Most a time we hear people in relationship say love is blind, they are being overwhelmed by it. That is very correct but we are not supposed to close our eyes to things that end up breaking us apart in a long run. And so I have outlined these few points, things that love cannot be blind to and here are the followings:
No matter how sweet the love may have blinded you, attitude of your partner if not on the same page with you can devour you. Birds of the same feather they say flocks together. So it is very important to always look for your match, the partner that has the attitude you can tolerate or be okay with.
2. Obligations or Roles
Lovers have their respective roles to play in the relationship. Where one fails to play the role, it leads to distraction of the relationship in question. Love cannot be blind to such thing. Take for instance, the man who supposes to provide for the home seeing that the wife earns more than he earns and relaxing for the wife do provide things needed for the household is killing the relationship by not performing his role as a man.
3. Mindset or Understanding
Love is sweet yes. You saw her they way she looks physically and you loved her at first sight. It's okay but love goes beyond what the human eyes see and that is why intimacy and courtship has a wonderful role to play in relationship leading to engagement and to marriage. Understanding each other and sharing same view and ideas will pave way to a successful relation. Two lovers who oppose to each other and have a different mindset when they talk or argue do not last. Love cannot be blind to such thing.
4. Fulfilled Purpose
Yes, every man or woman has a purpose in life and so do it extend to life in relationship. A man should know his purpose for being into relationship likewise the women. This purpose goes beyond making love, having babies and what have you. The two in love should seek God's providence to help them know their purpose in their relationship.
5. Religion/ Place of Worship
This particular case is very common among Christians. That does not mean it is not prevalent among other religious sect. People of same religious sect have better understanding of each other than people of different believe. Can this be true in the modern era we are in right now? Well, if sound minds that reasons together but from different place of worship or religion understands each other very well, then they are good to go into good relationship.
When we understand all these and play by the rules, then we can sink into love in fullness. You too can add your opinion through the comment section on other things that love cannot be blind to.
Love cannot be blind to Laziness
No matter how much you love someone, do not entangle yourself with a lazy person who doesn't see anything wrong in depending on others to survive.
That's true though. Love is generally said to be blind but these are the factors that love can't be blind to. If you love your spouse and that spouse has a carefree attitude or non challant attitude love won't be blind to it.
Thanks for this wonderful post, people say love is blind because they fail to understand the true meaning of "love is blind" you can't be blind to a partners misconducts or religion say you are a Christian and your partner a Muslim if you are blind to that its called ignorance( u overlooked it because at the time it didn't mean much to u). You will see a very tall beautiful woman marrying an ugly short man and vice versa that is what I call love is blind.
Yes these are all good facts. But respect too is needed. If there is no respect between romantic partners, the relationship will crash. The woman needs to respect the man and the man also needs to respect the woman.
I beg to differ on the point about religion
Funny enough,a Muslim and a Christian have a better chance of going well with each other in some cases
You can't just outrightly put it out that Religion or place of worship shouldn't make us love blind...If one happens to find his or her partner from another religion and they both love and understand each other then why not go ahead
no matter how blind the love is, the place of prayer should always be seen the Holy Bible make us understand that prayer is the key to lock and open.
No matter how the love is blind it cannot be blind when it comes to respect he or she have the roles to play in the relationship or marriage you have to respect each other
Love is blind but it sees faults for sure. I agree with you 100%, no one wants to be in love with someone with a bad attitude, these are all very valid points you’ve given. Thank you!
This is true and of course educating especialy to those who might not have known these things before. We can learn to live with anybody if we learn how to work with people of different temperaments.
Love is also not blind when getting married to a girl and not checking her genotype leading to death eventually I.e: SS GETTING MARRIED TO SS AND AS GETTING MARRIED TO SS .
Interesting fact you just put together there.Your goals together must Aline.if not you just endup staying with some one that will distract you from your own archivabel goal.
Love is not bind but an eye opener. To be blind means not to be conscious of what is going out in your locality so therefore someone who enter relationship blind will definitely end up in marriage pit hole. Shine your eyes and know who you are dealing with
For my own seeing love is blind because when there's love between you and your partner no one would critisize another, no one would see the side effect of another, thats a little among the blindeness of love.
"love is blind ", that clause has gotten many people into toxic relationships . My take is that I'd people are not willing to make small changes to their attitude and othercareas of their lives to savw the relationship, then it's not worth it
Well it all depends on individuals. Some might be blind to attitude, religion and mindset. Yes leave can blind you from this things. However for some it's not so. But one of the key factor of all is religion I think. Because it's really so obvious and a huge step to take especially when it's between a Muslim and a Christian. Unlike within Christianity. It's really difficult and loves eyes is widely opened when it comes to this.
Attitude is one of the most important things to look out for while searching for a partner. You would want to be with someone you understand and can tolerate at certain times.
attitude is the head of everything
it kills relationships
then lack of community
and if you do not have respect for ur lover it also destroy a relationship
yes love is blind
Love is mysterious. You just can't explain how it happens. Finding out who truly loves you or who is claiming to be is a difficult task because some people are so good with pretense that you won't believe they can hurt a fly.
Thanks for giving us this advice I really appreciate it
the only thing I need to talk on is that courtship aspect they need to be together for like two to three years to understand each other.
Absolutely right, you can't say you love me but won't carry-out your responsibilities towards me. I have come to realize that if the above points is found in a loved one, that love fades away quickly.
Love might be blind but if you lack all those factors before before getting into marriage, marriage will quickly open your eyes. Love shouldn't stop us from being responsible, be wise when you are in love.
Thank you. This is very helpful and insightful. I really appreciate this now I'm putting my relationship under evaluation and really I think I need to take a step back, relax and not evaluate where this is leading.
