She Suggested We Take An Oath Before The Deal

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hello guys

I was born in a poor family but in my university days I met a stunning beautiful girl one morning when heading to a lecture and never knew she also notice me. At first and just in a and a glimpse of time and jokingly and never knew how it started all of a sudden we're together our love grown stronger and it seems like nothing could separate us

When we were done with our studies I was willing to marry her and I proposed to her she took me to a family but they will not allow me to marry her because I'm from a poor home and I was very poor and didn't have a good job so they think or they thought I was going to dupe them

So she made the suggestion that she's going to give me a sum of 5 million naira,a car and a house then I will also have to get her pregnant so our family will not have any other choice but to allow us get married so I was very happy with the idea and opinion because I also am an ambitious person I know the kind of business I can do with 5 million naira, but then she said before the deal could be seal I will have to take an oath with her so that she'll be sure that I'm not going to leave her at any time.

please guys is taking this oath the better option because either way I will really wanted to marry her. Even  if I take the oath then have the money and property to myself so I will not lose her or I disagree and she thinks I'm trying to dupe her as she leaves me alone please guys what is your say on this because I really don't want to leave her.

She suggested we take an oath before the deal - By Oreoluwa Aderinola - 2020-01-03 21:37:03

I personally don't feel it's right taking oath but in some rare cases oath taking is essential.In your situation I don't feel it necessary to take an oath or swear an oath because if she truly loves you she would not ask to to take an oath but at the end of it all,it's depends on you if your mind wants you to take the oath then take it but if your mind feels otherwise don't take it

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She suggested we take an oath before the deal - By Nnoshiri Clinton - 2020-01-03 22:03:32

I suggest you should not take an oat with her. Taking an oat alone is a sin before God. So the idea of taking an oat with her is out of it. The better thing is that, you tell her the dangers of taking an oat and if she agrees, then make sure you don't cheat on her.

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She suggested we take an oath before the deal - By Abiola David - 2020-01-03 23:34:56

First and foremost I think u guys have trust issues if not she should not have suggested taking an oath, Second, taking an oath is very bad and if at a point in time any side of the party breaks the oath.it could lead to previous consequences so I advice u not to.

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She suggested we take an oath before the deal - By Success Ayoola Aifuwa - 2020-01-03 23:36:08

Gone are the days when oaths are taken. I understand her point. I mean youth of nowadays will do anything for the money, she probably is scared that the love will disappear when you get the money. If that is the case, why not sign an agreement with a lawyer and witnesses too? Just my opinion

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She suggested we take an oath before the deal - By CHUKWUDI HENRY - 2020-01-04 01:28:30

Instead of taking an oath you'd sign a prenuptial agreement with a lawyer in case of you running away with the money because the idea of taking n oath should not be welcomed at all. And then if you should get her pregnant I feel that more or less seals the deal because you become bounded to her through the child.

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She suggested we take an oath before the deal - By Edward Okolo - 2020-01-04 14:27:58

I think its a bad idea to take an oath.... Its even a sin before God to take an oath... I understand her fear of you running away with her money and all that but she shouldn't tell you to take an oath... But its all left to you... Its your decision

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She suggested we take an oath before the deal - By Oladejo Roqeeb - 2020-01-05 13:50:35

If she is from good christian home, she will understand that taking oath is a sin,  why don't you enlight her on the idea of taking her to your lawyer and sign the agreement,  I think things should work out that way..  Do that and she won't lose her trust in you. 

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She suggested we take an oath before the deal - By Onyebuchi Emmanuel - 2020-01-05 17:16:00

To me I will say taking an oath is like promising her what is impossible.As human I got to understand that we live by grace not by strength we're not perfect in other words, we tend to make mistakes and still correct it by grace. Now back to reality WHAT about you take the oath and along the line Godforbid something terrible happens like sleeping with someone else by mistake maybe after been drunk and the oath u guys took went  against sumtin like that, before you realize your mistake it can be late at the process, so no dont!.

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She suggested we take an oath before the deal - By Oluwatosin Michael - 2020-01-06 00:02:58

You can persuade her more not to, but don't take an oath. It is highly forbidden. I'm very sure, if you sit her down and let her know about the effect and possible consequences of taking oath, she'll concur with you. Besides, prove your love for her. 

