How My Broke Statue Frustrated And Mislead The Girl I Loved

My name is okorocha nwafor,  and i have been in a relationship for two years.

Things worked perfectly well the first year and we were so much committed to each other, although i was still a squatter staying with a friend,  but we still had time to meet each other. 
Things started turning abnormal earlier these year when i lost my small job although she was not a nagging type but she demands less and i was ok with that,  but after the job was gone, i was sat home for 3 months and she was very concerned with prayers. But she later stopped checking on me and call less Like once a month i knew things wasn't going well with her and I figured out it was as a result of my broke statue.

Luckily i got a call from an old friend,  i arrived Lagos without her knowledge and am now a big business dealer with the help of ma big business friend.

On returning home after just seven months to tell the love of my life "i finally made it and come with me" she was busy hanging my calls and after an hour she called and use an abusive word on me.
That evening with the help of her friend i discovered she was in bed with a friend of mine imagine. 

But i really love her and its because of her i was hungry for steps to take and was committed to the hustle,  and now am thinking of maybe going to her place to apologize,  but no.

But can we still be together, 

Can things return to how it was the first year? I need your advice

Comments Reply
  • Love conquers alll, if u still love her then i will advice you go for her but if you don't then you are free to do otherwise, though i blame her for giving up on you but we are all human and are ban to mistakes. 

    - Maureen Chinelo - 2019-09-17 06:51:47 Quote

  • Do not apologize to her. Its very painful that you are very in love with her and I can relate. The thing is the girl is a gold digger.if she eventually comes back to you it won't be because of her love for u,it would be because of her love for money

    Do not be deceived

    - princess ucha - 2019-09-17 06:54:38 Quote

  • You should have told her before travelling to Lagos, I believe she would have waited for you than keeping mute. If you still love her and want her back, please go ahead and apologize to her. 

    - Daniel Maureen - 2019-09-17 06:56:20 Quote

  • My candid advice is keep on disturbing her, I hope you guys will eventually settle provided you don't give up on her. Don't look for another suitor yet if she is not yet engaged with another man then definitely she would bend one day for you guys to be together again. Thank God your own friend is with her to talk to her on the current improvement in your hustle. There is hope there.

    - Edime Yunusa - 2019-09-17 06:56:22 Quote

  • She was nice at first but then she didn't believe in you and your hustler and as such she was in lnpetient despite the fact that she prayed for u it means that she will leave you sooner or later of u are still going through such hard time so bro she is not meant for you,just leave and God will provide better one for you besides there are many fishes in the river.

    - Abdulraheem Saad - 2019-09-17 06:57:23 Quote

  • Love is a beautiful thing but wisdom is profitable to lead,she  do not truely love you ,what is the essence of love if it can't be expressed in difficult times,to make  worse she ran to the hand of a friend because of small cgange, just move on with your life brother.

    - Ekeh Kelechi - 2019-09-17 06:57:55 Quote

  • Since she couldn't wait for you then she never truely loved you,  even if she wanted to cheat she shouldn't have done it with your friend.  My advice to you is to just let go of her, it may be difficult at first but you have to try and let go of her. 

    - Prince Nnaji - 2019-09-17 06:58:11 Quote

  • Please my brother, if she cannot stand by you even when things are bad, then she's not meant for you. Just carry on with your live and God will bring your life partner for you.

    - Onyeka Onwurah - 2019-09-17 06:58:14 Quote

  • You should have told her before travelling to Lagos, I believe she would have waited for you than keeping mute. If you still love her and want her back, please go ahead and apologize to her. 

    - Daniel Maureen - 2019-09-17 06:59:00 Quote

  • If I were under your shoe, men am not going to apologize for anything, by the way, you didn't do anything to Offend her she's just not been faithful, just find another chima to begging a new life with. 

    - Ezeh Echezana - 2019-09-17 07:00:04 Quote

  • Yes, things can returned to how it was in the first year but you've got to have a forgiven heart because I want to know how you're gonna take it that he's in bed with a friend of yours and you still want the relationship much. That's true love and things can be back to normal

    - Olaniyi Mustapha - 2019-09-17 07:02:20 Quote

  • I will suggest you leave her. Any lady that can not stay with you when things are rough doesn't deserve to dine and wine with you when things are smooth. A good potential wife should be able to love everything about you, whom you are and not what you have only. Leave her and look for a virtuous lady.

    - Adeyemi Joshua - 2019-09-17 07:04:14 Quote

  • Yes, you guys can still be together if you truly love her more than anything, what I will just advise you to do: is try and contact the girl, then ask her if she still loves you but don't tell her yet that you are now a successfull business man because, she might wants to return  back to you because of your success and not because she loves you. Whatever she says might determine maybe u can have  the girl back or you can try and win her heart back if possible.  

    - Oyediran Joshua - 2019-09-17 07:05:23 Quote

  • My brother is better you leave her alone because that type of girl is not worthy to be your house wife. Both of you never marry each other and she left you because of your broken status that simply means she does not love you but she care and love your money in the first place. 

