As A Man, Whose Priority Should Come First ? Mother Or Wife ?

In every man’s life, both mother and wife plays very important roles. While the mother gives life and brings him up facing all the odds and challenges, the wife becomes his companion and also his best friend who stands by him throughout life and till death.
It is said that ;

“A Husband finds a second mother in his wife, while a wife finds her first baby in her husband" 

The role of a mother and wife are intangible in a man’s life as the two can not be compared or belittled.
She can’t be a better mother if she isn’t a better wife. So the question is ;

Whose priority should come first ? Mother or Wife ?

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  • I think and believe wives should come first because it's a mother's duty to make sure her son is ok at all times. But it's the duty of the husband to keep his wife first. 

       Believe me you. Duty comes first!😄

    - Adehi Joshua - 2019-08-15 17:39:13 Quote

  • Is your wife 

    Because you are one, she is your mother for that time when your mum is not around 

    - Isreael Destiny - 2019-08-15 17:41:15 Quote

  • Smiling.. Many find this dicey but certainly not me, 

    They both have same importance warrant 100% me, so I treat them accordingly. 

    - Daniel Adeyemi - 2019-08-15 17:43:25 Quote

  • As man the wife priority should be first cause the man leaves his father's house to a woman to build his own family so the wife should be first

    - ifijie George - 2019-08-15 17:44:07 Quote

  • Before marriage one priority is his mum, after marriage his wife.

    - JOHN David J. - 2019-08-15 17:44:33 Quote

  • As a man your wife should be your priority at the moment 

    - Francis Ekezie - 2019-08-15 17:44:40 Quote

  • Your mother made you who you are, so to me I think mother should always come first. 

    - Jethro Da'ar - 2019-08-15 17:52:31 Quote

  • I think both have their place and should not be in contest 

    - Precious Theophilus - 2019-08-15 17:53:55 Quote

  • As a man the first should be your wife. 

    She is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. The mother has just few days to spend on earth.  The mother all has her own husband. 

    - NATHANIEL JOSEPH - 2019-08-15 18:06:11 Quote

  • I think mothers periorty should be placed first in a mans life,because without mother,there would be no me.

    - Emenike Godspower - 2019-08-15 18:18:21 Quote

  • The role of a mother cannot be ignored. But most men stop listening to their mothers when they're above 20.

    So it takes a loving and tender wife to keep them in the right path.

    - Bridget David - 2019-08-15 18:21:47 Quote

  • It's people are vital in the man's life but there are some situations where the wife is a shadow of herself and whatever she is supposed to stand like a mother but both are very important to the man of the house.

    - Agav igbadio Solomon - 2019-08-15 18:34:57 Quote

  • His wife cos he has left his parents house and need to cleave to his wife and ensure you do things that pleases her and then your mother

    - Ajayi Victor - 2019-08-15 18:58:25 Quote

  • This is really a hard one here. Mother or wife.

    I will go Mother and this is it ; 

    Your Mum trained you to become what u really are in life and it's always good to give back. To whom much is given, much is expected. Perhaps, your Mum is definitely older than your wife and by nature may life the earth before your dear wife. Take good care of her but am not saying you should abandon your wife totally.

    - Iorpine Loya - 2019-08-15 18:59:32 Quote

  • It's the same as asking who comes first in a lady's life,husband or father. These roles are incomparable. A father is a father, and a son son. Likewise a wife is a wife and a mother a mother. I think it's not wise to compare who comes first. Comes first in what context? Men are the ones most times who compare their wives and mothers and cause unnecessary rifes. You'd hardly see a woman giving reasons to chose between her husband and father. Be a son to your mother and a husband to your wife. It's as simple as ABC.

    - Rita Amadedon - 2019-08-15 19:54:52 Quote

  • The presence of a wife in a man's life automatically supplements that of a mother.  This alone makes the man see the wife first before anyone including the his mother. 

    - peter chimezie - 2019-08-15 20:01:29 Quote

  • A responsible man finds a way to balance the two, as those are the two most important women in his life.

    - IFEDAYO AYODEJI - 2019-08-15 20:08:59 Quote

  • As for me, my first priority goes to my mother. Because she is the main reason why God had sent me to this world to pertake all my necessary and achievable goals and dreams on. She invested on me in order to eat the fruits of her labour.

    - Samuel Okeleye - 2019-08-15 20:23:07 Quote

  • The wife's priority  should come first at a every instance. There's a saying that goes "If you want your children to respect you, love your wife". There is no reason why you should leave your father's house to marry a woman and still treat your mother's priority first before her. 

    - Gerald Onyedikachi - 2019-08-15 20:29:33 Quote

  • They re both pillars in which we all lean on , but to me, the mother is the best priority, where by she give birth to u ,brought u up nd take care of ur needs.

    - Rufai Ibrahim - 2019-08-15 20:32:33 Quote

  • The priority of a mother is her son. this means that if the son is not happy, then the mother is not happy as well. but for a man to be happy, it takes a good wife. so the wife is the 1st.

    - Lubem Terzungwe - 2019-08-15 20:56:57 Quote

  • Both should be a man's major priority because they are two very important people to him and his family infact

    - Joseph Dorathy - 2019-08-15 21:19:16 Quote

  • The wife should come first because marriage has made the man and woman become one flesh. Meanwhile a good wife will not allow her husband abandon his mother. 

    - Precious Ogiemwonyi - 2019-08-15 21:32:23 Quote

  • Don't make your priority known to any other two, just treat them equally to your best, both are important. 

