I am just 20 years of age and just gained admission to the tertiary institution before I got the admission when I was home I had a guy I loved then. My mum knew him and his mum knows me too. He was in school already but we communicate well. Just last year some people came to our area they built house and they live there among them is one particular family which we heard the first born stays in abroad. He works there actually.
When he came home as per I have been at home we became friends. He actually was my cousin friend before he became my own friend. He is 28 years old. To cut the story short we heard he came to Nigeria to get a wife so they can marry and they will go live there . I told my mum when I got home as per amebo stuff and she was like I should get closer to him so he can marry me. I was not really surprised because my mum is always interested in money and all that. I did as she instructed. I started sleeping at their house. My mum been in support took the guy mum as friend so we became family friends.
We had s*x 3 times and he later said he wants to marry me. I was very happy but when the news came out I just got admission so him been rich he sent me money for my school and went back. Now my mum will always call him for money and he do respond. This year now we did introduction he came home because of that. And we are preparing to get married.
I had stop my school now since he is taking me along with him but to tell the truth I don't love him just interested in the money. Never knew my 17 years old cousin was jealous and she told her mum I snatched her husband. My mum sent her out of our house because of that and it really caused a lot of problem. Now I am getting married to the guy I barely know much about even though I know his family. I stop school because of him and I don't really love him. I don't know what to do now because my mum is active forcing me to marry this guy but I am just interested in his money.
Pls advice, How can I stop this? Or should i continue that way?
Well, you brought that all upon yourself and you will be the one to suffer it if eventually something went wrong.
You wouldn't have agreed with your mom at first if you were not after his money also.
Just pray that everything goes well and he is not abusive.
So you like to marry a suffer head like yourself abi. Please my sister, money answereth all things as the Bible puts it no be joke o. When you marry an affluent man, the love will come through divine intervention.
You have to choose what you really want. Marriage is not a game. Your mum is forcing u into marriage simply because he is rich, since she's not thinking of your happiness you have to think of your happiness and your future, if u don't love him then don't get married to him because if u do that will require u keep pretending to love someone you don't for the rest of your life. So please think about it very well.
My advice is do what makes you happy, your mom won't stay with you in his house if you marry him, if you dont love him don't do it so you won't regret later, don't go after his money, love conquers all so they say, be with someone you love and will love you back with the same vibe and energy.
Money they say is the root of all evil, since you know deep down yourself you have no feeling for the guy let alone love, it's never too late for you to retrace your step and call of the introduction, marriage is life time,how will you cope for not being happy for the rest of your life because of money, just tell your mum and inform people who could talk to her. Let her know your decision
your mom forced you and you obeyed that's interesting, now how can you marry and have s**x with a guy you don't love to the extent of dropping out of school because of him and you are telling me is your moms instructions you are following 🙄.
Girl better wake up all that glitters ain't gold please don't waste your precious future because your Mon said. you got lots of chance's in life and moreover you are still young, never you depend on anyone because of money or wealth you got the time and power to make yours anytime girl.
I will advise you to end it. Marriage is not dating is a life time commitment and any mistakes you made you will ever going to cry for the rest of your life please reason well and make your Mon to understand. Thanks 😍
I think is more better for you to tell the guy what's really going on between your qnd your mom,he could help you to abroad without marrying you,since thats what your mom want.but have always say it,parents should stop looking into money in marriage.they've totally forget that love is the Ruth of all happy home
Marrying a man because his rich,would never gives a happy home and might not even last
The guy you loved and love you would really be heart broken and which could make him kill his self if he later finds out what you about to do.if you do really love the guy,you should not go on with the wedding
Wow. This one is serious. You're still so young dear. You've done a wrong thing by pretending to be interested because of his money, but you should never get married to someone you barely know and don't love. Most times, it doesn't.turn out good
You can't just marry a guy because of his worthy. Marriage is a legal union between two parties, and your mother is forcing you to get married to someone you don't know in your life.
Despite that, she throw your own cousin sister out the house because of this and you keep quiet. Hindering you from furthering your education. So i advise you to stop that marriage because happiness is the most important thing in marriage.
That is a very wrong thing to do,parents should never be involved in who ever their children falls in love with or choosee to marry,all they are there to give is counsel and advice and prayers,
Yes every mother wants the best for her child but the decision is left for you to make if to go for someone you love or someone that loves you. They are two different thing if you love someone for the love he can let her become rich and take care of you but if you love someone for money he can become broke and take you as a piece of rag. It is never advisable for you to marry anyone because of the money or the fortune or prosperity
It was your mums initiative that you get close to him so he'll marry you and you played by the rule and committed yourself on several occasions..
When you heard MARRIAGE didn't you know what is involved?
Now the guy came back to achieve one thing which he thinks he has achieved and you're planning on ruining it.
