Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship

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My name is Mr Johnson, working in my own establishment and happily married with two kids. Marrying My wife Was The best thing that has ever happened to me in life, despite the fact that I call her mommy, I don't really think she can take the place of my biological mother.

We had our second child just last week, my mother came around to take care of my wife and the newly born baby. Few days later, on reaching home from work  I found my mother and my wife involved in a very serious fight,  I was so tired and equally hungry.  Now as a wise man of the house, what immediate action do you suggest I would have taken, is it to follow my wife's opinion or my mother's opinion or just remain neutral in the conflict....

Your opinion counts.

 

Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Victor Ukoje - 2019-09-11 11:45:20

Try to know who is at fault. Then question the person. But the fact that your wife was engage in a fight with your mother, is not good at all, your wife have no reason to fight with your mother even if she's at fault. She should have over looked her and move out of the scene of their quarrel. There should be love between the both of them and not hatred.

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By NDU-WORLD Chimfi - 2019-09-11 11:51:30

I believe as the wise man of the house you should first of all get their attention and calm them down, then listen to both parties then give an impartial judgment in a wise and understanding approach so that the guilty party either your wife, or mother will at least acknowledge her fault. That's how I feel the wise man of the house should settle the matter 

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Folorunsho Oluwatomiyosi Gloria - 2019-09-11 12:19:47

The case now is the idea of you and your wife, look into the issue properly and if your wish is wrong or she feels bad about your mother thenyou just need to talk to your wife and let her understand that she is your mother and she deserves all necessary respect! So try y’all to the two parties and make clear ideas to them all.

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Jesse Hunsamenu - 2019-09-11 12:19:47

Oops! This is a conundrum. Well I don't think picking side is a good call in this situation.In my own opinion,u separate them at that moment and sit them down to scold them politely without treading on any of them toe.Let them recant and plead for peace to reign not pick side.Apply wisdom u have to know how to interact with each of them without offending any of them I say again.

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Adeshina Adewale - 2019-09-11 12:26:23

In a situation like this,you have to be careful with your approach,do not take sides visibly. Caution your wife,let her see reasons that fighting your mum is disrespectful no matter what she may have done. Then talk to your mum in her room,apologize on your wife behalf and let your wife do so later as well. May God uphold your home.

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Isaac Olalere - 2019-09-11 12:27:23

This is a delicate matter that requires a smart intervention. First you have to listen to both parties side of the story. Regardless of who is at fault your mother is irreplacable and so you wouldn't want to rebuke her at the expense of supporting your wife. You talk to your wife in private make her feel you understand every of her point and at the same time make her reason with you that your mother is your small god you wouldn't want to offend. I believe if you act this way you can resolute the conflict perfectly.

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Kelley Ighedosa - 2019-09-11 12:35:12

As the man, son and husband of the house ,they will want to hear your judgement,hush both of them first,calm them down,send your wife to the room, as mama will be with you either in her room  or parlour,listen to mama first as an act respect before your wife,so as to creat a conducive atmosphere to resolve the conflict.

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Onyeka Simon - 2019-09-11 12:44:31

It is simple as a man and a leader of the family you should firstly separate the fighting between your mom and your wife , because their is an igbo adage that says 'a goat cannot die in it's pen while an elderly person is around".An addvice and cause of the problem should be addressed by the husband beign the head of the family, and together give solution to the issue.

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Kehinde Oladipupo - 2019-09-11 12:54:05

As a well mannered man, you can never judge your mum in the presence of your wife, even if your mum was at fault. Even if she was at fault and you have to tell her, you will have to say it wisely, in such a way that she won't find it indicting.

Now, on how to settle it, the first thing for you to do is to stop your wife from fighting your mom, not your mum from fighting your wife. Then, later, you let your wife know it is not right for her to fight your mum and make her understand she has to beg your mum, you must beg with her anyway. Normally, it is the child who should apologize especially if the dispute is with the parent.

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Tsekar Leonard Aondoakula - 2019-09-11 12:59:55

Finding peace between the family is the most important thing. So i advice to urge your wife not to fight with your mother even if she slapt her. And your mother to give morals to your as a mother inlaw

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Falona Benjamin - 2019-09-11 13:24:25

As a wise man, and man of the house , get their attention of them first,calm them down,send your wife to the room, as mama will be with you either in her room  or parlour,listen to mama first as an act respect before your wife,so as to creat a conducive atmosphere to resolve the conflict. And reason with them in their aspects of action because the main topic of the conflict is you. 

