I Found Out My Fiancé Lied About Being Raped,

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I've seen girls lying about being raped and I don't know why. 

My best friend has been dating this girl since secondary school and she was a virgin then but both of them got admission into separate universities. Late last year my best friend made a move on her and she declined but few months ago he did the same and she agreed only for him to find out she wasn't intact anymore, and she made up a rape story that everyone believed including her parents. 

Yesterday my best friend called me that he found out his girlfriend lied about being raped, he found conversations of her and her bestie and some guy she calls her school father.. She has a boyfriend in school and she was deflowered by that one. 

My best friend is confused about what to do, he doesn't want to break up with her and he doesn't know how to confront her either. 

What should do you think he should do? 

 

 

 

I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Bolarinwa Oluwaferanmi - 2019-09-11 10:59:56

In my opinion,I feel most girls are just embarrassed by the fact that they lost their virginity and can't own up to it,they then result in making up a rape story.

They believe there wouldn't be much to talk about or rant about if losing the virginity was by rape which anyone would believe was against their consent after all

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Victor Ukoje - 2019-09-11 11:05:19

That show that his girlfriend don't love him anymore. If not she won't have been sleeping around. The vest thing for him to do is to confront her and break up with her, because if they continue the relationship, she can tell greater lies in future.

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Oladoja Bimpe - 2019-09-11 11:49:24

First, work on your headlines please, you are not Linda Ikeji, stop misleading us with topic!

Your friend doesn't want to confront or break up? He should pick a side and stick to it. His girl lied about something life altering so she deserves a life altering confrontation.

But then, he was snooping through her phone, stolen evidence isn't acceptable in a reputable court. But everything is fair in love and war! 

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Alalade Taiwo - 2019-09-11 11:52:29

The  truth of the matter is that , the lady in question does not love the guy. Mostly lady prefer someone they love to disvirgin them than any body. So allowing the guy in the school to disflower her showed where her love belong. i will advice you to be calm and look for your own lover somewhere else

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Abdullahi Nurudeen Olayiwola - 2019-09-11 12:11:25

thatopinion,I feel most girls are just embarrassed by the fact that they lost their virginity and can't own up to it,they then result in making up a  his girlfriend don't that his girlfriend don't love him anymore. If not she won't have been sleeping around. The vest thing for him to do is to confront her and break up with her, because if they continue the relationship, she can tell greater lies in future. him anymore. If not she won't have been sleeping around. The vest thing for him to do is to confront her and break up with her, because if they continue the relationship, she can tell greater lies in future.

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Uche Michael - 2019-09-11 12:50:22

If he found out now well good for him... He has the opportunity of correcting and building the relationship on a more sincere ground... How He approaches her is dependent the things she likes... He has to first create a calm environment where she is happy before bringing up his allegation and letting her understand that their relationship can be built on better grounds than lies... hopefully she would admitt and ask for forgiveness... but if she still continues with her lies then it is better He let her go because that will mean she is not reasonable and a chronic liar as well.

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Shakirudeen Hassan - 2019-09-11 13:02:02

To build a relationship, everything must be based on trust. Deceiving someone you intend to marry shows you do not love the person or can't live up to the consequence of your action. He should confront her, to find out the truth. Than just go into the relationship because he is going to need to trust a lot in the relationship if things are to go smoothly. 

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Kehinde Oladipupo - 2019-09-11 13:05:36

Girls are actually found of making up rape stories, but it is always better to tell the truth, if the guy loves you, he would accept you and if he doesn't, let him go. If you lie and he finds out later, if he leaves, you would get yourself hurt way more than how it would have been if you had told the truth in the beginning.

As for the guy, the ball is in his court. If he still loves her, he can fight for his love. Otherwise, he should leave the girl since she's being unfaithful, it is not sure if the girl won't continue cheating on her with the so called school father, more so that he was the one who deflowered her.

