Between Husband And Wife, Who Should Be Blamed?

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There is this man he is married with two kids, they are not financially ok, one faithful day the wife went to the market and luckily for her she met one of her old friend that she is now rich, they greeted themselves and exchange numbers on that same day the friend gave the wife the sum of #50,000 the wife is so excited.

So the wife went home and told his husband about it and they use the money to solve some little problems, the wife and her friend do call each other often and the wife goes to her house many times to greet her and anytime the wife talk to her friend or visit her she would give her money.

Until this day the husband now said to her wife that she should stop collecting money from her friend and tell her that she should show her how she makes her money, the wife went there truly and told her friend what his husband said to her and she said no problem.

The wife’s friend now tell her that both of them will go to somewhere together, to cut the story short they went and it happens to be an herbalist place, the wife’s friend now said to the herbalist that he should do what he do for her that she is seeing Money for her friend also, the herbalist asked the wife if she had given birth and the wife said yes, so he told her to go home and bring one of her children’s cloth.

The wife went home and bring the cloth, the herbalist now said to the wife that she should go home that he would call her.

The next day the herbalist called the wife that the work is done she should come and take it, the wife got there and the herbalist told her before she gets back home that the son that she brings his cloth would have been dead and when she get home she should not cry, the woman shouted and started crying there that the herbalist did not told her all this from the beginning. 

To cut the story short the herbalist gave the wife some black soap in a small coffin and tell her that she should bathe with the soap three times and the third time she and her husband should bathe it before 5:00am in the morning and if the husband sees the soap and did not bathe it before the time that she will run mad immediately and the husband would see paper on the ground and call it Money. She did not tell her husband anything about this warning issue until the third night they are supposed to bathe the soap together she is now telling him everything that it is because of the soap their son died, the husband is very angry at her and she told told him all the precautions the herbalist told her it will happen if they failed to bathe the soap before the time the herbalist told them, but the husband just kick the soap away because he his angry at what his wife did.

When it is 5:00am the wife ran mad and since then the husband has been struggling with his life, no money and he is now living a no mans life,

My question now is, who is at fault the husband or the wife and what is your advice for the husband.

Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Okeke Promise - 2019-09-26 04:29:46

The both of them are truly at fault, but the Man has a greater part of the blame. The wife did what she did out of ignorance of the outcome and actually it was the husband that encouraged her to meet her friend in the first place. On an open her the wife told him everything but he still couldn't save the wife since the son is already dead. He has the greater blame.

Well I pray God should help him.

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By olanrewaju Gabriel - 2019-09-26 04:40:44

Sincerely both are to be blame but the wife the most because she have to ask her friend in a proper manner how she .make her money not that she should just jump into conclusion, and apart from that when an herbalist ask her to bring her son cloth don't she think of what it for, the husband also why will he ask her wife to be asking on how someone make her money. So the husband will receive 30% blame and the wife  70% blame.

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Simeon Tsejime - 2019-09-26 04:41:32

This is so sympathetic and terrible, it's the work of poverty. That's why we need to educate people about nnuforum to take advantage as well. I think the woman is at fault, all that glitter is not gold. It's good to be careful. 

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Samson Gimba - 2019-09-26 04:50:50

Nice story, but in all these, In my own candid opinion I think is the wife that is to be blamed. Because I see nothing wrong in telling your wife to learn how to make money from her friend. The wife who was a very big adult with children should have known the consequences of seeing a native doctor not to talk of him asking her to bring her son's clothes. She was too dump  

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Agbomaogan Oyinkansola - 2019-09-26 05:05:13

Well, the both of them are at fault. The man couldn't hold it anymore by containing his greed that he wanted a quick money. He forgot that God's time is the best. The wife should have left the place when she found out that it was an herbalist if actually she's a child of God. 

