Good Day Everyone, I Need Advice From You Guys On What To Do Next.
I have this girl that I have been dating for four years now right from secondary school times, we so much Love each other to the extent that we had it in mind to get married, she was a virgin, but I wasn't able to sleep with her, because we decided to keep our self before marriage.
So last year she got admission into a tertiary institution, as she was about to go to school, I felt like am about to loose her, so I spoke to her she said she will keep her self and her virginity till we get married.
So recently I just called her, she picked and we were just talking and I decided to ask my usual questions about her virginity, but I was broken hearted when she told me in tears that a guy in her school has dis-Virgin her, I was so sad.
please I don't know what to do next!!
Should I continue with the relationship or I should just break up with her?
Chai this kind thing dey pain o. Bros why you lose guard yourself na? and where were you when she was going to school? Ehn anyways, e don happen, see eh, i even confuse for your matter self. So what to do now? The babe do go experience the sweet something for school, i bet she will continue enjoying herself over.
Okay see eh, wait i dey come, let me ask the ancestors, the matter even tire me self.
It is a very painful thing for a lady to loose her Virginity to another man after dating and waiting for long to me i think the Virginity is not meant for the guy so if true love really exist the guy should accept his faith and move on with the lady
One thing about girls is that they can never forget the guy that deflowered them,so all you have to do is to leave her and go for for another girl cause as it stands now your woman is gone!!!!!!
You should not leave her because she lost her virginity.Virginity should not determine love she has loose she has loose one thing you will do now is to draw her more closer it might not even be her intention to loose it. The fact she lost her virginity does not stop your relationship .It has not spoil
For me I will rather break up than to keep dating. I can't just imagine that happening at all, let her go and meet the guy who disvirgined her or you both can still continue dating despite the mistake. Unless if you no longer love her.
U should only continue if u feel like o and don't fall for her fake tears cos ladies do that a lot to deceive men. Am sure she didn't lose her virginity by mistake.
It is very painful my good brother and it takes the grace of God to overcome such a painful experience, but let's look at it this way again for her to tell you of what has happened means that she is honest, sincere to herself and to you, so my advice is you can continue with the relationship if you want for I see the lady been a God fearing person some would have kept it to herself and after you marry her you now find out the truth I think that will be most painful than now that she have let you know what has happened with tears. She is a wife material and truthful person.
Truly things like that pain a lot. If you truly love her and the girl sincerely feel remorse and also that she is ready to be faithful to you, I will advise you continue with the relationship. But if reverse is the case, my brother run for your dear life. There are many more fishes in the ocean.
Wow, this is a pity. The lady in question here, losing her virginity is her own headache, because nowadays most guys dont care if their ladies are still virgins or not. At a point they to have slept with other ladies. So for me o I advice u not to breakup if you really love her you should move on with your relationship because it's her cross to carry .
No matrer what, I think you shouldn't leave her.
She told you another guy took her virginity, it could have been rape. If you truly love her, find a way to forgive her and move on with the relationship.
Wow this is a very serious situation, I really don't know what you should do here the question is -can you continue with relationship even though she lied to you even though she kept the truth from you?
Take heart bro but its not advisable to leave just because she has been disflowered by another guy. You love her and not her virginity. Just because she lost her virginity doesn't mean she doesn't love you. Just confirm your stand with her
So sad. Sometimes things we never expected do happen to us but the truth is that in this case playing blame game won't help, so if you really love her please go on okay.... Anybody can be victim of things like this .
That's always the case ones these young girls enter school... What were you expecting before, my brother foget that girl cos she's gone. I hope you learn from your mistakes that promises can always be broken
Bros don't give up so easily, when she comes back home try and listen to the other side of the story it could be that she was raped, poison in drink or she open up willingly to the guy.
That is when you can quit the relationship but for now don't give up on her.
Mistakes do happen,and comes with regret. If she's really apologetic. You could just forgive her, because i smell love in the relationship.
It's something painful though, but just forgive her and give her second chance.
No no no. Have you been sleeping all this while?
To say, let us keep our selves till marriage, in this century, who does that? I think you brought this on your self. Don't blame because you gave her the room.
It's painful sha, may God put you at ease.
It's sad but did the guy force her or she willingly opened her two legs for him.. n if that's the case u have to move in afterall she's not the ist gal to gain admission or does she feel being in the university means u shud be having sleeping around
So sad to hear forgive her cause she didn't do it intensionally and also she was open to tell you what has happened to her in her school if it another they pretend and keep it just because she loves you she told you the truth so please forgive her
What a painful thing.😧 I pray that shall never happen to me because, am also in such a way you pass before you got hurt. But guy, if it was me en, I will surely broke up with her because my mind will never ever forgot such a thing. Is better we separate.
To me I think that true love have absolutely nothing to do with virginity. Who knows, loosing her virginity to another guy could probably be unintentional. If you truly and still love, I know it will hurt you but there's no need backing off in the relationship.
Bro I did advice you too move on cause she won't have your time again since the guy that disvrigin her didn't force her so I see no reason you should still keep her you have too move on cause the only bond keeping you two has already been broken she won't send you anymore, so bro move on
Bro, it is so painful that she has lost her virginity to another person. But that doesn't matter. Though it was a great mistake of her, but for her to tell you the truth, then she realized her fault and confessed to you so you can go on.
