What is feminism?
Feminism according to Wikipedia, is a range of social movements , political movements , and ideologies that share a common goal: to define, establish, and achieve the political, economic, personal, and social equality of the sexes.
Feminism started out as a movement that advocated equal right (and responsibilities) between both sexes. It sought to breach the gap between the opportunities and human rights (e.g; right to vote, etc).
The First Wave
The first wave of feminism sought to free women from the legal limitations. This course was championed by Wilhelmina Drucker(1847–1925), Louise Weiss (1936), Emmeline Pankhurst (1913).
The Second Wave:
This saw the liberation from Career limitations as women became eligible to enlist in the army, become pilots, doctors, etc. It was spearheaded by Carol Hanisch (1968).
The Third Wave:
At this point the glaring gender role differences have been reduced greatly and the quest for equality subtly turned in a competition for the head - this saw the ubiquity of terms like "independent woman", "strong woman", etc.
This further detoriated to an odium for men and birthed terms like "self-love", " self-crush", etc.
After colonialism, our culture was infiltrated by these ideology. This was further infused into us by our alacrity in copying the western cultures.
However in the copying process, we stopped halfway as we delibrately
forsook others like total civility, absence of bride price.
Problems of Feminism in Nigeria
Feminism in Nigeria is greatly hindered by;
Religion (Christainity, Islam and traditional ) plays a strong role in adherence to the idealogy of feminism as they all encourage, support the female being obedient/submissive to their partners. Thus this is a major limiting factor as going against the tide of the prevailing religion might have odious consequences.
A typical African/Nigerian household has man as the head of the house and offsetting the status quo isn't the easiest thing to do as the groom literally "buys" her(bride price) from her parents.
There are quite a number of factors militating against the 3rd wave of Feminism as they seek to broach the already existing balance.
What do you think?
Do you think being a feminist is possible as a wife in a Nigerian home?
And for the guys, do you think you can get married to a feminist?
Being a feminist doesn't mean a woman can't be submissive. People always mistake submissiveness for a form of slavery. As a man I can marry a feminist as far long as she understands what exactly her cause is, because most feminists have lost their cause and can't even be called feminists anyway. They are misandrists.