Each Day I Remember This I Feel Like Hurting Myself ( Advise )

Each day I remember this I feel like hurting myself, it all start this way.

I was in relationship with a girl, I so much love and respect her. This year would have make it the fifth year together but just last year after our fourth year anniversary I found out that she was cheating on me with my best friend..

When I first meet this girl she prove to me that she is a virgin and that was five years ago and that makes me to love her and cherish her more.. As time goes by we started making advances on each other and she wanted me as much as i do too but i could not go against my bound since she is a virgin, but before then I have summoned some courage to ask my mom if it is good to break ones virginity and she said yes if only I would spend my life with the lady but since I have a long way to go because am yet to gain admission that I should not try such for it is a spiritual attachment that could cause misfortune in nearby time..

First year passed, and on our second year anniversary she was a bit drunk and wanted me to have her which i was willing to but when I wanted to make love to her, she started reminding me of her virginity and my moms advice hits my brain and i let her be and after that incident I gained admission into a polythecnic far from home which makes it hard for us to see or be together except when I visit home...

So after the third year together without s*x, the love started fading away until last year Xmas that I found out she was having affair with my friend and what pains me most is that she went telling our friends that I was not man enough, that makes her to leave and she can't have anything to do with me again..

But just two months ago, she called me on phone with a strange line telling me to forgive her and accept her back that nothing happened between two of them and she can prove that to me and knowing fully well that I still love her and can't be with another since then because of her sacrifices and effort in my life, I don't know what to do..

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  • I'll will suggest you go on with your life and wish her well cos there will come a time you'll still be far away from here and someone that could tell such lies against you what else? Move on dude.

    - Adesua David - 2019-09-17 08:58:29 Quote

  • Well.... This can be a confusing situation, especially coupled with all the emotions involved : love, hate, regret, Dissapointment and all that. For one I think that relationship has already become toxic and addictive for you so it's best you talk to the girl in question, find some closure and end the relationship amicably so that you can move on because you can never trust her again and any relationship without trust is a shipwreck waiting to happen. 

    - Virtue Azuka - 2019-09-17 09:00:32 Quote

  • What a sad story, it's so heart broken. Anyway, even God do forgive us our greatest sins let alone you. Since she have realised what she did is bad, and she is back begging you for forgiveness, if she can assure you that she won't leave you again I think you should just forgive her and accept her back.

    - Isomkwo Clement - 2019-09-17 09:00:43 Quote

  • You should sit her down and talk to her .listen to her reason for cheating. Also talk to your best friend and hear his side of what happened. 

    Seeing as you are still in love with her, you should think deeply on what you hear after your discussion with both parties. Let your instinct guide you through the decision you will finally make. 


    - Deborah Moyaki - 2019-09-17 09:01:36 Quote

  • Never ignore warning signals when it comes to relationship issues..  She left you for no reason at first,  she will still leave you when she finds a reason to do so. 

    Be guided

    - Kennedy Onyebuchi - 2019-09-17 09:03:26 Quote

  • Be guided.... There's a difference between good character and being a virgin... There are many virgins out there without brain... She could cheat on you with your best friend my dear be careful or you might be hurt beyond measure the second time... It's hard to say but the moment one is cheated on to trust becomes an issue a very big one... Forgive her but use your head

    - Adesola Gideon Oguntola - 2019-09-17 09:03:48 Quote

  • I Will like to advice you to let her go, if for the fact that she had anything to do with you friend .There are many fishes in the ocean for you. One of the things you value in her is her virginity which she had given to you friend

    - Alalade Taiwo - 2019-09-17 09:04:00 Quote

  • Before reaching any decisions, I think these questions must be answered in affirmative. Did she truly love you during the whole time you were together? Does it truly constitute a sin to care for, love and respect a lady? And lastly, does getting back together guarantee happiness that you crave for? If these could be answered in yes, then you can press on to give her another chance. And if no, then you must let go and forget because it's never meant to be.

    - Ibraheem Rasheed - 2019-09-17 09:06:18 Quote

  • Relationship is not a do and die affair.. I took my precious time to read what you posted here.. I will advise you to move on with your life if things are noe working well has you wish.. And be rest assure that a good relationship  will last long if there's commitment and trust.. 

    Move on with your life and a better girl will come your way.. 

    I had a friend that drank sniper because of his bad relationship.. He's dead now, the girl is still alive... Think about it too..

    - Idris Owolabi - 2019-09-17 09:06:49 Quote

  • My dear,, forgive and forget, there is nothing love can not due, she might be wrong but now she is back to her senses, 

    The devil you know is better than the Engel  u don't know 

    - Noah Joel - 2019-09-17 09:07:29 Quote

  • Why would she go about telling lies behind your back in first place if nothing was between them? You know what, do your investigation well, ask your guy and your girl to come, confront the both of them, if one lie, the other one will speak up, and clear the issue. If she pass forgive her, if she doesn't, move on, there are better girls out there.

