Dating For Fun Or Dating For Marriage

I have a friend who is into plenty relationship and each time I talk to her about all this relationships, she would say she is dating for fun not for marriage yet. Because she has had several breakups and so feel that true love does not exist that anything love is just fake. 

She even date married men and call it enjoy while it last that she want to enjoy her self very well and that I shouldn't blame her because her ex's have turn her into a fleet girl and that she is enjoying this  new her and at times say she is making cool money

So my question her is that is there actually anything call dating for fun not for marriage because I see it as a relationship without a prospect. What's your take on this issue??

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  • Really, less blame would be put on her because she was pushed into her present engagement nonetheless, she has to understand the meaning of a new life, starting afresh. It is said that 'when your enemies push you to your knees, take it as an opportunity to pray and step up.' 

    Though she can't get back the virtue she has lost, she has to take up her mantle. 

    - ADEGBOYEGA ADURAGBEMI SAMSON - 2019-09-27 15:31:38 Quote

  • In my own opinion,d eating for fun is just like wasting urs and ur partners time. I don't really have much to say but I believe that a person's reason for going into a relationship should be because of marriage and not because of fun because to go for the latter is to open yourself up for more heartbreaks because no matter how hard u say u don't love d person and you are just dating the person for fun you will still come out of it scathe

    - Mabel Royal - 2019-09-27 15:37:56 Quote

  • No matter disappointment she don't need to date for fun , because there are many risks there.well sleeping with different men and u say u do it for fun , u can contact HIV, infection even u may loss ur life on the process. Date for marriage is save and has hope that one u will be legally married.

    - Olarinde Rukayat - 2019-09-27 16:02:33 Quote

  • is there something like dating for fun?  Which fun are you catching?  I would advice you to change your ways because when the consequences came you might not be able to withstand it. Stick to one man my dear sister,  an adage says "Jack of all trade is a master of none .

    - Macku Issa - 2019-09-27 16:14:43 Quote

  • Well there is nothing like dating for fun instead she is killing herself with her hand she will flirt at the end of the day she will tire she dating married men in the name of enjoyment let her also remember that they will do her the same thing she is doing another person

    - Miracle Boniface - 2019-09-27 16:37:41 Quote

  • Though it do happens at times but she is not supposed  to Act base on her passed experience. She is gradually tarnishing her image herself. There is possibility that she might later find true love .but what the father of her lover is one of the numerous married man she have slept me. Trust me the man will never ever support their marriage. I will advise her to withdraw from this Act before it get too late 

    - Saliu Motunrayo - 2019-09-27 16:40:44 Quote

  •  There is time people dates for fun.when the riped time comes nobody will tell you to leave such fun must surelly look for a person to take there is time for both.

    - Christopher Gwaze - 2019-09-27 16:55:02 Quote

  • The main purpose of dating should be to get married, if not, then it is tollay meaning less. If you are dating for fun you have no ultimate goal and your relationship will crumble at the sight of any little obstacle. Dating for fun is common these say and that's why relationships don't last long because partners have no plan for the future.

    - Aliyu Gana Aliyu - 2019-09-27 17:06:44 Quote

  • I think she is afraid of falling in love again because if the heart break she has had. But she is distroying herself slowly and it will be very bad when she finally decide to date for marriage she might not see anyone coming, she might end up with a disease or she might get married and small girls will be dating her husband. She should not just look at this in the surface because of her pain but should consider the repercussions.

    - Idi Grace - 2019-09-27 17:09:27 Quote

  • In my own opinion I think that dating is for marriage and not for fun, but some girls see it as a source of income to their life to the extent of dating married man

    - Umeh Ifeanyi Peter - 2019-09-27 17:11:06 Quote

  • Possibly she is into dating to understand men in general but don't be surprised if she meets her type of person and by the time she thinks she has found the right one, it goes sour. She should be careful on how she goes about it. If the person she's dating is looking for something serious and she's into fun then she's looking for trouble.

    - CHUKWUKA OKPOKPOR - 2019-09-27 17:11:25 Quote

  • Abomination! Dating for fun or what. When is she now going to married for fun. She just wanted to turn herself to s*x machine for people enjoyment only. Better sit sodo and plan for good life. Nothing like dating for fun, unless she is prostitute.

