My Adventures With A Student I Tutor

So I happened to be teaching in a school while is was schooling. The fact that attendance in school wasn't compulsory and there wasn't any impromptu test made it easy for me. Along the way the daughter of the landlord in which the school was located caught my eye. I took interest in her and I asked around for her name and every details. 

I got to know i was just two years older than her and she has been unable to get admission into the university for quite sometime now. I didn't let the fact that I liked her show i just went around my job since she wasn't a teacher in the school. We saw every day and only exchanged greetings. So one Saturday I went to school to take some children extra lessons since they were preparing for the National Common Entrance Examination. On that day I met her on the street and I said isn't today the day I get to talk to this girl properly. So I started by telling her my name and saying I just moved to the area so I'm new around here. She knew I told her the truth about my name but lied about being new to the area. Despite knowing that she played along. I told her I'd love it if she could show me around some other time if she's free and she obliged which led to me asking for her number which she gave me. 

We got to talking over the phone to Facebook and we got pretty close. I didn't know I was in luck until her mum approached me to tutor her in mathematics for that years jamb and post utme she would be taking. We chose her house as the venue and the lesson began every Friday and Saturday. After some meetings I made a move o  her and it went smooth and we had s8x. 

I went for her with the mind of just having fun and leaving her and so did she. But now I think we have feelings for each other.

Please what should I do? 

Should I end everything with her , or should I just continue having fun?

Or should I date her since she has feelings for me and we are also single?

please help me out.

Comments Reply
  • She had feelings for you but what about you?  Do you have the same feeling for her or you're just using her to satisfy your own needs. If you actually like her it would be a problem to date her. This is up to you. 

    - Ajibade Adetunji - 2019-09-27 11:28:43 Quote

  • It isn’t really ideal for you guys to date, considering your tutor and student relationship but if you really love and she loves you too as you say then you guys can go ahead and date.

    - Onekeneke prince - 2019-09-27 11:29:24 Quote

  • Frankly this is how love starts, you may be thinking to just have fun with her but as you keep getting close to her and thinking of her and also caring for her, it means the love is gradually growing. Just take things slowly, maybe you might end up marrying her.

    - Nenye Anyigaenwe - 2019-09-27 11:39:10 Quote

  • If you are not interested in marry her you better stop having s8x with her, not when you with get her pregnant you will leave her, also let her know that you are not yet ready for marriage so that she won't depend on you for marriage.. 

    - Igwe Francis - 2019-09-27 11:48:42 Quote

  • There is no going back. I will advice you to keep the relationship, if only you will be serious and can have her as wife. But if just for tasting like you have said,kindly stop it . its dangerous to play with humans feeling.

    - Alalade Taiwo - 2019-09-27 11:48:49 Quote

  • wow. this is serious. Well since the two of you have feelings for each other I guess you two should give it a try. become each other's partner and I'm sure it will work perfectly. 

    - Odujobi Aderonke - 2019-09-27 11:50:09 Quote

  • She has feeling for you already and if you also have feelings for her then date her since you guys already had something together... You shouldn't just leave her like that she'd think you want to use and dump her

    - Iyidah Peace - 2019-09-27 11:55:52 Quote

  • Hey do you have feelings for her or not if you do then take responsibility and date her as just using her for her body is extremely foolish. Sit her down tell her your mind and be clear on the matter.

    - Rukky Ogor - 2019-09-27 11:56:37 Quote

  • If you truly love her, why not date her but using her to catch fun isn't the best idea. Just sit down and think about it. Can you marry her? Do you want her to be the mother of ur kids? If affirmative, go for it 

    - Osofisan Boluwatife - 2019-09-27 12:00:21 Quote

  • My guy you are playing with fire, the earlier you stop that the better for both of you. If she gets pregnant for you your own don finish be dat oo. So my candid advice for you is to stop that now concentrate on teaching her and if not possible for you ask the mother of get replacement of you for her..

    - OWOLABI Ayodeji - 2019-09-27 12:06:18 Quote

  • If she has feelings for you and you too have feelings for her why not date her properly and get to know more about her and start up a new leaf who knows  she might  change your life positively instead of just having fun with her. 

    - Okwute Chinecherem - 2019-09-27 12:10:07 Quote

  • If she has feelings for you and you too have feelings for her why not date her properly and get to know more about her and start up a new leaf who knows  she might  change your life positively instead of just having fun with her. 

    - Okwute Chinecherem - 2019-09-27 12:11:39 Quote

  • It's actually not advisable for you to date her based on your student- tutor relationship, but if you feel you really love her and also you have the zeal to be committed to her, then you should go ahead to date her.

    You should also know that she is about entering school and she'll meet new people there, therefore you should know it will most likely end up being a distance relationship. Are you willing to go through that? The ball is in your court and the decision is yours to make, just don't make it based on lust.

    Good luck!

    - Irene Obasuyi - 2019-09-27 12:19:51 Quote

  • I don't understand, you guys wants each other because you wanna have fun, but there's a feelings now, and you feel like leaving her, because you wanted her under neath? 

    My friend stick to her, player. 

