My Experience As A First Child

Okay, i really don't know where to start from but I feel there is a curse behind being a first child or even more worse it being a male child, I am the first of 5 children it's been hell ever since I finished service June this year, it all feels like the world going down on me and funny enough no matter how hard I try to convince my self, am really trying to make something out of my life it just feels like no it's becoming worse.

My parents have tried sending me to school till this moment and it's time I pay back the good deeds. But the country is currently not what it should be, it's more painful when my kid sister or brother stylishly tell me brother' I want to buy this or that and rings more in my head when I feel I don't have the money to give them. Am so confused at times, thoughts fall in my head "should I just run away", take enough time and make this money then come back and make every one happy...

Am so confused.. Being the first child is a challenge on its own... God help me

Your contribution is highly welcome, are you a first child? share your experience.

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  • My dear brother,it is normal for you sometimes to be afraid of what you will become or what you are becoming,my advice to you is to first remove that so called'fear' and you running away from your family isn't the solution and please note that the responsibilities of your Young ones is also your responsibility, just get closer to God, rely on his word,and work towards greatness also have this full assurance that you can make it in life.

    - Olajide Emmanuel - 2019-09-26 05:47:39 Quote

  • Well, you are very right about what you said.

    The whole family will be looking up to you.

    But you dont have to feel bad, just wait for Gods time and take advantage of any opportunity that comes your way.

    - Shedrach Afan - 2019-09-26 05:54:53 Quote

  • There is no need of running away because if you do you might break heart break to your parents and with anger if they don't have patient, they might lay a curse on you. So still stay around and make them understand you are not with it now when you get it they will still follow you to enjoy.

    - Nwosu Vincent - 2019-09-26 06:01:41 Quote

  • My experience as a first child is lovely and cool..At one side of mind am happy that I am a first child and also the male first child for my mom and at the other hand I am sad because as a first child you must be a good example to your junior one's and a good leader .. Your younger ones must be able to learn form either good or bad knowledge form even when you don't know that they are looking after you..

    Concerning the money aspect as a first male child your younger ones are seen as your child at one stage of your life you must be able to provide things needed for them by that time...Be Because your parents have sent you to  school you will be to help your younger ones

    - Kamson Samuel - 2019-09-26 06:05:38 Quote

  • You dont need to feel this way, please. You have your certificate , look for job . Work for a while and gather money. If you run away, were will u live? How will you cope? Ask yourself these questions. Pray and tell God to help you.

    - Olawumi Adedeji - 2019-09-26 06:14:44 Quote

  • Yea, you are very right...... Being a first child is not easy at all, it will seem like your younger ones are making more progress than you at every stage. In my own case, our first had to drop out of school for we the younger ones to finish.

     Although, I am not a first child but I always take it as a responsibility to always to pray for our first son because he is mostly too busy struggling that he forgets to even pray for himself.

    - Mary Ogbinya - 2019-09-26 06:17:39 Quote

  • Being any number in a family is stressful bro. My advice is dont just look away from the promising future. Keep working hard, keep working strategically, keep your head above water and start small.

    You can never pour out from an empty cup

    - Charles Igala - 2019-09-26 06:22:46 Quote

  • I feel the exact same way! Being the first child comes with too many responsibilities. So many things to do, so little opportunities to do them. The government doesn't make anything better

    - Francisca Jay - 2019-09-26 06:23:31 Quote

  • Being the first child is a blessing and a very huge responsibility.

    God on your side, things would go pretty easy.

    Had challenges the other day, when my mom fell ill, I had to empty my account to take care of her.

    - Joshua Akachukwu - 2019-09-26 06:27:41 Quote

  • I'm not a first child but like every other family we have a first child, things aren't generally okay in the nation, you're not cursed and i don't see any reason why you should run away from your family , that will make you a coward, before you make the money from anywhere you run of to, what if the family is not the same as you left, all you need is pray to God and keep on working hard,

    - Sesan Akerele - 2019-09-26 06:32:26 Quote

  • You are the first born and was not academically trained. Now you're of age, act like a grown up man. Education can't be the the only gateway to ya wealth. Go learn skilled works, enter into a business so you can build your own tomorrow so as to help your siblings

    - Godson Omejua - 2019-09-26 06:42:21 Quote

  • First child at the Senior to the rest of the children. The first born of every family has a more higher role to play in the family and then the other hand they always have the bigger share to cut or to take part in when things have been distributed amongst them

    - Nicholas Usiahon - 2019-09-26 06:51:51 Quote

  • I dont think its a challenge to be the first child,what i think is that its a thing of pride because you will be the one your younger one's will look up to you might even be a role model to them ,That alone helps keep you in check to make the right decision.