    - Wasiu Abiodun Adegboye - 2019-09-27 17:16:06 Quote

  • Well I won't blame because I've once been a victim of heartbreak but that should be a reason to flirt, heartbroken is the worst thing that can ever happen to someone because on the process you might take a drastic decision that you might regret later., but my advice to her is that she should stop that so called dating fun or whatever she has involved herself into and give relationship a break for sometime and who knows God might provide her a man who deserves her.

    - Austine Nwanma Cynthia - 2019-09-27 18:01:36 Quote

  • Well it is really unfortunate that she decides to live such live because she had a break up with her ex.partner and she then assume that she can not be love again. It is a wrong notion. Jumping from one man to another will surely worsen the situation and make it difficult for a young eligible bachelor to approach her for a serious relationship. Tell her to change her obession and look things differently.

    - IFEANYI NWOKEDI - 2019-09-27 21:38:53 Quote

  • It is a wrong notion. Jumping from one man to another will surely worsen the situation and make it difficult for a young eligible bachelor to approach her for a serious relationship. Tell her to change her obession and look things differently. 

    - Abiola Solomon - 2019-09-27 22:21:56 Quote

  • I won't judge her,because am not one known for that,i tend to put my self in someone's shows .

    However, without hurt we won't know what love is ...

    So you shouldn't date someone for fun because it is not . It is for marriage.

    - Deborah joel - 2019-09-27 23:09:48 Quote

  • Dating for marriage is the best two partners should have in their mind not for fun

    For fun later gets to s8x making every day by day and its not really goid for the lady

    Lady's should be really careful and class down to know who is serious not see their naked and go

    - Idiris Opeyemi - 2019-09-27 23:22:24 Quote

  • true love does exist she should try to settle down with a life because if she continues like that it would affect her physically and it is not be good for her so she should try to settle down with just one man and build a life together afterall she cannot continue living that type of life

    - Aikhomu Daniel - 2019-09-27 23:32:06 Quote

  • Dating for fun is a game play.  It is risky in the sense that the guy can decide to marry you after lavishing money on you. You can mistakenly become pregnant. Again you can be used by ritualists for sacrifice. Please never date for fun. 

    - Nwokoukwu Jerome - 2019-09-27 23:51:59 Quote

  • I will agree with you that dating must have a prospect and lead to something.Dating for fun really doesn't exist dating must be built on a foundation of love and trust. I really understand why she said she dates for fun because of past heartbreaks but before you date someone you must ask your self if you really trust the person with your emotions and if that is the person you are going to be with for life 

    - Elijah ajayi - 2019-09-28 00:32:00 Quote

  • Dating for fun is just the simple way of semi-protitutional way. Cos I think she might rather put it in form of she is having "friends with benefit" than she is dating. Though not all dating process succeeded into marriage but marriage would rather be the goal for dating than the fun part. 

    - BABAJIDE ABIOLA AKOREDE - 2019-09-28 08:02:44 Quote

  • You have tried as a friend to help her if she refuse then you let her be,This relationship issue age all so matters because at the age of 30 nd above you are studying the girl if she can really make it in ur marriage life style,Relationship help becuase you try to leave a life that you will leave in marriage so if you dating for fun consider your age because guys/men are watching you

    - Francis Udoh - 2019-09-28 09:28:24 Quote

  • Hmmmmm, firstly dating for fun doesn't really make any sense left to me but it is so unfortunate that it's happening and infact it's the initial plan of most guys if I must say before they are finally hooked with one thing or the other and making them want to spend the rest of their lives with there Bae's. But some people actually date for dating sake. A friend even told me that she is actually dating her current boyfriend because all of her friends are in relationship and they keep gisting her about how interesting it is and she really don't like it, then she decides to date someone, like can you imagine?

    - Owoyemi Motunrayo - 2019-09-28 15:54:38 Quote

  • Don't judge her, From your write-up it shows that she has gone through a lot in relationships and now she just want to play the games, and when she is ready to settle down she'll look for a partner she can trust.let her make her Choice aftaa all she is an adult,tho it's not the best, and the only way you can help her is with your prayers, that's if she is really your close friend.i hope this helps

    - Komolafe Adeola - 2019-09-28 16:47:45 Quote

  • Well some truly date for fun and says that they re' enjoyin their life, but since she is a female like you, advice her to watch her age as she dates for fun, so that she will not be carried away when she gets to age she is supposed to engage herself with a right man that will marry her..if not her life will be full of regrets later...