    - Eniola Peter - 2019-09-17 07:06:47 Quote

  • This is somehow ur fault u should have told before living so atlest she would knw were u are going to or when u coming back .

    So I think u should go and beg her

    - Caleb Ifeanyi - 2019-09-17 07:07:05 Quote

  • I believe she was mislead by her friends advise to break up with you. Since is not the asking type from the beginning of your friendship. If still love her you can go and beg her and things will work out well, because there is no good girl outside there. 

    - Giwa Senapon - 2019-09-17 07:07:59 Quote

  • A lady that cannot stated with you in the bad times is not a lady worthy of marriage, I'd suggest you let her go already. She isn't worth it,keep hustling it will pay off

    - Kunle Adekunte - 2019-09-17 07:10:06 Quote

  • She deserves to be with you now that you've made it,try calling her,explain things to her and her from her. Her reasons for her action,if she asks for your forgiveness please forgive her.

    - Faith Ubani - 2019-09-17 07:10:51 Quote

  • No, things are far from going back to at it was before because as human being you may forgive her but to forget it's not an easy task. But according to your words well you can go back to her again but remember there is an adage they used to say " Character or Attitude can't be covered is like a smoke" 

    - Aderopo Elijah Garuba - 2019-09-17 07:12:37 Quote

  • Wow, that's heart breaking but I advise you do what pleases you at this point and maybe it wasn't her fault atleast you shouldn't have left without letting her know, if I were in her shoes I would have thought maybe you are no more interested. 

    - Tomilola Mammie - 2019-09-17 07:13:07 Quote

  • My brother, the girl sign to you not a good one, imaging sleeping with your friend. Girls of these days. If you marry her and things go bad with you; she might sleep with even your brother . . The hand writing on the wall is inot good.

    - Akume Emmanuel Aondofa - 2019-09-17 07:13:30 Quote

  • Please you guys should sit and talk things out....I'm sure she did that outta frustration... She does love you cause you mentioned her praying for you at earlier stage...please don't take irrational decisions 

    - Ibritam Racheal - 2019-09-17 07:14:06 Quote

  • Bro frankly I'll advice you to let her have lost this one its not your fault but this things happen and from the looks of it she has moved on for long...perhaps you weren't right for each other? Believe me you will find love if you keep searching but this one has gone

    - HABIB OLASUNKANMI - 2019-09-17 07:19:09 Quote

  • If i was in your shoes, i don't think it can work out. Though she's not to be blamed her decision almst every rational thinking girl will do that(leave the relationship) since you are not married. But sleeping with my friend is unacceptable. There is something called respect, i don't think i can even date a friend's ex, depending on how close the friend is. In my little knowledge i'd say you move on since she's done the same

    - Daniel Taiwo - 2019-09-17 07:20:25 Quote

  • according to this story that girl is a nice girl,because to find such lady that is not,nagging,requesting,and prayful this time is very hard not only that, she still love u,moreever my brother u did bad u should have send her a letter that u are traveling not matter what,nevertheless my advice to u  is that u should call the girl and settle with her she a wife material according to this story.

    - Philip Isah - 2019-09-17 07:21:46 Quote

  • So sorry about your bad experience.But what I can assure you is that things must turn around.

    But I believe that with NNUforum,your financial status will remain green.

    - Emmy Rex - 2019-09-17 07:25:40 Quote

  • Waiting in love is not easy for some persons. Brother wake up to the harsh reality of life and move on because the handwriting on the wall in too clear to ignore. Your girl with your friend in bed. Too risky to continue for me.

    - Oletu Cornelius - 2019-09-17 07:26:45 Quote

  • This is just like the case in rude boy song reason with me, she gave you the motivation not with standing she should have stayed during the hard time you going back to beg her will just allow her to come to your life and chop your money, my brother be wise

    - Chijioke Franklin - 2019-09-17 07:27:17 Quote

  • See a lady that cannot stay with u when things are hard is not meant for u.. Think about it. .Leave her and move on .. You'll find someone better

    - Omotola Bunmi - 2019-09-17 07:28:08 Quote

  • Dis is a tough decision to make but before you decide to do anything at try to see her so you guy could talk and if it work out for you guys fine and if it the other also .

    - Oni Peter - 2019-09-17 07:31:19 Quote

  • She's done with you man. She did absolutely nonsense.

    I wouldn't take that if I was in this shoe

     But thank God you made the hustle somewhere. You can haunt for another one better and live on

    - Muheez Oladimeji - 2019-09-17 07:39:56 Quote

  • Since you have try to reconcile with her back, and she use bad words on you. Why not continue with your life and think of how to make it big with your business.

    - gbenga emmauel - 2019-09-17 07:40:45 Quote

  • God forbid going back to her because she is a betrayal if she can follow someone because of your statue but if you can not do without her let know about new development

    - Abdullahi Ibn Muhammad - 2019-09-17 07:42:57 Quote

  • If you truly love her, you can still let her know you still love and miss her but I doubt she would return because she's been in bed with another person.. but it's worth giving it a try.