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Martha Chinaza - 2019-09-11 14:17:14

You can't be a virgin forever, we all have feelings and it shouldn't be a thing that you have to lie about. You got deflower by your boyfriend shouldn't be a thing of lie or you change it to rape is a very unfortunate and I can't  try such.

I will advise your friend to make a move by confronting her in person to know her reasons for lying if truly he love her.

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Iniobong Akpan - 2019-09-11 14:20:47

The fear of rejection is the caused of some cooked lies. Looking at the situation where you had only a chance left for you and you can't stand a chance of losing and the lady will do everything to make you stay. Telling the truth is always bitter. You will see some young girls running up and down with a wrong guy and at the end of the day a story will be cooked badly against someone which already, it was on agreement between the two parties

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By PETER MMADUEKE - 2019-09-11 14:59:56

She was scared of losing you and that's why she lied to you. However,if you lobe her caution her inaction and still continue with the relationship. Stop poke nosing around by going thorough her stuffs without her convent because you will end up hurting just yourself.

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Ahmed Olayiwola - 2019-09-11 15:16:39

his girlfriend don't that his girlfriend don't love him anymore. If not she won't have been sleeping around. The vest thing for him to do is to confront her and break up with her, because if they continue the relationship, she can tell greater lies in future. him anymore. If not she won't have been sleeping around. The vest thing for him to do is to confront her and break up with her, because if they continue the relationship, she can tell greater lies in future.Stop poke nosing around by going thorough her stuffs without her convent because you will end up hurting just yourself.

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Maro Ughegbe - 2019-09-11 15:34:34

With the look of things, I dont think the lady really loved him. If she loved him she would have told him about her school boyfriend and who disvirgined her rather she lied and brought up a rape story.

So I think he should just break up with her.

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Godstime Ezarevah - 2019-09-11 16:03:54

He should break up with her and advice her to stop sleeping around and lying that she's not going to get a good relationship with those bad qualities.Je should just remain friends with her and nothing more. 

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Divine Dimkpa - 2019-09-11 16:32:42

I advise u to quit such a relationship cus lies like this is what makes most marriages fail. It makes u loose trust in a person, if she can lie abt this she wud definitely have no difficulty telling other lies

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Marvellous Olatunbosun - 2019-09-11 16:34:15

This can be quite technical and as much as I will disregard and not support anyone saying she must have done so because of shame, I say a big NO! What's the shame their when it was an outside boyfriend who disvirgined you and not an anyhow guy! We guys in my own opinion have to be careful of our we take girl's issue nowadays, some girl's don't even worth most of them at all. COPY THAT!!!

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Divine Peterside - 2019-09-11 17:10:35

The most advisable thing to do in this situation is to confront her, and break up with her.

This is for her to know he has reasons to break up with her,because with this her love for him is not even guaranteed anymore.

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Ottah Blessing - 2019-09-11 17:11:31

I think the girl doesn't love the boy again that's why she went on cheating on him or the boy doesn't give the girl money to maintain herself so she decided to have another boyfriend that will provide her, her needs. And she may have told the guy she was raped maybe because if that she told him the truth he might quite the relationship and she doesn't want such.The guy  should just understand her and know her reasons. If he can continue good if he can't good.

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Amuta Richard - 2019-09-11 17:21:22

First and foremost your best friend made a mistake by thinking her girl will be abstain because of (LOVE) let's be sincere to our set here. The greatest dream we have after sec scholl is going to university the major aim of us going there is to fuck. As a girl she is u don't expect her to just stay & wait for you no offense intended but women are feeble minded with the Daddy & bestie bullcrap nonsense she was deflowered. I know how it feels bro just move on still have a lot of years ahead. Free the girl joor if he can.

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Habeeb Ogunwoolu - 2019-09-11 17:24:30

She might have been scared of losing you but in that same contrast why was she with someone else all because both of you were not together for a little while. She really shouldn't have done that she just proves what's being said now that if your girlfriend leaves for a Nigerian university just forget about her. 