    - Queen Sharon Gift - 2019-09-28 17:11:48 Quote

  • Alot of people are in this forum of dating for fun,because they have been through several heartbreaks.but the question is that till when are we going to keep living in the shadow of our past.and most times the fault are from men.they just want to pass time and enjoy the moment without thinking about the feelings of the opposite gender.

    - Remmy Banjo - 2019-09-28 18:20:25 Quote

  • It seems like she misunderstood what love is! True love really exist. It is a kind of love in which both the lovers  heart are connected without considering of what the other has, be it in terms of beauty or worldly material. So if she said she is dating for fun, really she misunderstood was love is.

    Nothing like love for fun, she has to found the name to that which she was doing, it I not love.

    - Najib Sani - 2019-09-28 20:01:03 Quote

  • You must know what you want,  you can't date for fun,  everybody who is in a relationship has marriage in mind,  but your capabilities defines you,  why you must date before marriage is to get to know your partner very well,  because of the children of nowadays,  it was not so before now

    - Onyeuno Emmanuel - 2019-09-28 21:04:56 Quote

  • Yes. Depending on one's perspective. You can't expect a sixteen year old dating her classmate and age mate to say she's dating for marriage. Are they going to end as husband and wife? You know the answer to this question already. Except she dey ready to discover Mungo The truth is this, before the boy even start to think of settling with her, men are already asking her hand in marriage. So do not expect her to say she's dating for marriage... She's dating for fun! 

    - Ugochukwu Jonas - 2019-09-28 22:33:31 Quote

  • On hearing her own side of the story, we can't blame her, dating for fun I mostly common nowadays, we modernized it and call it slay for fun is mostly common among guys, don't be so surprise when you hear someone saying he/she his dating for fun

    - Gabriel Adeola - 2019-09-28 22:44:40 Quote

  • Absolutely there's nothing like dating for fun I think dating for fun is prostitution because you will not get married you will just be jumping from one car to anoda there's only dating for marriage there's nothing like dating for fun there is true love if you package your self well if you are dating anyhow you will never find true love.

    - Junior Louis - 2019-09-28 23:21:42 Quote

  • That reason that she gave concerning her previous relationships does not justify her for doing what she doing. There is a Yoruba adage that says "If  you close your eyes for the bad people to pass , the good person will also pass without your knowledge.

    So just keep trying on a more serious relationship and stop playing with others feelings so that it will not backfire.

    - Oluwadarasimi Stephen - 2019-09-28 23:41:09 Quote

  • A certain girl comes to mind 

    I wouldn't blame the girl 

    It's her ex fault 

    I'm sure she gave love a chance some couple of times but keeps getting disappointed, I know she'll still meet someone that loves her for who she is 

    - Olamide Ogunfile - 2019-09-29 07:05:39 Quote

  • Heartbreak and breakup doesn't come just like that and if it happens we have to check ourseleves very well when a guy or lady breaks your heart the next solution is not to turn into fleet but to check what causes the breakup and rebuild ur self for the next relationship and be wise when going for another relationship 

    - Kabir Abisola zainab - 2019-09-29 08:14:07 Quote

  • Well a lot of people think Dating is an aspect of pleasure and fun, for me I believe Dating is something of love, and when dating there more you push forward the more you too are attached to each other, and the more you love for each other become stronger, a lot of people met together through dating sites some are through parties and schools, Dating for fun can’t be carried out when you guys met on dating sites, because on dating sites poker who are there they want marriage , they are main aim is to marry and style down most proem who are in sites are mostly the ones that can’t find a man on the real life, but when dating from when you guys met at school they may not be a really strong bondage between you too , that will make you guys plan for marriage, while for parties it’s both sides you can date for fun or for marriages when meet at parties because it’s assuming like a way of lifestyle. you meet you get hooked up with eat other and then marriage may come.

    - King Gerald - 2019-09-29 10:06:26 Quote

  • uuhm, nothing like dating for fun oo,my advise is for her to stop that so that it won't afffect in future, by the time she will be ready for marriage i pray she would'nt have lose her husband for fun, besides she can meet alot of misfortune for fun through that flirt, heartbreak  is part of test of life, jesus too had  an heartbreak and even God says my heart is sad because i created human. So talkless of we human to human. just tell her to change for good.