    - Eso Olabode - 2019-09-17 07:48:15 Quote

  • Patience, perseverance and trust are key factors in a relationship. If she really loved you she will stay, though it May be though but she will stay because of the love she has for you, she will hold on to the believe that you will make it and she will never ever sleep with your friend. But since she did otherwise I think you should tell her how you feel, forgive her from your heart but move on with your life. Relationship should not based on only when things are good and sweet. You fight through thick and thin.

    - Ajayi Andrea - 2019-09-17 07:48:26 Quote

  • If she had really loved you she should have endured with you even through the bad times oweing to the fact that you're not a lazy type. I would prefare you to look for someone else. You left without telling her but but what were her efforts to get to you?

    - Ikima D. Mayor - 2019-09-17 07:48:46 Quote

  • At the first place you could have reference the song titled  reason with me by Rude boy meaning if i no get today i go get am tomorrow. That could have arrested her heart back to you.

    - Chidiebere Edeh - 2019-09-17 07:50:10 Quote

  • If you can bear the fact that she couldn't wait for you, and she has been sexually active with someone uou know, then reach out to her and make amends, there were times she was there for you

    - Anulika Obiora - 2019-09-17 07:52:51 Quote

  • She once left and she will do it over and over again 

    Thank god you are now successful, all you got to do is let go of her, move on and pray for a better person 

    - Mr Sullex - 2019-09-17 07:53:53 Quote

  • May be she felt you left her.. Because you didn't tell her.. And your friend must be very wicked.. Bro just ignore her and her action.. Move on with your life.. She might come around..

    - Stephen Ebuka Aniakor - 2019-09-17 08:01:53 Quote

  • You just have to understand that situations in life could lead some people to act against will. Try to understand why she did that with your friend. I believe if she reasons she will apologise but if not, move on with your life. Remember broken friendship is far better than broken marriage.

    - Prosper Finny - 2019-09-17 08:03:16 Quote

  • It would have been proper if you informed her before, traveling. I'll advise, if truly you love her, go for her. Hear her part of the story. If it worth marrying her. Then do but if you can't it's better you withdraw to avoid regrets

    - Oluwaseun Ayoade - 2019-09-17 08:07:54 Quote

  • If you are my brother, and you go back to her, i will wait for you and beat the hell out of you, what kind of love is that? 

    You were broke for months, yeah, that's not good though, but she left you, because she wasn't getting the small things you give to her anymore. 

    So, let her be, things happened like that, so you can know her true nature, thank God for that. 

    - Richard Ngirigwa - 2019-09-17 08:13:03 Quote

  • The issue here is that I won't say you should go and beg her because the person that cannot wait for you just for seven months, how do you think you guys can make a family together, my little advice for you is just quit with her

    - Ayomide Joseph - 2019-09-17 08:14:53 Quote

  • Truly  love shouldn't be measured by material things but when we are broke we don't love ourselves too. Ask her out and let her know you've been the kind of person she wants. But it is really advisable to let her go a lady that can't stand with you tears shouldn't be there when you laugh.

    - Muritala atensinse - 2019-09-17 08:16:35 Quote

  • Deep inside of you, you have the answer you are looking for. Firstly, because you ran broke she dejected you, that's not love she has for you initially that's lust and then she didn't even know you left for a greener pasture which eventually pays for you and you intend telling her u av made it so that she can continue Lusting on you, she slept with your friend and you still couldn't know that she will do more when things turn around again, maybe this time worst than what she did at first. My brother leave her and find a good girl as your creator has showed you who you are into. Her lost not yours. 

    - Oluwaseun David Ajiboye - 2019-09-17 08:16:55 Quote

  • Firstly the lady sleeping with your friend because of money aren’t attributes of a virtuos woman,there’s a general saying that say you can’t eat your cake and have advice would be for you to forget because a woman that can’t stay and suffer with you till you make it would eventually cheat on you when you marry her and things aren’t moving fine,and the lady in question ought to have a business or handiwork no matter how little that can yield money for upkeep no woman should entirely depend on a man for everything at least have something to bring to the table when your partner is broke 

    - Onyekaweme Isioma Sophia - 2019-09-17 08:17:04 Quote

  • You should have told her of your traveling plans instead of making it look like you abandoned her.  Love is sweet ooo but without money it might turn sour and with money or will be sweeter so,  if you love her like you claim,  go get her now you are made

    - Kennedy Onyebuchi - 2019-09-17 08:18:55 Quote

  • Well it wasn't your fault that you lost your job but it was very wrong of you to travel to Lagos without letting her know about it and for seven good months you didn't call her to communicate with her your whereabouts.

    But if you still love her, look for her, apologize to her and tell her the reason you left for Lagos and if she still loves you, see will accept you back and you both should forgive yourselves and start afresh.

    - Maureen Okoh - 2019-09-17 08:21:02 Quote

  • Nothing is impossible since you have hammered.i can see the girl' picture she is pretty and you wouldn't like to missed her.approach her tell her that thinks have automatically change in your side and you are ready to go with her.women are  like a little babies' very easy to convince not give up if you really love her.

    - Christopher Gwaze - 2019-09-17 08:24:17 Quote

Others are reading