My Father Is Molesting Me

I was 8 years old when my father called me into his room and sat me down beside him on his bed. After some minutes, he lifted me and made me sit on his laps. Taking that he's my father and I was a child, I didn't count it as anything. He raised my dress and inserted his finger into my private part and started fingering me.

This continued till I was 16 years and my mother didn't know because it always happened whenever she's not around. At some point i was enjoying it but I realized it was wrong. Now I'm 19 and my father still comes to finger me and even have s8x with me and I don't know what to do.

Should I tell my mum or stand up to my father because he threatened to send me away if i told anyone.

Please what do I do?

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  • You need to voice out. This is a shameful and sinful act. Tell your mom about it before it is too late and also don't allow him touch you anymore. Whenever your mom is going out, you can go visit your friends so that he won't be able to do anything to you

    - Ibrahim Olatunde - 2019-10-02 18:54:27 Quote

  • I believe you should do both, that is, tell your mother and stand up to your father.. because your mental health and happiness is at stake here. If you don’t stand up for yourself before it’s too late, I think it’s going to be hard for you to heal and be able to move on. I’m sure it’s hard, but you should find the courage to tell your mom. 

    - Kelechi Nwosu - 2019-10-02 19:00:30 Quote

  • This world is becoming something else. My dear just tell your mom. You should know that even though your mom doesn't know about it but God knows whatever we do even in the dark. We should learn to be afraid of what God will do to us when we commit sin than to be afraid of human being. 

    - Cecilia David - 2019-10-02 19:03:04 Quote

  • Just tell your mum it's the best idea and be proyp if possible go to the police then you and your mum will take a drastic decision that will reduce not to do something stupid like chasing you out of the house 

    - Osa Bigi - 2019-10-02 19:04:29 Quote

  • If you tell your mum, she may not believe you, all you can do is to go to your church and make it your home even if you are ask to go home, just insists and tell them you belongs to Jesus and you want to serve him, but if you can't, go to human right and report him. 

    - Sule Abdul - 2019-10-02 19:05:17 Quote

  • Hmmm this is very serious, an evil thing indeed, my dear I will advise u to go to your pastor tell ur pastor first and your pastor can simply call a meeting with the family members because this is very evil, keeping it to you or self with really damage your future, him telling you not to tell anyone about it, his just trying to scare you from licking it to someone, so you to really do something so quick.

    - Dany Twizy - 2019-10-02 19:06:56 Quote

  • Hmmm, he is not a good father at all, please go and inform your mother about it before it is too late or are you enjoying it with him or you are not ashamed of yourself or you want to wait until you get pregnant for you father abi and you need serious prayer o because it is a curse

    - Oluwayemisi Adebisi - 2019-10-02 19:11:44 Quote

  • I think you should ,tell your mother about it...that the best you could do..if you mother knows about it,your father can't send you to anywhere...I'm sure your mother will fight for mother is the right person for you to tell.

    - Adekunle ismaila - 2019-10-02 19:17:08 Quote

  • No, no, no. no. It is unheard of. Child molestation has to stop. My advice is that you should stand up to him and tell him you don't want to anymore. It is wrong. You are no longer a little child. God will see you through

    - Aliyu Abubakar - 2019-10-02 19:29:50 Quote

  • No, no, no. no. It is unheard of. Child molestation has to stop. My advice is that you should stand up to him and tell him you don't want to anymore. It is wrong. You are no longer a little child. God will see you through

    - Aliyu Abubakar - 2019-10-02 19:35:14 Quote

  • Tell your mom but also keep in mind that she might want to save her husband's image, so tell your mom and also report to the authorities because standing up to him wont do much.

    - Edna Pada - 2019-10-02 19:39:08 Quote

  • You need to tell your mom it a bad thing if you said you won’t act on it because he’s your father I need to tell you that he’s gonna do the same to your daughter when you have your own kid so tell your mom so she can find a solution to it

    - Teekay Adeshola - 2019-10-02 19:40:01 Quote

  • If you keep on hiding the secert you are bringing curse to yourself because it is a taboo, report to your mother and both of you will go to the police to lay a complain. He must be purnished for his evil deeds and by so doing he will not have the power to send you out of the house.

    - achor nelson - 2019-10-02 19:52:16 Quote

  • This is appalling, highly abominable. Are you sure that the person you call your mum is certainly a mum or even the so called father is he conformably your biological father? If yes then you need to visit a prophet of God for right counsellings.

    - Oloruntobi Emmanuel Fapohunda - 2019-10-02 19:53:45 Quote

  • This is a very tough issue an when you tell your mother, she may not believe you (it depends on the type of mum you have). But all the same, please tell your mother, come what may, and then tell your father to stop, even you don't like it anymore. Stay strong, they may turn against you but it's not right. 