Anyways it's still your decision to make, marriage is a lifetime deal.... Take your time and make a decision for yourself
No you shouldnt at all, follow your heart or else the marriage might not last. You could get divorced at some point, so its best you look for someone you blend and connect with and not for his wealth.
My candid advise is to follow your heart. Any relationship not founded with love does not really last or stand the test of time. It will just be one trouble or the other and finally leads to divorce which is very bad and not advisable.
I know it won't be easy but follow your heart and mind and pray concerning it.
For the sake of the future, it is not advisable.
No one would say you should disobey your mum? But your mum is definitely mixing up things. She believes to be acting out of affection/care for you. She believes she has a Solace for you by asking you to marry a rich man not knowing that it could turn out otherwise. Let her feel your pains concerning this issue. Let her reason with you. Convince her with everything by also letting her know your true feelings. Who knows whether that man truly loves you or not? He might also has ulterior motives. May God put you on the right track I pray.
You shouldn't have slept with him but since you did already, all you have to do is talk to your mum and let her know how you feel. Marriage isn't all about money even love is not enough.. And if you talk to her and she remains adamant, just talk to people you know she listens to
Come out straight to her, tell her what's on your mind, but try not to make it seem like it's her fault for making you lose your education and all sort, you could even tell her that you want to finish your education here in Nigeria, because since you don't love him, he will get to know soon after your marriage and you'll be suffering for it. Tell her your mind, let her know how you feel
To me go ahead and what you need to do, because the did has been done. If you fail to marry him your mother won't allow you to rest. If you marry the guy because of the you will regret it later. If don't you will still regret it because you ve been having S8x with him which makes the guy fall in love with you. You case is complicated my dear. Your mother that could have advice you better seems to be the one pushing further to do that because of money. She is getting it and happy. You too has stopped your school, planning for marriage after the introduction yet you claim you don't love the guy but his money. Lady, you have to take up your mind and do one. However, which one you do you will regret it later. It is not a curse but base on the premise that is on ground you laid to us to advice you on.
This is a small deal. You have the right to choose between what you like and what you don't like, your mum is not the one marrying, it's you, so you should decide who or who not to marry. Make your choice, be bold and tell your mum you can't marry the guy, because you don't have feelings for him.
I don't know why some mum are just so self centered and selfish they always want their own opinion to prevail. If you know your happiness is not with that rich guy please don't listen to your mum ooh because you are the one in it not your mum. Just try and think very well. I'll advice you seek the face of people that are older than your mum to come into the picture.
My dear if you don't love this particular guy I advise you refute the marriage, marry who you love, who you can find peace and joy with and also confide in, these things are far much better than money.
My dear is not easy to marry the person you don't love but put everything behind you and try and love the girl. The girl might love you try and find out and love him more forget about what your mother did it not, no matter she is not right by forcing you but as you people want to get married just try and fall in love with him
My dear sister,forever is too long to be unhappy,if you all because of money enter a marriage with someone, it's just as if you've signed a death contract because marriage is forever,a healthy home with happiness is better than a wealthy home with fight ooo, I'll really advise you to tell your mum you don't love him,do you know what may happen to the guy you left???? You don't know his future,and am very sure he has a great future,so I'll really advise you to look before you leap so you won't end up in regret
My dear, you have all the time now and you can save yourself. Truly, you are influenced by your mother, but hear me well: no man will always a girl that thrust themself on a man. He will take you as a glide digger.
It is very unfortunate that you want to marry someone you don't love but love his money. My advice is ask the guy to forgive you that you don't love him. Go and pray to GOD for forgiveness and ask GOD to guide on doing the right thing. GOD bless you
You dont love the other guy too, because you have slept with the rich guy, the truth is no one is forcing you to get married, you brought it on yourself sweetheart. You laid your bed already,my sister at least leave Nigeria and enjoy it might be worth it later on.
You don't love him and yet, you had s*x thrice with him in his house, it still didn't occur to you that you guys are not gonna work. You have the world under your feet and have a life of your own to live and not according to the terms set by your mum, all in the name of getting money and more money, and to the extent she calls him now and then for financial assistance. You already made the mistake, just cux you don't want to disobey your mum and I understand, but I will advice you go to an elder un your clan and explain to him, through him the man would be told to give the marriage a halt, that is the number one thing,
Then you go back school if you don't want to be just house wife with no class and face all forms of intimidation from the man.
You still have your future in your hands, make a move for the best.
This is what happens in so many homes in Nigeria especially in the rural areas where poor families are in huge number. But for somebody who wants to marry or settle down, you should know that marriage is a lifetime institution, once you are in, you are in. Love somebody for who is he and not what he is. Affluence shouldn't play a role in marriage rather a pure love and commitment and overall compatibility.
Firstly I don't support that your mom is forcing you to do what's not good but you have to be brave to stop it and tell your other relatives about it so they can talk to your mom about your decision on the matter....