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Anthony Emeka - 2019-09-11 13:42:32

In my opinion, you could protect your wife at that instance,  get her to talk later then go apologise to your mother and hear her own side of the story..Never side anyone infront of each other... You may love your mother at all cost but when one is married, your wife is your new mom.. It does not mean your biological mom is dicarded..Be wise about loving the both parties..Women can be delicate to handle.

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By James Brown - 2019-09-11 13:47:47

Trust me bro,those two women can make things miserable for you if you turn blind eye and become bias because one is your wife and the other your mother. Call both of them/take them out on a weekend to any eatery,say nice words to them,beg them to forgive each other and live in peace, be the baby and let them pet you,ask them what happened afterwards and blame no one. After that,your mum and your wife will become 5&6.

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Ibraheem Rasheed - 2019-09-11 13:50:57

I think playing mediator in this scenario should come before playing Judge. Remember, the parties involved are both women and as suggested they are emotional. Trying to apportion Balme at that very instant would only augment the misunderstanding and paint you black. So as a man you just must devise a way to douse the tension by appealing to their pride first, though in private. 

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Abdullahi Nurudeen Olayiwola - 2019-09-11 14:39:09

NowTrying to apportion Balme at that very instant would only augment the misunderstanding and paint you black. So as a man you just must devise a way to douse the tension by appealing to their pride first, though in private.  on how to settle it, the first thing for you to do is to stop your wife from fighting your mom, not your mum from fighting your wife. Then, later, you let your wife know it is not right for her to fight your mum and make her understand she has to beg your mum, you must beg with her anyway. Normally, it is the child who should apologize especially if the dispute is with the parent.

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Vera ochim - 2019-09-11 14:59:53

I think you should call both parties to hear what they have to say and since we’re talking about your mum and your wife you wouldn’t want to pick sides and I had say whatever your judgments are just be neutral and don’t make it look like your supporting your wife or your mum.

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Olabode Oludapo - 2019-09-11 15:09:21

You should try to know who caused the quarrel in the first place but even if your mother was at fault, your wife should have been more patient and enduring and should have let you come back to discuss instead of going ahead to quarrel with her mother-in-law.

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By TOCHUKWU KINGSLEY OKOYE - 2019-09-11 15:11:38

I know this is a very difficult position to be in but knowing fully well how important both of them are to you and deep down in you, you know you wouldn't want to come back tomorrow and see them quarrelling again, so I advise you calm them down and listen attentively to what they have to say and pass your judgement maturely. 

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Ishaya Tanko - 2019-09-11 15:13:04

Trying to apportion Balme at that very instant would only augment the misunderstanding and paint you black. So as a man you just must devise a way to douse the tension by appealing to their pride first, though in private. 

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Ottah Blessing - 2019-09-11 15:16:14

The best thing you can do in this matter is to remain neutral. Hear from your mom and also your wife. Know who went wrong among them. But your wife doesn't have any reason even if she is not at fault to fight with your mother no matter what the case may be. She could have waited for you to come back since something like this have never happened before. Is just the devil hand work.

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Godstime Ezarevah - 2019-09-11 15:20:51

Firstly eat something cause u will definitely need your strenth. Then try to calm them down. Get the story from both sides. Then call your wife A-side and get her to agree with your mom even though she might be right. And let your mom accept and then make peace. 

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Paul Agba - 2019-09-11 15:22:13

In this case, always stay neutral, taking either side is dangerous, try to calm the situation, then listem to both parties separately and get your story together after which caution the wrong party but donit privately, you don't want to belittle one in front of the other, both parties are super important in your life. 

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Light Udoyo - 2019-09-11 15:26:44

Your story is interesting. The first thing is to separate them. Don't scold anybody. Tell your wife to go to the bedroom. Go to your mother and plead with her to calm down.  Go to the kitchen and make yourself a light meal. Take the food to the bedroom and while you are eating,ask your wife to tell you what happened.

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Adepoju Khadijat - 2019-09-11 15:32:21

You don't have to take sides before resolving a conflict. You find out what happened, blame who's at fault, blame the other for not being patient and ask them to apologize to each other. Problem solved.

