Fist of all before i begin my name is Michael nkoye,during my secondary School days ,i dont normally like mingling with girls am a shy type of person,and i get nervous easily,so there was a girl in my class ,was in SS3 then,when i newly entered the school,she was was always giving me body languages,so i was like really surprised,what's this girl up to? So it was going on like that and she's really a shy person too ,so finally i managed to be close friends with her ,then boom surdenly i had the chance to tell her my feelings and told her to be my girl after many presure by my pears,after a couple of while she finally agreed to be my girl we started dating
Every thing was going smoothly, didn't even know her best friend was actually had feelings for me unfortunately her friend heard the news that we were together,Even thought she would consider that and changed her mind but no she didn't...even at that the way she gets close to me all the time and laughs to my silly talks ...makes me feel uncomfortable,even my girl noticed her attitude and was really unhappy with that .....after a couple of weeks dating don't really know what came over her and she totally changed,her character and the rest ...surde sur she told me that she wants to tell me something she could not tell me right to my face ..she chatted me up on Facebook and she broke the sad news to me that it's over between us ,her reasons was that she's a Christian she does not want to have any affair with any boy ,i really pleased with her but she still insisted,it really pain my heart, couldn't sleep nor eat for days because i really love her for who she was ..
My point is why she broke up with me is it because of that her friend or something else or she does not love me the way i iove her.
It's best you respect her decision Maybe she didn't love you enough or she couldn't express how she felt about her friends attitude towards you and she also feels like she's going to lose you to her friend.
So she decided to leave you before you leave her
It might not be any of your thoughts. Which simply means it might be something different. She might really love you, but just being scared of heartbroken. Also might be her first time in love. I wouldn't have blamed her if I were you then. I will just continue to show her reasons why we both have to keep the relationship alive.
Beside women get scared when they are in love and yet they felt lonely.
Well, as far as I'm concerned, it's either she was not matured enough to handle a relationship with you (and all that comes with it), regardless of their friend's behavior OR she didn't even love you in the first place. For her to have even broken up with you on Facebook rather than face to face is even more absurd. Anyways, I'll advise you just take heart and move on, because I doubt if the relationship can still be worked out.
My dear..in a relationship,if a girl can’t understand or cope with you for who you’re ,you’re literally not meant to be.she doesn’t love you enough and can’t boost about you to her friends...which means to her,you’re not the best news she can share to the world
let her be and you’ll come across yours!
It could be that the love she has for you wasn't really enough, and she noticed that her friend was having more eyes on you. She avoided being heartbroken, cheated on and having issues in her school. Since she was able to type you the message of a break-up you just have to let her be for now, if she is for you she will surely come to be with you. Everything happens for a reason, don't work yourself hard on it. Just be you, be honest in things you do.
I have been in this same situation before, only that I wasn't in secondary school then. Considering the fact that you were still young then, and of course it could have been because of the way she saw you mingle with the other girl, females most times, don't want to share their man with anyone else.
She probably broke up with you because she was scared you will dump her for her friend. That was why she took it upon herself to break the sad news before you do so. All she actually needed was an assurance that you wouldn't leave her for anyone. Saying she doesn't want to have a boyfriend because she's a Christian is out of it because she has always been a Christian before accepting to date you and be your girlfriend. So, that's nothing but an excuse, since she broke up with you already, I think you should respect her decision
Sometimes, feelings change, sometimes something might have happened and she needs space.. She gave you her reasons as to why she wants to break up, it's much better to respect that and move on, maybe she was jealous about her friend, maybe she didn't want to have any issues with another girl over a guy... Life still goes on, someone is out there waiting for you to be her entire world, just be patient and see what happens....
The thing is that she really loves you, but she felt that your attention toward her was divided, and that you don't have any time for her. But you as a man don't be worried about it cause she feels you'll break up with her at a point in time so either way try to fix things with her.
Its not hard to tell why, its obvious that she needed an excuse to leave the relationship. Maybe she realized that she didn't love you as she fantasized. So, it is best you respect her decision and move on. What is yours will always be yours no matter the circumstance. You don't have to fight it.
I don't think she really loves u or probably her friend must have threaten her ,maybe she was scared so she has to break up, or she just thought you guys where not doing the right thing , so decided to breakup. It can be because of so many things.
We girls do things that are out of ordinary sometimes. It might be because she felt she can't be in a relationship with someone her friend likes or she wasn't really into you from the start.. Or it might be because of other reasons unknown to us. You can just call her or meet up with her so u two can talk about it.
Sorry for the heartbreak, I think you should stop trying to find other reasons for the break up and accept the one she gave. If she is making a life change and trying to grow spiritually, you should let her. Try to move on and do the things that make you happy. And who knows she might be back