My Experience With Child Abuse

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I was in the hospital clinic one day when a mother brought her child to be seen by a paediatrician, that is a doctor for children. The girl couldn't have been more than 4 years old. The mother said the girl had been having fever and also something was coming out of her v3gina. We were wondering what it could be. My oga who was attending to them checked it and I also went to have a look out of curiosity. It was a terrible sight.

She had a terrible infection that was smelling badly and she had no hymen. We knew immediately that she had been abused s3xually. We asked her 'madam your child has infection, what happened to your child?' she started to act uncomfortable and said ' nothing'

We pressured her to answer but she refused to divulge any information and we had to let her leave at the end of the day. Who knows if the child was going back to continue being abused.

Was she right whatever her reasons might have been to protect the person who had been abusing her child or she should have fought for justice?

 

My experience with child abuse - By Chuks Raphael - 2019-11-26 07:58:19

Something like this do happen this nowadays, like refusing to say anything concerning the whole situation. She might have been threatened by someone not to spite it because the person has money and not to tarnish the image(politicians mainly). No mother would want her child to die before her, so don't blame the woman, its not like she have a choice.

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My experience with child abuse - By Uncle Inec - 2019-11-26 08:05:31

In my opinion, i guess the woman must have been feeling some sort of shame, maybe that's the reason she didn't want to disclose what was wrong with her child. Nevertheless i think she should have disclosed what happened if not to everyone but maybe the doctor or some trusted or close relations and also fight for justice for child. In order for such not to happen again

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My experience with child abuse - By Francis Mofunlewi - 2019-11-26 13:35:18

I guess she might be ashamed or been threatened by the person that has done such act. In that case you should have asked the girl what happened to her and she might talk. This thing is happening these days and it's affecting the young girls mentally and physically.

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My experience with child abuse - By Ogochukwu Gloria Excellent - 2019-11-26 15:42:15

Well, it's very wrong for her to hide the person behind the act. But then again, no mother will be happy doing such. I mean every mother will love to see whoever it is paying or suffering for his action. So my point exactly is who knows she might be threatened with her life and that of her daughter if she ever exposes the person.

Or maybe the person behind it is someone she's ashamed to expose, u Know this days, everything is possible. It might be the father, her brother or God knows who.

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My experience with child abuse - By Nwamadi Florence - 2019-11-27 02:29:26

No reasonable mother will allow her child to be abused at least not that age. Something must have prompted her from saying anything either she was threatened or she was scared, the doctor would have interrogated her privately I believe with much pressure and confidence from the doctor, she would have opened up. she's not happy with everything that had happened if not she wouldn't have brought the baby to be treated at first 

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My experience with child abuse - By Ogunbiyi Oluwatosin - 2019-11-27 06:42:05

In my opinion, i guess the woman must have been feeling some sort of shame, maybe that's the reason she didn't want to disclose what was wrong with her child. Nevertheless i think she should have disclosed what happened if not to everyone but maybe the doctor or some trusted or close relations and also fight for justice for child. In order for such not to happen again

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My experience with child abuse - By Hakeem Balogun - 2019-11-27 07:47:46

The issue of child abuse should not be neglect because abusing a child cause a lot of damages to the child life and the abused child might not be useful to his or her self in life. I think the government and coperate bodies should take a serious measures on anybody culpable of child abuse.

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My experience with child abuse - By Blessing Oraghalia - 2019-11-27 11:00:43

The cases of children being abused is rampard in this country a lot of children are going through things like this especially our female children and sometimes some of them can't even tell their parents because they aren't close enough to their parents which is bad but in this case it seems like the mother knows what's wrong with the daughter maybe she's ashamed of what happened to the daughter or ashamed to tell who did it to her but as a mother she should know that this is about her daughter's life and she should try to open up to a doctor so that her daughter can be  cured of the infections but now that girl's life is in God's hand only God knows what will happen to her next

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My experience with child abuse - By Hannah Haruna - 2019-11-28 11:16:09

This is serious,well to me the woman is scared that's why she said nothing. Am sure the person that abused the child is a close member of the family and someone to be scared of that's why she didn't say anything. It's well God should help our children and keep them safe from evil people around us.