    - Richard Ngirigwa - 2019-09-27 12:21:28 Quote

  • What the two of you did is improper in the sight of her parents because you are being paid to teach her and not to hav s*x with her.

    I think you  should retrace you steps and fin the right part to life. 

    - Okafor Chigaemezu Ifeanyi - 2019-09-27 12:27:14 Quote

  • Nah!.. 

    You need to end such relationship with her as it isn't ideal for you to do so. Try to keep your integrity man.

    If you truly loves her,  come out clean and stop scooping around. 

    - Emmanuel Aibueku - 2019-09-27 12:35:34 Quote

  • a man don't be a playboy since she allowed you to do s8x with her and she trust you she really loves you not all girls are like that so he be with her don't be playboy

    - Abubakar Sadeeq Salihu - 2019-09-27 12:41:42 Quote

  • If you both  love eachother you don't hesitate in dating but if you don't please try and stop the s8x part and stop seeing her so that you won't ruin her life and try and caution her in getting to see guys because she hasn't gain admission yet and if she does she will be flirting around.

    - Bamidele Habeebat - 2019-09-27 12:52:50 Quote

  • lol. ..This made me laugh and I still can't stop laughing and hell yeah continue your adventure with her but don't impregnate her because she still have a long way to go 

    - Ayanfeoluwa Adeniyi - 2019-09-27 12:53:50 Quote

  • The worst mistake you'll be making is not to date someone you really love and the person loves you back in return. Though your intention was to just have fun with her and move in but on the long run, you get to have feelings for her and so did she. You should go for her, that's the best things to do. Don't loose her. 

    - Kelani AbdGaniyy Ola - 2019-09-27 12:55:58 Quote

  • Feelings or love? Which one do you really have for each other. If you know that she lives you and you love her too, you can go ahead, but if it's just an emotional attachment, cut the tie and let her go abeg. Plus who knows maybe it is this kind of distraction that has not made her pass her exams all the while. Just saying tho.

    - Boladale Bada-Ogunlami - 2019-09-27 13:19:16 Quote

  • Considering the age difference I will say you can date her if you guys are really sure you have real feelings for each other. But for now her admission is very important you wouldn't want it be seen as the person who made her fail 

    - Okereka Destiny Efejeror - 2019-09-27 13:26:12 Quote

  • Oga what you should do is to tell her the truth about everything and don't leave out any single one. Tell her how you felt and how you are feeling now for her. In that way you would have a perfect and very nice relationship.

    - Ime Henry - 2019-09-27 13:35:58 Quote

  • Since you both feel something for each other,it's better to ask her out now that she's no taken but if you dont like her isuggest you let her go now that it's still early

    - Jael Orji - 2019-09-27 13:51:59 Quote

  • It depends on you, if you love her a lot, go for her, although it some how knowing that is someone you tutored but all the same the only thing that matters is love.

    - Edward Chinecherem - 2019-09-27 13:57:04 Quote

  • You trying to date her because she have feelings for you is wrong. But if you want to start dating her because you both have feelings for each other that will be a good step. 

    - Paul Tochukwu - 2019-09-27 14:00:41 Quote

  • Bros , olewu di e o as Yoruba will say it. Meaning that it will be a little bit difficult. Firstly, her mother entrusted her in your care with the mind that she trust you and eventually heard that you claim to love her it will be somehow. My advise is that you stop having s3x with her for now. To know genuinely if you truly love her. Because I won't lie to you that affection or feeling you said you toward each other is nothing but soul-tie as a result of sleeping with each other. 

    - Dairo Idowu - 2019-09-27 14:04:42 Quote

  • Since you've already had s3x with her and you guys have feelings for each other,I'll advice you guys to talk it over. Do guys really want to be in a relationship with each other?? Are your feelings for each other genuine?? If the answer is Yes,then you guys should date with the prospect of getting married and not for fun

    - Banigo Tamunomieokomibi Rowland - 2019-09-27 15:18:47 Quote

  • Since you have feelings for each other there is no problem of letting her go and moreover both of you are still single and you use two years to senior her, so my brother continue with the relationship don't stop it.

    - OJO VICTORIA - 2019-09-27 15:20:46 Quote

  • Please, I advice you to leave the girl alone .You are destroying her and her Destiny. You duty as a teacher is guide and direct your students and not to mess them up. Think twice

    - Onwa Matthew - 2019-09-27 16:08:16 Quote

  • In as much she has feelings for you and if you too do, there is nothing that hinder you people from dating each other, that she wasn't a graduate like shouldn't reduce your feelings for her.

    - Adebayo Owoniyi - 2019-09-27 16:20:20 Quote

  • That's lust not love, you don't love her you looking for someone to be having nice time with, my advice to you is to listen to your heart not your body so that you won't regret your actions in the long run .

    - Macku Issa - 2019-09-27 16:22:52 Quote

  • Well to me if you love her why not date her instead of you to just have a test of her and dumped her for nothing if only you both have  feeling for each other

    - Miracle Boniface - 2019-09-27 16:43:17 Quote

  • If the both of you really have feelings for each other then I see no reason why you can't date. You should tell her how you feel and if she feels the same way, you are good to go. What you used to be to her doesn't matter, it's your feelings for each other that matters.