Just forgive get and go on with the relationship. I know she wouldn't wanna do that again if she is a person with conscience
I can imagine how terrible you feel to hear that from her, my advise is find out if she still love you, if she does, pls forgive her and accept your fate and move on but you suspect that her feelings have changed towards you. Pls kindly look for someone else.
If you really love her, who cares about virginity in this age... Just continue dating her only of you think you can Still trust her after what she did. If it were to be me, I will outrightly break up as I have trust issues. So it is up to you and your feelings for her...
I don't think virginity should be a reason to leave the girl the question you are to ask her now is that is the love still there between you guys or is your relationship fading away. Sorry sha this is very painful to hear.
Hmmmmmm brother i can feel your pain 😭, you are even lucky she told you the truth, because if she had lied to you till wedding night 😲, that will be hell on earth for you, move on with your life, don't blame her, not all ladies can zip up till they graduate.
This is very painful and heartbreaking but i wouldn't advice u leave the relationship if u still love her, everyone is bound to make mistakes, no one is perfect. Everyone has he or her own flaws but if u feel she losing her virginity to someone else hurts u whenever u see her, then let her go sweetie.
Choi I know that pain ooo.. After polishing your shoe for 4 years ooo, someone else na wore it before you.. Chai poor guy, see eeh, Let the truth be told, you can't live with such bitter truth.. Just let her go but if you still need your share of the cake, you can travel to her school and act caring caring and take your share
OMG! This can be very painful, I blame the girl for not keeping to their promise, but anyways bro just take heart and move on, you will find love again
Chai very painful to date for this long and finally another guy break the long awaiting golden cup recored .but bro you fall handsbig time .how you go still carry secondary school brain after this long.now she done start to enjoy herself and you can't stop that ,she go love you but she now know what she have been missing all this years
My advise is to move on or keep dating her with another guy
She wasn't unconscious while she lost her virginity. So it was a conscious decision she took. But we all make mistakes in life. If you still truly love her forgive her and continue, but you should try and be doing small-small investigation about her in that school.
I feel sorry for you but if you really love her and she love you too and want to marry you. Then give her another chance to prove her faithfulness to you again.
If her sudden disvirginity is not intentional (I mean rape!) you should go ahead with her. But if was purposely done please quit the relationship. Because the guy who disvirgin her will always has upper hand than you.
Before a girl can agree to be disflowered by a guy she loves her so much, now from the story above, her love for you is lesser than that of the guy that disvirgined her..my advice for you now is to move on, I know you must have made many investments on her , but don't just allow the feelings to weigh you down.
It is very painful about a girl to lose her virginity with another man else. But my brother if not still in love with her just continue with your relationship, because 98% of the girls now are not Virginie,in this world now if you want to get marry a lady don't even mind her virginity because you may not meet her virgin.
If I were the guy, I'll break up with the girl because it's not that she was raped, if she had true love for me she wouldn't have engaged herself in a relationship with another guy
This sad and painful. It's all about love. If you feel you love her enough to love past this and can tolerate the emotion if you so happen to remember in the future, of course you can still take her back provided she still loves you and it was all a mistake
It's sad when you think you and someone are in the same page but you find out you're all alone. Sorry for the disappointment. From what you said she was crying when she told you. She might have made a mistake which I feel she's sorry for. Virginity is not a test of love. Forgive her, be with her and make that part of your love success story.
Firstly you have to know how come another guy dis-virgin her because a guy can't just come and dis-virgin someone he does not know.
Secondly, is she sorry for losing it another guy or is she OK with it. Because campus life is a different world all together.
And find out if she still loves you because there in campus, there are alot of distractions and fine guy much more better than you.
A guy dis flowered her? Was it rape?
If is not rape, my brother, she made the decision herself, no body will ever force you into it, the choice is always yours to make, to keep or loose it to someone.
If you love her You have to put the issue of virginity aside my dear .. Virginity or no virginity doesn't stop her from being the girl you have always loved.
Mehn dis is very painful,my advice to u bro is 2 just move on wit ur lyf and also delete her from ur memory cos she cn neva cm back 2 u again.may be u 2 ar not meant 2 be together,just let her go bro
Oh no!! Guys make a general mistake by saying let's keep ourselves to marriage.. That's an old history.. Every girls wanna see the dirtiest side of their loved ones.. If been dirty is what she likes, you'd see she'd have made her move but all is well..
Virginity isn't a goal to a happy relationship or marriage.. What's meant to be was meant to be.. But if your love for her is strong, talk to her and make her yours completely. But if she's over whelming you with school stuffs keep advising her, make time for her, visit her, take her out.. Let her know you have her back
I guess she was raped.I'm sure you don't love her because of d virginity,if u truly love her u don't need to break up with her.
First question Mr man is did you agree not to sleep with her because of her virginity status or did you really love her for real. If you truly love her as you have claimed i think you can still go ahead with the relationship and marriage plans. True love they say bears all things
Mr, let her go. After all you have nothing to lose since it wasn't God who instructed you to marry him in the first place. Go to your creator in place of prayers, ask for the bone of your bone and you will get the best for you.
It has happened already bro, if you are still in love with her then carry on, at least she told you the truth. She did not even lie she was raped.
It can be really painfull because she promised to keep it for you, but at the same time you dis virgining he doesn't seal or make a difference in the relationship what truly matters is the love you have for her if that is still intact I guess all you need is to get over the fact that she cheated and all will be well
Well if you still love her you can move on with her but she will love the guy that disvirgin her most than you.because she always be in her mind.