Marrying a rich guy is not the problem... But problems Is will you live happily with him. My advice to you is that your mom can't tell you who to marry because you are not the one that got her married to your father
The smart thing to do is to marry for love, not money, beside you don't really know the man in question too well, what if he doesn't possess the qualities you want in a man, my dear your happiness is at stake here, you are still young, so i will advice you to wait for the one you love and loves you back you don't know what the future holds for him, he might become great tomorrow , and i believe if you get married to him your joy will be complete.
In the first place, you should not have gotten involved in all these, as far as I'm concerned, you're as good as married. You should have considered the emotions first before anything. My advice for you is to talk to the guy himself, he's the only one that can help you out
You have actually started your problems by yourself a relationship is usually based on trust and you guys haven't built it yet and since you built it on money it's all going to end up disastrous you guys have even gone far into an affair you can only hope on God now try to know him better and see how it works maybe with time if he is a good person you might just find out he's your perfect match.
Money is not everything my dear. I have seen a situation where one married a very rich man but as am talking to you now she's praying to get out of the marriage despite all the money. By the way do you know the source of his income. You better be careful. You are the one that is moving into that marriage and not your mom, so don't allow her to lure your life because she will not be there when things turn the other way out.
well you brought all this upon yourself, u could have bailed out from the beginning but u also went along with the plan with your mum, and now all of a sudden u realize u don't love him.. my dear!! What Do u do now?? I guess u just have to back out if its still possible but if it isn't then I pray for you o and hope he isn't an abusive person
Let me just say that you should not marry someone because of money because what if he goes broke or what if at the end of the day he start beating you and considering marriage are you sure you want to spend the rest of your life with him.
If you marry a man because you feel he had money ,and not for the lobe attached to it ,trust me babe ," You Will Regret It ",at certain point in time ,because you aim is the money and not to build a strong and healthy family.Just make your mom understand your choice of decision.After all the rich guy began from someone,what stops you from helping the guy you love attain that height .
You are responsible for what you are passing through just because of lost. There is no need to quit because I supposed you have taken much from him apart from your mother. Quiting may demand payment of all you have collected. Even if he does not demand for them, its a curse.
My dear marriage is a school that you will never graduate from except death do you path. I will advice you pray about it. Don't be moved by money, you have to consider if this guy is the type you can cope with all your life. You check the list of your ldeal man, once he scores up to 60% then he is good to go. You pray for confirmation.
Why are some ladies like this now???..you don't love him but his money???well the love of money they say is the root of all evill,you'll have to bear the cost of your actions..I just pray he's not a drug dealer or something worst..but trust me that marriage won't be heaven on earth expect you of cox develop something for him along the line.
Marriage to my point of view is not a child's play at all, if u know u don't love him, it is better for u to quit such marriage, because marriage without love and happiness is a disaster. Money is not everything dear.
Hmmn. You started it,so finish it. Love is not emotion. Love is facing reality. Emotion is what some of us call love. Emotion which is feeling grows. You may not feel anything for him now but you may feel something for him later. The guy has played his part very well. It's now your turn to play your own part. Love is a beautiful thing. Love is the only virtue that makes things beautiful.
Dear please listen to this advice am about giving you.. Getting married to someone you know you don't love because of money.. Is a wrong step to take in life..Because nobody knows tomorrow, am not saying he will be poor oo but what if it happens.. There would be no marriage again then cause the money is gone..
You really don't know what you want, you went too far before thinking of the fact you don't love him, well its really a difficult time to reject him.
For me love grows, allow yourself to love him but if you try and you feel you can't it's better you end the relationship no matter the consequences cause a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.
My dear I think the best thing for you to do is to call your mum for conversation cry out to her thant you can't marry a man your mind doesn't accept despite his richies if she still insists that you should then I guess you should ask God for help
You're already married or almost married so what more do you want to hear? You want somebody to tell you not to marry the rich guy or what? Refucing to marry him now that the two of you have gone far in preparation will be a mistake of a life time. First, your mother will reject you, you already stopped school for this. Just go ahead, you're already into it head-long.
What you can't eat don't even bother to taste it. You have really gone too far and now you're talking and complaining. Well, since you have not married him yet you still have hope. Just confess to your mum first, then to this guy so that they'll both let you go.
I'm sorry you tested the water with both feet now only to find out late the water is too hot. Never marry because you saw television, marry out of vision. What will happen if tomorrow the money grew wings? What will happen if today's charms fade tomorrow? You dance to your mothers tune. Its time you tell yourself the truth. If you can't live with it then quit now.
The deed has already been done and you've gotten yourself Involve in something over money which is not so good, you can't back out because all of this us not behind your so called mom, so pray to have blessed home and marriage but if anything happen. You brought all that on yourself my sister and I hope you wont have to suffer
Nothing like your mummy force you to marry him because you have said it all that you too have interest in his money which is very bad,my sister please change your mind and follow this man with all your mind and you will never regret it