How Can I Stop 'over-crushing'? (help Needed)

Having someone you admire and desire for a relationship is a normal thing In the life of an average human being. It can be an admiration for someone that lives in the neighborhood, or for a person you are sure to never meet. This administration and desire is put together as 1, and referred to as having a 'crush'. The person who is being admired is the crush of the one who is admiring him/her.

One thing that is peculiar to having a crush is that, the one that is being crushed upon has no idea of what is going on. It usually start and ends in the mind of the admirer.

I as an individual, have a problem with having crushes. Not that it is difficult for me to have a crush, but it is difficult for me to not crush.

I think it is getting out of hand. How can I have a crush on 7 people at once! Am I normal or am I just overreacting? I don't know how much is normal again because I do it all the time.

Is this a wrong thing?

If it is, how can I get rid of it?

Please share your solutions with me in the comments section.


Comments Reply
  • It's actually not a bad thing though. But what is  certain is that you can't be in love with all of them and that's the good thing. So, here's one thing I think would help, be sure of what you want in a man and infact there are certain things that will piss you off those crushes when discover this things, go through their Bio. and get to know about them. It might help

    - Adekolu Moyinoluwa - 2019-10-05 10:21:30 Quote

  • Please allow me to categorically tell you with due respect, you are faulty, it's normal for us to admire someone even your gender but crushing in almost everyone that comes your way and wanting personal relationships is very spiritual, you just need to deal with yourself so as to deal with the evil spirit. That crushing is not normal at all. 

    - Oluwasegun Q Salami - 2019-10-05 10:27:38 Quote

  • You might see it as crushing but I feel its infatuation. You can be in love with all seven of them at once. You only admire them from afar but when you get close to them and know the real them, you might not like them afterall. What I would just advice is that you take a bold step and get close to some of them and free yourself from the shackles of believing you are in love

    - Ayoola Moses - 2019-10-05 10:43:58 Quote

  • I don't think crushing on someone is something that can be blamed on someone, what you need to do is set priorities and control yourself. Everything is about the mindset, once you make up your mind about something, nothing can stop you

    - Alvin Esomchukwu - 2019-10-05 10:49:22 Quote

  • It is totally normal. But then it is just crushes and not love. You can have a crush on someone and not love him or her enough to want to be with them. Your heart can never lie to you. So close your eyes and search the one who your heart longs for. 

    - Ezenebi Chinyere Oluwafunmilayo - 2019-10-05 11:19:41 Quote

  • It's normal and possible to crush on seven people. This only means this people have different things you like in them so you admire those things and not the character. Am sure you still don't know what you want ,maybe not satisfied with what you're seeing that's why you keep crushing.

    I'll advice you stop your mind from imagining the good side of the person and define what internal qualities you want aside the physical .

    - LYDIA ESENE - 2019-10-05 11:38:30 Quote

  • I'm one of those people that crushes on fine guys especially if they are fair but it's mostly admiration because I'm an artist and I tend to see the beauty in things and people. I just admire and then when I eventually get talking with them, something happens and they start to look unappealing to me, only few still make me excited talking to them. I think it's OK to crush but don't force friendship or relationship on them. Just be friends and once you see what is wrong, the crush will die off. 

    - Maryann Ozurumba - 2019-10-05 14:17:18 Quote

  • It's never bad to have crush with people, but you keep on crushing of different people because you never have the guts to tell your crushee about your feelings thus giving room for you to have other crusher. 

    - Oluwaseun David Ajiboye - 2019-10-05 14:18:09 Quote

  • Well,crushing on people is not that bad but you have to define the reason u are crushing on them and least that can help separate Paul from Barnabas and reduce the number of people you crush on

    - Dike Oluchi - 2019-10-05 14:30:27 Quote

  • Well crushing on someone is normal but With time when u get close to your crushes you"ll, like getting to know them by their character and behavior I bet you might end up not loving any of them or you might be lucky to have one. Because it might be possible you have crush on them in the aspect of beauty, dressing etc. But I will love to tell you that, when picking crushes don't go for only beauty but also go for good characters.

