I am a 27 years old lady, still an undergraduate and my boyfriend is 28 currently serving and he is also working. We both love each other very much and we understand ourselves. He is the only man in my life and I am content with him.
About a month ago, I lied to him about being pregnant, he was so happy and was doing preparations to marry me. I did not keep up with the lie because I don't want a marriage based on lie, so I had to tell him the truth that I wasn't pregnant. He got so upset with me saying that I take him for a joke.
Presently I don't even know the level of my relationship with him, he is still angry with me that I even regret telling him the truth. I don't know what to do?
Please I need your advice, Was it wrong for me to tell him the truth? Or
Do you think I should get pregnant for him just to Fox things between us?
The best option here is to tell him the truth. Because even if you get pregnant for him now just to cover up ur lies, the truth will still be revealed why because! The count started that day you told him "you are pregnant for him".
And so also if u decide to be hiding the real truth of u not being pregnant, the truth will still be revealed because he will start expecting some signs of pregnancy from you.
So I will advice you to tell him the truth and also the reason why you lied to him at the first place.
Actually you were the one who made the mistake by lying to your boyfriend that you were pregnant
That just showed that you were desperate but it was good you told him the truth, because if you had not, and he got married to you but latter found out that it was a lie it could be worse
Lying is never good both in the short- and long-run. You shouldn't have lied to him.
Nevertheless, telling him the truth is the best now that it's still early. You did not get it wrong by telling him the truth. Just go and see him wherever he is serving, spend time with him and plead sincerely. I'm sure he'll understand.
Good luck though.
This is so sad to hear as r, i think the way you tell him the truth is good enough, you shouldn't have lied to him at first, he won't want to trust you again for what you committed at first, i know with time he will definitely come back to his normal behavior just calm down and be prayerful.
You have done the right thing by telling him the truth that you are actually not pregnant. A marriage based on lies would lead to no where.
Although he might be angry with u for the lies u told, nevertheless, u need to beg him or probably look for the help of an elder, maybe his mum or dad to help u out because I don't think ending the relationship between you two is the best.
I wish you good luck
There is no need to build on relationship with lies you make a great mistake for the first time for attempting to falsify your condition of becoming pregnant while you aren't. Now all you have to do is to convince him by any means and tell him that you regret of been telling lie upon pregnancy and say sorry to him seek for apology.
Firstly, you love him but still if you think you getting pregnant for him is what will get things together with you both, then it's cool. It's really scarce and hard to get good and real lover willing to be all for you, then you definitely should try pleasing him. From the look of things, he's really happy you been pregnant, he works and earn so just sit down and see through if you both could get along with the earnings so you definitely won't end up suffering the pregnancy and eventually when the unborn child came to the world. So just think both positively and the negativity of the issue before you make a final decision.
My advice is for you to ask him if he wants you to get pregnant before anything and if his answer is yes then you know what to do, get pregnant I know it's not up to you but God, that's when you should stop taking any form on contraceptive
You were totally not wrong for telling him the truth but you should learn not to play expensive jokes. You should talk to him and explain to him why you did what you did. If he truly loves you he will wave it off and forgive you since you came out clean
Well in my own perspective lying breaks many relationships, lying is never an option but opening up to him about the fake pregnancy was a good idea though all you need to do now that he is upset is to go through his best friends so that they can help you plead on your behalf just for him to forgive you, because what you did was very uncouthful.
Ị applaud you immensely for taking a right decision of not building a marriage based on a lie. That was extremely incredible. I think not every relationship leads to marriage and that the ones that leads to marriage doesn't have conditions. Love asides I think you need to communicate with him on why you can or can't.
You did not make mistake of telling him the truth because you are really a wife material, it really show that you are building your home on a solid rock. And also, find an appropriate place and study his mood to tell him what you and your family want with your background about you getting pregnant before wedding; I will tell you that wedding is just a secondary but marriage is the uppermost primary target, please don't joke with this. Mind you every home deserves prayer
Whats affecting the guy is insecurity..he's probably not secure about the fertility of the lady...and at the same time this condition on which he places the girl is too cruel....and also the girl should try ask him why he said that if it's something they can trash out amicably
You made the biggest mistake you shouldn't have done that.....well its still repairable firstly if you are religious as in a Christian put his case before God...Tell God to return the slipping love back fully....after that you then go and meet him beg him....tell him why you did it....and I think with these he will try to understand you...
