Borrowing To Impress A Lady - See What Happen Next

My female friend was deeply in love some time around 2017. She gave in all she could to make the relationship work out... The guy as always been a supporting tissue to her. He pays some portion of her school fees and even buy her wears and designer stuffs just to renew his love towards her day after day. 

This was so deep that I even have to wish I was a lady. I keep questioning my self if I would ever be useful and loyal like this guy of my friend.  The lady in question happens to be my best friend. I was sincerely happy for her because things were actually going smoothly. 

Furthermore, they overshadowed themselves with an overwhelming love until pregnancy set in. The guy never complained about the pregnancy in which I was happy about. 

The bad side of the story happened only when we got to know that the guy was an herbalist by profession. He even borrow the car he do drive to say hello to my friend in school back then. The guy as been so fake and impressive along line.

How do we then comprehend this, should she walk away or stick with her husband?? 

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  • Aje! I can't borrow to impress a lady o. Through time I have come to realize that ladies with high self-esteem do not like a guy base on material possessions. When a woman loves, she loves for real.

    - Ridwan Salaudeen - 2019-09-26 06:09:17 Quote

  • The relationship is built on lies, so it's bad for the lady to continue the relationship, there's nothing wrong having the baby, but it will be a grave mistake for her to marry the guy, not because of his profession but he's fake. They can both find a common ground but it will be better if she stays clear of him

    - Sesan Akerele - 2019-09-26 06:09:48 Quote

  • Omo my dear, it's not too late to still try and investigate on what he does, to know whether he is really so spiritual or not. And besides, its not even in your hands. If the girl says that she still likes him, then it is her choice. But you as her best friend supposed to only investigate, tell her your evidence and respect her decision.

    - Kelvin Coker - 2019-09-26 06:10:34 Quote

  • Walk away of course. What proud about marrying a herbalist. Please she should just explain things to her parents and after putting to birth and weaning the child to reasonable age , she should get her life together 

    - Charles Igala - 2019-09-26 06:12:53 Quote

  • Walking away now is of no reason because you didn't bend down at the right time to know what he do for a living. Even if you asked him at first why not tell him or visit him at his office one day to know his reaction

    - Nwosu Vincent - 2019-09-26 06:13:56 Quote

  • I hope that one day , ladies will borrow themselves brain , this is disheartening. What money will do to some people , I dont even want to imagine. She should just keep the pregnancy as abortion is very very risky

    - Olawumi Adedeji - 2019-09-26 06:25:55 Quote

  • If the she really love the guy,she have to stay and build their own success.this shows that the guy is deeply in love and thats why he has to do that.only if the girl love him because of what he has that she could leave

    She really need to stay with him and i believe God would do something great in their life's

    - Idiris Opeyemi - 2019-09-26 06:27:38 Quote

  • This is a very serious issue because he lied and it shows you really don't know him, weigh your options very well and seek advise of the elders so you won't regret your actions since pregnancy has set in already

    - Adegoke Olaposi - 2019-09-26 06:28:55 Quote

  • That is why it is always right to seek God first before going into any relationship, and u as a girl because he spend so much on you, you never cared to know how he got the money and everything he owned, run now that there is still time and pray...

    - Victory Unuigbokhai - 2019-09-26 06:29:39 Quote

  • She should run far away from him. One day he might use her and after using her dump her so if it was I will just walk away but the problem there is the pregnancy in her may be he want to use the baby for sacrifice.

    - Abdulhameed Usman - 2019-09-26 06:32:04 Quote

  • She's carrying her baby after all, we can say she has to stick to him for the unborn child's sake. However a love that is built on the bedrock of lies is a building without healthy foundation. It doesn't last long either. I would blame the girl for falling for material things in the first place. Not all glitters are golds. So, I will advise her not to ever live with such a man, but  to look elsewhere for her rib. Her rib will not be deceitful to her, he will care and truly Love her and will as well do anything to make her happy.

    - Hassan Kamaldeen - 2019-09-26 06:33:16 Quote

  • This situation is complicated, but why would the guy didn't allow the girl to love him for who he is? Anyway i advise her to stick with him if she truly love him because of her unborn baby in order not to abort the baby for there is her first fruit.

    - Tsekar Leonard Aondoakula - 2019-09-26 06:44:48 Quote

  • I would advice she shouldn't continue with that relationship, for that guy to keep something like that away from her and living a fake life. Who knows what the outcome of the marriage will be

    - Erute Emmanuel - 2019-09-26 06:48:59 Quote

  • This is a very pathetic situation. Most people go out pretending to be who they are not in order to catch a big fish (girl) this act is decitful. To win a girls heart u dont need to be who you sre not just be sincere, polite and be consistent with her, show your love for her. What girls need is a guy that will be consistent with then, someone that will make then happy at all times not the other round or pretending to have the whole world we you have nothing.

    - Kehinde Abiola - 2019-09-26 06:49:38 Quote

  • Well it a good thing to browser to impress your girl. If she likes it and you think it working out for good. But know your worth from her side. Ladies actually love it when a guy gives them alot of attention 

    - David Agbaje - 2019-09-26 06:53:13 Quote

  • It your choice to borrow or not but if you don't play your game well,it will backfire...but in this case, the lady should not continue with the marriage because someone that can do this is capable of alot more.