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Abigail Banjo-Akintimehin - 2019-09-26 05:13:39

Both of them are at fault. That's why it's not good to be  envying  other people's success. The adage in Yoruba says and I quote "isale oro l'egbin" that is, the bottom of Richie's is disgusting. Don't work with other people's clock. Accepted that the husband pushed her out to get rich by all means, she should have have been sensitive enough when the herberlist ask her to bring her son's cloth. This will serve as a lesson to other.

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Akinola Damilola - 2019-09-26 05:16:06

Hmmm. This is deep, well thinking about it from one angel nobody is to blame, but looking at it again, the wife is to be blamed. When she saw it was an herbalist place she should have backed out. Nothing good comes from d devil.

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Uvo Matthew - 2019-09-26 05:21:33

I think the wife is at fault here because the first day she went to meet her friend to show her the way ,when she return she didn't tell her husband what happened at where her friend took her to and again she did not tell her husband what the habitat told her to tell her husband till the last night...... So she don't expect her husband to smile with her after killing their son 

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Okojie Deborah - 2019-09-26 05:22:01

The husband is at fault because he pushed his wife to find out how her friend made money. The wife is also at fault because she allowed herself to be used by the herbalist and her friend 

She should have left the place as soon as she say the herbalist  delete her friends number and never returned 

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Nwosu Vincent - 2019-09-26 05:30:45

To my own understanding I think the fault is from the woman that is the mans wife. Why didn't she tell her all this things at the right time and now it is die minute she did and the man got angry which is proper for all guys

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Oluwaseun David Ajiboye - 2019-09-26 05:33:49

They are both at fault, firstly not all are golden so one should be contented with what one have, obviously the man push the wife to her friend and the wife brought the son cloth unknowing what will transpire with her son. Kicking the soap brought misery to their life which only prayer can solve. 

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Shield Chinazo - 2019-09-26 05:46:40

The woman is at fault. She's a woman and at least she has heard of strange things happening in this world, it's not a bed of roses.

Immediately her friend took her to the herbalist, common sense would have told her that what she's going into is not an easy stuff. When she was asked to bring her child's cloth, doesn't that give a sign that something is wrong somewhere. Before venturing in that diabolic activtity, she would have informed the husband, then if he had consented it would have been a different case. Then both of them would go in for the consequences. If she was the one in her husband's shoe, what decision would she have taken. The man had no hand in the killing, why involve himself at the end.

That's my opinion.

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Olawumi Adedeji - 2019-09-26 06:01:03

This seems more or less like Nollywood to me. The husband should turn to God, trust me , God is capable of doing anything , he should go and cry to God , pray fervently. About the person at fault,the wife of course , she didnt use her brain at all , and has lust for money and that is not good enough. The husband should just pack his life together. Only God can help him with that.

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Hannatu Isqeel - 2019-09-26 06:06:01

The wife is to be blamed at first,why would she bring her child's cloth without telling her husband? And she shouldn't have told him everything on the very last night,since the damage has already been done.she should have let them bath before telling him.

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Kamson Samuel - 2019-09-26 06:24:37

Firstly the husband is at fault...In any thing in life satisfaction is the best and not to be a copy Cat .. Because my friend is bless I should also follow her way ,what your friend did that work for them may not work for you..

Secondly the wife is also at fault in sense that she suppose to have explain that to him before the last they are asked to bathe with the soap..

Thirdly I will just say the husband should hold on to Jesus Christ because he is the way the truth and the light,there is not impossible in the present of the most high...

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Mary Ogbinya - 2019-09-26 06:34:12

The husband is to be blamed....... Infact, he must be out of his mind....... After the death of his son he still threw away the opportunity?? What then is the essence of the sacrifice made... This is what not been contented with what you  have does to people.

He sent his wife to go and learn how to catch fish instead of collecting fish from someone....... They could have used the little money given to them to start up something na.

The deal has been done, the child is already dead, the soap is in your house, why did he not complete the journey??

