I Think I Need A Second Wife

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I am a successful businessman living in Lagos with my wife and two kids. My wife is a full house wife which takes care of the family with the best of her capabilities and I love and revere her. Nonetheless, I have encouraged her to get a job but she doesn't feel like it.

Of recent, she has started gaining weight and even though she knows I don't like her being, she is not making effort to even exercise a little and due to the fat, she sweats more often and it sometimes make her have body odor .

I was hoping even if she doesn't want to work, she would exercise a little and probably burn some calories. She chose not to listen to me. Nowadays, business have been making me travel within and outside the country.

I get to meet many people and amongst them slim pretty ladies. Ladies I used to wish my wife will have a s*xy figure like theirs. The more I travel, the more am tempted to have a s*xual encounter with the ladies. I don't want to cheat on my wife so have been lately thinking of getting married to another lady. I hope am not being a bad husband.

I think I need a second wife - By Nonso Olisa - 2019-10-27 15:55:48

Encourage her, tell her what is necessary and important for her, and always stand beside her, marrying another wife isn't the best option, besides how do you know if the next one won't become like that, and if she does will you go ahead and marry a third or fourth wife ?. Think about it..

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I think I need a second wife - By Akande Esther - 2019-10-27 16:02:23

I think if you really love your wife as much as you said, you would never want to hurt her in any way...and getting a new wife is definitely going to hurt her a lot....No matter how big she might be, she can definitely reduce but you need to help her too..You can ask her politely in a way which wouldn't upset her and also do make sure you never body shame her or make her feel bad about herself for any reason. 

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I think I need a second wife - By Damisa Nita - 2019-10-27 17:31:35

Marrying another wife isn't the solution to the problem

If she is to lazy to exercise

Buy her slimming tea and pills that will help curb her eating  habits and manage her weight gain

U can actually try out @strictly weightloss via Instagram

They are good at what they do

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I think I need a second wife - By Anigboro Gift - 2019-10-27 17:32:54

You're her husband .. She's suppose to abide by what you say.. Tell her to do what's necessary to do.. Advise her. She's your wife.. You don't have to get married to another woman.. Please ..youve already made a vow at the altar so you can't change that because of any circumstances 

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I think I need a second wife - By Sunday Thankgod - 2019-10-27 18:19:05

I don't think There's no need going for a second wife, marriage is all about endurance and patience. Going for another wife because your wife is adding weight isn't ideal at all. Continue to talk to her, make her to understand how and what you want from her.

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I think I need a second wife - By Togun Moses - 2019-10-27 18:27:06

You don't need to marry another wife,if she's not listening to you,pretend like you have fallen for another woman and absent yourself in the house for some days. No one will tell her before she starts regretting her actions and she will start working on her weight.

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I think I need a second wife - By Olufunke Edmond - 2019-10-28 07:33:55

Marrying another wife isn't the best solution and will not solve the problem...did i say problem? Its not a problem. The only problem will be bringing in another wife which cannot never salvage the situation but worsen it. Your wife needs encouragement. Don't abandon her. Show her more love. Pregnancy probably made her gain weight. Make out time to go jogging with her, do exercises together whereby you're showing her that you care about her. It'll even make it more fun and exciting.

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I think I need a second wife - By Adekoya Timilehin - 2019-10-28 08:39:35

This is a kind of funny story, i suggest you stick to your wife because what if the second wife turns out to be the same as the first one. Just sit your wife down let her know how serious you are about the issue and help her get better.

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I think I need a second wife - By Ogiriki Ifeanyi Daniel - 2019-10-28 09:39:14

You need to tell her that she is giving you reasons to consider marrying a second wife with the way she is adding weight. Make her understand how important it is for her to slim down. You need to talk things over with your wife instead of rushing to get a second wife. How sure are you that the second wife will not add weight with time ? At the end you will end up marrying more than 3 wives.

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I think I need a second wife - By Ayinla Oluwatosin - 2019-10-28 09:54:52

Having a second wife I don’t think it’s a good idea because there is no how there wouldn’t be problem even though the husband is rich there would be a problem one day so having a second I don’t think it’s a good idea 

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I think I need a second wife - By Trimidhi khadijah Idowu - 2019-10-28 11:06:21

It will be very bad of you to marry another wife.Well I understand u because there is no one that is expected from being tempted.you just try to encourage her on how to burn out some calories.Moreover she has two kids already she is fat due to pregnancy because pregnancy most of the times do allow mothers to gain weight 

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I think I need a second wife - By Nnabuife Darlinton - 2019-10-28 11:35:45

Getting married to another wife is not right, remember for better or worse.