    - Joshua Itunu - 2019-10-02 19:54:01 Quote

  • You need to tell your mom it a bad thing if you said you won’t act on it because he’s your father I need to tell you that he’s gonna do the same to your daughter when you have your own kid so tell your mom so she can find a solution to it

    - Ezeh Somtoo Emmanuel - 2019-10-02 19:56:08 Quote

  • Wow. I'm extremely shocked to find out things like this really happens. This has to stop. You need to report to the authorities,then also inform your mother and possibly the child protective services. This nonsense should be stopped

    - Obi Chidera - 2019-10-02 19:58:31 Quote

  • I guess what I would love you to be just use your brain and be playful go to the hospital with your doctor with your doctor tell him to do some stuff and tell him everything from A to z what's your dad used to do it then you wait till you meet your mum and no reason with her she will never try to see you please also verify that do such things to his daughter is very own blood while the other is still around this is not I suppose not to do that to her because she's his blood and that's very bad to be honestly man like that to me to be beheaded in front of everyone

    - Abubakar Sadeeq Salihu - 2019-10-02 20:06:12 Quote

  • You need to both stand up to him and also report to someone who is older and more respected like your mum or someone your dad respects

    And you need to pray about it...seeing that you were very little when your dad started this and you were so innocent ..

    You need to do something as quick as possible

    - Joseph Lawrence - 2019-10-02 20:06:42 Quote

  • Thats very bad.thats a taboo in yoruba land where I come from .your father should be prosecuted and jailed but you shouldn't do that .your dad's shame is also you own shame. suggest you inform your mom about the situation,she is in the best position to confront him.And if he decides to send you away am very sure he won't have tangible reasons to give why he wants to send you away.your father 

    - Tunde Bashiru - 2019-10-02 20:08:47 Quote

  • Talk to your mom okay?... and you both should take legal action against him.a man who momests his own daughter is not a good you have nothing to lose if he goes to jail

    - Akinkuebi Boluwatife - 2019-10-02 20:13:28 Quote

  • Talk to your mom okay?... and you both should take legal action against him.a man who momests his own daughter is not a good you have nothing to lose if he goes to jail

    - Akinkuebi Boluwatife - 2019-10-02 20:13:31 Quote

  • No this is very wrong,such a thing shouldnt be kept to one's self.Please voice out to someone your father listens to and speak to your mother about it first then if she doesn't listen to you.Report to higher authorities.

    - Gold Mary - 2019-10-02 20:15:13 Quote

  • Talk to your mom okay?... and you both should take legal action against him.a man who momests his own daughter is not a good you have nothing to lose if he goes to jail

    - Akinkuebi Boluwatife - 2019-10-02 20:16:05 Quote

  • This is very complicating sister because if u keep quite,he will continue to molest you,if you tell him you don't want it what his doing is not good then he will threaten you.And if you tell your mom,he might even deny it.So my advice here is to sit and think critically so you don't get into trouble.

    - Hannatu Isqeel - 2019-10-02 20:18:42 Quote

  • Tell your mom what is happening before it is too late, it is now or never or you need to let anybody know what is happening don't die in silence, you are giving him more power to do as he pleases before it is too late.

    - emeka ofuonye - 2019-10-02 20:19:12 Quote

  • What your father is comitting with you is an abormination and it should not be allowed to continue, you enjoyed it when you were small but now that you have known yourself and discovered it's a bad thing, you need to confess to your mother and to the whole members.

    What he is giving you is an empty threat,  once everyone is aware of the evil he is doing he will be ashamed of himself and cannot take any further action against you. The time to liberate yourself is now.

    - Christogonus Uneze - 2019-10-02 20:20:31 Quote

  • Wow... This is sad... First off, I must commend you for having the courage to speak up. You have to talk to someone about this. I know that you'll feel scared but you must talk to someone about this. Have you thought about what will happen if you get pregnant? Your mother will be soo disappointed that you didn't even trust her enough to talk to her. Please tell your mother or talk to your pastor about this. This is incest and is a great sin. Then you were young and didn't know about it, we won't hold it against you, but you're a grown woman now. Speak up against this. Talk to someone. May God lead you to make the right decisions and heal what ever has been broken in your life dear....

    - Paula King - 2019-10-02 20:25:06 Quote

  • Girllll let your mum know before it is too late, don't you watch Nigerian movies and see what happens at d end, don't let your situation be an had i know own , please act fast

    - Oladele Deborah - 2019-10-02 20:30:25 Quote

  • No you should tell ur mother

    But have in mind that if you do you are going to have a divided home and that wouldn't work well for you

    You should stand up to ur dad and face him head on...