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Idiris Opeyemi - 2019-09-26 06:45:48

This is the fault of the husband,how could he tell his wife to get involved in what he never know that could be the out come of it.the wife obey her husband and i don't see any blame in her

My advice is that everyone should stop looking into how people are getting their own money,you should work and pray to God how has all in his hand

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Nicholas Usiahon - 2019-09-26 07:02:04

Well I don't think the woman is at fault for telling her husband about the money given to her by her friend full stop and I don't think it is also bad for the man to art said to his wife that tell your friend to teach you how to make the money. Now as a woman it is not everything you disclose or discuss with your husband in order to avoid being pushy. Because I discovered it was when she told her husband about the money that was when her husband pushed her to knowing how to make money desperately. My advice really for couples is just to hold on to some little secret she could have just used the money for the children's welfare or just giving him another excuse of how she got the money

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By sunday francis - 2019-09-26 07:06:06

I think the wife is to be blamed because the husband was a caring man that want the best for the family.collecting money from a friend almost everyday just to feed her family is not the best but attaching herself with a legit job that can bring forth income to the family which was the original intention of the husband.what the wife would have done when it was not late was that after the herbalist told her to bring the cloth of their child,she should have known that it has to do with rituals and immediately report the issue to the husband and never bream of going close to her friend or going back to the herbalist. The husband must accept his fate and move on with life,he should seek for God grace on his wife situation because only God can come to his rescue.

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By PETER MMADUEKE - 2019-09-26 07:10:00

In this case anyone can be the victim, I will have the husband to blame cux if not that he made her to go after asking for the source, she wouldn't have gone all the way to do what she did. It was not detailed to her at the start, so the mistake was unavoidable. The husband on another hand should have considered his wife after she opened up to him and bath with the soap, since she has come plain to him.  Now you see what his anger and refusal has caused him more loss and pains and he has nothing to offer, its his fault his wife ran mad and also his fault that life became very unbearable for him. 

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Chidiebere Uzo - 2019-09-26 07:34:52

It is the wife that I'd at fault and not the husband. The wife just misunderstood him and got her family into trouble. She is supposed to reject the plan once she discovered that they shall be going to a native doctor's house.

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Ebiloma Victoria - 2019-09-26 07:41:19

The both of them is at fault oh...the man asked his wife to go find out from her friend how she gets her money,after all the money the friend has been giving can't they use it to start something even if it's little,now the wife after finding out why didn't she tell her husband what happen between herself the woman and the herbalist...this now led to the death of their son,his wife mad and himself very broke... Well nothing it's too late or big for God to do, he should turn to God that's the only solution. 

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Osikha Cynthia - 2019-09-26 08:06:40

The wife is at fault. I don't see any harm in you telling your wife to go ask her friend how she makes her money. But I find something wrong in you realizing the way your friend makes her money is beyond the ordinary and you refuse to tell your husband or rather you decided to keep it from your husband. I'm angry at her because, before you embark on anything you have no idea about, you ask for information. She's now saying the harbalist did not tell her  and at the end they lost everything.the innocent man should not suffer cause of the woman 

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Onekeneke prince - 2019-09-26 08:07:11

The both of them are truly at fault but I think the woman has the greater fault. She should have informed her husband about her findings before going ahead to give the cloth to the herbalist, has it been she hasn’t kept the husband in the dark, things wouldn’t have end up like that. And had it been the husband has be patient and not too inquisitive and desperate things wouldn’t have ended up so too. So both of them are at fault.

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Ahmed Olayiwola - 2019-09-26 08:12:56

I find something wrong in you realizing the way your friend makes her money is beyond the ordinary and you refuse to tell your husband or rather you decided to keep it from your husband. I'm angry at her because, before you embark on anything you have no idea about, you ask for information. She's now saying the harbalist did not tell her  anshould have informed her husband about her findings before going ahead to give the cloth to the herbalist, has it been she hasn’t kept the husband in the dark, things wouldn’t have end up like that. And had it been the husband has be patient and not too inquisitive and desperate things wouldn’t have ended up so too. So both of them are at fault

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Anthony Emeka - 2019-09-26 08:19:34

on the part of the eife, she should have let the husband know how. On the part of the man, he should have asked questions when the money started coming. However the problem here MIGHT be a problem of misconception by the wife..