    - samuel Dada - 2019-09-26 07:04:49 Quote

  • Being pregnant makes the whole issue complicated because a child is already involved. If she thinks she can cope with the guy's occupation, she should go ahead but if she can't, she should carry and nurse her child and love him/her unconditionally.. Dont even think about abortion please 

    - Osofisan Boluwatife - 2019-09-26 07:06:46 Quote

  • This is a complicated issue, if she can cope and deal with the guy's occupation why not go ahead but if she can't just call it quits and take care of the unborn child don't contemplate abortion. Borrowing to impress others always backfires. It's better to be real than to fake it

    - Osofisan Boluwatife - 2019-09-26 07:10:32 Quote

  • Fake life. This is exactly what most guys are using in universities now to colonise people's daughters and girlfriends. Anyway, since the lady is already pregnant for him, I think she should stick to him for the sake of her fetus.

    - Isomkwo Clement - 2019-09-26 07:15:14 Quote

  • In my own opinion if she's truly in love with this guy I see no reason why she can't be with him and if she thinks the guy can take care of his responsibilities though I'm not really in support of the money borrowing 

    - Akanbi Toyyib - 2019-09-26 07:22:47 Quote

  • The guy have spoilt everything by borrowing to impress the lady, well u can't blame the guy sha because which lady would want to date an herbalist if he had come as he is?  He knows he won't b accepted that's y he had to borrow to impress her

    - George Goddy - 2019-09-26 07:24:35 Quote

  • it's too late already, since she is pregnant for the guy who happens to be an herbalist. Herbalist is also a profession nah what's bad in it? Is because it sounds local, aunty you are good to go continue with him. At least he has used material things to lure in then accept it the way it comes. 

    - Michael Abioye - 2019-09-26 07:30:59 Quote

  • The guy did all that because he truly love her and care for her, he did all that no to loose her and to make her happy always now that that she found out that he's fake, she should make sure that she change the guy and make him real

    - Ebenezer Oyedele - 2019-09-26 07:34:18 Quote

  • The lady should have been sure of whom she is dating, she fall a victim because she was carried away with the gift and money he always present and never bother to find the truth about the guy. 

    - Agbawi Kareem - 2019-09-26 07:41:29 Quote

  • The lady should confront him by telling him why he did not tell her the work he was doing with a good voice. If he did not say anything or if he react wildly you have to leave the relationship for him to lie to you from the Begining. 

    - Ifebuche Gladys - 2019-09-26 07:45:30 Quote

  • Please o a relationship that the foundation is based on lie won't  survive a bit, am glad she found out before things got so worst... Now there is a solution,  she should leave the guy 

    - Albert Modeniola - 2019-09-26 07:49:57 Quote

  • The guy loves her so much. And have wanted to have those things he dreamt of. One thing with ladies is that their choice is a handsome rich man with a good model car. Let her follow her husband and be a good wife. Though the guy should have told her his true identity.

    - Chidiebere Uzo - 2019-09-26 08:01:40 Quote

  • I can hardly impress a lady, even my girlfriend to start with... Impressing people or creating impressions overshadows the originality of one self. 

    If the lady truely loves him, she may forge ahead with the guy. However, when you say herbalist,if its herbal medicine doctors, its not a problem, but if its a native doctor, I don't feel its the right thing to do. 

    - PETER MMADUEKE - 2019-09-26 08:03:10 Quote

  • This is serious but not strange though!, the beginning of all these relationship lies starts from secondary school when one starve himself  and use the food money to buy things for the girlfriend. Well,  I believe Relationship should not be build on Lies or hypocrisy but on mutual understanding .

    - Ayomide Adedeji - 2019-09-26 08:24:29 Quote

  • The true matter is that we shouldn't not live a fake life to impress ladies,

    Their relationship was built upon a lies so no matter how they try to cope it can't last for long.

    let the lady give birth first and later move on with her life.

    - Ozidiah Isaac - 2019-09-26 08:25:06 Quote

  • This is the biggest mistake we ladies of nowadays usually made,when we meet a new guy that show us more love and care we won't bother to know who is who, or what is what. 

    She should have investigate before going to that extent with him, she has nothing to do than to become a single mother and start again from the beginning. 

    - Olaniyan Florence - 2019-09-26 08:27:53 Quote

  • Such relationship won’t work out because it was built on lies and deceit. Such a guy will not truly love the lady because he has already showed that his feelings also are fake. The girl should just give birth to the baby and move on with her life.

    - Onekeneke prince - 2019-09-26 08:59:21 Quote

  • Though borrowing to impress a lady is wrong but has a lady most ladies of today prefer fake life, some of the ladies are liars so what do you think will happen to them, some will even be the first to throw you the biggest lie so the guy also have to respond, and not to forget that some ladies will play hard to get but immediately they flash them with cash and car...... I rest my case 

    - Oduwole Damilola - 2019-09-26 12:42:04 Quote

  • Ewoooooohhh..that's why it's good to know a person well before you say yes. Either ways what's he saying about it? 