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Nwaonye Kingsley - 2019-09-11 15:41:32

for me seeing my wife fighting My own mother is a disgrace actually she insulted me disrespect me how could she do such not even call 📞 me on phone and tell me if there is any issue well you separate the fight sitt them caution everyone them then you go inside with your wife later you ask her some questions and caution the more after you meet your mother privately talk to her and apologize let her know that she is a mother and your wife is her daughter.

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Chukwuemeka Iloduba - 2019-09-11 15:47:07

This is very serious , anyway for this all u have to do is tell your wife to go her room , then later u talk to you mother to know what the problem is , also talk to ur wife then after you know who is at fault then u settle it so it won't bounce on one 

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By PETER MMADUEKE - 2019-09-11 15:49:29

My brother, call your wife aside and ask her what happened, do same for your mother, after thinking through what led to the fight and disagreements, settle the disagreement  between both of them and don't show any partial judgment because she is either your wife or mother. Make them  become best friends and watch how peaceful  your home will be next time you meet them unannounced. 

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Michael Damilola - 2019-09-11 15:49:46

My opinion is that as man and the head of the family immediately you entered the house and met them fighting you have to separate them, cool them down and asked whose at fault, it might be your mommmy or wife. Dialogue with them and make sure peace come back in the famiy.

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Seun Samson - 2019-09-11 16:01:18

The case now is the idea of you and your wife, look into the issue properly and if your wish is wrong or she feels bad about your mother thenyou just need to talk to your wife and let her understand that she is your mother and she deserves all necessary respect! So try y’all to the two parties and make clear ideas to them all.

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Pwamona Timawus - 2019-09-11 16:02:23

since you said you were hungry and tired, first thing to do is to calm them down then go and get something to eat and rest, then in the morning sit them down and try to hear from the both of them. when you know the person at fault, just ignore and try to make peace between them. later you can then meet the person at fault and advice politely.

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Marvellous Olatunbosun - 2019-09-11 16:22:26

You see, what I feel is that this marriage thing works in a different way and it's only by grace we can all scale through. Going biblical, the Bible says, can two walk together except they agree? And the Bible also says and the man and woman shall leave their parents and cleave to each other ( I prarphrased though). Now the thing is, for a fact that you call your wife a Mummy is understandably the fact that you recognize who she is even tho she can't take the place of your mother. We all understand and know who our mothers are.

Now you meet them in an heated argument, my friend don't take any side if you don't want issues in your life. Kindly remain neutral and make sure the matter is settled amicably. 

God bless. 

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Thankgod Alabi - 2019-09-11 16:22:28

Mr Johnson don't follow anyone's opinion be it your wife or your mother. Just do what you think is right in your sight as the man of the house. But make sure to settle them because they are part of you you can't do without on a long run. 

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Caleb Okekwu - 2019-09-11 16:23:36

Just be neutral and settle them amicably, passing blames on anyone will result to more fight and quarrel. Just make them that they are matured enough to be able to to settle their differences with dialogue rather than quarreling or physical combat.

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Blessing Gaadi - 2019-09-11 16:39:02

To be neutra.. most of these grandmothers are very annoying, sometimes you don't even understand them, you don't know what the want... so at a point you get fed up with their problems and just allow the worst to happen,i mean they push you to the wall.

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Gbenga Nelson - 2019-09-11 17:08:54

believe as the wise man of the house you should first of all get their attention and calm them down, then listen to both parties then give an impartial judgment in a wise and understanding approach so that the guilty party either your wife, or mother will at least acknowledge her fault.

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Divine Peterside - 2019-09-11 17:17:56

My opinion is that u call both parties and ask what really happened.

When u get to know who is at fault,keep it to urself.This is because if you say it,it will cause some inner conflict which u might not be aware of.

Pass the judgement fairly and dont query or use hurtful words at any of them.Make sure that are both happy at the end.

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Precious idisi - 2019-09-11 17:20:16

mother and a wife misunderstanding is really a terrible situation for a man. You just have to call the both of them as the man if the house, and ask for the main reason why they are fighting. As a man, you settle your home yourself.