Try to make her see reason and know that her recent body weight is pushing you away, no woman wants her man to leave her or cheat on her. Hearing this she would shape up

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I think I need a second wife - By Franklin Okoye - 2019-10-28 12:14:43

Wow its a pity that your wife's current physic is making you think otherwise, first and foremost you can remember that when got married to her she wasn't like this, it started after a while. So how are you sure that if you get married to another woman and after awhile she will not be fatter than your wife is now. So my brother continue to do your best and also see if you can register her in a gym center or sometimes take her out for jogging & other exercises. After all she is not a bad woman, she just needs management 

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I think I need a second wife - By queen ezifeh - 2019-10-28 12:26:43

Getting married to another woman is not the best option. Of course those ones you see outside will get fat as well when they get married and start having kids too. just make sure she doesn't eat late night food at least her last meal should not exceed 6:00pm. 

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I think I need a second wife - By Chidera Amadike - 2019-10-28 14:23:21

I am not in support of polygamous marriages and I believe that you should give your wife a second chance , you should talk to her and try to let her know her faults and bad habits, so that she might change.

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I think I need a second wife - By Abdullahi Olaoye - 2019-10-28 18:03:51

There is nothing actually bad in having a second wife. If you can afford to take care of both of them then there is no problem. But first discuss it with your wife let her understand the reason you decided to take in another wife.

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I think I need a second wife - By Ealefoh Adesuwa - 2019-10-28 21:11:24

Honestly, this is not a good reason of wanting to marry someone else. There are drugs that can slim down someone. Buy those drugs for her.

Am wondering if you married her because of her beauty or because of love..

Anyway, it normal for a woman to expand after giving birth

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I think I need a second wife - By Muhammad Nafisat Anuhi - 2019-10-29 08:18:09

I understand it might be frustrating for you but you need to know she have to be motivated and encouraged to get what you want. Talk to her about the effects of been obesed and how much you feel it's affecting your marriage. Talk to her like she is a child and an adult at the same time. 

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I think I need a second wife - By Oluwatoyin Adetokunbo - 2019-10-29 08:56:31

You don't need a second wife honestly I see no reasons why. If you truly love your wife as much as you promised to do you should be content with her and I know she'll do all that you desire to make you happy.

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I think I need a second wife - By Chinwe Okeke - 2019-10-29 09:38:10

What you should bear in mind first is that body type differs. So far a woman has given birth to one or two if its those with big muscle whether they are working or not they will be adding weight as their age progresses. Try and persuade her to start exercising but for taking a second wife hmmm time will reach for the third one ooo.

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I think I need a second wife - By Oghoghomena Osah - 2019-10-29 09:48:35

The peace you are enjoying now in your marital life would be nonexistent if you embark on this journey.

I would strongly advise you to fast and pray if you are a Christian, communicate your feelings to your wife, help her through this phase and I assure you won't regret the rebranding process, add spark to your marriage.

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I think I need a second wife - By Irene Obas - 2019-10-29 12:29:24

The solution to your problem is definitely not taking a second wife. You should make your feelings and perspectives more clear to your wife. You can even threaten her to get married to a slim girl, this might make her start to take of her bodz again. Also, you could talk to her mother to talk to her as she might listen more to her mother. I respect the fact that you don't want to cheat on your wife, that's a good one sir.

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I think I need a second wife - By Megwa Augustine - 2019-10-29 13:32:09

Your wife you confessed that you loved her, getting another wife is not an option for now, Talk to your wife make up time, take her to exercise. Make her to see what give you feeling, encourage her to watch her calories and also exercises. Dont give up on her and don't give in for another wife. God bless you.

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I think I need a second wife - By Nelly David - 2019-10-29 19:16:23

A second marriage will only make your life more difficult. Talk to your wife bluntly about what you want. And if she doesn't like the idea of exercise, there are different ways such as checking the kind of food she eats. Please you have to strike a balance between what you want and what she wants, am sure there are positive things about her too, so also look on that aspect too.

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I think I need a second wife - By Favour Idubor - 2019-10-30 09:46:33

When you entered into that relationship, you made a vow for better  for worse. Patience is a great virtue that you need in marriage. Just be patient with her. A little more push, more communication will do wonders. The slim ladies you are seeing today and wanting to Mary might still get into your life and, get fatter than your face. Change is the only thing that is constant. 

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I think I need a second wife - By Oluwakemi Rosanwo - 2019-10-30 10:37:53

First and foremost marrying a second wife is not the solution but there are ways to deal with situations like this and that definitely doesn't include marrying a second wife... You can shape your wife to the person you want her to be. 

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I think I need a second wife - By Godwin Sani - 2019-10-30 13:26:53

Sit her down talk to her let her know why you don't like her present being so she should work on her self and she should do things that will make her attractive to you bcos you love her so much, and pls don't think of having another wife bcos i bet you, you wouldn't want to know the risks involved in having two wife's

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I think I need a second wife - By Ife Peter - 2019-10-30 15:13:53

As a husband,you are the head the family. With this you can correct your wife based on the thing she does that irritate you. You have to teach her through love so that she will not misunderstand you, doing this your problem will be solved.

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I think I need a second wife - By Nelson Phillip - 2019-10-30 15:53:25

That's not Enough reason for you to go and quiet the marriage if you still love her take good care of her because you getting married again is like putting your self in to a fire with your eyes wild open.