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Nenye Anyigaenwe - 2019-09-26 08:40:52

The husband is wrong based on the fact he didn't get to know the actual details based on what the wife discussed with her friend whereas the woman is more at fault for taking all these steps just to make money without being suspicious of the fact that what she was doing was wrong.

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Muorah Kelvin - 2019-09-26 10:33:48

The man is supposed to be blame thats the husband assuming they were managing the little the wife usually gets from her friend none of these would have happened and the man being so greedy wanted to know everything on how the friend of the wife made the money instead of managing and hustling for the family and also the man supposed to listen to his wife although i know its bad but the did has been done.

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Joseph Lawrence - 2019-09-26 11:05:57

To me its the wife's fault because her husband was only trying to help out and then as she saw that the way to get the money was dubious she should have backed down immediately but she went on with it 

Its out of greed that she did it because she did it without telling her husband

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Akinkuebi Boluwatife - 2019-09-26 12:08:30

It's not the fault of the husband,he probably felt that the woman was earning money in a clean way that was why he encouraged his wife to ask her how she made money.its the wife's fault,if she told her husband that she was taken to an herbalist,im I sure he wouldn't allow her to do it

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Boluwatife Fashina - 2019-09-26 13:18:23

Its not a bad thing that the husband asked his wife to tell her friend to show her how to make money, anybody could ve advice her, it's a good advice, learn how to fish instead of begging for fish, my fault is with the woman, when she discovered that twas herbalist she shouldn't have gone back, you can't ve good success with the devil, nah, the devil will give you what you want with his left hand, and take what your life depends on with his right hand, anything that comes from the devil cannot last, she killed her child because of money, the money that she didn't even get, she just wasted the life of her baby. What was she thinking the herbalist wanted to do with her child's clothes before, I don't know how people think atimes. The man should pray, there's nothing that God cannot do, even if they had used the soap, after some years the herbalist will ask them to use their other child for renewal,,,so it's better as he didn't use it, and my God is not a wicked God, he'll change the man's story 

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Prince Ezinwa - 2019-09-26 14:08:37

The husband is at fault cuz it is said that a man should be contented with he or she has the man should be blamed for everything because at first he told his wife to stop collecting and play along which is not the fault of his wife. Everything seems to her that what she was doing was the right thing and also a nice solution to there problem..every good thing comes very hard so when the trial and tribulations of life comes very hard.all you have to do is never give up on yourself..thanks

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Deborah joel - 2019-09-26 14:26:53

The wife biko..

Even if she was ignorant, watching movies and all the happenings around has though us better than to go to a herbalist knowing fully well that the Devil doesn't give for free beside him asking for your child's cloth should have passed a message accros to you ...

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Aliyu Gana Aliyu - 2019-09-26 14:45:17

The blame goes to the both of them but the wife deserves more of the blame. She shouldn't have taken the child's clothing to the herbalist and she should have consulted her husband before making such decisions. My advice for the husband is to pray to God and find forgiveness, so that his life might improve for the better.

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Jael Orji - 2019-09-26 14:49:34

The husband and wife are to be blamed

Although they were not rich,they should have managed themselves just like what they have been doing

My advice for the husband is to go back there and ask the herbalist the way out 

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Adebayo Owoniyi - 2019-09-26 14:56:57

The wife should be blame for doomed of her home, the advice her husband gave was just to make good living through her friend help. after her meeting with the herbalist she was suppose to inform her husband about what she encounter at the herbalist place (the need for one of her childrens cloth), but she didn't. so i don't her husband is to be blame.

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Micheal Alabi - 2019-09-26 15:25:17

its the womans fualt.

