It all started one Friday night after a very long day, my roomie entered the room invited me to a party after much plead; am actually a party freak but I was just tired, I decided to attend the party with him..on reaching there it was like a gathering of boys mostly on like a normal party where girls are more than boys...I became nervous,I asked him what was happening he told me I should relax and have fun,the only thing I remembered was being forced to take a blunt after taking it I was off.
In the morning I woke up beside a guy with pains all over my body especially my butt hole...and ever since then I developed the urge to smoke and sleep with guys.I actually need help I want to be free from this addiction...how do I go about it cause I wasnt gay before now,and am from a Christian home. I help asap cause my grades are dropping.
Do you also have similar addiction? what could it be and how did you get over it?
First of all in any addiction of any kind you need first accept the face that what you are doing is wrong..
Then secondly you look at ur self reflection in a mirror presently and reflect also when you are not gay wight it and see which one is the best for you..
Lastly you avoid the friendship u have with people who participated in what you are addicted too....... Used ur bible and pray always.
My advice for you is to first share this with your parent and your loved ones if you haven't and secondly if throughly you want to get over that addiction you would have to pray about it and i think every thing will work it self out in the end
Party freaks you say. Forced to take blunt? How old are you. Even in your tired state you still went to a party. You have been initiated. You need a professional counselling and spiritual help as soon as possible. If you delay you have turned gay and you don't want that to happen.
wow, I have never experienced such, but I understand what you are going through, being gay is something that is unacceptable in Nigeria and am sure you are going thru a social distortion
I will just advice you to visit a counselor and also the hospital
Please i know it might be difficult for you but you have to tell your parent and pastor about this and anytime you feel the urge please just pray about it and change ur thought.change your friends and never go close to any guy you know is gay please.
This is really bad! I suggest you find a new addiction and forget about this one because it can hurt you and will lead to many diseases. Diseases where you can get std's and you cannot control anything that comes through that hole. It can lead to cut ties with your family, take care and stop going to parties with too much men.
In every problem in life
no matter how big or small the problem is ,, if you call on God I believe he would give you a solution to your problem cos that’s what I believe and he has helped me due to the smoking stuff
Sad you had to experince that. But i will suggets that you meet with new people who can help you get distracted from the thoughts of smoking and sleeping with guys.
I'm so happy to you are so and eager to stop what u are addicted to. Thank God u know it's affecting u negatively.
Speak out to a Godly counsellor for ways to follow to leave this evil addictions.
Go for a deliverance session, for you really needs it now before its too late
For now stay away for the so calk friends and also involve your parent to help you out, you cab handle this case alone and desist from goin to party and keeping bad company and always pray for God's deliverance.
Having known that your addiction is not good to you is first step to recovery. Seek a therapist to help you out and adhere to instructions. Follow it up with prayers. You can do it
You need prayers, because what you are going through now isn't ordinary. They gave you something worse than blunt when you slept off . and you also need self discipline, this wasn't how you were before now . you need to see a pastor
Well the best solution to this problem is by you telling your self the truth am I really determined to stop this if yes
Then put it in prayer
Limit your outings
Make friends with people that is self discipline
Addiction is a terrible thing that can destroy ones life but there is a solution to it and the first solution is running to your maker for help through prayers then having a conscious thoughts towards denying yourself that bad act. Also, seek for life coach that can help you out .
Only self determination and focus will help you above all what you need now is serious deliverance and prayers only you faith and zeal will God use to help you. there is nothing that God can't do if only you believed.
Such a friend you had is really a wicked friend and of all reasons must you please everyone with their demands, you shouldn't have gone to such party at first place or at least left when you felt the party was not looking normal. You better chose to live above the gay life cux its not a good way forward, and smoking will destroy your health, and most importantly, you need to visit a therapist for help.
This is a very rare case but anything that has an on switch has to have an off switch. Try therapy or what triggered the urge and tackle it from there
First I'll suggest you see your pastor and talk it with him , pray and let him pray for you..and i will advice you don't move with that your friend again... May God help You
When ever we know that we are in trouble and seek for a solution that's when we will be alright for some will be in such situation instead of seeking out for help, they will keep on enjoying themselves.
Please you should seek spiritual help first so that the spirit of gay will leave you and secondary you should start attaching yourselves more with girls other than guys so that you will not be in such situation where you wouldn't know any longer. In terms of smoking, you should use the side effects as a reason for you wouldn't want to die young.
My addition is smoking.
i smoke for the period of 12years.
People has preaced to me but It help not.
but a faithful day I decided that I will not smoke anymore.To God be the glory am a living testimony today I quit it finally.
TTell it yourself and make a strong determination.that is what can help you .
Addition is very complicated to get rid of, it's a habit that is formed as a result of consistent consumption.so I will advise you if you really wanted to get rid of it,then go back to God and submit yourself to him, that's the only way you can totally forsake addition.
The best solution is to either see a counselor or a your pastor to pray for you, cus it won't be easy to get over this type of addiction, it's not something you can do on your own
The first thing you ought to do if you really want to put a stop to this is to cut off from those friends. After that you need to be prayerful and discipline. Be determine to stop. Anytime you feel the urge, quote a scripture or better still leave the quiet place to a public place.
My advice for you is to see a pastor. Since you are from a christian home then it won't be hard for you,you can set fasting for yourself then follow it with prayers because that is a very serious case and also self discipline matters a lot in dealing with addictions
You said your a party freak and a Christian home, how do you reconile this two. The kind of friends we keep will make you or mare u. Pls my dear, go deliverance. The have captured your soul. With a sincere heart God will see you through.