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By TOCHUKWU KINGSLEY OKOYE - 2019-09-11 17:24:49

Girls of nowadays don't like owning up to the fact that they lost their virginity to a guy that dumped them some years back. So when they meet a new boyfriend they will resort to lying and at last they will end up with a story to cover up. It's always like this for girls 

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Chinonso Henry Ikueze - 2019-09-11 17:37:35

I think she lied out of fear, but for what its worth. Truth is priceless. its always better you come out clean and tell the truth than to lie for comfort's sake only for the truth to resurface later on in life. The damages done will be far greater than if you had said the truth. 

I advice that he forgives her if he truly loves her. "love does not count any wrongs"

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By BITRUS SALAMA BARAYA - 2019-09-11 17:50:56

Tell her that you know she is not a virgin and will not forever remain a virgin so there is no point of lying to you. Prove to her that you know the truth about her loosing her virginity so she won't lie to you again.

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Bright Joseph - 2019-09-11 17:59:49

I think he should met her and calmly confront her with his findings and hear from her.... If she opened up to him and tells him the truth and also begs for forgiveness,he should listen and forgive her.....but if she continues with the lies,its best he just forget about her

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Theophilus Elem - 2019-09-11 18:02:51

I don't see how that is a big deal, if the incident doesn't affect their relationship in any way, i don't see how should be a problem in a relationship. Secondly, women are quite secretuve when it comes to their sexual life, they will have to really trust you to open up to you, beside will you tell her how many girls you slept with? 

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Ogbonna Nnaemeka - 2019-09-11 18:04:48

I think the girl is embarrassed about the issue that's why she lied to him and I blame her probably she loves the boy that's why she allowed him touch her, and as for the boy in school they say "closeness is a relationship" so it might be because the main guy is not around or any other reason known to her 

So my advice is if the guy truly loves the gal I don't think this issue should separate them 

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Gbenga Nelson - 2019-09-11 18:17:04

That show that his girlfriend don't love him anymore. If not she won't have been sleeping around. The vest thing for him to do is to confront her and break up with her, because if they continue the relationship, she can tell greater lies in future.

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Eterigho Emmanuel - 2019-09-11 18:34:50

There are some things that are just baffling... Rape is a sensitive matter. 

If she can lie about such only God knows what she can't lie about. 

I won't harm her or anything, I just might end the relationship. 

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Emmanuel Favour - 2019-09-11 18:54:05

This is God's hand. He just delivered you from a broken marriage in the nearest future. 

I don't know about you but in my opinion a broken relationship is way better than a broken marriage 

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Adesola Gideon Oguntola - 2019-09-11 18:57:04

Head to certainly do one it's either he confronts her with the fact or vice versa, relationship should not be blamed on lies and on the other hand he should try listen to her version of the story again she might have something to say but the truth is he should confront her if he truly loves her

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Agbo Catherine - 2019-09-11 19:04:20

The thing is that she didn't know how to tell you the truth because she doesn't know what your reaction would be due to the fact that you've been together for so long and loosing her virginity to a stranger is disappointing...

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Nwosu Vincent - 2019-09-11 19:20:41

Since He still Love her, the best thing is to confront her, ask her to tell you the truth and nothing but the truth of her losing her flower, then know what she will say, if she still lie to you, then the best advice is to live her because she can never be faithful to you

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Ehikioya Elisha - 2019-09-11 19:24:24

My brother tell your best friend to break up with her with immediate effect after comfronting her 

Don't even try and hear any explanation, there is no trust again and she's cheating on him thats the line 

BREAK UP WITH HER

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Oriasotie Eghonghon - 2019-09-11 19:27:08

I honestly don't think it's okay in any situation to lie about being raped she's two timing and i don't think that's acceptable in my opinion i think after the necessary confrontation he should call of the relationship but if he thinks he loves her enough to look past this then they need to communicate more

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Michael George - 2019-09-11 19:47:27

It's very hard to made any decisions here, the decisions is left to the guy, the reason for this might be one or two things but for the girl not to leave her boyfriend, I think she's in love with him and she doesn't want him to know so he won't get hurt 

