.

    - Chibunna Ugwu - 2019-10-02 21:30:34 Quote

  • Him telling you about His parents now should of no concern to you. As am for me I'd say you should follow your heart, if you love him give him another chance, moreover you have a kid with him. If you don't love him, them don't try to make it work. 

    - Kabiru Sadiq - 2019-10-02 21:31:06 Quote

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