Ohh you should just stay away from the friend and find a girl that will shower with love, to clear those urges and you should visit your pastor to pray for you,, cause my brother its a bad thing to be a gay oo, . no enjoyment
This is really serous and I'm sorry you had to experience such a bad situation. Right now all I can say is that you need serious rehabilitation and counselling therapy at least you can start with that. The first way to solve a problem is to acknowledge it first which is what you've done.
Addiction, addiction addiction, they come in different package, but truly how to deal with it, is to have the mind of your own, then sperate yourself from those friend or change environment. Get to accept that it is sin and dangerous to your Heath.
My guy first thing first unfriend yourself with that guy that influence you to bad habit and when ever you feel like doing such thing, you find another thing doing to keep you busy from it and don't go to places where you can be influenced to it any longer. Just an observation though
Its too sad to hear.
But you have to engage your self in some act that will make you forget those pleasure. I think that's the only way. And secondly you have to put it in prayers and try to have a restriction in life no matter what
You're actually the first person I've heard of that's gay and it's not comfortable with it. I feel so sorry for you because you had to join them forcefully and not on your rightful decisions. I had a friend who was gay too, it wasn't easy for him to stop despite advices from me and his family. He was beaten severally by his elder brothers and oftentimes he was taken to the police station but will be released later but all these effoi where in vain. The only thing which helped him was prayers, and a forceful act of him sleeping with an arranged girl. So I advice you try churches. You could be delivered because this gay something seems spiritual. And try sleeping with a female. It may help
NO NO NO NO!!! My brother, you were raped. You can be free. There is no joy in being gay. You have to resist these negative urges. Doing drugs destroy your life, being gay is equally bad. Watch the friends you keep. Become more religious. A godly life might be the solution.
It is very easy to learn bad things but very deficult to get rid of them, all you need do is stay from such friends because they are bad friend that can lead you into more toubles.
Since you said you are from a Christian home...what I can say in an issues like this is that you have to go to God and tell him to help you they is nothing God can not do,and stay away from those your friends...I once had this similar issue,I was not a smoker but when I started moving with friends that do smoke I found my self smoking as well I became an addict that if I don't smoke a day I can't eat ,then I same to my Sense and realized that something was wrong with me ,I spoke out ,I was given advice and most especially I went back closer to God ....I just want you to believe you can do anything if you set your mind to it.you can stop it
The first thing you need to do is seek help from a professional,maybe a therapist you can also seek spiritual help and you need to distance yourself from friends that will lure you into the act, you need to change your roommate too
Firstly, I suggested you get closer to your God and tell him what you want. Rember with God all things are possible.
Also, Take note of the people you move out with because bad influences can never bring positive change in your life.
Furthermore, strive to face your studies because those 4-5 years in the university are the most difficult years to concentrate but of you focus these years in achieving great, more years to come will be greater.
You need to whole heartedly give you life to Christ, that you are born is a Christian home does not mean you have given your life to Him, pray and study the word of God and you will be surpris,
First of, it's good you are seeking to change.
I would advice,since you say you are a Christan,you pray fervently about it. Also you have to convict yourself to stay away from those habits. Most importantly you need to stay away from friends who are affecting you negatively,as long as you stick with such friends,the pressure would still be there and you would make no progress trying to stop.
God help you bruh!
That is a experience that I would never which should happen to any one but my advice is that you forget all that ever happened and try to move on ,with time you would forget
Its so sadden but I will like to say this, give those your friend a distance for start and then mind where you go. I mean in terms of party or club. Be determine and ask God to help you.
I am so glad you have finally found yourself
I was a drug addict once...i smoke weed
It started with peer pressure but now i havent smoked in over a year
It makes me happy seeing people getting over addiction and i hope u do
With the help of my parents ...i did
So i am certain the lord will help you...talk with your folks
Let them know how sorry you are
May God bless you
Oh God! What a painful and bad experience, tho things like addition with Smoking and Drinking is not easy to deal with and put an end to it, but I still believe you can overcome this habit if only you can make a strong decision and dedication never to involve yourself in it again.
Pls do away with those friends of yours who got you into this mess and never let their lifestyle influence you.
I hope with this you'll get over this addition.
Firstly seek counsel from a trusted and understanding individual, it doesn't have to be your parents if you feel they might blow it out of proportion when you tell them. Develop new hobbies that would greatly help in your journey to quit smoking especially,read self help books that have experiences of people who were once like you and most importantly read,pray and draw closer to God.
I’m glad you are a Christian and also come from a Christian home ,talk to your pastor and your parent about it ,especially your mother ,I believe you will over come it if you put in spiritually and it could be done through your pastor
It has been scientifically proven that whatever one does for two weeks straight becomes an habit and gradually graduates into addiction. You can aslo undo what you started by abstaining for two weeks. It might seem hard at first but with time you will overcome it..
If after trying this and the addiction is still there, go and seek the advice of a therapist and also tell your parents or anyone older than you
Since you can put up this article write it shows you have admit you're wrong with your deeds so you want to ammend your ways
Set up your mind to quit smoking by always thinking of the bad effect of smoke that lead you to gay don't just think of tge good side cos every addiction have it's good side so to get over addiction you must always consider the bad effect only
Avoid those type of friends and pray about it daily
You can also tell your pastor about it so that the church will pray for you
Don't be ashamed or shy to tell him
Firstly, think of the negative effects of your addiction, then if you can't talk to your parents,then go and see your pastor or priest. Then read articles on the negative side effects on your health. Avoid such kind of parties and people.