    - Daniel Adeyemi - 2019-08-15 23:36:22 Quote

  • They are both important to the man. The mother is the person that brought him to this world and brought him up to be a man. The wife is his life companion and the mother to his children.

    - Kelechi Nwogwugwu - 2019-08-16 01:19:18 Quote

  • The man must not jeopardize anyone . both of them re very important and depending on the issue at hand . but your wise is your number one priority here. Your mother have husband and other children that might be there to help before you come . so use your brain and don't leave your wife or your mother behind 

    - Amarachi Okorie - 2019-08-16 05:27:43 Quote

  • My own opinion is that both Mother and Wife are important, so to have a priority would cause more harm than good. It can attract jealousy and other minor issues... You know women and their ways!  So just give both the time they deserve!!

    - Emmanuel Onyekwere - 2019-08-16 07:37:20 Quote

  • Well I can say both but most especially wife cux she's now your part ,,, mother is father's number one priority not the son let your wife be your number one

    - Nwachukwu Mabel - 2019-08-16 08:17:32 Quote

  • If I were  to pick one over the other I would pick my mom over my wife.  So for me its my mom 

    - Kevin Erowo - 2019-08-16 08:31:56 Quote

  • The wife takes priority cause remember she is going to take all your shit and nasty behaviours, your mommy would still whip your ass and bring you back to your senses. 

    - Ikechi Aguma - 2019-08-16 09:40:26 Quote

  • Believe me mother should come first bcos if she hadn't given birth to you,you wouldn't have had the thinking of ur wife..

    - Hassan Adebayo - 2019-08-16 13:51:25 Quote

  • No matter what wife should come first because even bible make us to understand that shall leave his father house and click to his wife so wife first before mother 

    - Emmanuel Obinna - 2019-08-16 14:35:57 Quote

  • Lol.  The answer to this one is very simple... I have seen alot of women leave their marriage, but a mother leave her child?   I'll definitely prioritize my mother over any other woman

    - Anthony Adinamou - 2019-08-16 18:45:43 Quote

  • Mother is my choice, because you can't replace your mother, but your wife can be replaced.

    - YUNUSA ABDULKAREEM - 2019-08-16 23:57:19 Quote

  • This is something serous o, but from the day you say yes I do your wife come first before your mother but many don't know that and that's ruining homes

    - Taiwo Enoch - 2019-08-17 04:47:31 Quote

  • The first priority of a man is his wife because he is no longer under his parent's roof 

    - Victor Damilare - 2019-08-17 08:55:34 Quote

  • Women's needs should be given given a priority in the family because they are weaker than men.but they shouldn't allow that to get into their head to a point where they start usurping authority from their husbands because that can be very expensive.

    - Wisdom Etim - 2019-08-17 16:54:18 Quote

  • Once a man gets married, he is actually leaving his old family (parents) to start his own family, in which his wife serves as a mother and wife to him. I'm not saying he shouldn't give his mother respect she deserves. All I'm saying is that his wife and family are his top most priorities. 

    - Ezekiel Jonathan - 2019-08-18 12:33:14 Quote

  • To me my wife's priority... Because I took an oath to support her.. That's if it's not bad thing. And more over thats how my believe says 

    - TIMOTHY AUGUSTINE - 2019-08-19 09:12:09 Quote

  • Well in this case I would prefer my wife cuz she is my immediate family my mom will come second and also depending on the issue on ground... both of them are very important

    - Ezekiel Ime - 2019-08-19 10:47:46 Quote

  • The wife reason being that it is Biblically that a man should leave his home and be join to his wife and they shall be one so with understanding of this words wife first before the mother. 

    - James Musa - 2019-08-19 18:22:04 Quote

  • Believe me wife's own should be placed first because even the Bible says it a man most live his mother and father and become one with his wife. 

    Mother too his daddy wife so her husband will take her responsibility.

    - Gideon Nengak Chishak - 2019-08-20 00:32:58 Quote

  • The wife should always be the top priority to the husband at all times.Because in marriage they are both united as one and it is the duty of the husband to make sure that the wife is okay at all times. This doesn't mean the mother should be neglected because she loved the man first before the wife loved him.

    - David Isaacs - 2019-08-20 03:44:33 Quote

  • The wife priority should come first because she is now his new family 

    - NGOZI GODWIN - 2019-08-20 11:28:02 Quote

  • Both have their places. Maintaining such proper places accorded them by the creator ensures d absence of unnecessary rivalries. Unfortunately most men are immature. 

    - Peace Oballum - 2019-08-20 15:29:04 Quote

  • Before marriage mother is the first but after marriage the wife

    - Nwanganga Cynthia - 2019-08-20 17:06:03 Quote

  • Mother if she did not give beat 2 me my wife can not marry me and because I can still talk to my wife and tell her situation of things and she will understand but you know those old women my mum I would not want a situation whereby she will think my wife is the one that is not allow me to do for her  anymore so I do it for my mum first my mum

    - Barnabas Ilesanmi - 2019-08-20 20:23:09 Quote

  • As a wise man,  you should find a way to balance the two,  respect them equally to avoid home recking.

    - Chinwuba Henry - 2019-08-21 13:28:07 Quote

  • The both ate important but I think the wife should come first because she is your responsibility 

    - Bukola Ayobami - 2019-08-21 13:38:48 Quote

  • I will say wife ,because the Bible said it self ,it said that we shall leave our father and mother and clave to your wife because you have become one flesh and body

    - Joy Chinyere - 2019-08-21 22:51:46 Quote

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