He Suddenly Became Aggressive

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I just got married a few months ago, and my marriage has been far from what I expected.

We dated for a year and all was good but since we got married he's been so different. He yells alot and is never satisfied with what ever I do. I've been going home late to avoid his aggressive behaviors but there's no excape in the mornings...

I'm scared he might turn out to be an abusive husband and I'm thinking of leaving the marriage while I still can. Only problem now is that, I am two months pregnant. My friend advised me to have an abortion since he is not aware and leave. I don't think I can do that...

Please what do I do?

He suddenly became aggressive - By Lawson AKACHI - 2019-09-25 16:43:39

 i will advice you to talk to your husband, discuss with him, let him know you are carrying his child. let him tell you what you are doing wrong. you cant just conclude he will be an abusive husband because he hasnt laid his hands on you. leaving the marriage wouldnt make any sense. your marriage will not be always rosy.

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He suddenly became aggressive - By Afolami Olalekan - 2019-09-25 16:51:56

Endurance matters alot, living him is not an idea at all, come to think of it, you have taking in for him what if you abort and something negative happen, and if you live him and go for other man, what do you know the new man will also turn out to be, just make sure you try your best is satisfying him, and pray over your marriage. 

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He suddenly became aggressive - By Uchechukwu Francisca Nebo - 2019-09-25 17:00:16

Approach him and discover the reason for his yelling may be there is a path life of you he doesn't like. Then with an endurance take everything to God in prayer. Run away from the bad advice of aborting your unborn child.

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He suddenly became aggressive - By Gentle Friday - 2019-09-25 17:04:14

My sister go look for how to make your marriage work. Call him and sit him down as your husband and talk to him.

Pray for your marriage to work instead of trying to run away. No where is 100% perfect, you have to put your marriage in order.

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He suddenly became aggressive - By Adebusuyi Precious - 2019-09-25 17:54:46

Try to sit him down and talk to him maybe he will change or your family may need to see a counselor because marriage is a lifetime thing you can't keep jumping from one marriage to another all marriage has their own ups and downs endure and pray about it and everything will work out for good

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He suddenly became aggressive - By Nwosu Vincent - 2019-09-25 18:04:10

How and why will you think of aborting a baby of two months, don't you know that, that is to sign life and death for your self. Still stay for marriage is meant for " for better for worse ".

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He suddenly became aggressive - By Olaniyi Mustapha - 2019-09-25 18:10:25

There are things that you will hear from friends but must not follow, that's just one of the type with the advice your friend gave you. You should call your husband and talk to him about all this, Theres nothing that can't be solved with Mutual Understandings in a Marriage.  

Don't ruin your Marrriage and put your life at risk with Abortion.  That's my advice 

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He suddenly became aggressive - By Jolaade Dara - 2019-09-25 18:12:37

Yes don't do that it's so sad that some friends will give very bad advice it's not proper to have an abortion for any reason to your married husband just talk to him and let him know the issue at hand

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He suddenly became aggressive - By High Bee - 2019-09-25 18:26:07

Have a discussion with him, ask him what went wrong and if he doesn't have a good answer, tell him about the pregnancy and what you intend do.

Then make your decision after the discussion. 

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He suddenly became aggressive - By Obi Chidera - 2019-09-25 18:34:03

 No matter what, he is still your husband. Talk to him, discuss things like this,you guys should pray together, attend therapy if needed and never give up on him if you truly love him

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He suddenly became aggressive - By Patrick Juliet - 2019-09-25 19:09:14

That your friend is not a good friend, I will advise you to stay away from that your so called friend and stop discussing any thing concerning your marriage to her,  any body that will advice you to leave you marriage is never a good person because she is also bearing worster than what you are bearing

Just bear this in Mind that marriage is not easy,  so try and talk to your man on a very good day, tell him you are carrying his precious and sweet baby,  and lastly be strong in prayer

Things will get better,  marriage is all about patient ,  enjoyment, endurance,  love,  trust and understanding

Try to get use to them

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He suddenly became aggressive - By Cecilia Tolulope - 2019-09-25 19:11:07

Have you tried talking to him about since he's not like that from the beginning, he might be going through some stuff and also pray for your marriage and try to make it work rather than walking away because there's no perfect man or marriage anywhere. 

