Fiancee Hits Me For The First Time

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Am in a fix as it stands. My girlfriend happens to be engaged to my elder brother. They are madly in love right from University days.

I know my brother to be a gentleman and one who loves to stay out of trouble. My girlfriend is also a nice lady; she is different from any other girl my brother has every dated. Am actually happy with their union.

It's two months to their traditional wedding and my friend had laid a serious complaint against my brother. She says my brother slapped her due to a heated argument between them. Afterwards, he apologized.

Now, she wants to know if he is still the right man for her. She already feels threatened to push through with the marriage. Am stuck in the middle because my brother is also pleading with me to talk her.

Am a sister and a friend! What should I do? I don't want to seem partial to my friend nor wicked to my brother.

Fiancee hits me for the first time - By Lisa Orire - 2019-10-07 16:35:27

Try to find out what happened between the both of them, and get them to reconcile. Also talk to your girlfriend to forgive, I Know hitting a lady is wrong, but we are all humans and nobody is above mistake. If she is still in love with your brother she would forgive him

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Fiancee hits me for the first time - By Anita Olaseinde - 2019-10-08 11:27:02

First thing is to know is the cause of their misunderstanding... Since you know your brother is a gentleman,he must have been frustrated. So you talk to your brother well to learn how to control his anger and your girlfriend. Then it's settled. No one is above mistake.

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Fiancee hits me for the first time - By chi oma - 2019-10-08 13:56:17

My dear for a man to hit his fiancee...there is no excuse no matter the cause of misunderstanding..he should not have raised his hands.

You might support your brother and help then reconcile but remember that is how it begins the next one might be worse .and by then she might be married already.

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Fiancee hits me for the first time - By Olanrewaju Babatunde Odumade - 2019-10-08 16:26:43

The first thing you need to do is to find out what really transpired between the two of them. Try to find out the basis for the argument that led to her been slapped. Its very important to know what really happened so you won't judge the wrong person. It will also make you know how to settle the matter between the both of them since their marriage is just few weeks away.

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Fiancee hits me for the first time - By Haolat Akeem - 2019-10-08 20:27:15

Try to persuade your friend to go on with the marriage if she really loves your brother. It was an argument and he has realized his mistakes and apologized so I think the man is justified. Anybody can do and undo when they are angry, it's just a mistake that will never be repeated.  And tell your brother to apologize again from the bottom of his heart and I think everything will be fine.

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Fiancee hits me for the first time - By Nduka Daniella - 2019-10-09 17:48:50

While trying to reconcile them, know what caused the argument. Your brother need to have anger management therapy because no matter what hitting your spouse is not it at all. Marriage is for life, they both need to work on themselves before taking their vows. 

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Fiancee hits me for the first time - By Richards Johnson - 2019-10-09 18:28:14

Its inappropriate to hit a Lady who's your wife talk more of a fiancée.. If he did that, no matter the cause of the reaction, he would do it again in marriage..meanwhile, since he apologized, the lady in question should fake another scenario that would vex him, if he hits again, Oku adila over. Break up as soon as possible

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Fiancee hits me for the first time - By Ibrahim Olatunde - 2019-10-09 19:26:58

It's never a good thing to hit a lady. Maybe your brother had a moment of weakness. He clearly regrets it so talk to your friend and tell your brother to promise her that he will never hit her again

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Fiancee hits me for the first time - By Emmanual Reagan - 2019-10-09 20:15:41

Before any decision is made, you should know that brought about the misunderstanding and as you further stated, you brother is a gentleman and they habe also been together for quite a long time so what ever be the cause of his action must have been a very deep one

For the fact that he apologized i think she should let go of the matter, misunderstandings are normal among people in relationships but the least thing for her to do is to back out, she should face reality and try not to do what she might have sone to bring up such reaction from her man

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Fiancee hits me for the first time - By Okunola Abeeb Damilola - 2019-10-09 20:19:49

Try to find out what is going on between two of you and get it settle but it's not acceptable for a man beating his wife even god course those who did that 

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Fiancee hits me for the first time - By Enatimi Avhunu - 2019-10-09 20:23:04

Try to find out what truly happened between them. It's just once, so the tendency that he's a woman beater is low. Besides you grew up with him and you know him more than she does. Talk to her. Apologize on his behalf and also talk to your brother. That are both lucky to have you close.

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Fiancee hits me for the first time - By Blessing Titilope Ajayi - 2019-10-09 22:19:31

First you need to find out what's the argument was all about and talk to your brother that no matter the argument or how much she got him angry he shouldn't have slapped her it's not right...

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Fiancee hits me for the first time - By Daniel Enisan - 2019-10-11 22:54:09

The truth of the matter is that if he hit her once, there is a very good chance that he will hit her again in the future. My advice is to pray for your brother and her and to talk to your brother to stop being violent. When she sees changes, you won't need to talk her through anymore 

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Fiancee hits me for the first time - By Idi Grace - 2019-10-11 23:06:32

This is really a confusing situation you can't choose between the two, marriage I a life time thing so you have to advise your friend if she love your brother she should forgive him and go on with the wedding but is she is doubting then she should forget it. No one is sure if he will not repeat that again after the wedding

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Fiancee hits me for the first time - By onyeoguzoro munachim Christopher - 2019-10-12 12:27:52

You just have to advice both of them differently, caution your brother about beating a woman and warn him of the consequences if he tries it again. Then try apologising to your girlfriend give her your word that it wont repeat. just try your best to make peace between the both.

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Fiancee hits me for the first time - By Ekanem Bassey - 2019-10-12 18:30:03

If there's anything I can't stand in a relationship is a man raising his hand to his woman..it wrong, wrong,a an wrong, talk to your brother but you have to be sincere with your friend,tell her if your brother is a woman beater or it was a mistake..