    - Michael Akinfolarin - 2019-09-26 07:00:11 Quote

  • I dont think its a challenge to be the first child,what i think is that its a thing of pride because you will be the one your younger one's will look up to you might even be a role model to them ,That alone helps keep you in check to make the right decision.

    - Michael Akinfolarin - 2019-09-26 07:00:25 Quote

  • I totally get your point. My elder brother, the first born has gone through this and he over came. Remove the mindset of cursed first born. You'll be fine. Just work hard and put God first. Don't give up

    .Don't run away. It will be worse when you run away because you will then be feeling guilty

     Push harder. You'll be fine....

    - Akinleye Iteoluwakisi - 2019-09-26 07:00:53 Quote

  • Every first child in a family are like the second parents in the family, they are to play the role of a parent to their younger ones,and also to support the family at most times. 

    My advice to every first child or every youth entirely is to make sure they learn one or two work aside their education, because we are in a country that you get anything with the help of connection. Even if after serving our father's land and there is no job will could do with our certificate, we will be able to earn money and feed ourselves through the work we've learnt.

    - Olaniyan Florence - 2019-09-26 07:06:31 Quote

  • Being a first is not a curse but a blessing. If u look around you notice that all first born struggle to make it in this life, first born are not always as tall as any other children.they don't have the grace any other children have naturally. Its like they are used for sacrifice for other children of that family. All the first born are special kind of people.

    - Chidinma Lilian - 2019-09-26 07:17:11 Quote

  • Well according to me I would say that being the first born of a family is not easy at all because the rest of the family will be looking up to you when your parents is not around and it is now left for you to decide if you want to play the role of a first born or not nevertheless you still have to some obligations to perform in the family so whatever situation you find yourself you just have to strive hard to meet up to the expectations and I know its not easy but you just have to strive hard to achieve your goal in life

    - Sylvester Omosigho - 2019-09-26 07:17:15 Quote

  • In life, being the first makes you a leader, makes those coming behind to look up to you and you have to acknowledge that. I'm not a first born but I'm a first son, I have large responsibilities on my shoulder though my elder sister shares in them, being the first. The point is, you need to help your younger siblings, seek out opportunities, learn a trade or something, go into a business, anything

    - Oluwatomisin Momoh - 2019-09-26 07:19:06 Quote

  • You must have yo understand that nothing good comes easily. It has been said times without numbers that first child especially male do have ill luck but that not true. If you remain focused and consistent in achieving greatness, you will shurely make it. What you should never do is to conclude that you are a failure.

    - Chidiebere Uzo - 2019-09-26 07:22:10 Quote

  • Being a first child is sometimes fun and sometimes stressful you have to do the right thing in other for your siblings to follow in your footstep.You watch over your siblings,protect them from bullies,when its time punishment yours is the most difficult

    - Joseph Eno - 2019-09-26 07:25:43 Quote

  • Being a first child is sometimes fun and sometimes stressful you have to do the right thing in other for your siblings to follow in your footstep.You watch over your siblings,protect them from bullies,when its time punishment yours is the most difficult

    - Joseph Eno - 2019-09-26 07:25:46 Quote

  • That is not how most first born's lives are oooooooooo.

    no matter what you still have to give God all the glory, coz he is the one that can change all your bad to your good and all your wrong to your right.

    - Kelvin Coker - 2019-09-26 07:26:24 Quote

  • Being a first child comes with lots of responsibility. Though the first child enjoys most confort and love from the parent because it's their first so he/she receives loves from both the parent, grandparents as well as family members but the challenges sorrounding it is that a first child serves as the role model for other children in the family, he will also have to share some finacila, moral and psychological responsibilities with the parent when he/she grow up. The most challenging one is the financial aspect. Believe me I am talking from experience because I am a first child as well and it has not been easy. It takes strong heart and prayer to survive. 