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Chinonso Henry Ikueze - 2019-09-11 17:25:49

This situation is highly controversial as issues involved mothers and wives are extremely sensitive, and as such requires both diplomacy and wisdom. first of all, your mother should have known better than to come to another woman's home to fight with her owing to the fact that she's marrying her son. its improper and unreasonable. You as the man ought to have drawn the boundary between your mother's role in your life and her interference in your matrimonial home.

However it is, settle the issue amicably between them, and judge from the point of view "Who is right or wrong" regardless of whose oxen is gored.

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Ogundipe Aisha - 2019-09-11 17:48:00

Firstly, hear what they have to say so that they'll both know you care and please, stay on a neutral ground. Don't hurt your mother and take side with your wife just because you are hungry and don't also hurt your wife and take side with your wife. 

Just stay on a neutral ground, because at the end of the day, the mother won't stay with you forever, she'll go to her house and it's you and your wife that will remain in the house.

And try to settle the quarrel, and if possible tell your wife to apologize to your mum, in other to prevent grudges from both ends 

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Isaac Oluwole - 2019-09-11 18:07:20

You have to understand the issue at hand before taking ur decisions, try not to criticize any of them, ur wife is your life partner and your mother has played a major role in ur current state in life. 

This is a hard decision to take, may God lead you right

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Pricillia Adeyemi - 2019-09-11 18:18:23

Be very careful and listen to both sides

Differently

Anyone who is at fault

Blame her separately not together

And your wife is not suppose to fight your mother.for anything 

She should have waited for you

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Goodness Otaru - 2019-09-11 18:32:33

Know what went wrong first,don't jump to conclusions or side anyone of them since they are both very important people to you,try to side with the truth,then you can later talk to them privately and separately for peace to reign

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Ehikioya Elisha - 2019-09-11 19:09:00

The best option just silently tip toe to your room and sleep first after that listen to your wife's side and mother's side and go with your wife always go with your wife opinion 

Console your mother later and drive her back to her house

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Akinola Jubril - 2019-09-11 19:11:19

To avoid offending the 2 party, don't support or against any of them. It's a taboo to support ur wife and against ur mother bcoz she means a lot to u. And u can't support ur mother and against ur wife also bcoz she is the mother of ur kids. The best solution is to call both of them and settle the matter amicably

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Vincent Balat - 2019-09-11 19:15:58

You should first of all listen and detect who is at fault or what caused the fight, But no matter what I suggest you remain neutral for everlasting peace to reign in your life, Because all of them deserve to be loved and not disregarded. A calm sensible resolution will go a long way 

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Amisu Abdullahi - 2019-09-11 19:18:01

It is a very sensitive issue that needs to be attended to with wisdom, your wife had no reason to fight your mother. Since it happened that way all you can do is listen to the both of them and then you solve the issue between them with wisdom and make who ever is at blame to realise their mistske and let them know reasons why they shouldn't fight anymore..Your mother should also forgive the matter and take your wife like she is her daughter.

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Dairo Idowu - 2019-09-11 19:27:11

Just like Yoruba adage that "agbejo enikan da agba o sika ni" ( meaning that "he who hear one side story of a matter is a wicked fellow) you must ensure you balance the both side by hearing them out first and then apply wisdom in your judgment. If its your mother that's faulty don't correct her before your wife, tell your wife to go inside room first and even scode her before your mummy. then talk to your mother amicably and later go see your wife inside and pet her.

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Adeshokan Sherriffdeen - 2019-09-11 19:48:24

You can't stay neutral of course, its your wife and mother arguing, you just have to ask the cause of the conflict and deal with each other accordingly. 

But I believe no matter what happens your wife should never raise her voice on the mother.

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By John Vincent - 2019-09-11 19:48:37

In conflict resolution, one should hear from the parties involved, after hearing them that's when you can point out mistakes and who's at fault not necessarily jumping to one side, so I suggest you remain neutral until you investigate further.

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Climax Of A Conflict In Relationship - By Adjenughwure Nicholas - 2019-09-11 19:50:25

Wisdom is profitable to direct. The first thing to do is to separate them and stop the fight before asking what happened even. By the time the house is now peaceful you can visit both one after the other and enquirer from each of them what truly happened. If you truly love both of them so much that you don’t which to be on ones blackbook, you have to take the blame for your wife and apologize to your mum on her behalf. Don’t support one and leave the other.

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