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He suddenly became aggressive - By MATHEW EBODU - 2019-09-25 19:13:56

That's why it is good to study each other before get into marriage. My advice for you is to look for always of making your marriage works perfectly by seat him down for counseling or be prayerful so that will change him from negative attitudes, anger and bitterness because some are naturally bittered that anything at all always exasperate them. 

Seek what he like and adjust yourself to some of his instructions.

Thanks

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He suddenly became aggressive - By Chinedu Emmanuel - 2019-09-25 19:41:50

Please and please and please never you think of abortion in this life.. Instead put him in prayers, call him one on one as your friend this time and talk to him calmly with an open mind and you will see a difference like I said back it up with prayers tell others to help you too..

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He suddenly became aggressive - By Osikha Cynthia - 2019-09-25 19:43:45

Sit your husband down and talk to him, ask him if he going through anything that he wants to share with you, tell him how you feel about his behaviors . Pay more attention to him, it might due to work stress or so . You don't just move out of your marriage it's not done that way, try fixing it first

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He suddenly became aggressive - By Adekoya Ayomide - 2019-09-25 20:00:46

My sister, leaving him isn't the best solution, aborting the pregnancy is not the best also. Its something you guys can sort out within yourselves and there will be a solution i am so sure. Nobody is perfect. Sort things out with him so things can move on smoothly again rather than ending the marriage

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He suddenly became aggressive - By Adaramola Michael - 2019-09-25 20:03:54

abortion is not the solution to your present situation...  You just need to iron things out with your husband's parents or family and let them know what's going on in your home. .maybe that would help to curb his bad attitude at home.. Thanks 

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He suddenly became aggressive - By David Nwankwo - 2019-09-25 20:16:33

Endurance matters alot, living him is not an idea at all, come to think of it, you have taking in for him what if you abort and something negative happen, and if you live him and go for other man, what do you know the new

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He suddenly became aggressive - By Adeniyi Victor - 2019-09-25 20:23:26

To start with, divorce or leaving the marriage is never an option. Remember the vow you made on the day of your wedding. You said "for better for worst". So why should you quit. Marriage is an institution that we keep learning from day after day. I will suggest you go to the lord in prayers and then walk up to your husband to talk things out. 

I believe your husband is still amendable. Good luck sis. 

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He suddenly became aggressive - By Mercy Oke - 2019-09-25 20:44:02

Sit him down..try to talk to him.perhaps, it must have been a small misunderstanding. I have seen cases like this..

But if this attempt doesn't work,do not abort the baby,apart from the fact it's a sin,the baby will serve as the only link or connection between you and your husband..

And who knows.. He or she might just bring you guys together

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He suddenly became aggressive - By Okwute Chinecherem - 2019-09-25 20:44:48

Plz don't abort the baby, try and talk to him,  call him to other and know  what the problem  is, put him in your  prayers too and after doing all these and he keeps  doing it  then I suggest you should take your leave before he murder you one day. 

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He suddenly became aggressive - By Obalu Johnkennedy Kenechukwu - 2019-09-25 20:49:08

Taking the abortion will be the worst mistake of your life and leaving your marriage because of hard time is also so disasterous but I advice you let him know how he has been hurting you and make him understand that it is hard on you and also talk things out to know if he will tell you why the sudden change.

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He suddenly became aggressive - By Henry Moore - 2019-09-25 21:02:24

There is no perfect marriage therefore I will advise you to talk to your husband and find out what you are doing that he doesn't like. Tell him about the pregnancy and be patient with him. How are you sure if you leave him, you will not land into someone worse than him?

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He suddenly became aggressive - By Henry Moore - 2019-09-25 21:04:50

There is no perfect marriage therefore I will advise you to talk to your husband and find out what you are doing that he doesn't like. Tell him about the pregnancy and be patient with him. How are you sure if you leave him, you will not land into someone worse than him?

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He suddenly became aggressive - By Henry Moore - 2019-09-25 21:04:57

There is no perfect marriage therefore I will advise you to talk to your husband and find out what you are doing that he doesn't like. Tell him about the pregnancy and be patient with him. How are you sure if you leave him, you will not land into someone worse than him?

