If You Were In His Shoes What Would You Do To Your Ex?

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A man built a company and kept a low profile. Only his manager and his secretary knew he was the actual owner of the company because he told the manager to act as the owner.

He would only visit the company once in a long while in disguise as a customer or cleaner. So one day he was at the company and he saw his Ex-girl friend working as a staff. So he instructed the manager to promote her to the rank of a chief H.R.O. 

The next week, he decided to go there as a job seeker with his CV . On entering his Ex's office for interview, she immediately sent him off, that no way will he be employed in that company to work. He returns the next day to beg her but she blatantly refused.

The next week, he goes in his real person as the owner of the company, and when the manager called his Ex to come and pay homage to the rightful owner of the company, she was shocked and falls on his feet begging for forgiveness.

if you were in his position, what will you do??

If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By Kenechukwu Lawrence - 2019-09-27 18:18:26

For most people, it wont be easy to forgive, and may even send her away.

But me, I'll act like a mature person, look at her for sometime while she falls to the ground, and help her get up, and say it's okay. And she says 'thank u so much', with that I've earned more self respect,  and her respect.

That's what any gentleman will do.

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By David Olaniyi - 2019-09-27 18:23:22

Making it personal is not required. The person already shamed her prided by showing himself as the owner of the company. He should take into consideration how good she does her job and how important she is to the company. I wouldn't send her away as for me.

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By David Olaniyi - 2019-09-27 18:23:50

Making it personal is not required. The person already shamed her prided by showing himself as the owner of the company. He should take into consideration how good she does her job and how important she is to the company. I wouldn't send her away as for me.

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By Emmanuel Aibueku - 2019-09-27 18:25:19

Lolzz! Hilarious.  

To me, I won't kick her off.  I will get answer why she refuse to see, talk or even gave me the job and after that,  I will demote her and tell her if she cannot manage the demoted position,  she should then exit the company and never to return or come close to the company again

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By Don Simon® - 2019-09-27 18:33:23

Actually there is nothing not worth forgiveness, and on a second note, its depending on what happened when they were still dating, maybe the lady cheated or the man cheated, because there's so many things that can make that lady behaved that way, actually pride would've set in, because I believe that the company would be a very big company!! 

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By olalekan Adetutu - 2019-09-27 18:37:19

Hmm mm out of selfishness she has already remove her self from work,if it is me she can never work with me anymore because I don't think she supposed to use the past to react assuming truly he is not the boss of that company and there is vacant that is how she is going to reject  him

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By Eke Kingsley - 2019-09-27 18:41:46

what I will do is simple, I will not sack her but I will demote her to her previous position because she is not good in the new position, she dont have the qualities of a good H R , even in her new position, I will have to give her a closer watch to know how she deals with it, if i find her not capable then I will relieve her of her duties.

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By SHAIBU KEHINDE MERCY - 2019-09-27 18:50:24

Some people will sight it very difficult but no as children of God,we need to learn how to forgive, since she has realized her mistake and has also apologize he need to forgive 

As we sined against our Father in heaven and He also forgive us

Let's learn how to forgive,May God help us

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By Aiyelabegan Bukola - 2019-09-27 18:51:05

Hmmm, that's really hard but I'll forgive her. As a popular adage says, Two wrongs doesn't make a right. The fact that she did something bad to you when you were pretending to look for a job doesn't mean you should retaliate now that you made her know that you're even the owner of the company.

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By Daboketima Bob-Manuel - 2019-09-27 18:55:08

This is a story that shows a twist of fate. The Manager played a real smart one there to actually prove the attitude of his ex after their break up. If I was the Manager, I would not send her off the job,but just keep her in the office or demote her so she will know and learn the benefits of kindness and good behaviour.

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By Oyekola Olamide - 2019-09-27 19:25:00

This is so funny, My Advice for you is to Accept her back to the Office. Because being in that position is not your Hand work, if not Almighty God work. Because if you sack her, due to what she did to you, that will Affect some other people. Because she will have some children to feed. So dont do that.