    - Elizabeth Babalola - 2019-09-29 12:48:31 Quote

  • Listening to her story one won't condemn her behavior,  but the thing is dating for fun doesn't make any sense because you might think you are enjoying life we're as your time is going because nobody knows when he or she will die. 

    - Adam Abdullahi - 2019-09-29 13:43:12 Quote

  • stop all talk to her and asked her why she doing that cuz you know I know definitely one day she's going to regret doing that dating men differently any house is very bad for her horse I hate it to be honest I'm dating a girl while she's dating other means just talk to her I know the reason why she's doing that that will be ok I guess

    - Abubakar Sadeeq Salihu - 2019-09-29 14:00:08 Quote

  • Dating for marriage and dating for fun are two different things. Marriage is a must for most people.but now a days people date because they feel like and most times it for the money the guys have or because of the size of b00bs and a$$es, other times they date because their friends date but the best is for marriage because you have a goal. What's the point of dating a person and letting him/her use you when you know you pipo are still gonna split some day.

    - Nneka Emmanuel - 2019-09-29 14:45:11 Quote

  • In my view it’s better you date for marriage than fun to prevent unnecessary heartaches. Dating for fun can lead to negative future implications because it’s better you tell just one person your entire secrets than to be telling each person you date and you will still end up breaking up then the person has you wrapped around his finger

    - Faith Eke - 2019-09-29 15:57:33 Quote

  • Well I wont condemn her for what I have read above it isn't her fault but I would advise her to stop, she should give in for true love maybe her perspective about relationship would change 

    - Adeniyi Selina - 2019-09-29 16:01:35 Quote

  • She has a reason for doing such things, and a believe make her do it... u know when u have believe in something no other thing can change it. But d main problem about dat is that she is just waisting her glory distributing it to does that don’t have plans with her they use her for fun... she is loosing let her understand that...

    - Ololade Adebola - 2019-09-29 17:07:56 Quote

  • I believe its very possible she has gone through several life experiments that ha given her that belief that true love doesn't exist, sadly I too fall into that category, but I believe it would be wise for her to settle down and stop the "dating for fun" as there are many risks and negative aspects attached. 

    - Davidson Kenny - 2019-09-29 17:12:54 Quote

  • Dating for fun hummm!!  what if she has dated her own husband for fun i.e maybe the person she suppose to marry has come along the lines..... Am sure she doesn't like it when she was played too .... It's better to stay single and wait for the right man to come her way...may Almighty God help us all.

    - Omotoso Monisola - 2019-09-29 17:20:51 Quote

  • My point is there's noting call dating for fun or marriage. 

    Even though she has been in several relationships that end up going astray that shouldn't have made her going around them and having fun with them... By so doing she's bringing shame upon her self dignity. 

    - Agbeje Ayomide Taiwo - 2019-09-29 17:37:19 Quote

  • It is very true that some girls even boys date for fun but to me dating someone is not for fun but for laying future foundation because it is very hard for a strange man to come from nowhere and tell you I want to marry you except the person is directed by God. So dating is not for fun but for preparation for marriage.

    - Etini Mbosco - 2019-09-29 17:46:59 Quote

  • The purpose of a thing is abuse when it's essence is never understood.

    Please don't toil with your beautiful life. There's more to life than the fleeting life. It's a way of depreciating your kills the Joy of womanhood. 

    If you want to settle down please do. If you're not interested in settling down, start adding value to your life.


    - Imandebhor Solomon - 2019-09-29 17:48:02 Quote

  • If her purpose for dating for fun is because she’s making money then she’s only sugarcoating prostitution to sound less horrific as it is. Dating should be something sacred, a bond when you get to learn and understand your partner with the aim of getting married to him/her, it shouldn’t be something you do for fun or leisure. That’s bad. 

    - Omosivwe Jonathan - 2019-09-29 18:14:25 Quote

  • But that is not the best ,Let her pray as well on her own part to see if her life style need to be adjusted,because living your life like that is not the best ,and sometimes in life some people need serious prayers when if comes to relationship 

    - Enebeli Vivian - 2019-09-29 18:24:50 Quote

  • Dating for fun is common among the youth because we all think that we are not ready for going to serious relationship. Though it's very common but there are people that believe in serious relationships 

    - Akinade Taiwo - 2019-09-29 18:43:13 Quote

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