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She suggested we take an oath before the deal - By Uwakwe Benjamin Uche - 2020-01-06 17:35:40

she is actually trying to put you under boundage, pls mr. she does not love you, taking an oath does not gurrantee safe marriage, dont be after materials things like the money she promised and cars. as a graduate you should be able to carter for yourself now. pls kindly let her go with her money and oath

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She suggested we take an oath before the deal - By Ismail Motunrayo - 2020-01-06 17:40:56

if  you trust yourself and you believe you wont leave her, then you shouldnt be scared of taking an oath, what she wants to do is for the benefits of the two of you, atleast you will start a life with that, dont lose this opportunity because of an oath, she wants to trust you but she is feeling insecured, besides men cant be trusted anymore.

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She suggested we take an oath before the deal - By Sodiq Adeleke - 2020-01-08 15:36:24

In a situation like this my brother i will reckon you go ahead because it is the girl wish, to serve as assurance that you won't betray her , it is something i can do myself and in the explanation you make you love her as well so there is nothing to be afraid of

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She suggested we take an oath before the deal - By Ngozi Nduba - 2020-01-10 12:56:16

From my own point of view, your relationship is still not solid enough and the trust is not 100% for her to suggest taking of oath moreso you have not done enough to earn her trust, I would advise you not to take the oath because it is a sin as a christian instead of oath taking while not involve your lawyers and sign an agreement if there is any foul play the defaulting party will pay the price

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She suggested we take an oath before the deal - By Adeshina Ayomide - 2020-01-10 15:01:24

Well, I think signing a prenuptial agreement with a lawyer is what people are doing nowadays and its much better. And besides, its not like she doesn't trust but she is having insecurities and you should show her more that you belong to her and that you won't do anything to hurt her. She suggested that oath taking mainly because of her insecurities and if she still insists, then a prenuptial agreement is better 

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She suggested we take an oath before the deal - By Joshua Panam - 2020-01-12 16:40:20

I will not advice oath taking but  from your story line, it seems there's a bit of doubt or lack of trust from her side. This doubt or lack of Trust can cause problems in the future , let her Go or get a lawyer who will get the deal on a legal ground since you really love her.

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She suggested we take an oath before the deal - By Bolu David - 2020-01-13 06:54:40

The oath taking is not advisable at all, you dont get to create what happens in the future, the future is very well unknown and anything can happen, it could possibly be from her side or your side, the traditional oath lets you swear using either your soul or something as important as a leverage incase you break the oath, and your soul isn't worth something like this, its possible you guys notice you dont love each other anymore and both come to a decision that you are not meant for each other, but you wont be able to go apart cos of the oath, think twice before taking an oath

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She suggested we take an oath before the deal - By Daniel Adejoh - 2020-01-13 11:30:12

The basis for every relationship is trust, without trust you guys wouldn't have come this far. Love is a risk that both individuals must be willing to take. I don't think it is right to take an oath "to prove your love". So all the times you were together wasn't enough for her to see and feel the love??. You're the one in the relationship, you're the one that loves her and knows her keenly, follow your heart dear. Just follow your heart and be willing to face whatever consequences may follow, after all, love is a risk. 

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She suggested we take an oath before the deal - By Nyakpo Mercy - 2020-01-13 21:41:25

I feel you should sit her down and explain why taking an oath is wrong on all grounds, if she loves, she should be able to trust you and take your word for it. I feel you should decline it politely and show her that you are ready to fight for your love any other way apart from that. 

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She suggested we take an oath before the deal - By Ehiosun Victory - 2020-01-15 21:53:04

First and foremost I think u guys have trust issues if not she should not have suggested taking an oath, Second, taking an oath is very bad and if at a point in time any side of the party breaks the oath.it could lead to previous consequences so I advice u not to.

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She suggested we take an oath before the deal - By Princewill Odinakachukwu - 2020-01-19 22:35:36

I would not advice you to take that oath it's in no way an assurance that things won't go side ways I tell you honestly, she loves you, no doubt then make it a clear statement and stand on it, you love her and you're ready to go to the ends of the earths just to show her how much you love her but this is not an option. If can't accept you for who you are and what you stand for, then that's a problem. In any case please and please don't take that oath.

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She suggested we take an oath before the deal - By Ehiosun Victory - 2020-01-20 22:58:32

Gone are the days when oaths are taken. I understand her point. I mean youth of nowadays will do anything for the money, she probably is scared that the love will disappear when you get the money. If that is the case, why not sign an agreement with a lawyer and witnesses too? Just my opinion.

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