I Am In A State Of Confusion

I have been dating my girlfriend for over two years now and and things have been going on well with both of us even the family members are very much aware of our relationship and I always pray to God that it should end in marriage, but something strange happened to my girlfriend that kept me in a state of confusion.

We have been staying together in a couple of two years when she decided to go and see her grand mother in the village and promised to come back in three days time and after three days she came back as promised but with different attitude and behaviour towards me unlike her.

I felt like it was a dream, she now detest me, hate me with passion and even warned me never to disturb her again, I tried asking her what I did that she don't like that made her to hate me all of a sudden so that I can apologize and she said to my face that she never loved me that I should go to hell. Boom!

Her family tried to ascertain the issue with her for such attitude towards me but to no avail.

Please what am I going to do to get her back,I love her so much am confused and don't know what to do next.

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  • Well i think you should be patient with her. Just give her some times, The reason behind the strange attutude will be unravelled. You know women are unpredictable and you are not the first to expereince such from a lady. To me the key to all the women wonders is just patience. If you are sure you did not do her wrong,then i suggest you keep cool, give her time and if she truely loves you, she will come around.

    - MALACHY AGU - 2019-10-08 14:11:24 Quote

  • Well may be she is testing you she wants to know what you can do and what you can not do  you be calm for her and keep disturbing her that you want to know why she is just hate you she wants to test you may be you will fail or pass the test that's woman for you

    - Adisa Olamilekan - 2019-10-08 18:10:59 Quote

  • She probably never loved you I guess. If she truly did, she wouldn’t have to have a change of heart so soon. And maybe she just needs time. She might be going through some state of trauma or so. I feel you should let her heal for a while and go back to her. If she still decides to act up, give her surprise gifts and inform her parents to help you out. If she’s still adamant, then probably she was never meant to be yours in the first place.

    - Sule Rahanat - 2019-10-08 18:17:18 Quote

  • My dear keep calm, and be petient with her it's just a try to prove your love for her.if she loves you she will come back, don't hate and be hash to her..

    I advice you if you are a Christian pray and ask God if she's your wife then ask God to talk her heart.but if you ask God and no positive results,my dear pray for wife, because if you marry the wrong woman, hmmmm your future is in danger.

    Therefore pray like never before God will answer your prayer

    - John Vincent - 2019-10-08 19:19:29 Quote

  • Be patient with her try to talk with people she relates and respect to talk to her and at least say the reason she changed towards you or what you did wrong the most importantly pray if you should try to save the relationship or let sleeping dogs lie

    - COURAGE AGBONS - 2019-10-08 19:27:42 Quote

  • Patience they say is a virtue and must it be applied towards everything and I around us, I suggest you love, care and show more attention to her the more even when she is pissed off ,don't quite let her do the quitting by turning back to love you love the more.

    - Nwamadi Venansius - 2019-10-08 20:50:26 Quote

  • it is not possible for a girl that you guys have been in love with each other since all this days to just change all of a sudden just try to think of what you have done hidden maybe she have known the secret try to remember what the secret is and try to talk to her about it and beg her..

    - Abdulsalam Hassan - 2019-10-08 20:54:33 Quote

  • she probably met someone new when she went to the village and that's why she is giving you this attitude, it that simple but either way try to find out the main reason she's acting like towards you. 

    - Okpako Rukevwe - 2019-10-09 19:43:41 Quote

  • communication honey communication is the only key here you both should have a heart to heart talk like a mature adult that you both are I hope things will straighten up

    - Faith Tonia - 2019-10-09 20:16:39 Quote

  • You need to give her time may be she heard something about you or her grandma made something known to her concerning you that also put her into confusion. You need to be calm and move closer to her friends and family to know what exactly is going on because she will surely tell someone close to her something about the strange attitude she is giving you. 

    - Oxygen Sammy - 2019-10-09 21:31:34 Quote

  • if what you are saying is true then probably as she went to see her grandmother she was introduced to somebody better and much more richer than you and then you put by the side or she has eaten what she's not supposed to eat like the Africans call it juju myabe that's what they've given to her

    - Joseph Lawrence - 2019-10-09 22:08:31 Quote

  • If you are certain that you've done nothing wrong then I think it's something spiritual...me like this nothing fit take me go village cus jealousy too full for there...my dear take your bae to church or better still pray secretly for her

    - Ekanem Fuller - 2019-10-12 17:55:31 Quote

  • I think you have to speak up with her know her real feelings towards you try to understand what you did wrong to her so you can ammend your way you also have to know if her love feelings for you haven't fade away so you won't just waste your time waiting on her for no reason 

    - Oretan Ayomipo Micheal - 2019-10-12 18:27:41 Quote

  • My brother the truth is that she has fallen in love with another guy,thats the reason she is acting strange just so u will get angry and say a word that she can capitalize on,have experience this before. Just let her be for the moment,it wont last long before she realizes her mistake,then she will come begging for your forgiveness.