    - Moses Deborah - 2019-10-05 15:48:30 Quote

  • It actually a good idea if you didn't trust who you're dating, but it a bad idea if your crush is trust Worthy. If you didn't trust your crush actually, she can left you for another man but if you have many I think you're safe

    - Emmanuel Omotoso - 2019-10-05 16:49:48 Quote

  • You can't love all of them and can't bè with them together so try to know what you want and others things you like about thé man you want to bè with, surely you will find thé réal love and Will bè happy

    - Jamal Kilua - 2019-10-05 16:52:39 Quote

  • crushing on someone means you admire them. admiring seven people at the same time??. That is weird. 

    well it also depend on what exactly u admire .there is the dressing,the beauty,the height and so on so are u telling me the seven people u are crushing on all have the full package? No i dont think so and I think you should a spec that would help u scrap atleast 4 from the seven.

    - Taqwallah Adekoya - 2019-10-05 17:18:26 Quote

  • To my own level of Understanding. Admiring someone you like is not a problem. But your fault is that crushing on anyone you see is the bad thing. What you need now is spiritual prayer. Because with due respect, I will like to advice you to go to church if you are a christian, and if you are Muslim as well you can go and visit some Alfa's.

    - Oyekola Olamide - 2019-10-05 17:32:34 Quote

  • It normal to crush on people. It not a curse, it just a simple affection u have for people. You might  like  them base on different reason. Why do  you not just Notice what you like in them and keep that has the type of man you are looking for. Note nobody is perfect, remember that. 

    - Olanike Deborah - 2019-10-05 17:49:04 Quote

  • You are normal dear, in my understanding, there might be different reasons for crushing on people. So check very well, you might be a persons that has interest in so many things and that same way, you will have crush on people who does those different things 

    - Chimezie Anyiam - 2019-10-05 17:59:09 Quote

  • Well, the fact still remains that you are normal

    Its just that you are currently lusting after the seven girls you talked about. All you have to do is to know the one you truly love, go for her, tell her what you feel about her and quit beating around the Bush

    - Osas Nice - 2019-10-05 18:12:45 Quote

  • Is not a bad thing to crush on someone,everyone has who he or she crushed on, but you can't really fall in love with each and every one you did so, just caution and control yourself and emotions so that it will not lead you astray

    - kachi Simon - 2019-10-05 18:20:36 Quote

  • Well,having a crush on people is not that bad,but you have to know the reason why you are crushing on them and the best thing to do is to search deeply in ur heart and by doing this,it may reduse the number of people you having crush on......

    - Adeola Olawale - 2019-10-05 18:59:35 Quote

  • Crushing on a lot of people is normal but where it's wrong is when you're crushing on them based on relationship aspect. Again, I don't want to believe you love everyone you're crushing on,lol. 

    It's very simple, you have to know the difference between crushing on someone and falling in love with someone. Just take it easy on your crushing before you crush yourself. 

    - Ikenna Henry Onyemekesi - 2019-10-05 20:20:52 Quote

  • Actually, crushing on those that that the qualities and features you love is not that bad. 

    But one thing you must know is that is you are a guy, you can't have all beautiful ladies to yourself alone,. 

    If you are also a lady. Not all guy will be your boo. 

    So, have a standard and maintain one person  or you might loose them all 

    - Nwanna Ihechi - 2019-10-05 21:33:40 Quote

  • The only way you can stop crushing is by approaching one of your crushes and open up to him/her just tell them what you feel if they accept then you have to let go others

    - Usman Abdulmalik - 2019-10-05 22:13:12 Quote

  • I think it a normal thing.. Nothing  is wrong with you , lol..

    We can't really control our feelings. And I also think that it impossible for you to love all of them, I think you just like them just the way you like every other person's.. So it normal..

