How Do You Think Female Children Should Be Treated?

Female children suffer a lot if not physically, mentally or emotionally from Nigerian parents. Reason being that they these parents don't really know how to build up their females in the right way that help them avoid being victims of some social harassments faced by female children in Nigeria today.

These female kids as a result of improper build up by their parents who think they are building up in the best way end up secretly becoming prostitutes in the society. 

It begins when they attain puberty stage and all their parents could do is to tell them to stay away from boys and not to allow boys or men touch them which is not supposed to be so. At that stage in the life of the girl, she is naive of what is coming her way so as parents, instead of scaring them away from boys, it's better to sit them down, explain the stage they've entered to them,tell them what to avoid,type of cloth to wear and also decent responses to give to men when they approach them and by so doing parents tend to broaden their knowledge.

But in a situation whereby all these things are not made aware to the female child,she tends to slide into immoral act by giving her body out to get what she wants and gradually she becomes a prostitute because she is after money from men or boys.

This situation is really affecting our female children in Nigeria.

How do you think they should be treated?

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  • Female children should be treated well as much as male children,be very close to them and provide guidance to them in terms of health, relationship n personal hygiene talks, providing for them in such a way to the best of one's resources that won't make them look outside for help band get into trouble

    - Eseosasere Aiwanfo - 2019-09-26 05:36:11 Quote

  • The female children are soft and fragile so they should be treated as such. But there are cases where female children behaves otherwise, then in this case you make them understand the periphery of life, if they like the consequence of living a rough life they should go for it. I don't like a situation where the parent are harsh towards a female.

    - Ridwan Salaudeen - 2019-09-26 05:43:57 Quote

  • Enlighting them is the best solution because we are in a civilised generation,if there parent didn't tell them the 'do' and 'don't when they attain puberty or teenager age,they end up listening to friends who will direct them wrongly.i remember when i started menstral period my mum will tell me if anyman touch you,you will got anytime i see a man i will run not until my teacher explain in details

    - Miftaudeen Hamdalat Opeyemi - 2019-09-26 05:53:47 Quote

  • The female kids are supposed to be properly cared for,especially during puberty stage because at this stage in their lives they need useful advices from their parents about their personal lives,they need to be physically, psychologically and emotionally conditioned in order to take cautions on how to interract with people around them.

    - GBONGBON Mson - 2019-09-26 05:55:08 Quote

  • Wow I like your write up and idea. Girl's should be treated very from parents, nothing about things of the world should be hidden from them because if you do they will probably here it out side and will want to practice it because the didn't get the message the right way which will guard them.

    - Nwosu Vincent - 2019-09-26 05:57:35 Quote

  • Whether male or female , both should be treated in the best ways . Anyone can be abused , yes , even males. I am a female but I feel that there is no gender that should not be treated so well. If you send a female to school and you give less money , she might become a prostitute or something right? ... What about a male? Wont he start online scamming or even join cults? .. this is just an example to explain that both gender should be treated specially

    - Olawumi Adedeji - 2019-09-26 06:05:16 Quote

  • Yes, if a girl child is not properly taught by her parents at home she learns it the hard way from life outside home, friends etc........ It is essential to the girl child proper knowledge of what she is to face in time to come so that she will be prepared to face it when it comes.

    - Mary Ogbinya - 2019-09-26 06:22:32 Quote

  • Am really happy with this post, as you said parents are meant to sit not only the female child but also the male child and lecture them properly, I feel if this is done the society will be a better place.

    - Faith Oluwafemi - 2019-09-26 07:07:17 Quote

  • A female child is the most vulnerable of all child in the society. She is helpless unlike the male folk. This can be psychological, social and otherwise. Their are easily convinced and influenced into doing something else. And the best way to help them is to build them strong enough to resist the stigma their often face in the society.