Just Retain her there and make sure there is nothing that will make you fall in lobe to her again, because if you mistakenly marry her back, she doesn't love you. She will just do that due to the money you have.

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By Sodeeq Sowande - 2019-09-27 19:40:02

Hmmm there is nothing we can do about it because if we are still jobless we won't behave like a bad person we act nice but when we achieve what we want we turn to something else if I were the owner of the company I will try to forgive her but we can no longer work together but I will help her solve little of her problems

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By Sayaolu Remilekun - 2019-09-27 19:54:47

If it's me, since there is nothing intimacy among us for the sake of God I will forgive her I will not sack her but will return her to the former post she was and pay her what that post deserves. She it please her she continue and if not she can resign. 

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By Abigail Mayowa - 2019-09-27 20:06:33

Well, punishing her has no value to me,the fact she has recognized me as the C.E.O is enough to shock her and punish her.

If you guys left yourself without any misunderstanding,there won't be all this hatred.Had it been you left on a free mind,you guys will be happy to see each other again despiyd the fact that you might not date each other again 

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By Owolabi Ayomide - 2019-09-27 20:24:03

I'd leave her and let her be, I know she deserves to be sacked because I don't know how she will attend to other people who comes for jobs too, but we never can tell who is depending on her too, I can only demote her a little,and let her follow the right step to get back to that HRO position. 

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By Edna Pada - 2019-09-27 20:55:26

The right thing to do is to employ her back she will be surprised by your act of kindness after what she did to you and, she will be embarrassed because you proved her wrong and did the opposite imstead of sacking her and besides there is a saying " to err I human to forgive is divine".

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By Adeyemi Adeola Aminat - 2019-09-27 21:10:14

Depends on their past relationship and also depends on the man. If the man is someone who can let her actions go,the she's good to go. If the man's the opposite, he might as well do what he wishes after all it's his company

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By Christian Onwuka - 2019-09-27 21:22:47

Truth is that the girl didn't try but I Will forgive her because I believe she acted under her emotions but people should learn from this because you occupy one juicy position doesn't mean you should use it against people that hurt you in the past

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By Godson Omejua - 2019-09-27 21:40:12

Since she used feelings to work against me I would have done same when she realized who I was in the company. But as a kind and humbleman who doesn't judge with past life and wicked act meted on me, I'll forgive her and talk to her on the need to be very kind and respectful even to the she hates

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By Emmanuel Agbasielo - 2019-09-27 21:45:07

In actual sense,many people might sack her if they were in your shoes but I must let you know that she did that out of ignorance. Of course,it's a normal thing to reject someone employment especially if you don't know the person or if the person isn't qualified. If she saw an important thing about you,I'm sure she would have approved your employment proposal.

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By Emmanuel Agbasielo - 2019-09-27 21:45:18

In actual sense,many people might sack her if they were in your shoes but I must let you know that she did that out of ignorance. Of course,it's a normal thing to reject someone employment especially if you don't know the person or if the person isn't qualified. If she saw an important thing about you,I'm sure she would have approved your employment proposal.

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By Henry Onyemekesi - 2019-09-27 21:48:31

A very funny story...

Putting myself in his shoes, I won't sack her but I'll demote her to a department were she has to proven her loyalty to the company. And if I'm not satisfied with her performance then I'll have to sack her because such person can bring the company down indirectly.

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By Abimbola Jemilat - 2019-09-27 22:02:05

There is no point giving too much attitude. The lady already brought down her pride to ask for forgiveness. Though it might not be easy but then, it's not such a good thing to make people lose their jobs. At the worst then, I may return her to her normal former position. 

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By Oluwayemisi Adebisi - 2019-09-27 22:13:22

To me I will not sack her because most of company don't allow husband and wife to work together in the same place talkless of boyfriend and girlfriend or future partner, because they believe that when they issued at home or in their relationship It will affect the office work. So what the lady did is right because if she employ her ex that may give them the chance to be together again and if the CEO of the company knows about it they will be sack.

