In an interview, T.I shared this week that he accompanies his daughter to the gynecologist every year to ensure that her daughters hymen is intact. According to T.I., he said that his daughters doctor told him that the information he wants to get is under HIPAA regulations, he wasn't allowed to disclose such information but T.I insisted on knowing whether his daughters hymen is still intact.
Doctor then altered to him stating that many other activities besides s3x, such as riding bicycle and riding on horse, can actually cause the hymen which is the the fold of tissue that partially covers the entrance of edges to the [email protected] of a [email protected] not to be integral or intact.
What am trying to prove is this, every parent that intends to check their daughters virginity shouldn't think that if the hymen is no longer intact, that your daughter had s3x with anybody, the best thing to do is to ask her whether she do engage in some activities like dancing, bike riding or some activities that stretches the leg wide. Like wise to men that are intending to marry a virgin, when you find out that your partner is not a virgin, you will intend not to marry her any more.
My advice is if you really love her, ask her about her past and focus on the future, cos life still goes on......
You contribution is highly welcome.
There is nothing bad to know the virginity status of one's child but the parents need to be careful and handle things with brain, if the doctor told you is not intact don't think more than you can so that you wouldn't beat your child out of fury
There is nothing wrong with knowing the status of a girl child. The parent should know how to counsel, advice and guide the child so she would know all that she needs to know and she wouldn't fall victim later in life. Also, in a genuine relationship, both parties should open up and the man should be ready to accept and let go of the past because virginity would not determine a happy home. Mothers, let us guide our daughters with love and open up to them because what we fail to let them expose to, they will get it but it might end up in the negative way.
Knowing your daughter's virginity status is proper I'd say but the daughter deserves to be respected in this situation. Everyone has got different way of handling pressure and stress, so if she isn't a virgin I think a more calm and welcoming approach to her will be good. Her mental health is important.
It depends on the age range of the child. If the child is an adult, parent shouldn't be 'too'concerned about her virginity..emphasy on "too"..cause that child is responsible for her decisions. instead they should move closer to that child so if she has questions to ask about her private life, they can be there for her.
Checking your daughter's virginity as a father is not really proper cos you have a wife who should look into such thing, that is if it is necessary.. Your obligation as a father relating to that issue is letting her know the right thing to do and guiding her to do it.
Knowing your daughters virginity status is not bad but I feel that the Same should be done for boys. Even though the practice should be stopped at a reasonable age. As for the men that are intending to marry virgins, the truth is that a woman can loose her virginity in so many ways and besides I believe that men should look out for character in a woman because a woman's virginity cannot take care of a home or contribute to the family.
I think it very wrong cause everyone has his or her own private affairs and personal things to deal with. Doctors should not in anyway disclose this to parents about their children's virginity status cause it might end up to something called homicide . maltreating and bitting of the victims at home.
Checking my daughter's virginity its improper, my daughter has right for her privacy.
If my daughter is not a virgin how do I prove it and if she is how do I still prove it.
Its within her self that she's going to know if she is a virgin.
My daughter needs to live her private life as long as she is mature.
Checking your child's virginity is not a wrong thing ,most women are lacking in the area of checking their children ,I have seen mothers that does that and it helped them curbing their children way of living ,cos the child now knows that the mother will always check her and there by helping her to prevent anything that may cause her virginity broken.
I don't think there is anything wrong in checking out the status of your daughter's virginity but as a father I don't think it is proper for him only the mother can do that and after checking you find out the virginity is not intact you don't have to start misbehaving to the child you just need to call her and counsel her
I think your daughters virginity is something personal and parents should understand that it is part of your daughters privacy, though some churches carry out viginity test on the bride to be before marriage but that one is understandable, parents should raise their daughters with good morals and the rest will be taken care of.
I believe that Parents should be partially, not totally lenient and just keep a very open communication with their children. In that case, the child can come to them and tell them about things like this. So, it won't be weird when they teach their children on this issue and they can just ask the children themselves instead of trying to find out the hard way
In my opinion,checking your daughters virginity shows that you do not trust her,your daughter should be able to trust you enough to listen and share her thoughts with you.