    - Dazzlin Pez - 2019-10-02 20:31:54 Quote

  • My advice to you is to sit your mom down and explain things to her in details, admitted that he's your father ,but that gives him no right to harass you sexually. You can also come up with a plan involving your mother to certify that your claim about what your father has been doing with you is true 

    - olalekan Adetutu - 2019-10-02 20:32:42 Quote

  • Firstly,to me i don't think that man is your biological father,because if he is he won't take up such plan on you...And again you need to stop such action with him cos you might get pregnant and its not pleasant to the ear that ur father impregnate you,and you might think its a shame and decide to go on abortion which might cost your life

    I will advice you not to even tell your mum about it cos he might not take it lighly with you,i will just urge you if you have somewhere to go or someone to scot with just go there for sometimes for you to know what to do

    - Aileru Ayomide - 2019-10-02 20:33:07 Quote

  • This is one of the bad event that is happening in Nigeria of today, fathers are now taking advantage of their daughters

    You have to report this case to your mother because if you continue like this you can end up get pregnant for your dad

    - Emmanuel Ayooluwa - 2019-10-02 20:34:49 Quote

  • Please and please speak up and fight back ohh. Those stuff may seem little now but it has psychological effects in the future. Don't allow anyone to molest you. Every little thing matter

    - Temitope Ogungbemi - 2019-10-02 20:38:45 Quote

  • Wait a minute, what kind of sane father would do such harmful stuff to his own daughter??

    This is totally unethical, I will suggest the girl should open up to her mother because the more she keeps it to herself, the more her predicament will continue, and she should also be prayerful so that her father should change from his unethical behavior towards her

    - Osas Nice - 2019-10-02 20:42:28 Quote

  • You are 18 and you are scared that your father will send you away if you expose his immoral act. You better summon up courage and put an and to it. Tell your mother everything.

    - Ataminor Overcomer - 2019-10-02 20:48:37 Quote

  • You should report the matter. Atleast you now a grown up girl to decide what you want

     Inform your mom about it. So you wont end up regreting your inactions, it better you take step now

    - Ealefoh Adesuwa - 2019-10-02 20:49:01 Quote

  • My dear,pls stand up and fight for yourself before informing your mum,you y mum might not want to loss her Marriage, when next your Dad is coming to do that stuff with you my dear pls place your phone in voice recorder, make sure you fight for your self and the voice record will be an evidence

    - Nurudeen Lawal - 2019-10-02 20:49:42 Quote

  • You are no longer a baby you have come to a point that I can decide on your own even if he sent you away from his house so if you love your self tell your mom or you go out of the house what you are doing is not good at all and also pray to God forgiveness

    - Miracle Boniface - 2019-10-02 20:52:09 Quote

  • This is totally unheard of. This is what has been tagged to be child abuse and anyone found guilty should be arrested, punished and or even killed. Report your father to the human right commission,to your mother and also make sure you have a proof. Get a recorder whether video or audio and record everything your father said or did. This will give you more advantage.

    - Emmanuel Agbasielo - 2019-10-02 20:53:08 Quote

  • Ohh.. So sad😢 I suggest you tell your mum about it  and also beg your dad to stop let your mum call your dad together with you i suggest you guyx should have a family meeting to put and end to dat.. But u also made a big mistake of your life.. Just hold on tight to God

    - Wilfred Ogidan - 2019-10-02 20:56:44 Quote

  • This is bad 

    Well my advice is, telling ur mum will bring diversity in your family and I know u wouldn't want a separate parent .

    So just stand up to him and let him know what he is doing is wrong 

    And also put it in prayers definitely God will make way for u

    - Chiadikaobi Emmanuel - 2019-10-02 21:01:25 Quote

  • This is bad. For you to keep this to yourself is even bad. It means you are not close to your mother or you actually enjoy what he does to you it's clear Cus we have Human Rights around even on net make use of your phone sister

    - Osho Olawale - 2019-10-02 21:08:27 Quote

  • my dear you need to open up to your mum because this is abomination if you didn't do that now your father will not allow you to get married because he is already using you. so do it and let this nonsense stop. 

    - Ochemba Onyinyechi - 2019-10-02 21:11:17 Quote

  • stand up to him. You are 19 for Christ sake. He won't send you away because he knows your mum must ask why those are empty threats. Stand up to him. Bite his junior next time 

    - Okereka Destiny Efejeror - 2019-10-02 21:12:14 Quote

  • In my own view of thinking i don't that man is your biological father because if he is he won't be harrassing youvin such way...And you have to stop this because you might get pregnant and it doesn't sounds well you getting impregnated by your father by then people won't believe is not your wish that he was the forcing you

    I will just advice you to stay away from home for sometimes because if you tell your mom he might deny you and not even take it lightly with you

    - Aileru Ayomide - 2019-10-02 21:15:01 Quote

  • I advise you let your mom know about this. She might not believe you so you guys should come up with a plan for her to go out and come back earlier than usual so he can catch him in the act.

    - Okugo Cynthia - 2019-10-02 21:17:26 Quote

  • This is very bad you ought to have speak out since, tell your mum and let her inform human right fighter your father can't send you out he will be punish for his devilish act. He is a wicked father and devil incarnate 

    - Eklou Gbenga Tunde - 2019-10-02 21:23:00 Quote

  • Since you're not a kid anymore report him to the Human Rights and they Will take the necessary steps and he will also sign an undertaking that no bad will touch you

    - Jimoh Abdul - 2019-10-02 21:23:01 Quote

  • There are contacts of organization you can get to help in this situations... Unfortunately I do have any... You can check by browsing them out.. Talk to them, they will help counsel your mum and go about it the right way! 

    - Naimah Abdulsalam - 2019-10-02 21:24:43 Quote

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