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By Okpako Rukevwe - 2019-09-27 22:18:16

It would be to just fire her but we are all humans In this case I would return her to her original position because she will most likely let emotions control her judgement. But I would also study her to see if she is good at what she does if that's the case I would let her keep her the position as HRO

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By Garuba Musa - 2019-09-27 22:20:36

If I was the one I won't think of forgiving her because if I was the one who really needed her help she won't have mercy on me

Forgiving her might not change anything, she might want to even destroy the company which won't be good for me and my employees 

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By Yomi Clout - 2019-09-27 22:21:39

See on this issue we need to learn how to forgive and forget,this life is too short for all that perhaps we human do offend God everytime and we still ask for forgiveness and he still answers us

Taking the ex back it hasnt a big deal tho

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By Najib Sani - 2019-09-27 22:22:41

My ex... That one NA old story ooo... She can still be my girlfriend, if I truly loves her, I will just forgive her. I will later proposed to her, since now I have money no reason to separate again. Most importantly, she has learnt from this experience, she can't dare repeat this kind mistake again, for the whole of her life.

So I will forgive her.

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By Emmanuel Jacob - 2019-09-27 22:25:15

The way women think is quite different from the way men think and persons are also different. If it were me I would forgive the Ex so that she could see that life is not about paying evil with evil. She didn't see beyond her current position that was why she acted that way.

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By Mercy Nwaimo - 2019-09-27 22:31:17

She deserve  no mercy,  if she was treated that way when she came looking for job will she be happy

This are the reasons God with holds some persons blessing because he knows that when he bless them they will use it to oppress others. 

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By Michael Eboh - 2019-09-27 22:37:48

This really tells you of how humans behave. This is exactly the same story of many surprises to happen on the last day. The young man who owns the company decided to test his ex girlfriend to know how she would react seeing him as a poor man looking for a job. The result is very clear here as the ladies would never appreciate the young man afterwords. If were him and to be honest, I would send he out of the company.

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By Idiris Opeyemi - 2019-09-27 22:42:11

As for me,i would surely forgive her and i would let her know life is not the ways she sees it and let her see how things works

We all know ladys are not that clam at all,they always want to show their self when its the matter that their ex is involved and they have power in their hands

Just let it go and let her continue her job.she has learn big lesson

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By Ime Henry - 2019-09-27 23:06:08

Honestly, you guys should be matured for once, if there are terms and conditions that state that u shouldn't do that. Then your friend is coming, tell your landlord and explain everything to him and if he doesn't still agree, don't proof stubborn explain to that person coming to stay In a different place.

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By Aikhomu Daniel - 2019-09-27 23:40:35

If it was some other people they will forgive her but in my case I think I will not because imagine I was actually seeking for a job and she was really given that position she didn't even give me a chance to talk at least if things had happened in the past she should let it go then behave matured at least she should be willing to give another chance no matter what has happened between the two of them so for me I will not forgive her we just tell her to leave the office circle

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By Isomkwo Clement - 2019-09-27 23:41:07

Real men like me won't send the lady away, because the respect we will get from the lady and other people when we forgive the lady and act as if nothing has happened is more than the critics we will get when we send the lady away.

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By Megwa Augustine - 2019-09-28 00:16:49

The  HRO acted immature maybe the ex perviously cheated on her or stuff like that.  Now the CEO should be more mature here, He should forgive her and the her ignorant, but you have to decide whether you will allow her to  still work in the organization or not.