You should talk to her about the merits of keeping her virginity but going the hard way will distance you from her mentally without you really knowing.
For parents to go every year checking their daughter's hymen its not bad it due to our society and peer group and I believe that it is not the work or duty of the mothers alone father too should play an important role we all know cases of rape is rampant and by this we should be taking care of all our children especially our daughters.
You are right, I also support that , but parent also need to do things wisely sometimes because there is a certain age you should not be bother to know that,once the parent can see that their daughter is becoming an adult so to avoid been suck by the conditions you will meet her hymen its better to leave that part and just started advising her always because I believe with a good advice that can even make her keep her body the time you can ever think
I feel the daughter will loss interest and trust on her father because that's a sign of no trust.....normally this generation is on the high level were kids don't listen to their parent that much, but if he's free and earn the daughter's trust am sure if anything happens she wouldn't hesitate to let her dad know about it
Yes it is advisable to check your daughter's virginity but wisdom should be applied.. So that she'll not get d wrong impression and misinterpret things or think her privacy is invaded or anything.. she should be made to understand and be fully aware of what is being done
There is nothing wrong in checking the vaginity status of your daughter but that act should be stop when you know she is of age yeah and most parent that does that have a mind set of them protecting their daughter some might not want what happen to them at their early age to happen to their kid some there is nothing wrong i n doing that
There's an amount of trust a parent can have for their children. I feel if the father continues with this, when the daughter actually looses her virginity, instead of owning up to it, she'll better still run away
Let parents please be mindful of the level of overprotection. It could be straining sometimes.
I don't think this is right and is also intrusive to the daughter private life ,I feel the best thing to do is to ask the daughter and if she is willing to share, she will tell you as her parent.we should note parents should not try to force their daughter into telling them about their viginity status but it's advisable to be patient with them as this is the best way in dealing with children especially daughters
That's highly irrelevant, if she really understands the need to be a virgin before marriage, then she will keep her virginity without anyone monitoring her on that. The more u keep on monitoring her, the more unbearable life becomes for her, she will someday feel like being free from you and doing whatever pleases her by herself. Its better u inform her on the dangers of immorality and then allow her go into the world and see the havoc and trauma it is causing in the lives of other people, I believe by herself she will decide if that is how she wants her life to be or not.
Its not wrong if a parent wants to know the virginity status of their child but I think the best thing to do is to sit and create a comfortable arena for their child so as to make her comfortable enough without fear to answer truthfully what ever question they pop up
I don't see anything wrong with a parent trying to save his or her child from future regrets. But the best way to go about it is to always have a heart to heart with ur child, this way she'll see reasons to acknowledge the level of love you have for her and will always try to do the right things such as keeping her virginity.
At a certain age bracket, the parents are responsible for the children's welfare and lifestyle....If parents decide to check the virginity status of there daughter or child,it's not bad...but at a stage the parents should not be too concerned anymore as the child must have had the right to make decisions and bear the consequences when they come.
The present world we live in now is so full of so many dangers and misconduct and over fifty percent of these things affect a female child negatively. I feel a parent should try all best and educate their children on the dangers and all in the issue virginity. But it is still a topic of choice between the parents and child
I don't think it's a bad idea to know the virginity status of my girl child. So many things can lead to the tearing of the hymen..when trying to find out, the parents must approach this calmly and with love cos most people won't be able to open up .
Personally I think it is better to develop a strong and cordial relationship with your child so that you will know every stage of the child. With this you can give good parental and friendly advise to your child leading to an extraordinary life different from her peers.
Going as far as checking medically shows strictness and will make the child farther away from the parent.
I don't think taking your ward to the doctor is the best way to know if she's a virgin or not. You can sit her down,ask her questions. You don't have to be too harsh on her all you have to do is make her feel comfortable and ask her what you what to know.