    - Aliyu Gana Aliyu - 2019-09-27 16:51:14 Quote

  • You started it just for fun and now you have feelings for her, since you both have feelings for each other then take it to the next level. There is nothing wrong in you dating her follow your heart and do the right thing. 

    - Idi Grace - 2019-09-27 17:05:12 Quote

  • You guys were just into each other just for fun. And the fun have lead to having feelings for each other, so you can't do anything than dating her.

    - Nwosu Vincent - 2019-09-27 17:07:37 Quote

  • From the start, you  were  up to something, and that goal was to get her laid, I wonder how you would come back to say she had feelings for you, while you played her to play by the standards you wanted and eventually  sle*t with her. She is probably not guilty for trying to make you believe she is in love with you and you're too blind to also observe that you played yourself into her hands in every mischievous way possible just to get her laid. I wouldn't like such experience around my daughter, and I must say, you conducted so unprofessional. 

    - PETER MMADUEKE - 2019-09-27 17:44:52 Quote

  • if truly you really love and not that later you will let her down i will suggest you go for her but if you didnt love her and you just want to  chop remember if by mistake you impregnate her you her in a big mess with her mother think twice before you do it

    - olalekan Adetutu - 2019-09-27 19:57:24 Quote

  • This has left a list issue and developed into a love affair. Just be smart and matured about the whole process. Yes you can date since you both are in love but be careful to draw the line during tutorial sections and also be professional when dealing with her mum.

    - Ndukwe Ikechukwu - 2019-09-27 20:00:30 Quote

  • She is a little girl please don't delay her dream.she still want to study allow her to concentrates on her future.if you have an intention to marry her is can assist her to gain admission and probably sort her out during admission process.continue having fun is not fair.

    - Christopher Gwaze - 2019-09-27 21:42:03 Quote

  • I don't think you actually have feelings for her.what you are feeling for each other is lust not started off with the motive of laying her and now you are saying you have feelings for her.check youself well,try and see what you really like her for then you will know if it's love or lust but if it's love go ahead and date her.

    - Victor Anodoro - 2019-09-27 22:25:40 Quote

  • This is the problem of most of the now a days guys! Just because you have used her once you have started thinking of dumping her! The ladies are your fault, it is you that you are given chances for the guys to deceive byou, they will show you they leave you, but as soon as they have gotten what they want they will just leave you.

    I will advise you not to leave her, you have already tasted her, and loosed her virginity, it was you that suppose to be with her!

    - Najib Sani - 2019-09-27 22:40:16 Quote

  • If you're to date the girl you have to consider the girl parent feelings they might think you only take advantage of the girl cos you're asked to tutor the girl..... Just have fun with her that won't lead to pregnancy work hard on her with the tutor then you let her be successful with her Jamb so she can get admission to concentrate on her study

    - Oretan Ayomipo Micheal - 2019-09-27 23:07:28 Quote

  • Hmmmm this is a very serious issue the problem is you two can go on a date if you LSO have feelings for hee but not to be using her for your satisfactory and if thats what is up to you so I think you have go end it there

    - Rilwan Abdulrahman - 2019-09-28 16:41:47 Quote

  • She has feelings for you? What about you ? Do you also have feelings for her.wont it be one sided love if she only has feelings for you.and you are you sure you also really genuinely have feelings for her.what if its infatuation.

    - Remmy Banjo - 2019-09-28 18:28:36 Quote

  • She has feelings for you? What about you ? Do you also have feelings for her.wont it be one sided love if she only has feelings for you.and you are you sure you also really genuinely have feelings for her.what if its infatuation.

    - Remmy Banjo - 2019-09-28 18:29:07 Quote

  • Actually, there's nothing wrong with having a feeling for a lady but the question remains are you prepared for the task ahead after marriage. Check yourself well to see if you are only lusting for her because any relationship based on lust will surely crash. You can go ahead and date her but make sure to be open to her,don't hide anything from her like you did during your introduction. Being open leads to a stronger bonding.

    - Emmanuel Agbasielo - 2019-09-28 20:22:32 Quote

  • Lol, sometimes you just go into a relationship for the fun of it but all of a sudden you start developing feelings for each other. It's normal but you need to check yourself to see if you're not carried away by the sweetness of the s8x.

    - Ikenna Henry Onyemekesi - 2019-09-29 15:31:02 Quote

  • You have told us anything about yourself. All the same, you have your life to lead. You are two years older than her and with your help she will soon admission into the University of her choice.                                                      You say she has feelings for you; l suppose you have the same feeling for her. Don't forget that both of you are still young and immature as far as feeling is concerned. Feelings does not.

    - Light Udoyo - 2019-09-29 17:03:13 Quote

  • Admission list of most schools are out now I hope her name came out.

    If it did you can continue with the relationship cause it's a positive one and if theres truly love between you guys at the time you become serious her parent would whole heartedly support the relationship 

    - Osho mimolewa - 2019-09-29 17:11:49 Quote

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