    - Gbolagade Kazeem - 2019-09-26 07:32:29 Quote

  • It's not happening to just u, the country is hard for everyon, u could b last born and still have huge responsibilities, running away won't help matters though I feel same way too  feel like running away at times, but where would u go to, stay back and double ur hustle,u will still make it

    - George Goddy - 2019-09-26 07:32:48 Quote

  • My brother is not an easy task with God on your side you we break every yolk of not moving forward don't quit. Rest if you wish but never quit praying and trusting God and as well working God we remember you in a special way. 

    - Ifebuche Gladys - 2019-09-26 07:42:02 Quote

  • Honestly, we are in the same shoe am also the first child of 4 am really going through many things which I can't even mention. What I will just say is that we should just keep our faith in's not a curse being the first born but a great blessing on us. Am proud to be the first born of my family and I know why God made it so. Let's just keep our head straight and focus on God. 

    - Michael Abioye - 2019-09-26 07:43:33 Quote

  • You can't run away because if you do you can end up not having anything just try your best to start something plan yourself try look for a better job and if you can't find talk to your parent explain things to them tell them to get you to start business 

    - Ebenezer Oyedele - 2019-09-26 07:44:26 Quote

  • The first child is like a pace setter for the younger siblings. I had this similar experience, but I kept seizing opportunities and I bounced back again. Currently,  I have multiple streams of income. Just keep pushing. 

    - Nduka Kelly Dike - 2019-09-26 07:44:52 Quote

  • I won't deny the fact that being a first child and even first son isn't a challenge but I try to make it look like a motivation for me to work hard with so much responsibilities sometimes I feel like I'm being trapped bit with prayers God is in control

    - Akanbi Toyyib - 2019-09-26 07:55:48 Quote

  • Being a first child come with a lot of responsibility, speaking as the first child in my family I've come to understand that. As your junior ones come to meet you as an alternative anytime mum or dad denies them of this want. And the Nigeria economy is not helping matters. That's why we keep advising ourselves to become self entrepreneurs and try earning a living without waiting for office jobs.

    Bro, just double your hustle and God would see you through

    - Eromose Samuel - 2019-09-26 08:05:38 Quote

  • My brother, first borns are faced with such task. Just take your time and find out what you can  do to make means of survival and in the near future, be able to take care of your family and younger ones. 

    Have yiu ever considered rearing cat fishes, and do you know you can hit the jackpot with such livestock breed at any season once they are matured enough. Give it a trial, make your findings and start-up. 

    - PETER MMADUEKE - 2019-09-26 08:26:36 Quote

  • I'm a second born but I actually know what it takes to be a first born. Most time I see the depression in my sister with the thought of how to survive and carry the family along. Well, it's her responsibility but that's doesn't mean other child shouldn't strive for success too. 

    - Ajibade Adetunji - 2019-09-26 09:31:51 Quote

  • The first child is mostly burdened with heavy responsibilities of taking care of the parents as a pay back, take care of the younger ones as the elders and even strive for one's personal life of setting a family. Sometimes life isn't what we planned it to be buy we have to accept it with faith and fight it with sufficient courage. Running away cannot solve anything, it will just cause hatred and pain in the heart of the parents, but telling them you've to go to some place for business search might help instead of running away from them. 

    - Kelani AbdGaniyy Ola - 2019-09-26 11:59:07 Quote

  • You dont need to feel the heat so you don't get burnt. Take one step at a time everything is gonna be ok. Your siblings are also in this country and they are seeing things for themselves

    - Chimezie Anyiam - 2019-09-26 12:38:11 Quote

  • Imtthe first child and have 4 other siblings, to shoulder responsibility isn't easy at all. I hate to see my siblings depressed and not getting things they need at the right time pissed me off.  Making it is a piority for the first child. As it been said, we lead by example. 

    - David Owolabi - 2019-09-26 12:40:00 Quote

  • My dear its not that anything is wrong being a first male just you just have to believe and stop thinking that way.. Nothing good come easily remember am also a first son i know what am seeing buh am not gonna be saying is a cost no.. Is just a natural finomenome. I will say is a blessing and it all gonna be working for me. Bcoz i believe.. 

    - Charles Innocent - 2019-09-26 12:43:34 Quote

  • Am a first born and also feel how you are feeling and even my own have 3 wives and each have like 5 children, and as a first child you will of your father and not only your mother but all of them and all you brothers and sisters because they will all be look up to you especially if you are in small company managing,  all of them will be demanding things from you and you must give them well. 

