My Fiance Is A Scammer

I have a man that wants to marry me, we've dated for more than a year now and he was caring for me when we met recently and I had to go back to my base because of my job, it was difficult but he finally had no choice than to accept. We've been communicating ever since. This year around March I travelled to where he base to see him and we hang out but I knew he's never been really sincere with me, he lodged me in a hotel refusing me to know his house and I only had a day out of work to spend with him not minding the distance and transport spent with my own money to and fro, the risk, I fed my self because I was trying to understand when he said he wasn't financially buoyant so I spent that day with him and went back

We don't communicate too often but when we do am always glad. About a week after we met we were chatting one day and he said he wasn't feeling ok, he was involved in an accident and his car crashed and I should lend him 100thousand, I had upto that amount cause I do save up for my school with my little earnings he said he'll refund me in a month time. Since that march march untill now he hasn't refund me the money neither is he picking up my calls

I loved him and told my family about him but I don't know what to do now because only the both of us were aware of the transaction and am hurt now that I gained the admission I have spent all of my money and needs that money to continue with the admission processes but he's avoiding me now

Is it a crime to love and trust or help a loved one in need, am financially stranded  now coupled with the emotional trauma I'm having

Please advise me on what I can do...

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  • It is quite obvious now that you know that you got into a messy relationship with a scammer... My advice to you is if you know you can live your live comfortably with the 100k i would say forget the man and money, get your life together and move on with the experience learnt... Best wishes

    - Apkan Victor John - 2019-10-17 12:44:43 Quote

  • It is already obvious you made a mistake by trusting and handing your money over to a scammer. I want you to move on and take it as a Life lesson and learn from your experience. He has shown how unreliable he is and you shouldn't fall for his tricks even if he comes back telling you a different story. May God guide you and give you the wisdom to make the right decision.

    - Osita Olisa - 2019-10-17 13:08:09 Quote

  • This is serious well the deed had been done try to locate where he live you don't have to call him again he won't pick your call. Or get the contact of any of his friend or relative just to get in touch and get your money back. And don't think of marrying him if you like yourself.

    - Amusan Olaitan - 2019-10-17 14:19:28 Quote

  • I would just say it's just lyk u learning a lesson from dis...it's not all guys dat are worthy of the trust, u just ve to calm down and let it go.. probably tell ur parents abt it, am very sure dey will understand especially ur mother.. it's not ur fault so don't blame urself.

    - Ladipo Deborah Moronkeji - 2019-10-17 17:54:22 Quote

  • It's unfortunately you loved the wrong person. All you need to do is to get yourself together think deep, lookout for any of his closed friends since he never showed you where he lives, make a better arrangement with them, you can even come up with "I'm pregnant for him" dey will surely listened and lure him to you. Recover your money from him and move on. 

    - Miller Kingsley - 2019-10-17 18:49:50 Quote

  • Trust is one biggest thing we as human should not give to anyone, unless you have gone to far with the individual and you know all about him. You cannot know a person fully in a year even though he has promised you for his or her heart. I would  have said you pleaded with him earlier to take you to his home, but the deed has been done so we all learn from that.

    - Uguru Passionate - 2019-10-18 07:37:08 Quote

  • My dear you were too fast in this relationship cos I don't tink he loves you and the act of referring him as your fiance is highly misrepresenting. The mistake has been done. If you try calling and he refuse picking, simply move on with your life and look for another money for your academics

    - Kwerechi Gbuolee - 2019-10-18 17:01:22 Quote

  • Its not a crime to trust and to love. You probably just met the wrong guy for you but its okay. Life is all about making mistakes and learning from it. Don't worry about the money, it'll come back to you and the punishment the guy would receive would be great. Karma doesn't leave any stones unturned. So just take it easy.

    - Chukwuebuka Chigozie - 2019-10-19 12:22:52 Quote

  • My dear leave everything for God to handle but for now let him go with the money and face your carrier he will still come with his face full of tear and begging that's why you need to focus on your academics so that it won't affect your future

    - Ekundayo Grace - 2019-10-19 15:29:07 Quote

  • Its obvious that you got into it, just take the money as something that you gave to him on willingly. Focus on your life and move on, I pray one day you will still see him. But I have second thought if he returns your money and give you a reasonable thing that made him not to return it so fast, look into it and think wisely 

    - okereke Matthew - 2019-10-23 10:29:40 Quote

  • You should not have borrowed him the money but you have borrowed him already. Next time always lend out the money you can avoid to lose. Forget about the money and the man, he is not a trustworthy man. God will provide for you if you believe. 

    - Ayoola Kushimo - 2019-10-23 11:24:54 Quote

  • It is already obvious you made a mistake by trusting and handing your money over to a scammer. I want you to move on and take it as a Life lesson and learn from your experience. He has shown how unreliable he is and you shouldn't fall for his tricks even if he comes back telling you a different story. May God guide you and give you the wisdom to make the right decision.

    - Mustapha Arah - 2019-10-23 16:12:29 Quote

  • Its quite unfortunate that you let love blind your better sense of judgement and reasoning but that's what love does, so the best thing for you to do is to let your family know about everything and seek there help and guidance against such in the future 

    - Samuel Okoh - 2019-10-29 15:47:28 Quote

  • It isn't a crime nor a sin to trust and help someone you love, but I will advice you not to bother yourself about looking for him since you do not know where he lives, just hand him over to God and I pray you find a way out of your financial problem

    - Jubril Olaitan - 2019-11-29 09:39:48 Quote

  • It's never a crime to trust and help the person you love. In fact, that's the best thing to do but most of the time, we end up loving those who do not have the same feeling and affection we have for them, and that's the problem. My dear, keep calling him to see if you can recover your money but don't put your heart to it before it starts affecting you.

    - Onwukwe Orji Benson - 2019-12-06 07:11:33 Quote

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