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My experience with child abuse - By Olarenwaju Emmanuel - 2019-11-28 12:09:40

Child abuse is a very bad and terrible act that should be eradicaye by letting people know that whosoever that is caught in these act will be severely punished by the government ,this issue of child abuse should be seriously taken care of,so that this terroble act will be drastically reduced in the society 

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My experience with child abuse - By Oyinkansola Olanrewaju - 2019-11-28 12:53:00

Issues like this are very rampant nowadays, and the mother should never cover up that kind of thing, only if it was done by a relative, have had experiences like this but the victims cannot come out or tell anyone because they are  been threatened by the abusers. I just hope the child doesn't get abused again. 

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My experience with child abuse - By Pholukeh Miracle - 2019-11-28 12:55:48

She should have voiced out because it would cause her more harm and no good at all... Things like this should not be kept secret... They need help and they need justice...tho the culprit might be of threat to her...she might be so scared so as not to be harmed... But there are ways to doing things than silence... 

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My experience with child abuse - By Jinatu Akinsola - 2019-11-28 16:25:04

The woman is totally wrong by protecting the person responsible for the abuse whoever he or she is. She is putting the life of the baby in serious health and future problems. Whatever her reason is, the paediatrician should have helped the baby by reporting the case to the concerned authorities.

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My experience with child abuse - By Yahaya Emmanuel - 2019-11-28 23:28:44

This is a serious situation in nigeria where young children (both boys and girls) that can't speak up for themselves are abused. It also happens in secondary schools that are probably all boys or all girls. But in this case I feel the girl should have been called aside, that is separated from her mother and asked what was happening to her. At least she is four, she should be able to say something for herself.

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My experience with child abuse - By Godwin olawoye - 2019-11-29 04:51:02

Probably for her not to say anything at that moment was the best for her......she's a mother a sister and a wife..... She wouldn't want to make things worst at that particular moment,because its sure she already know what the issue is but to her if she react it might cause lots of damage......

All I know is whatever happens she wouldn't relent to keep her daughter sef that love is always within 

Motherly love

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My experience with child abuse - By Mary Obasi - 2019-11-29 14:37:04

In my own opinion,I feel the woman wasn't comfortable to let the story out to you people and she knows fighting for Justice for a child might lead her to a serious issue with the person involved in such an act cause this days only the brave ones can speak out in such cases

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My experience with child abuse - By Wapaemi Sarah - 2019-11-29 16:26:20

This is just not acceptable and so wrong

The girl should be helped and the situation not repeat itself,if the abuse continues not only will she be affected physically but it will affect her mental health as well causing insecurity,fear,hatred etc

I don't get some mothers but she has no excuse for this

Mothers are ment to protect,fight and love their children no matter what

She failed her child and her self

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My experience with child abuse - By Olajide Deborah - 2019-11-30 07:46:51

I feel the woman was very scared to talk maybe because she was threatened by the people who molested her daughter but still she should have confided in someone very trustworthy it could even be the doctor or they should have asked the baby girl because she would have talked but this really needs to stop

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My experience with child abuse - By Chinecherem Mercy - 2019-11-30 23:38:34

It is terribly wrong for her to protect the abuser, this story goes a long way to show the brute dangers of unawareness, it's obvious this woman has been threatened by someone she considers higher than herself and being unaware of the many governmental and non-governmental organizations that treat such cases have decided to do what she considers best for her and probably her child (keep mute). With this been said I suggest that governmental and NGOs should put more effort in sensiticing the public to help them speak up in cases like this.

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My experience with child abuse - By Nature Ikechukwu - 2019-12-02 22:19:40

The woman might have refused to answer because of shame and disgrace. Well, as a mother one needs to watch her children recent behavior and well being so as to discover quick any problems. The woman as well should have spoken up so that the child abuser will be punished in every possible way

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My experience with child abuse - By Abdul Isiaka - 2019-12-03 23:32:56

Child abused or molestation of children is common in our society this days may God protect our female children from these prediators. About the child issue the woman may not have any ideal what the child is going through because some children are under threat if they disclose what's happening to them they will get them kill. So the mother can't be blame and in other side of it she may also know but she can't defend her daughter, she can also be under threat.

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