    Well God bless all we first born financially and others too

    - Abdulrafiu Sulyman - 2019-09-26 12:49:26 Quote

  • Being a first child is never a curse neither is it a taboo though the first child is band to face with challenges hence working hard and making a proper and concret plan early enough in order to respond to your ability. Then as a graduate why you what job you to create on by trying different thing from different angle and make sure you keep moving instead of sitting down to wait for white-colar job

    - Udueni Anthonia - 2019-09-26 12:57:14 Quote

  • As a first child,a lot is expected of and from you..parent look up to you to take care of the younger ones since they've put the best they hard in you m.meanwhile siblings look up to you to help out too.

    In a country so frustrating like Nigeria? I'll tell you that if you put in your best and it still doesn't work outfobt kill your self,just pray to God and stop thinking about things you have no control on.

    - Deborah joel - 2019-09-26 13:09:10 Quote

  • It's really not easy. But I think, if parents are really understanding and insightful, they would see for themselves that things aren't so soft in  the country and the search for job, legal ones at that isnt so easy, All the same, let them know your plans and keep telling them to be patient with you.

    - Gladys Chinonyelum - 2019-09-26 13:21:06 Quote

  • Is really not easy to be the first child,because you have a lot to carry and your steps are what you younger ones would really be looking before taking their own steps

    Been a first child,you would really enjoy your childhood because they would give you all you want and handle you like an egg

    Once you have junior ones,you are in a big challenge,because all they do would be blame on you

    - Idiris Opeyemi - 2019-09-26 13:32:41 Quote

  • My experience as a first was cool thou,  u know  as a girl  you just have to be close  to your mother because the only thing they always tell is grow fast and get married that has been the things they always tell me,  but as for guys hee to frank  with you i do pity them like seriously  they suffer alot to survive,  my dear brother i will advice you to never give up always pray to God for solution he will surely answer one-day 

    - Ochemba Onyinyechi - 2019-09-26 13:32:58 Quote

  • Being a first child, is a very great mantle that rests on the person, irrespective of being a girl or a boy. Well you have been doing your best in trying to make ends meet,but since nothing is coming forth,just keep on praying and putting in more effort on looking for a job. Running from the house is rather fevish for any reason you are doing it. I will advise you to hold on and hold out.

    - Daboketima Bob-Manuel - 2019-09-26 13:55:37 Quote

  • Likewise me too I'm the first child of my parents I have five younger ones I don't have money at my age I'm supposed to be paying the bills of my family or my younger ones but what will I do I just keep praying because this Nigeria economy is really affecting everybody especially the graduates. I do little job around to keep myself I know everything will be alright

    - Anthony Onyekachi - 2019-09-26 14:14:50 Quote

  • Likewise me too I'm the first child of my parents I have five younger ones I don't have money at my age I'm supposed to be paying the bills of my family or my younger ones but what will I do I just keep praying because this Nigeria economy is really affecting everybody especially the graduates. I do little job around to keep myself I know everything will be alright

    - Anthony Onyekachi - 2019-09-26 14:15:01 Quote

  • First of all, congratulations to all the first child in the house. I'm proud of being the first child and son, two in one I guess lol. 

    Well being the first child either a boy or a girl is naturally not easy because of all the load and responsibilities. You are expected to live your life as a good role model to your siblings with too many expectations. It takes the grace of God for a first child to be accomplished because of all the evil forces. 

    - Adediji Eniola - 2019-09-26 14:22:02 Quote

  • Thats why they said that its not everybody would succeed in going to school. Some can even succeed in the street sef it doesn't matter how you made your own money. And by the way you didn't tell us the course you study in your university so that we can know where we can start helping you. Your parents I know quite well tat they wasted a lot of money in sending you to school , but it doesn't mean that they should bend on your neck for financial assistance. Just try and convince them that things are going to be well. An you too should be trying And be looking for job . Any job at all you can be doing is good

    - Adirika Chisom - 2019-09-26 14:30:15 Quote

  • Running away will not solve the problem rather it will add to the problem,  rather stay back and do the fighting That's by telling them things will be better one day,and making them understand that things are hard, that you will take care of the  one after the other.

    - Deborah Stephen Laiko - 2019-09-26 15:45:37 Quote

  • Guy you know what you would do now, go around check for any job and try and work all way possible even though you might not like it just go ahead and work just find anything and do even though its blowing balloon as a profession.

    - Ime Henry - 2019-09-26 15:47:07 Quote

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