    - Glory Ibe - 2019-10-05 23:55:53 Quote

  • You need to know what you want as a guy and filter the virtues that you need in a woman and not physical features alone. It's physical features alone that can make have a crush on every beautiful lady in the world. Virtue over beauty

    - NDU-ELUWA CHIMELA - 2019-10-06 00:50:20 Quote

  • It's not a wrong thing at all to crush on 7 people or more but when it is regarded as a wrong thing is when you put it into practice by dating or having affairs with the seven of them. In other to control your situation you have to make your decision because it's your life you have to make decisions based on the positive aspect of the person you want to be with.

    - Muorah Kelvin - 2019-10-06 01:46:44 Quote

  • it is normal to have a crush but not too much crush because it is wrong it will be affecting you, you may not know the one to choose, if you know the one you like and you crush on him/her you go for him, so that you won't get many of them confused or confusing your self, so be wise and choose wisely.. 

    - Igwe Francis - 2019-10-06 06:06:41 Quote

  • You have several crushed because each one of them have a specific thing within them that you like.. Go close to them and know other site of them I believed there is one or two things that will make you loose that admiration.. Due is all about mind set and self control that will help you to minimize the crushing 

    - Luckru Bako - 2019-10-06 07:07:28 Quote

  • I don't think having crush on someone  is a bad thing NO human being are meant to love anybody because will are all flesh but what I think can help is that just sit down and look at yourself goes for whom your mind choice 

    - Wuraola Olamilekan - 2019-10-06 07:26:35 Quote

  • It is crush not love is normal, you may like your guy with 5 characteristics if you see 20guys with the same characteristics you will automatically like them or crush on them,because they have what you is normal ooo my dear dont stress  your self.

    - Damilola Talabi - 2019-10-06 08:38:11 Quote

  • This is where psychology comes in tho, cos lately, all girls are tending to get beautiful and stuffs with Camera and Make-Up, yeah it's normal to see a beautiful girl and want to own her thing, but have you looked inwards which one is really right for you, and innit, while looking also know which one is on your level of mentality... Loving someone is not bad loving the right person is best. 

    - Temidayo Folajin - 2019-10-06 09:08:32 Quote

  • That's not crushing it is actually infatuation or lust, it is not normal at all to have feelings for two different persons, if that should happen that means it's not love but list. Try working on your emotional life.

    - Ibitoye Michael - 2019-10-06 11:57:10 Quote

  • All I can  say is find something doing that will take much of your time, and at the same time go for someone that you will find pleasure in always. Though they t is normal to crush but always put you mind off it.

    - Alamu Olayinka Abass - 2019-10-06 12:12:08 Quote

  • As a man you ought to know what you truly want in a lady, crushing over many girls at a time is some quite naughty but that might be as a result of you not actually knowing what you truly want. Try meeting up with your crushes to examine what they've got to offer, their dreams and aspirations, that would help you narrow it down to know who you truly deserve, unless you are in it just for the fun. Make your intentions known

    - Chijioke Onodi - 2019-10-06 12:17:05 Quote

  • What you are having is admiration not crush, it takes more than just mere seeing someone regularly to crush on that person. The problem is that you have not been able to decipher whether what you are having is a crush or admiration. When you crush I bet you will make a move or try to make a move at all cost.

    - Adjekofori Faith - 2019-10-06 12:32:29 Quote

  • What you are experiencing is not crush but lust, and it usually occurs as a result of your thoughts on a particular thing or type of people for a long time. It may not also be lust. It might be you just admire that particular type of people or person.

    - Onekeneke prince - 2019-10-06 12:36:44 Quote

  • Well I just think you are normal . It's just a natural phenomenon to love someone. It's nobody's fault . You just have to concentrate on one person. Think of the person you love most among the seven people. If you find that person, concentrate on that person

    - Adirika Chisom - 2019-10-06 13:23:46 Quote

  • Admiring someone for so long is really energy draining especially when you can't say it to the person.