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He suddenly became aggressive - By Funke Grace Fapohunda - 2019-09-25 21:08:55

Divorcing your husband with pregnancy is no way a solution to your so tagged marital problem. And secondly, God is against pregnancy termination but while you go into sincere prayer sessions and possible fasting then I am very sure of great changes, on it way into your marital home.

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He suddenly became aggressive - By Aliyu Gana Aliyu - 2019-09-25 21:09:44

I don't think he suddenly became aggressive, probably he was always like that and you didn't notice or he was very good at hiding it. You need to find out if it's not something you are doing that is making him aggressive. Talk to him first, beg him and see if he will open up to you. Don't leave your marriage in haste like that, fight for it.

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He suddenly became aggressive - By Salaudeen Ridwan - 2019-09-25 21:14:46

I believe there is something you are not telling us, you must have been behaving in some sort of ways that made him change his attitudes towards you. Men are driven by actions of their female counterpart. If you are the caring and loving type, he will reciprocate.

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He suddenly became aggressive - By Ayobami Korede - 2019-09-25 21:15:30

First of all, Do not abort that child, because it is God's gift to marriage and he has given you the privilege to become a mother, so don't take an innocent live.

Secondly, marriage is for a lifetime and as for your husband, look for a suitable avenue when he is in a good mood and speak to him heart to heart, tell him how you feel with his attitude. Something must have gone wrong somewhere, just speak to him and be prayerful. But if he doesn't change still, you may have to involve maybe someone he respects in the family to speak with him..

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He suddenly became aggressive - By CHRISTIAN IFEANYICHUKWU - 2019-09-25 21:19:27

Please my sister, do not try to remove the baby, it is an abomination before God. Go to God on prayer and sit him down, meanwhile, make sure your attitude towards him is good. I believe he will change.

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He suddenly became aggressive - By Richard Ngirigwa - 2019-09-25 21:22:23

I'm sorry, hope your bride price wasn't too much for him to pay?? That can cause aggression too, if he remembers everything. 

If not, what else can cause this, i don't know, maybe you not doing something right, have you tried talking to him? 

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He suddenly became aggressive - By Deborah Stephen Laiko - 2019-09-25 21:35:01

My dear some marriages are like that, the only thing you will do is just to be prayerful  to him with the hope that one day he will change, but killing an innocent  child and living your marriage is not the best and ideal thing to do.

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He suddenly became aggressive - By Grace Adeyemi - 2019-09-25 21:43:37

What makes you think the next man wont be worse. Prayerfully talk  to him. By this I mean Pray very well then talk to him about it. Give him time  he will  definitely change.

Let him know you are pregnant since he is your husband.

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He suddenly became aggressive - By Otito Okigbo - 2019-09-25 21:59:57

In situations like it's best to sit him down and talk to him, so you can be aware if you do something that upsets him or he isn't into you anymore. If trying to talk to him doesn't work, you shouldn't hesitate to involve thrid party so they can help you work things out between you both. Don't ever think of abortion a child, kids are gifts from God who we have to cherish and give all of our love

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He suddenly became aggressive - By Victor Oladele - 2019-09-25 22:01:21

An abortion is not the way out. Try to reason out things with him and try to find out why he is aggressive these days. It may be an issue of misplaced anger or sort of. It is well with you though 

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He suddenly became aggressive - By Idi Grace - 2019-09-25 22:05:03

My advice is that you see a counselor talk to your husband and get him to follow to a counselor who can help you set things straight in your marriage. I think you guys lack communication if you had good communication he might have told you what was wrong and you will adjust that's if you are the problem. 

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He suddenly became aggressive - By madali dumebi - 2019-09-25 22:07:19

I will advice you to keep on praying for him to change and anything he dose u should be able to bear the pain,  but what I am against is the abortion of the baby maybe God might use that baby to bring back peace in your marriage but I have given what I think is the right advice. 

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He suddenly became aggressive - By Ime Henry - 2019-09-25 22:07:51

That man is a real first class fool, this is how marriages turn out to be now a days , if you don't leave that forming zone when your dating and show your real character and be like this is what your going to be expecting when we get married, oga when.you come and get married, u would see various types of new behaviours. If your wait any time longer and that marriage still breeds bad fruits better leave. 