    - Chidiebere Uzo - 2019-09-26 07:25:46 Quote

  • I believe that a female child deserves the same rights as a make child. There should be no difference. The girl child should be taught that her body, at puberty, will want to draw closer to guys and so she can make friends but do not allow them to touch her in specific areas of her body, she shouldn't wear provocative dresses, etc. She should also keep good company 

    - Oluwatomisin Momoh - 2019-09-26 07:28:38 Quote

  • Most people train their girls to be wifes not independent individuals, with the knowledge ingrain in them that they belong to a man, they dont train their girls to have an identity of their own and it is very bad

    - Damilola Talabi - 2019-09-26 07:35:16 Quote

  • Parents always treat females too strictly in their bid to not allow them get spoilt, they forget the males and those ones get away with a lot of things. We need to understand females and try to protect them at all cost. 

    - Chinaza Anita - 2019-09-26 07:47:18 Quote

  • The girl child should be raised in an environment that nurtures Good social upbringing. They should be told all they need to know about life and inculcate those norms in them as they grow up. 

    Mothers should also endeavor to be their daughter's  best friends and through this a healthy relationship can exist between them and would also help the girl child free from predictable dangers.  

    - PETER MMADUEKE - 2019-09-26 07:48:31 Quote

  • The parent have alot of work to do with a female child especially the mother because she needs to enlightened everything, she needs to let her know difference between enjoying yourself and useling yourself, if she knows all this the parent will be happy because the child can't stay with them forever she will still go to higher institution where it be only her no parent 

    - Ebenezer Oyedele - 2019-09-26 07:51:24 Quote

  • Well children are blessings both male and female and parents are assumed to see it this way.. 

    Shamefully 98% of the females engage in immorality due to the upbringing by the parents. 

    Parents should bear in mind that family comes first 

    Charity begins at home

    Parents should live an exemplary life..

    It only takes few to be influenced by wrong peer groups if they have a reputable home training 

    - David Jesse ifeanyi - 2019-09-26 07:53:32 Quote

  • They should be treated with love and care... Most especially when they have started growing (puberty stage) ​​​​​​... They need love and attention... They need to be adviced and taught many things...because a girl child growing needs proper attention and care 

    - Favour Onyenibedi - 2019-09-26 07:55:43 Quote

  • Females and males must recieve same training..Some parents lock tight on the female and leave the male.. Though males have a way of maneuvering in life, their matter must be treated with all equality. However, while following the female latter back to back, parents and guardians must make sure to give them the necessary info because parents tend to look at one place alone (sexually) leaving the other parts of the girls life sour.. When you are protecting your girl child against boys, it is necessary to let them know how boys can be too.

    - Anthony Emeka - 2019-09-26 07:55:56 Quote

  • Nice write up.parent should please pay serious attention to there female child, because girls we are so sensitive don't be surprised that if you didn't become friends with them and teach them what they should know they will be intimidated by the world.

    - Kolapo Tosin - 2019-09-26 07:58:05 Quote

  • In my own point of view, I think the female children need more love from their parents especially the father. The female tends to be more fragile and emotional and so needs proper care, love and gifts. Excess love is needed.

    - Nenye Anyigaenwe - 2019-09-26 08:23:21 Quote

  • Female children needs more monitoring and advice,they are prone to dangers. parents should take more time to put their female child through,females has a lot to learn,as they will bring up the next generation.

    - Adeshina Adewale - 2019-09-26 09:25:16 Quote

  • I think female children should be given much love and care and attention. They should also be made to know that there are a lot of dangers in this world. They should be thoroughly schooled on how to relate with men as they approach puberty age 

    - Victor Oladele - 2019-09-26 10:09:50 Quote

  • Talking of the upbringing of female children is something serious. They should be taught how when and where to relate with people especially the opposite gender. Raising them should not be a problem because God will intervene if they are raised in His ways with the necessary discipline right from their tender age.

    - Arowomole Samuel - 2019-09-26 10:35:55 Quote

  • Female children should be treated with equal respect and love as of the male's child. But the female should be treated with extra caution. They should be sat down at least twice in a week by THIER parents and discussed about how their life is going and what they are currently going through, by doing that, our female daughter will open upnto the parents and neccesary precautions methods will be adopted instead of treated them with hatred thinking its love.