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By Okeke Favour - 2019-09-28 00:38:00

If I where him I will personally still maintain her as my staff just to prove to her that am greater than her and her conscience won't stop blaming her,I bet you from there she will learn how to treat people no matter how bad you feel about them because no one knows what tommorow will be

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By Farouk Muibi-Eleha - 2019-09-28 00:59:19

Well, what I think should be done in a situation like this is to forgive her and let her know the basics of life that it isn't everyone that has the grace to in a high post. And those trying to get should never be brought because of a useless past or disregard infatuating he's your ex or she's your ex because might not know where that person you disregarded today might be tomorrow. He or she  might be the next ladder to your success and imagine the person does the same thing you did to them back then so I'd say you just forgive and let go of everything eventually you guys might even patch things up you know. One can't say love is a very unexpected feeling. Thanks 

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By Adirika Chisom - 2019-09-28 02:40:12

Guy if it's me I won't have mercy on her at all . I will make sure that she is sacked from the job . If you try and have mercy on her  , who knows she maybe planning to remove you as the owner of the company, somebody that doesn't want to give you job can do it. So bro I advice you to sack her from the job 

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By Ismail Motunrayo - 2019-09-28 06:24:55

Am definitely gonna forgive her, but she has to go back to her previous position, then she should work her way to the top, because the position she was in wasn't due to her work. This will teach her a lesson that if you find yourself in a high post, don't use ur position to oppress others rather find a way to bring them up.

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By George Belema - 2019-09-28 09:17:38

I would put her back to her former level and won't communicate with her again, I would only tell her that I was just testing her to know if she has changed, but she will be demoted to her former position

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By Omosivwe Jonathan - 2019-09-28 11:29:45

Karma isn’t unjust in anyway, you get what you give. He did good for even coming the next day to try and beg her again; and she was even wicked enough to still decline his plea. If I were the CEO I’d just demote her back to her previous position, afterall I ordered the promotion not knowing whether she deserved it or not, that’d be her punishment. 

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By Mordi Christian - 2019-09-28 14:19:10

This is a very complicated matter.if I was the man who owns the company, I will let her in and hear what she have to say, everyone has reasons for their actions and maybe she doesn't want to see her ex working with her in the same company. It all depends on what happened between them in past . she might still have those hatred for her ex because of what happened in the past. Maybe this is the right time to know what's wrong and settle things amicably

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By Komolafe Adeola - 2019-09-28 14:37:36

I'll forgive her,it wasn't her fault because most times people are not always in good terms with their ex's even if they are ,their is always a hidden grudge.so what she did to him might be as a result of an something she had in mind against him when they were together,so if I were him I'll forgive and forget

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By Victor Akinwumi - 2019-09-28 15:00:23

The point has been well made and driven home, there's no need for hostilities. Besides we don't really know the kind of lover the company owner was before they broke up which may actually have made her react the way she did. So I say they bury the hatchet ,no more bad blood and they keep a professional relationship. 

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By Austin Chinedu - 2019-09-28 15:26:44

I will forgive her and send her away because she showed no mercy to the person in need, because the woman has no forgiveness spirit despite all begging and pleading for mercy and she refused to show mercy so mercy can not be shown to her.

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By TOCHUKWU KINGSLEY OKOYE - 2019-09-28 15:29:54

She is a gold digger and an ungrateful person because she thinks she has a better job then she can do anything she wants and now she knows she is at Mercy of the owner she is begging. 

I will not sack her instead I will demote her so that she will not have power to hurt anyone else anymore. After the demotion if she decides to leave the company it will be her decision not mine. 

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By Adewumi Ayodeji - 2019-09-28 15:42:59

There must be a genuine reason for the way she treated him by not giving him the job. The guys must have been moustorous to the lady during there relationship no one can tell .. What I would suggest is to forgive even though it is so difficult. 

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By Ibrahim Abdulqodir - 2019-09-28 15:47:34

Firstly, I don't know what might be the cause of their separation. I may decide the girl was the cause of their separation while it may be the guy. So meeting again and getting in that condition you just have to act mature. We offend God and he forgives us so while not forgive her too.

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If you were in his shoes what would you do to your ex? - By Ndukwe Ikechukwu - 2019-09-28 15:51:47

What I will actually do is to forgive her, she might still be hurting all these years and most importantly because she begged for forgiveness. But I'll definitely remove her from that position because she allowed sentiments get in the way of business which is not very acceptable as far as business is concerned, so I'll demote her not because she is my ex but because of her attitude.

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