    - Adeshina Adewale - 2019-10-12 20:01:45 Quote

  • Is not possible for her to hate you like that

    Maybe she told her grandma about you and she see you are a good boy

    That is why she turn theboth of you back to each other

    - Olamide Oresanwo - 2019-10-12 21:05:37 Quote

  • In this kind of situation, you need to pray fervently to know the root cause of the sudden change and how to overcome it. That will take care of any diabolical influence. But on the other hand, if it is as a result of an assumed better option. Thank God that it happened now and move on with your life.

    - Babatunde Ogunjide - 2019-10-12 21:11:42 Quote

  • I can't really say what caused the sudden change of her attitude towards you. However, you  know grand parents are full of wisdom. Her grand mother might have planted words of wisdom into her and she might have realised her mistakes and want to make amends. Don't be confused. I don't know your age but all the same at the appropriate time your wife will come. Focus on what is important now to make the future bright.

    - Ikemefuna Chukwuenyem - 2019-10-12 21:52:58 Quote

  • Based on logistics bro you are likely loosing her to another fresh dude. What u have to do now is keep calm and observe her. I know you wont find it easy but las las you go smile big cos she will find her mistakes and apologise to you. No rush am neither do u lose your communication with her but pretend as though u dont know her counternance.

    Stay blessed

    - Ogbonna Providence - 2019-10-12 22:55:59 Quote

  • The thing is simple. You said she went to the village to see her grandma. When she got there she might have asked her about your relationship and she decide to take her somewhere to pray about your union and the outcome is unfortune.  

    - Kafilat Atinuke - 2019-10-12 23:21:48 Quote

  • Bro you gotta be patient with your woman.  Its very difficult to understand a woman so you have to take your time and try as much as possible to show her love and care. Ok.  Goodluck

    - Donald Anthony - 2019-10-13 00:00:47 Quote

  • Both good and bad things needs prayer. So I'll urge you to pray for her because we don't know what she encounter In the village and we don't know what her parents told her.

    - Ojo Emmanuel - 2019-10-13 12:31:36 Quote

  • She went and see her grandmother in the village and returned a changed person, not a positive change for that matter, but a negative one. Something must have gone wrong as a result of that visit. Maybe she has been scolded having told her grandma about you, or I'll advised or worked on. Be patient with her, pray and find out what happened.

    - Emmanuel Emmanuel - 2019-10-13 14:33:32 Quote

  • If you have talk to her with ease and she is still not giving you chance then let her be for a while and you too make some changes on your self positively I think within that period that you let her be you will know what is wrong with her and you will know what to do

    - Dedeigbo Idowu - 2019-10-13 15:57:49 Quote

  • People don't just change overnight bro, all of these people have said right in there own perspective and I'll just urge you to calm down and use the resources you have.

    Do you know her very well before this incidence?

    Did you have any major differences before she made that journey?

    What was her reason for going to the village? For this not to look like all these Yoruba movies where a lady I exposed to something in the village and then everything changes. 

    All I'm trying to do is for u not to fold your arms in patience. Not in this situation. This seem to be an appearance of problem and the first thing is understanding what the problem is before your choice of solution.

    - Emerald De Phife - 2019-10-13 16:11:02 Quote

  • I see it that her ground mother has discouraged her.  She did not approve the relationship. It is a normal thing. My father did it to the girls I introduced to him for marriage. So relax and look for another girl. 

    - Chizuram Nwokoukwu - 2019-10-13 16:27:32 Quote

  • Hmm,.. Maybe or maybe not, were they engaged? He said she moved  in together with him since two years ago. Maybe she's tired of the long courtship any logical lady would think the guy is not ready for marriage. A lot of assumptions here, the key is finding out what the problem is.

    - Emerald De Phife - 2019-10-13 16:28:15 Quote

  • That she hate you doesn't bring an end to ur life, it's true u love her so much but understand that another man has taken over her. So their is no need killing urself over someone who doesn't know u exist anymore. Get urself together and keep ur life moving

    - Ejiofor Justice - 2019-10-13 16:49:00 Quote

  • She might have probably gotten another lover, or maybe someone gave her a wrong information about you which is real or appears to be real that made her to hate you without confronting you to know the actual truth! So what you do is to give her sometime and also distant the relationship to watch her actions before demanding her attention for explanation.

    - Chukwuebuka Martin - 2019-10-13 17:41:50 Quote

  • Since she changed her mind abruptly don't force her to tell you what it is or to love you again. She has her reasons and it's best known to her. Try your best to let her be so that she can sort herself out, don't force a woman to love you cos you will suffer it if she say she doesn't live you then let her go. She might regret her actions later

    - Idi Grace - 2019-10-13 18:17:16 Quote

  • You said you love her and want to be with her. Ask yourself if that's what she also want and spend time to observe her. If she stills behave like that, my friend let her go.

    - Atumen Ovuokeronye - 2019-10-13 18:21:18 Quote

  • There's nothing much you can do except to put 

    it into prayers.because only God knows what happened to her when she went to the grandmoms place ..