    - Kelani AbdGaniyy Ola - 2019-09-26 11:52:03 Quote

  •  when a girl is about  reaching puberty stage  is mother to sit at  Her Down advise on premature sexual intercourse with man and the danger that is involved  so with the little enlightenment from the mother it will surely help the daughter to grow up well 

    - Sajinyan Oluwole - 2019-09-26 12:45:57 Quote

  •  when a girl is about  reaching puberty stage  is mother to sit at  Her Down advise on premature sexual intercourse with man and the danger that is involved  so with the little enlightenment from the mother it will surely help the daughter to grow up well 

    - Sajinyan Oluwole - 2019-09-26 12:46:05 Quote

  • Everything begins with the parents...

    Train your child in the right way so that when she grows up... She won't depart from it..

    Being strict with female child doesn't mean she won't get pregnant or engage in prostitution...

    What you have to do as a parent is to care for them and show  them love, since they are flexible and fragile

    - Raymond Adefemisoye - 2019-09-26 12:47:32 Quote

  • Both the male and the female child is valunerable at teen years so that matters most then is for parents to make themselves available to their children and try and teach them S'x education withou shying away from it

    - Chimezie Anyiam - 2019-09-26 12:53:21 Quote

  • Female children have been treated like they are feeble, they've been told that they are weak, the weaker vessel, it's just like a baby elephant tied to a poll, even when it grows up it will still think it doesn't have the strength to get loose from the poll. That's why women think they cant be independent, cos they ve been taught that since they were little. Look at the boys, they are troublesome,  you ask them to sit, they stand, you ask them to stay,they leave, you ask them to do something,  they do the opposite, they are risk takers, thats why go beyond their limit, and that's what made them what they are today

    - Boluwatife Fashina - 2019-09-26 13:07:20 Quote

  • The female child should be treated just as much as the male child. They shouldn't be subjected to emotional trauma and they really need to be protected the most because they are the vulnerable one 

    - Saka Adefemi - 2019-09-26 13:40:24 Quote

  • When girls get to the age of puberty they need to be enlightened so that they won't fall pretty to deception from dangerous men. Strictly telling the girls to just stay away from boys without any prior explanations will not deter them from doing so. They need to understand why it's better to stay away from any intimacy at that age.

    - Aliyu Gana Aliyu - 2019-09-26 13:53:43 Quote

  • Female children aren't suppose to be locked in but rather loved cherished and also be given a specified freedom over their life not that their life is already written for them they should be at least allowed to write their own destiny

    - Ibrahim Amir - 2019-09-26 14:17:35 Quote

  • Female children should be treated with utmost love and care, they should also be accommodated and also allow them to express what they want. They should not be judged  easily and lastly they should not be treated with rigidity and the rest. Try and be free with them as a parent so they can open up and tell you whatsoever is happening in their lives. 

    - Okwute Chinecherem - 2019-09-26 14:25:09 Quote

  • Female children should be treated as every other male child should be treated and the rights should be shared equally because women too have contributed in d progress of our country example is lady floral shaw

    - Audu Joshua Oyaregba - 2019-09-26 15:03:04 Quote

  • Oga you are entirely right, female children go through a lot when they are actually young, that's what pushes them to turning out badly. Parents try to protect them by all means and some even end up abusing them unknowingly. You can tell a female child what to do not to be enforcing it like you are in a military regime.

    - Ime Henry - 2019-09-26 15:51:32 Quote

  • My dear friends, the only way to build the futures of our female children is to train them in the way of the Lord, the Bible says" if the Lord doesn't build the house, a builder built but in vain" and the book of Proverbs say that train up a child in the way that he should go when he is old he would never depart from it.

    - Patrick Ogar - 2019-09-26 17:47:19 Quote

  • I agree with you when You say that the parents shld sit the female children down and talk to them. This helps to inculcate the right values into the girls and makes them to know what is right and what is wrong. 