That of the mindset is geniue,because an American celebrity who's wife has an accident and she really got burn and people asked him why haven't he gotten another wife,guess his reply.he said I didn't marry my wife body but her soul.and i freaked out
You have said it all. Those afformentioned are the things couples in a relationship should look out to inorder to have a blissful and rewarding life after courtship. Yea, they say love is blind but not on these qualities. These qualities help us to choose wisely.
When you take deep consideration on the point you outline i can say you are correct,love never get blind when it comes to the steps you mentioned.i really concored.i hope all the lovers get to see this write up,i think many mistakes would have being avoided.
Love really don't get blind on the point you've made mention on.I really Concord with you.
But let me stress more on one of the point which is attitude!!
Attitude is a vital point in which each individuals have to look out for in the life of their partner .study his attitude when you are courting so that you will t be a stranger to his/her attitude. Everyone has his or her default so we have to learn on how to live with your partner attitude , try to always correct him or her
This are the people take for granted in marriage which might later crumble the relationship. Attitude being the first can go a long way in destroying relationship. Different religions in its own case is another thing. That will affect the children in the long run.
I really love this write up, so love is not blind but before I think love is blind because in term of fulfill purpose in marriage some of woman did not born quickly and her husband will still love her so much. Even if his parents disturb him, he will let them know that he love his wife so much and he can't marry another lady. That is why I think love is blind. Thanks for the write up, may God give you more knowledge.
Love truly don't get visually impaired on the point you've made notice on.I truly Concord with you.
However, let me stress more on one of the point which is disposition!!
Frame of mind is an essential point where every individual need to pay special mind to in the life of their accomplice .study his disposition when you are pursuing with the goal that you will t be an alien to his/her demeanor. Everybody has their default so we need to learn on the best way to live with your accomplice frame of mind , attempt to constantly address the person in question
Thanks very much for the advisory... And I think most of the lovers outside prefer s3x to any other thing in marriage and it's beyond s3x... Also we all should have it in mind that we have a role to play in a relationship .
This is so true... Blind love is the reason many people have run into marriage only to seek divorce almost immediately. Love is an affair of the heart but thinking with your brain is very necessary to avoid heart break.
Love is, indeed, blind. ... It's nature's way of allowing us to express our love for another person because we feel that love for them in our heart and in our soul. Our feelings of love are unconditional at the point we express them. So romantic love is often blind, but that isn't such a bad thing.
Romantic love suppresses "neural activity associated with critical social assessment of other people and negative emotions." It seems that once we get close to another person — once we fall in love with them — our brain has a reduced need to assess their character and to harbor negative emotions towards them. Our love for them is blind. It's love we feel ... It's not love we see.
Now here's our twist on this intriguing notion: When you kiss someone you love in a romantic way, do you keep your eyes open or shut? Our bet? You close your eyes. Isn't this the essence of "love is blind"? You don't have to see the one you love to know you love them. You accept it on faith and you kiss them without fear, without any sense of danger. You love them, if you will, blindly.
Everyone has his/her own personal criteria that his/her partner must meet, once the person pass those criteria they become blind to the other attribute. For instance,a lady may be after looks and money, she dont want my kids to be ugly,she dont want them poor too, once she see a good looking guy that is loaded, she settles for him, not minding the fact that his rude, uncaring and all that. While someone else may be after his attitude, religion , once she find these things, she tend to overlook the fact that he's poor and ugly,.
This is very interesting, all this are things we should be considered in the relationship most is the attitudes like serious every relationship without trusting each other in a relationship is just like a child play,attitudes is one of the basic factor that someone need to considered because without the attitudes there will be no mutual understanding..
We know love come from the heart of a humans, and love is a natural phenomenon that units two soul or two young soul together for mutual and peace of mind between each other.. Love is not blind check well before fall into marriage or before fall into love with anyone...
I love this topic and it will help me to make decision regarding my relationship.I have been tolerating some things but these factors mentioned above has opened my eyes to some things.
This is a really good article that couples to be already married couples should follow to really have a good relationship rather rhan building it on the fact that "love is blind". Wel anyone still saying love is blind is on his/her own
Love can not be blind in the sense that via the woman...you are the one that made the decision to give your heart to the man and follow him in whatever he does and says ....no one made that decision for you...you did
Love is not also blind to the intentionality of a person. Once you love somebody and not lost after the person it can be easy for you to know whether the order that is your significant other really loves you or just wants to land you in bed.
Please love should not be blind on issues concerning health. You should always the know right partner. For example a person the genotype "As" shouldn't marry a person with "SS".
Yes I agreed to those five mentioned above.. If a lady doesn't have those qualities the love dies down.. So ladies try to work through and understand those five qualities mentioned above okay..
You are really right about that so many people think its all about love yes love is good and a great factor in relationships but there are other factors that must be considered for a successful relationship which this post clearly brought out thank you for the knowledge.
These are helpful hints in evaluating your relationship.even age should be considered,health should be considered,way of living and occupation of your partner should be looked into.but let's remember no one is perfect still,and I feel the phrase,love is blind means love can over look some certain things.if you choose to look for a blameless partner,you will never find one.
The above are paramount but there are other thing that cannot make love blind which is: character, physical appearance amongst other. The above mention can cripple ones mindset in that area in relationship.
Love can only be blind for people that deserve it, today many people see hell and enter in the name of love is blind why is not supposed to be so, love is all about living in a Cordia relationship.
Those in a relationship should not look at the physical attributes of their partner but the person soul cause beauty may fade but the beauty of her soul can never fade away
Marriage is not just I love you, I miss you, it is an institution to study and prepare for the life in family. I made this point clear to educate young people planning for marriage to embrace the challenges in real life. Life is not a bird of roses but reality itself.