The husband told her to ask her friend hw she makes money so as soon as she came back from the place i expect her to give her husband feedback so its her fualt

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Rukayat Olubode - 2019-09-26 18:07:40

In this situation, the wife is to be blame not the husband at all because the husband tell her to go and ask for way from her friend, so the woman suppose to give her husband feedback and am sure the husband will not agree to that opinion. 

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Oke Olawole - 2019-09-26 19:13:46

From my own point of view both of them are to be blame because they didn't wait for there own time and also send there son to an early grave without even knowing maybe the child they use for ritual will make them a wealthy person in life 

My advice for the husband is to be prayerful and believe in God everything will be ok

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Adebayo Feyisara - 2019-09-26 20:40:30

Wow....this is so pathetic

The husband is actually at fault cux he made his wife do what she never intended to do

But seriously the wife is extremely stupid....she should have asked few questions before even doing anything the Herbalist instructed her to do

This is really a sad story

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Okereka Destiny Efejeror - 2019-09-26 21:59:23

The woman has herself to blame. She is not a child. She had a choice of saying no the friend and reporting everything to the husband from the first day before even carried her child clothes. She was supposed to inform her husband that this what this woman is doing should we do it. That's how it was suppose to be 

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Idi Grace - 2019-09-26 22:02:57

The wife is at fault, even if her husband tell her to go and Know the source of her friends wealth it doesn't mean she should do it. She should have used her sense to Knw that she is getting into trouble. 

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Goodness Onuchukwu - 2019-09-26 22:07:40

The wife is at fault because she didn't tell her husband that the means of making money was a corrupt one. I would advise the man to forget about the woman and turn back to God. Only God can bring him out of that situation.

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Jacob Edward - 2019-09-26 22:41:38

The wife is at fault.  She didn't ask for the reason of the demand for her child's cloth by an habalist. Don't ever be concerned about your friends success 

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Abolarin Deji - 2019-09-27 00:39:13

I can't blame the husband for telling the wife to go meet her friend to show what she is doing to get money he was just trying to solve the family's problem. The woman is the one at fault for accepting that kind of offer she should have rejected it at the first place that she cant do such thing. I think all the man have to do now is to pray fervently and also seek for a pastor to help him solve this problem.

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Olawole Taofeek - 2019-09-27 01:53:48

The wife is at fault. There is nothing wrong in the advice the husband said earlier, it is the wife who suppose to narrate the outcome of where her friend took her to to her husband, after then they will both decide what to do not the way the wife has ruin their life. The husband should be praying, God is merciful

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Franklin Neto - 2019-09-27 02:29:22

No offence please, Is this a true life story or just a folktale  or fiction because it really sounds like one 

But then the wife is to blame for how she sheepishly heeded the instructions of the herbalist from the onset ,the moment she was told to bring her child's cloth, she should have smelt something fishy and flee immediately

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Emmanuela Chinonyerem - 2019-09-27 04:23:02

it is the wife that should be blamed, she didnt ask her friend more questions about what they are going to do at a herbalist. Moreover when it comes to money making and a friend advice u to go to herbalist it should come to your sense that is all about. "Blood money " and one precious thing must be taken away from you

What a sad story  

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Odion Glory - 2019-09-27 06:40:11

The wife was at fault she was suppose to let the husband know the means of her friend's wealth..and she should have discuss it with her husband to know if he will be a part of it...so i will advice the man to look up to God he alone can see him through in that difficult situation

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Between husband and wife, who should be blamed? - By Emmanuel Omotoso - 2019-09-27 06:56:19

Very nice story, but I think both of them are to be blamed because, it wrong for the to move closer to who she had seen a longtime time, then when the herbalist tells her to bring one of her children cloth she should have tell her husband before taken it to the herbalist cause I know the husband will disagree. And for the husband, when all this had happened he has no choice than to use the soap, I think husband must be blamed most

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