I won't advice you to get married again

But to take care of the one you have

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I think I need a second wife - By Ehiosun Victory - 2019-10-30 17:03:56

You don't need to marry another wife,if she's not listening to you,pretend like you have fallen for another woman and absent yourself in the house for some days. No one will tell her before she starts regretting her actions and she will start working on her weight.

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I think I need a second wife - By Gpower Art - 2019-10-31 07:56:59

I don't advise you to get another wife because that's another problem you will have to deal with, despite the fact that she has the body figure you prefer, she too has problems you may not be able to handle. Just try to encourage your wife on the bad sides of not losing weight.

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I think I need a second wife - By Stephanie Ani - 2019-10-31 08:17:04

Its not an easy thing to exercise or loose weight especially when you're not the hardworking type. But that doesn't justify your reason for bringing in another woman into your home and breaking the sanctity of your marriage. Your wife's body structure should never be a reason for disregarding her. Take things easy with her, talk her through it calmly and let her see your good intentions by making her loose weight 

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I think I need a second wife - By Clement Faith - 2019-11-01 12:42:44

Marrying another wife is not the solution  sir... Women change due to child birth  and age processes and it isn't  an easy process carrying another human inside for nine good months. 

I think she needs to see a physiologist  and then let her diet what if you marry another  wife and after child birth  she is fatter than your first wife will you marry a third wife?. 

And it will break not just her heart but that of the the kids. 

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I think I need a second wife - By Giwa Aderayo - 2019-11-01 15:00:29

Don't you think you can help her be what you want?

This is when she needs you the most. You should really be of help to her. 

You don't need a second wife sir.

All you need is to help her improve herself.

You can actually take her to see a counsellor

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I think I need a second wife - By Odey Joseph ubu - 2019-11-02 10:52:00

Getting married for the second time won't make things better . One have to consider the children between you and your wife. Considering the effect it will have on the children due to separation from one of their parents. It's better to ameliorate things with your wife in a peaceful manner . 

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I think I need a second wife - By Adewale Gideon - 2019-11-02 10:53:34

Don't you think,  it will take you another long period of time to get used to the second wife character or way of life. The physical appearance don't really matters,  but the love you both shared. But is good letting her know how you feel whenever you see slam lady. Plead in love,  to her for adjustments. Getting a second wife in this kind of situation is like complicating things the more. You can even open a business store for her in a place nt too closer to home not to far from home. just to make her busy. 

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I think I need a second wife - By Bashirah salaudeen - 2019-11-04 15:37:58

From my own opinion I think you should tell someone close to her I mean like an elderly woman who can talk to her ,it might actually work because she wouldn't want to see another woman take her man and she will abide by what you want and may even go extra miles to please you so taking another wife might not solve the problem its just going to cause jealousy and hatred

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I think I need a second wife - By Ajanaku Tope - 2019-11-04 18:45:23

You do not need another wife to solve the problem because you have not warned her that you'll marry another wife if she does not do what you want her to do. 

Getting another wife is like bringing another problem home and problem I mean in so many ways.

The best thing to do is sit her down and talk to her. 

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I think I need a second wife - By Jeremiah Oduota - 2019-11-06 19:49:28

Trust me getting a second wife won't solve your problem you need to try harder to get your wife up and working on herself you should treaten her you will get tired of her if she continues you can even tell her that her actions are making you look outside it will get her jealous and maybe and hopefully motivate herself

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I think I need a second wife - By Ayomide Ajayi - 2019-11-07 09:16:48

Honestly to my opinion marrying a second wife aint a nice thing or a thing that is acceptable to me,If you truly love your wife you wont try to hurt her at any cost if you marry a second wife it would hurt her so much try to spend time to explain thing to her and pray she does change

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I think I need a second wife - By Kiladejo Adesewa - 2019-11-09 09:11:54

I know if you love her as you've said.. You won't want to cheat on her.. She's still your wife no matter what.. So try and show her the love she deserves. Encourage her to go out for exercises and if possible get her slimming tees and coffees. Cheating on her won't help the situation 

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I think I need a second wife - By Jacinta Okoliekwe - 2019-11-09 20:37:28

Well I'm not married but I think love should go beyond just physic of a lady... most ladies are prone to add weight due to pregnancy and child birth.... I personally do not think it's enough reason to get a second wife because trust me, she's  gonna get fat too.!

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I think I need a second wife - By Finnih Oluwatimilehin - 2019-11-11 15:28:32

It's all Balls down to how you present the issue to her I feel you should express how you feel to her and most importantly encourage and give her moral support. When next you travel keep on reminding yourself how much you love your wife and you'll be able to cope with the temptations

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I think I need a second wife - By Ojamegha Oghenekovwhoro - 2019-11-14 06:32:51

Don't ever think of going for another wife because what is happening to the first one now might happen again and you can't tell. It might even end up being the worst and your so long built family will scatter. When ever you are around always do those exercises you wished she does and invite her in a romantic way.

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