    But if you wish to stop admiring someone all you need to do is give the person a little bit of space. 

    - Amebeobari Agba - 2019-10-06 13:35:48 Quote

  • It's not a normal thing neither is it a new thing... It's something they call "polyamory" it can stop. You just have to get your attention into something productive. That's all. You'll forget bout them. 

    - Sodiya Olayinka - 2019-10-06 14:28:37 Quote

  • there is nothing bad in you having a crush on someone,,it means you feel something for her like love,,but that does not mean that you must crush on all girls you see or meet..

    - Happy Buhari - 2019-10-06 14:43:30 Quote

  • Well I strongly believe that you're surrounded by good guys thats why you have a problem with too many crushes or maybe it's just an habit of you to fall for someone so easily. There is nothing you can do to it than to pick one of your crushers.

    - Kameel Itunu - 2019-10-06 14:59:39 Quote

  • All u need to do is : first of all knw the kind of person u re. Discover yourself.

    Secondly: once u discover that u ve seen someone u have feelings for try to overlook it. Once u have that in mind u will absolutely be free. Because if u continue crushing, people u re crushing on will not knw And it will be a big problem for u.

    - Adeoye Balikiz yetunde - 2019-10-06 18:16:03 Quote

  • All u need to do is : first of all knw the kind of person u re. Discover yourself.

    Secondly: once u discover that u ve seen someone u have feelings for try to overlook it. Once u have that in mind u will absolutely be free. Because if u continue crushing, people u re crushing on will not knw And it will be a big problem for u.

    - Adeoye Balikiz yetunde - 2019-10-06 18:16:44 Quote

  • In my own opinion, I will advice u to first of all discover itself, then if u see anyone that it seems u wanna be crushing for just try to overlook it. If u overlook it there will be no problem.

    Because to be crushing on someone without the person knowing will only be giving u heartache.

    - Adeoye Balikiz yetunde - 2019-10-06 18:25:36 Quote

  • In my own opinion, I will advice u to first of all discover itself, then if u see anyone that it seems u wanna be crushing for just try to overlook it. If u overlook it there will be no problem.

    Because to be crushing on someone without the person knowing will only be giving u heartache.

    - Adeoye Balikiz yetunde - 2019-10-06 18:25:46 Quote

  • There are two different things

    Cushing or lusting

    Is normal to crush but abnormal to lust over someone u just see or came across....eachtym something like that try to happen just try to work on your mindset and keep yourself busy

    - Juliet Eke - 2019-10-06 18:54:13 Quote

  • As for me it's not a bad thing to have crush on someone,  cause it normal for a guy to admire many girl but the thing Is that you only love one, so having crush is good thing  at least you are a man now you got to flex  

    - ayomide Ayomide - 2019-10-06 19:20:36 Quote

  • My sister, the best thing you can do is to keep your feet one place. Because you can't love all at the same time. And if you don't do, a time will reach when they will all Break your heart. Am speaking from experience.

    - Odinakachi Obaji - 2019-10-06 19:34:21 Quote

  • My dear you have to Distance yourself from them, Remove them from social media sites like Facebook, Instagram, etc Stop talking about them and don't allow yourself to think about them, Tell your friends not to bring them up, allow yourself to grieve and don't get mad.....

    - Olawoore Gloria Olamide - 2019-10-09 18:12:45 Quote

  • Crushing one or two persons is OK and normal but crushing on 7 people is not normal at all.The problem is you, it may be lust that you are experiencing not crush, and also it is spiritual, pray for God's intervention in your life and let it set you free from whatever that is making you behave like that 

    - Okoli Chinenye blessing - 2019-10-11 03:05:34 Quote

  • You are very normal it's just about you being different as far as you are not in love with all of them it's just a crush that exits for a span of time why not consider yourself if it's that most things you want in a guy are in different guys and those are the qualities that attract you to them

    - Oreoluwa Anibijuwon - 2019-10-11 22:44:25 Quote

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