    And if actually you guys are meant for each other God

    Will surely see to it..all you need to do is pray and have

    Patience.

    - Bamidele Obazu - 2019-10-13 18:26:43 Quote

  • To me, it might be she's just testing you to know what you can do and what you can not do, the tissue of she's in love with some one else is out of it, so far you love her, go ahead and claim your love for her.

    - Sani Umar Faruk - 2019-10-13 18:57:09 Quote

  • We both know this isnt pure, I dont know what her grandma has done to her but she must be related to this one way or another so i would advice you to meet her parents and tell them everything, how it was after she went to the village this attitude of her came up, they must have something to say at least, any little information could be a breakthrough in this situation now. 

    - Rilwani Latifah - 2019-10-13 18:57:25 Quote

  • How can we be sure she actually went to visit her family. Let's not forget that she is not a saint so she might actually be coming from another guy's house and after comparing both she decides to stick with the unknown guy.

    - Chika Ememekwe - 2019-10-13 19:36:32 Quote

  • Be prayerful. The first thing to do is to sit her down and ask her what you did wrong for her character to be changed. You are a man, and the head of the family. If she give no account of what you did wrong. Learn how to be patient, give her time and never change to her but becareful. As time goes on, you will know the fault zone. Good luck

    - Tunde Oduola - 2019-10-13 20:08:01 Quote

  • Patience does it with women, go easy on her, give her a bit of space but from there still shower as much love as you can on her... Text her always reminding her of how much you love and care abt her, dont call cus it might agitated her, send in gifts, don't be too available personally (let your text and gifts be there for you) and pray for her

    - Amokaye Elizabeth - 2019-10-19 22:44:25 Quote

  • My advice is that you need to appreciate God for how she has revealed her true self and intentions earlier. It might hurt you for a while because you love her but please try and move on because it's better to have a broken relationship than have a broken home. Do not get into marriage out of self petty. Cheers!

    - Ab Ikenga - 2019-10-22 21:14:25 Quote

  • Something must have happened in the village for her to behave that way but if you've tried to reason with her and also involved her parents in the issue but doesn't work out. Then i think the best thing for you is to move on because behavior like this mostly just means she found someone else.

    - Chukwuebuka Chigozie - 2019-10-24 11:40:50 Quote

  • Give her time... I think maybe the granny said something that provoked her or maybe she met someone in the village who picked interest in her and is now having doubt about you guys

    - Nwatu Chinecherem - 2019-10-25 14:58:43 Quote

  • Then let her have the space she so much desire to have, and save yourself of all the emotional distress the issue may bring you. If you are certain you didn't do anything wrong, let time heal things and if she is truly yours, she will be back and if she is taking too long, take the necessary steps she left you no choice to take and move forward

    - Adeyinka Adenle - 2019-10-26 11:49:11 Quote

  • From my point of view, i think on that her three days journey, she found another guy that she fell in love with and she is trying to get rid of you or maybe her grandmother bewitch her.all u need to do is to give her space for sometime and keep on praying for her.

    - Ikeeke Elisha - 2019-10-30 11:37:00 Quote

  • Be patient with her and get to the root of the matter. She must have seen or heard something about you that she doesn't like or likely might be testing the level of your  Patience, so try to know what bring up the action and try solving it 

    - Abiona Samuel Charles - 2019-10-30 21:32:18 Quote

  • I say this a lot love is not a guarantee for marriage. It's far more than that. Well, be patient with her and pray she comes around and if she doesn't just move on with your life. You'll get someone better. It might be God trying to save you from something worse

    - Obot Diana - 2019-11-02 16:52:06 Quote

  • In life, people fall in love and also fall out of love. It's so sad to wake up one morning and find out that the one person you love and adore so much is now your worst enemy. In this case, I think you should be more patient with your partner and try to establish communication with her. She might be experiencing mood swings or going through a rough time. keep in touch with her and keep reminding her of how much you love her and how far you are willing to go for her and she will definitely come back to you.

    - Caleb Ohaeri - 2019-12-02 15:27:29 Quote

  • Someone who has loved you for 2years can not just fall out of love for you so there is something she is not telling you..Plead with her to tell you what happened in the village it might be that she does not know how to put it to you but for sure there is something just be patient with her if you truely love her she will come around 

    - Itimi Elohor - 2019-12-23 22:43:24 Quote

  • Then let her have the space she so much desire to have, and save yourself of all the emotional distress the issue may bring you. If you are certain you didn't do anything wrong, let time heal things and if she is truly yours, she will be back and if she is taking too long, take the necessary steps she left you no choice to take and move forward

    - Bamidele Quadri - 2019-12-30 22:40:10 Quote

  • If you love her,you shouldn't give up on her, it's possible that someone probably her grandmother said somethings to her that's making her like that towards you,show her how much you care for her and if she doesn't respond to that then it's probably best to give her some space for a while.

    - Gibbs Nivera - 2019-12-30 22:46:01 Quote

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