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Adeleke Ibrahim Anu - 2019-09-11 20:04:08

Am sure she lied to you because she really have genuine feelings for you and she doesn't want to lose you and u trust in her

What is done is done and can never be reversed so it's up to you to man up ask for an explanation and tell she could trust you with anything

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By John Vincent - 2019-09-11 20:45:08

I don't think the girlfriend loves him as she used to. Lies should be a no no in any relationship she should have explained things out to the guy, if he would stay he would and if he won't he won't

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Franklin Okafor - 2019-09-11 20:45:56

I have being in this shoe before. I will suggest if you love your girlfriend, punish her a bit and then call her to order. If you can't handle it, move on bro

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Emmanuella Irimoren - 2019-09-11 20:49:58

In my opinion I feel like you should confront her and ask her about it first.she lied about something very serious but don't judge her because of it .you don't Know her side of the story .I also try to encourage forgiveness too

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Richard Olumide Okorocha - 2019-09-11 20:52:15

Well obviously his girlfriend is cheating on him, he has to either find a way to make her come clean herself or catch her red handed, if he chooses not to break up with her because of love then I'd say he shouldn't confront her cause that can definitely lead to a break up 

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Richard Olumide Okorocha - 2019-09-11 20:52:17

Well obviously his girlfriend is cheating on him, he has to either find a way to make her come clean herself or catch her red handed, if he chooses not to break up with her because of love then I'd say he shouldn't confront her cause that can definitely lead to a break up 

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Izuchi Gospel Okogbue - 2019-09-11 20:52:59

Seriously, this one weak me ooh, I have been wondering, what do people benefit from lying, making people believe you in what you know that is never the truth, and they don't even think how that person will feel about them if finally the person finds out the truth.

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Jacob Oluwadamilola - 2019-09-11 20:57:52

To me oo... If I trust myself to trust you and I later find out that what you told me was a lie. I would rather walk away beacuase I will have it in mind that you are still gonna lie. My advice is find a way to confront her and tell her if she ever lie to you again that's the end since you said you love her. 

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Oluwadarasimi Stephen - 2019-09-11 21:07:14

The first question is that were you in love with her because she is a virgin?  If the answer is 'Yes' then there's no point for you to continue the relationship,  but if the answer is 'No' then why would you quit?  So the ball is in your court. 

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Olusegun Oluwatosin mercy - 2019-09-11 21:12:28

I think she just scared of losing you, Maybe that's why she has to lied to you about it ... Because the fear of rejection is the caused of this , telling the truth will not kill you and any guy that truly love you will stay with you no matter what happened... 

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Mary Ogbinya - 2019-09-11 21:34:37

Perhaps she cooked up a rape story because she didn't know how to start telling you the whole story...... If you still love her, then continue with her but please make her understand that you know the whole truth and you wouldn't want her to lie to you about anything again.

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Trixie Osas - 2019-09-11 21:35:58

I think he should consider leaving her because if she can keep that from the guy what else can't she keep? She is just a liar and not be forgotten

The guy should just move on instead of killing himself on a liar like her

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Michael Eboh - 2019-09-11 21:43:46

The childish mindset in the first place should be waved out right away. She is not the only girl in the world and so my candid advice is for the young man to move on in life. She has shown some level of indiscipline in that relationship. He should let go of any form of wrong notion or belive and focus attention more in his career and future.

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Christopher Gwaze - 2019-09-11 22:07:39

That girl is not a good  one.since she can not tell your friend that she have came of age.what did he want to hear from the girl again?that girl doesn't belong to your friend,let him go and find his partner else where.

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I found out my fiancé lied about being raped, - By Babalola Oyinkansola - 2019-09-11 22:18:24

What she did is bad thou by telling lies but you can't just jump into conclusion that she don't love you or want to break up with her

I will advice you to call her privately and confront her and her excuse is going to determine if you will still continue with her or not

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