    - Okafor Chigaemezu Ifeanyi - 2019-09-26 18:22:30 Quote

  • Mothers should be close to their female children, because girls need to given proper sec education,  the philosophy of "if a man touches you literally,  you wil get pregnant " is archaic,  daughters need to be properly groomed in this aspect. 

    - Ruth Oyeleke - 2019-09-26 18:39:06 Quote

  • You are very right.. that is just the proper way of training a girl child, instead of the harsh and scaring words from both parents like,if you get pregnant in my house i will send you away,or i will kill you etc such words are not good, cause it end up happening just like they threatens.

    - Blessing Gaadi - 2019-09-26 18:55:09 Quote

  • Females children must to be taking good care of because of tomorrow, you must to give then all they need when they need it. Put food on there table when you should. If you lack of all this there will be problem in the future.

    - Akamo ibrahim - 2019-09-26 19:19:11 Quote

  • Yes female children are to be treated with care love do that they will not do what they are not supposed to do even they are the one they supposed to be given money Everytime so that it will not be because of money they do bad things

    - Miracle Boniface - 2019-09-26 19:19:47 Quote

  • Most parent just tell their female children to stay away from guys rather the sitting them down and talking it out and also most importantly raise them will love so when the have issues they will be able to open up

    - Michael Kasali - 2019-09-26 19:26:17 Quote

  • How do think female children should be treated? By Emmanuel Akume

    They should be committed to God to know him at a young age. If your children know God at a very young age, you will not have trouble with them involving in one bad behavior or the other.

    - Akume Emmanuel Aondofa - 2019-09-26 19:35:54 Quote

  • Maybe it's female children of those days but the female children of now are thought so except it's an uneducated parents who birthed her . As a female child and the only one my parents birthed , my mom never had this boys talk with me , never gave me this " don't let any boy touch you " talk. Even when I first saw my period, she never had the talk. She only said , now you are woman, have sense. Most of what i know came from movies , the street and boarding school (girls) . I taught myself by myself. What always kept me going was my dad words" you are a great woman "

    - Osikha Cynthia - 2019-09-26 20:21:16 Quote

  • There are two sides to a coin. Similarly, what works for bisi is not what would work for tola. So i believe it all boils down to the child to bring herself up in way that the society so expect a girl with morals to behavior.

    - Samuel ogunshina - 2019-09-26 20:55:21 Quote

  • To me, one way of treating female children properly is accepting them into the home. Families should accept whatever child God  gives them. They shouldn't feel bad when God gives them female children only. Most parents see female children as those who can't be substituted with the males. 

    Every child is special,unique and have his/her own role and destiny to achieve.

    They all should be accepted into the family, male and females alike.

    - Maryann Abonyi - 2019-09-26 21:08:58 Quote

  • Female children should be treated in a way that they have to contribute to the society to go further in the educational skill, marriage is not the best option for a female child

    Come to think of the treatment they require they need soft hand and they deserve to be loved advise is the best training given to a female child most ladies used instances to train a child and that's the best way for them.

    - Uchenna Desmond - 2019-09-26 21:17:14 Quote

  • There is no two ways to treat a child.the way you treat male child,you do thesame thing to the female child they are all your children no one deserve special treatment than the other.they must be treated equal.

    - Christopher Gwaze - 2019-09-26 22:14:32 Quote

  • I think the female child should be given equal rights with that of the male this actually helps the child realise the fact that she also can be great or can be a leader or can do just enough to contribute to her family and society at large in a positive manner and not feel inferior or less important in any way

    - Jatau Favour - 2019-09-26 22:41:42 Quote

  • Now are days Most parent just tell their female children to stay away from guys rather the sitting them down and talking it out day should come up with the idea 💡 of sec education  for young children  expectly the girls 

    - isreal adewusi - 2019-09-26 23:34:00 Quote

  • They should be cared for and be well guided against societal vices that might affect their social conduct and also ensure they are given certain exposures and most importantly, s*x eduction, to the the consequences and how to handle such situations

    - James Brown - 2019-09-27 00:20:46 Quote

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