Is Being Gay A Choice Or Unavoidable

I write not because am gay but the sentiment attached to being gay is outrageous. I went to a boarding school and was opportuned to see a gay guy. He was hated, threatened and even beaten sometimes.

So we sat and talked. And i asked why he couldn't just try and be like us ,like a real guy. He replied and said he tries everyday but it just biological, he can't control it. He said the same way i feel attached to girl and wanna get them is the same way he see guys. And i asked if he couldn't just fight it and he replied" GO ASK GOD". 

Being gay is not a choice, its in their genes something they can't fight. If you habe a gay friend don't put them down cos their gay. We all know the nigeria system doesn't surport that. They were created that way, and we should start seeing them for who they are and not bring up some moral code bullshit. Respect every man and woman not matter their preferrence. Listen to I AM GAY ft Eminem and you would relate.


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  • Well different people have their different opinions and ideas in this issue but for me its something that is by choice

    I know a guy his married with a kid and his wife is pregnant for their second child but still sleep with guys so if he can be with a woman and also sleep with guys I'm sure it's by choice. But that's just my opinion 

    - Simeon Ifenna - 2019-11-21 13:09:26 Quote

  • From mine own point of view, I would say that being gay is a choice and is unavoidable. I don't think there is any particular gene that makes one gay. God Even in creation made man and gave unto him a woman and not a man. So I  don't really believe that it's a pair of gene in the chromosomes that made a guy gay. 

    - Ifejube Oluwafemi - 2019-11-21 13:19:52 Quote

  • I had gay friends and I practiced it to the extent it almost got my life. What I want to let you know is that being gay Is a choice, and my reasons for saying such is that it all depends on what you want. I went for deliverance and I fought so hard to come against the spirit. It is really a strong spirit and I found happiness when I became to like women and I currently have a girlfriend. It depends on what you desire, it is never in the genes or inborn. The environment one grows up in can make an influence.

    - Udebuani Cyprian - 2019-11-21 16:57:57 Quote

  • In my own opinion,Gay is mostly by choice.Your environment and peers has great influence in one's life.Some movies out there supports the idea of gay,and when you keep watching them,you start having imaginations and your mentality can be affected.When you follow friends that practice Gay,there is 98percent possibility of you being a gay.But those that feel they were gay from birth,they might be having psychological problems.

    - Chilo Mary - 2019-11-21 20:26:11 Quote

  • Being a gay in most cases is not just an ordinary habit, it is a spiritual habit which need spiritual attention. I have a friend who was a gay I tried to talk to him but he told me that he can't change so I have to report him to his mother who took the matter to church after much prayer and visitation by the man of God today he is free.

    - Jeremiah Ogban - 2019-11-21 21:33:25 Quote

  • I did not accept the fact that its how they were created, cos they passed through childhood stage and they do have females friends, many are gay today because of pornographic films, only boys boarding schools, peer influence, saying they were created like that, i don't buy that.

    - Alex Onyeka - 2019-11-22 10:28:02 Quote

  • I disagree with you that gays are created that way, it is their choice, because they decided to be initiated.

    One thing is that when they try it for the  first time they are initiated and it becomes part and parcel of them.

    It only takes the grace of God for them to abstain from it.

    So gays aren't created that way ,they just choose for it to be in their genes. 

    And lets not forget that God created a help meet for Adam, and not Adam for Adam.

    - Blessing Samuel - 2019-11-22 13:34:10 Quote

  • Trust me this thing is very uncalled for. Although I wouldn't blame individuals that indulge in it. But being gay is neither choice or unavoidable. No one in their right state of mind would want to be gay. Circumstances causes it. Mostly environmental circumstances. The area the person grew up in and all. 

    In situations like this it's totally unavoidable if attention isn't paid to such happenings. It takes a lot of study and time from the parent side to notice and deduce that their kid might be gay. But before such happens the parent could help guide the child before he decides to be gay 

    This also is applicable with the girl child 

    - Oluwole Gabriel - 2019-11-22 17:36:10 Quote

  • The idea of gay is satanic and therefore, totally unacceptable by God. To be a gay is a choice and a bad ONE for that matter. Anybody who engage in such act needs a deliverance because he is a devil incarnate. People , especially we Africa should stop emulating the Western world in everything. I pray that God in his mercy will deliver our youth from such habitual act because it is becoming so rampant even in our society today. Please my fellow youths, be wise in ur choice making!

    - Obinna Dike - 2019-11-23 04:45:21 Quote

  • Being gay is certainly a choice, it only becomes unavailable when you have gotten yourself into it, it's like an addition. To an extent it can be compared to masturbation. This is something that can be avoided at the initial stage, once you get into it it becomes a difficult task to overcome

    - Yungblood Dee - 2019-11-23 13:35:36 Quote

  • Truth is morally being gay is bad. But then being is more like unavoidable for most people. Also a choice for some,some people chose to become gay maybe because of past issues that made them make that resolve. While some just had it grow on them or were initiated into the act by friends or relatives. Nevertheless a gay person should not be treated like a criminal rather he should be rehabilitated.

    - Treasure Affia - 2019-11-24 05:23:46 Quote

  • Being gay could be a choice and could also be as a result of genetic issues.

    Some are into it by accident while some willingly chose to be gay.

    Talking about morality, morality can only be applied to actions carried out willingly. That is to say that, if you are a gay by accident it's not a moral problem. But you since it's a habit, you can equally stop it. 

    - Noble Ogbonnaya - 2019-11-25 13:24:24 Quote

  • It's their choice to be a gay because you first agreed to it you agreed to sleep with a fellow man like you and once you've done that the first time it's already in your blood and you won't be able to leave it so doing it in the first place is a choice. It can be avoided at that first stage but if you don't it's your choice sha

    - Splash Migule - 2019-11-27 08:46:18 Quote

  • For me, being gay is absolutely a choice as one cannot say he inherited it. Being gay is learned from the environment and people around us. It could be that one was born to see people around him being gay thus, he'll mistake this to genetics. My submission therefore is, being gay is a choice and not tied to genetics

    - Emediong Okon - 2019-11-27 08:52:57 Quote

  • From my point of view, being gay is a choice and is avoidable. Some people become gay maybe due to the people they follow which they consider role models and would like to be just like them. Or they grew up knowing a gay couple and would just like to be like them. 

    - Alasi Temitope - 2019-11-27 10:35:20 Quote

  • Being a gay is your choice because most guys that are gay allowed themselves to be initiated into it and it takes spiritual intervention to be delivered from it. 

    - Mmesoma Cynthia - 2020-02-11 08:06:10 Quote

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