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Fiancee hits me for the first time - By Chizuram Nwokoukwu - 2019-10-12 19:43:33

Please let her understand that she acted badly by engaging in argument  with her man. It is not every man that tolerates such arguments. She should now know that his fiancee hates argument  in case of tomorrow.

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Fiancee hits me for the first time - By Ayemobuwa Omotayo - 2019-10-12 20:20:27

Find out what happened between them that warranted that level of physical abuse then get them to reconcile. He must have obviously been lost in the heat of the disagreement. Advise him to just walk out when next an argument comes up

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Fiancee hits me for the first time - By Ayemobuwa Omotayo - 2019-10-12 20:23:51

I think you should try to find out what caused the argument and get them to reconcile. Advise him to walk out when next that sort of thing comes up instead of reacting violently.

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Fiancee hits me for the first time - By Kafilat Atinuke - 2019-10-12 23:32:19

What you should do is this, summon the two of them and throw this question; what if you are married would you allow third party in your home. 

They are mature minded people, they should apologize and promise to never allow such to repeat itself. 

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Fiancee hits me for the first time - By Farouk Oladosun - 2019-10-12 23:33:34

Firstly she was rude in the argument... Not all man can take or keep mute to such behavior... I don't blame for hitting you.. but he should have calmed down a little bit..

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Fiancee hits me for the first time - By Adebayo Olalekan - 2019-10-12 23:51:30

Well,I don't know what may happened that make your brother to raise his hand.You just have to plead on behalf of your brother. She must learn to forgive and your brother should promise that such thing will never repeat itself

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Fiancee hits me for the first time - By Anthony Chiamaka - 2019-10-13 01:35:40

Find out the root of the matter first. Then think of your brother's attitude while you guys were growing up. Is ye the kind of person that gets angered easily? Does your friend provide someone all the time. Knowing the both of them very well you should know who might be the cause of the problem. But just don't be partial to either of them especially your friend

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Fiancee hits me for the first time - By Emmanuel George - 2019-10-13 01:48:34

Firstly, No Man should raise his hands to hit a Woman for what so ever reason.

Secondly, he hit her during their argument that means he might have a bit of anger issues which he hasn't overcome completely although he apologized to her which was the best thing to do after the incidents but the problem lies in his angry issues, if he leaves it unchecked it would still arise after their marriage cause definitely married couples do have arguments and when this arguments arise again he might end up hitting her again. 

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Fiancee hits me for the first time - By Abdulwasiu sikiru - 2019-10-13 10:16:57

Due to the fact that "no one is above mistake" most especially in a relationship....there will always be argument either from the lady or the man.

My suggestion to this is....so far the lady in question is your best friend which you no her behaviors and your brother as well.

You can only judge by callin the both for a meeting and hear them out...but if you think you are getting confused its best if u ask God or an elderly person to lead you.

Be wise dont shatter your brother's heart

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Fiancee hits me for the first time - By Chizuram Nwokoukwu - 2019-10-13 16:41:04

It is bad to engage in argument because it produces quarrel. That incident happened so that you will know that your husband on the making hates argument. So that when you marry him, you will not make the mistake again. Go on with the marriage. That cannot change your mind. It is a lesson.

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Fiancee hits me for the first time - By Monday Neboh - 2019-10-13 16:55:38

Relax your mind girl. If they are madly in love with each other they will settle and then go ahead with the wedding. But if it turns out that it leads to a break up be happy for your brother because he has been saved from marrying a person that might not forgive 🙏 him over little things when they eventually get married. 

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Fiancee hits me for the first time - By Olufunke Samuel - 2019-10-13 18:08:45

Hmmmm.this is a crucial one.from what i know once a guy hits a woman he can never stop it will only take God for such a man to stop it finally.your brother should try working on his temperament so this act doesnt continue.His fiancee can still go on with the wedding plans cos it sounded that’s his first time

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Fiancee hits me for the first time - By Olufunke Samuel - 2019-10-13 18:09:37

Hmmmm.this is a crucial one.from what i know once a guy hits a woman he can never stop it will only take God for such a man to stop it finally.your brother should try working on his temperament so this act doesnt continue.His fiancee can still go on with the wedding plans cos it sounded that’s his first time

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Fiancee hits me for the first time - By Bashir Muhammad Raji - 2019-10-13 20:17:32

Irrespective of what might have happened or triggered the situation, I am a guy and I ld never be in support of someone raising his hands on a woman no matter what, Cuz if u ask me there are other ways to deal with a woman without raising your hands on her... 

    But since they claim to love each other,  i think he should be given a second chance Cuz we are all human and not perfect ,SO WE ARE ALL BOUND TO MAKE MISTAKES 

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Fiancee hits me for the first time - By Nwokoukwu Jerome - 2019-10-14 16:03:11

It is true that her brother is now sorry for slapping her but she was wrong.  She does not suppose to engage in an arguement to the extent of leading to quarrel.  Tell her to abstain from that behaviour.  And she should note that her husband hates arguement.  She should forgive her husband and continue with the marriage preparation.

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Fiancee hits me for the first time - By Luckru Bako - 2019-10-15 13:23:59

What your brother did was wrong he supposed to control his anger due we are all human at times we make mistakes, he realize his mistake and apologize to her she should please to forgive him and you should try unknown account to make them to reconcile 

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Fiancee hits me for the first time - By Unity Kpena - 2019-10-16 21:23:12

Nothing should warrant a man to hit a woman worse his wife to be. Let the both of them settle there problems themselves .The lady should not be pressured to make any decisions let her take her time. It's your brother you need to talk to. He should learn to control his anger. 

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