In relationship there should be no lie. Why did u lie to him at the first place? Don't u know that he can use that to push you away if he is looking for one before? Now you have told him the truth he is still agree with. All I want to say here is that keep apologizing to him that u are sorry for lying to him. Tell him the reason while the lies occur. And the case will be settled
It wasn't wrong for you to tell him the truth because sooner or later he is going to find out and if he had found out from another source it would have resulted in him being more than angry with you so my advice is that u should just calm down and beg him sooner or later he will forgive you
You are not supposed to be regretting telling him the truth, you are supposed to be regretting telling him a lie in the first place. Anyway, let him know how truly sorry you are for telling him a lie and that it would never happen again. Let him know you regret what you did.
You did the right thing by telling him the truth. It's better that way, because a relationship based on lies isn't going anywhere. Beg him very well and don't lie to him again. I'm sure he have his reasons for wanting you to get pregnant before marriage, but if you don't wanna, then don't. Don't be forced into something you don't want.
First of all have you asked him why he wants you to get pregnant before marriage because I know that there must be a real reason why he wants it... well as it stand from my deduction maybe he has doubts about infertility...
You both can go see a doctor to check your fertility rate or level.... maybe that would convince him.
No one is at fault because both of you want to derive true love from each other so what you have to do now is to beg him that you just use it as romantic joke that you don't know that he will get upset, by begging him continuously he will surely forgive you but don't do that kind of joke again
U did the right thing by telling the truth, on the other hand if he truely love u, he will still reconsider his actions and make up with u. Also try and talk to him concerning the level u are right now, is not yet time to get pregnant, or having children out of wed luck.
First of all, you shouldn't have lied about being pregnant to him knowing fully well the kind of person he can be when been joked with. So what I advice you do right now is just to call a family member to accompany you to sincerely apologize to him, he might listen to you both..
My advice is that you should get pregnant for him,that is the only and best solution to the problem that you have caused.At first you lied ,you are loosing trust if you continue lieing.The truth is always bitter and you told him the truth.The sooner you get pregnant the earlier the better.
Firstly pregnancy out of wedlock isn’t good.. but if you think you getting pregnant won’t ruin your school carrier and your parents will be pleased you can go on. But you can as well talk to your boyfriend if he is understanding enough he should care about your happiness too.
The truth sets you free. I think you should tell him the truth, getting pregnant for him and he finds out will only complicate issues. Relationship should be built on trust, commitment and understanding. If he understands the reason why you did that then he might forgive you. But first, you must tell him the truth. Remember! The truth shall set you free.
Firstly, you shouldn't ve lied. Well saying the truth was best. Seeing you lied, what you do is continue begging him cause his trust might be fading little by little. You don't ve to get pregnant before getting married just to please him. If he really loves you as you claim, he will accept your mistake, and continue with the marriage.
Its normal for him to be angry, you deceived him. Just give him space.. But never stop apologizing. I hope and pray he comes around and forgives you. If not for anything but for taking the bold step to say the truth. Some girls would have continued with the lie just for the sake of marriage.
That joke was an expensive one tho, it shows that you're desperate. Plead with him sincerely I'm sure he'll understand why you did that and he'll forgive. Then you can ask if he wants you to get pregnant before marriage to know your stand and if he truly loves you with or without being pregnant.
😮 this is a very sensitive issue. Firstly it's not all boyfriends that will be bold enough to ask for pregnancy. So to me you felt insecured at first that was why you threaten him to see his reaction. All you should have done is to keep it up by just telling him in a short while funnily but I can now observe you wasted time, and also the way you presented it before him makes him feel deceived or stupid.... No regrets tell him why you did everything and beg him and don't also forget to pray
Even if you don't tell him the truth he will still find out and the joke was a little expensive.
But like you said you both love eachother maybe you both discuss so he can tell you why he wants you to get pregnant first and you also tell him why you think you should get married before getting pregnant.
I believe you both can come to a conclusion
Firstly,it is so saddening to even think that men still do this and again all you need to do is to move on sister because obviously he has no plans for you until you take in for him and also you have to pray to God to direct your path...Bless you