    However a relationship based on lies cannot work out..

    - Deborah joel - 2019-09-26 12:53:30 Quote

  • Why call he husband, are they married? Well if am to say the guy to advantage of the girl which is bad and the girl on the other side was too engrossed in love that she failed to research about him. The deed has been done, my advice is that she go her separate way because if the guy could lie to her to that extent that means the guy can equally kill her

    - calister eze - 2019-09-26 13:01:10 Quote

  • Your story is WOW. I love your story my dear friend. Unfortunately you are not the lady who is primarily affected. All the same, as a friend you have decided to ask this question on her behalf.            Maybe the guy truly loves her. If the guy had come to the girl without the display of wealth,he would not have gotten her. So the disguised himself like a cameleon to get her. She should follow her heart. 

    - Light Udoyo - 2019-09-26 13:07:01 Quote

  • Borrowing to impress a lady isn't a right thing, a girl who can't accept you the way you are doesn't worth it and it should encourage you to work harder but true love is not determined by materialism.

    - Adebisi Opeyemi - 2019-09-26 13:17:42 Quote

  • My own suggestion on this matter is for d lady to seperate herself from that kind of a man,  he can kill and still pretend he is innocent.

    So it is better for u to run away from dat relationship,  because he has nothing to offer to u than to destroy your life and that of ur unborn child.

    - Ndukwe Blessing - 2019-09-26 13:30:37 Quote

  • She been pregnant for him doesn't mean it must be marriage, he built the relationship on lies so it's hers to decide, if she still loves him to continue due to the fact that a child is now involved and he did it all to please her or they have the baby and end the relationship.

    But I think if her can forgive him and move on with him would be the best for herself and the child since he loves her.

    - Ezinne Ngozi Evurunobi - 2019-09-26 13:48:28 Quote

  • That is very bad in relationship you don't need to borrow to impress your partner once their is true love let her carry on with the relationship but since the man is habalist hmmm, she should try find out the kind of habalist he is whether is for good or for bad

    - Mgbada chigozie - 2019-09-26 13:51:19 Quote

  • Normally is not good to borrow and impress a lady Truthfully it's no harder to impress a woman than it is to impress ... Seems to care a great deal about what happens to me and my well-being.

    - Junior Louis - 2019-09-26 14:03:25 Quote

  • Okay borrowing is one thing u don't do to keep a relationship going, that relationship has failed before it started and with pregnancy that is something else. The don't even have a job too sad.

    - Bilya Musa - 2019-09-26 14:06:37 Quote

  • To me it's not really bad if he loves you and you truly love him too you are good to go and above all if he is doing everything that a woman need for me woman you still need to go with him because being an herbalist does not stop a man from getting married even about this these days I have wives so what's there

    - Anthony Onyekachi - 2019-09-26 14:10:39 Quote

  • To me it's not really bad if he loves you and you truly love him too you are good to go and above all if he is doing everything that a woman need for me woman you still need to go with him because being an herbalist does not stop a man from getting married even about this these days I have wives so what's there

    - Anthony Onyekachi - 2019-09-26 14:10:49 Quote

  • Those kind of guys has self esteem issues, low self-esteem and insecurities. How can you borrow to impress someone. Didn't your friend go to his house once or twice . Those kind of guys are enemies bof progress. He wanted to pin that lady down. Now she finally got pregnant for him, sis is going no where . How can you disguise yourself just to get someone that's heartless

    - Osikha Cynthia - 2019-09-26 14:11:48 Quote

  • I just wish people could understand that in a relationship ,non material things matters more than material things. Non material things like love trust humility they really matters but you see so many people using money and the rest to impress a lady, worst of all they may borrow from there frinds to impress there lady , living a fake life . When you later run out of cash or those people you borrowed money from now comes . You woudl see that your lady would leave you and you would feel like regretting everything

    - Adirika Chisom - 2019-09-26 14:15:11 Quote

  • Some guys we have in this generation normally do this borrow pose and to impress a lady too which is very bad I think you should be your self any girl that really loves you will not mind the kind of background you came from or how you are finically stable I think we guys should just be our self we will surly find the right partener for us

    - Okereke Nzubechi Divine - 2019-09-26 14:26:24 Quote

  • Jesus, this a serious issue oh. He didn't do well by losing to her no. Even th girl should have known investigated enough about her so called lover instead of only accepting gifts from him. 

    - Okafor Chigaemezu Ifeanyi - 2019-09-26 15:21:39 Quote

  • Sincerely, the relationship can not stand in the sense that it was established on dishonesty. immediately she knows that he lied and he is herbalist. The love gets fade. 

    I will advise the lady to leave him. Because worst things are still coming on the way. 

    - Adejube Olaoluwa - 2019-09-26 15:32:48 Quote

  • I can borrow to impress myself but not to impress a lady., I can never be comfortable with that. It seem cool and awesome to some guys but the story shows that the end of it won't be funny because the damages would have been done already. It's a complete fake without originality. 

    My advice to everyone is that; never pretend to be what you are not and as for the lady, she should embrace her fate. 

    - Adediji Eniola - 2019-09-26 16:05:22 Quote

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