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He suddenly became aggressive - By Arunah Rahmat - 2019-09-26 01:03:32

You shouldn't  listen to your friend.  Do you really want to risk your life to go through  an abortion.  You might even loose your womb.  Tell your husband about it he may even change his ways.  You are his wife you should be able to tame your husband. Don't do anything that can cost you your life.  Don't share your problems with everybody some are trying to ruin your life.  They are envious that u are living better than them.  Rethink about  your decisions  u are still valuable  to the society don't cut your life short

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He suddenly became aggressive - By Saka Adefemi - 2019-09-26 01:59:04

Even a child can't guarantee how a marriage will work out but if really he has change then a talk will do and then some counseling will be good too but if those doesn't work then exiting the marriage is the beat thibg tibsave yourself from any physical abuse 

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He suddenly became aggressive - By Adaranijo Muhammad Toha - 2019-09-26 02:00:02

Abortion isn't the solution to the matter on ground, undergoing an abortion will make you a murderer and also committing great sin to God. I think you should just summon the courage and sit you husband down, first say things that makes him happy, cook his best delicacy if necessary, then ask him the reason he has changed towards you after the marriage, because there's surely a reason for his attitude since that's not how he behaved to you when you're still dating him.. I believe things would work out for you guys again if you can do all what I said above 

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He suddenly became aggressive - By CHINEDU ATUEYI - 2019-09-26 02:19:12

you shouldn't do abortion because the child is also yours. If ther is any complication after the abortion, you will certainly suffer it alone. Every problem exist because the solution is also present. No problem exist independently, the solution you seek to make your marriage work is with you. Look inward define his person then redefine yourself, your marriage will work.

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He suddenly became aggressive - By Abdulmaleek Habib - 2019-09-26 02:48:50

He is your husband, and I believe you both dated for a while before getting married, find a way to calm him down and know what's going on because something might be wrong somewhere and he just can explain it so he starts doing everything with anger. 

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He suddenly became aggressive - By John Ekerete - 2019-09-26 03:54:15

Do not abort his baby without letting him know it's very bad instead threaten him that if he does not change his behavior that you will leave him and besides marriage is for better and for worst

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He suddenly became aggressive - By Francis Kingsley - 2019-09-26 04:00:15

I advice you not to abort the child no matter what...Do you know who the child will be?.You know his father doesnt mean you know him.Talk to your husband and ask him to truthfully tell you what it is that bothers him if it goes south then you can go for a divorce but don't abort the child and remember to pray

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He suddenly became aggressive - By Akinleye Iteoluwakisi - 2019-09-26 07:26:36

I think you should pray about it and then go talk to him. And please say no to abortion. Just talk to your husband about it. Talk deeply. He should come to his senses after this. You'll be fine 

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He suddenly became aggressive - By Mopelola Aluko - 2019-09-26 09:37:39

This is marriage for you , you two are just getting to know each other well, this is a part of him that you didn't notice. But it is still in control, create time and talk to you your husband he will come around. And so also tell him about his baby he deserves to know, say no to abortion please. 

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He suddenly became aggressive - By Omosivwe Jonathan - 2019-09-26 13:58:07

My dear the day you married him you’ve already been attached to him, it’s too late for you to say you want to end the relationship with him. “For better or for worse...” remember you agreed to those words before the alter. Try talking to your partner about his attitudes that you’re not comfortable with and also pray for him, God will surely see you through. 

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He suddenly became aggressive - By Wasiu Adegboye - 2019-09-26 14:19:44

Sit him down and have a discussion with him and let him know your condition. There may be something behind the situation. Don't just go for abortion because is not the next step to take. Even if he's not change don't terminate the child.

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He suddenly became aggressive - By Adirika Chisom - 2019-09-26 14:44:42

One thing  is that you people are already married there is no way going back and you are pregnant for him if you about the baby you have killed somebody . So the only thing there is that you have to sit him down try and ask him where the problem is that he would just change automatically. Maybe there is something that you are doing before that you are no longer doing again for him. Try and have nice moment with him  , also be submissive don't challenge his authority

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