    - Boluwatife Fashina - 2019-09-17 09:07:54 Quote

  • This is a touching story, well is based known to you, but is a disgrace to her upon all this promises you people made and she go ahead to disappoint you and they worst part and painful things is she went out with a friend and telling him you are not man enough Bros this is a big insult...and slap to her face ..don't mind face what is in your front go ahead with one mind...forget about her..

    - Friday Kuje Audu - 2019-09-17 09:08:24 Quote

  • You should answer these questions honestly

    Do I really love her?

    Can I be happy with her old attitude if she continue doing that?

    how can I make her change her ways?

    - Olusetan Olufola Gideon - 2019-09-17 09:08:36 Quote

  • Please calm down there is more to life which is more worth living for, just be strong and hold on it's definitely gonna be alright one day. Just Imagine how those you put smiles on there faces will feel when you are no more 

    - Abubakar Darji - 2019-09-17 09:09:11 Quote

  • I will advice you move on with your life bro..imagine cheating with your best friend ..she has broken the friendship bound already..that why trust is a good foundation in a relationship.. she broke the trust already

    - Adaramola Nifemi - 2019-09-17 09:18:45 Quote

  • She had an affair with your friend and told people that you are not man enough what else do you want with her? Just move on with your life and let her be its obvious she doesn't love you anymore 

    - Chidinma Ugochukwu - 2019-09-17 09:19:54 Quote

  • Since you are not ready to settle down, for the fact you are still in school. Please let her go. What you are aware of the will have great effect in your life than what you don't know. 

    - Sylvia Anuforo - 2019-09-17 09:22:44 Quote

  • My brother, based on the fact you did you still love her, forgive her. Though she made a mistake of blackmailing you earlier and also dating your own friend. But if you agree to have her back as your love, will distance not even cause another thing? If no, then go ahead because for her to even call you back, means she still wants you in her life once more. Give it a try bro. She might be the real one.

    - Adekoya Ayomide - 2019-09-17 09:24:13 Quote

  • For me, if she can prove it to you that she really had nothing between them and she is still a VIRGIN (you have to confirm by..... ) then I suggest that  you continue the relationship. Besides I see it as a trying moment. 

    - Ikenna Salvator - 2019-09-17 09:24:33 Quote

  • My advice to you is to forgive her and forget about her, according to your story it seems u are the quite type, there are lot of girls out there that you can mingle with.

    - Bassey Margaret - 2019-09-17 09:24:36 Quote

  • Bro, I'm going to give a straight and blunt advice, which is, MOVE ON, there is still a whole lot of life before you, a lot of people to meet. She can't be trusted.

    - Owolabi Ayomide - 2019-09-17 09:24:54 Quote

  • My advice to you is to forgive and forget about her. According to your story it seems u are the quite type. girls will like to mingle with you, pick anyone of your choice. no course for alarm

    - Bassey Margaret - 2019-09-17 09:28:10 Quote

  • I'll advise that you give her another chance, it happens everybody can make mistake I don't feel you should hold her too guilty for this perhaps not after she said she could prove to you that she has nothing doing with another man give her a second chance also considering the things she's done in your life. That's my own view

    - Victor Adeeko - 2019-09-17 09:33:27 Quote

  • To me I will say move on with your life that means she didn't love you if she do she will not go ahead to date your friend even if she wanted to date someone move on with your life

    - Miracle Boniface - 2019-09-17 09:33:40 Quote

  • Bro see the thing is this girl has left you for food so it's time for you to move on and find someone else. The only way you can take care of your pain is to find someone else that loves you and in my opinion that is the best thing that can happen to you

    - Ayodeji Olusan - 2019-09-17 09:35:52 Quote

  • My brother my advice is that you should move on since you have fear of God in you he will surely lead you to the right one for you just have Faith and be patient.

    - Ukaegbu Chinonso - 2019-09-17 09:36:10 Quote

  • Bro I will advice you to forge ahead with your life . leave her in your past and unfold the future .a lady with whom you have trust issues with, dosent deserve your time and attention. 

    - Charles Igala - 2019-09-17 09:37:15 Quote

  • I will advise you to concentrate on your studies.Leave her and pursue your goals first.

    You still have a lot to achieve in life and dating a girl should not be paramount on your mind at the moment.

    - IFEOMA MBAH - 2019-09-17 09:42:06 Quote

  • Haven't heard of look before you leap?..I'll advice you to just forget her and move on,even though people make mistakes and need a chance to prove that,they have change...however I won't advice a second chance on this,how sure are you it was a mistake?.....its better to get your broken pieces now and move on..

    - Deborah joel - 2019-09-17 09:43:03 Quote

  • Five year together and not yet married. I think both of you are still very young and should be more concerned about your studies and future. At the end of everything you won't still marry each other. You still have a very long to go and you will still meet many more girls in future

    - CHIKWADO B OSUCHUKWU - 2019-09-17 09:46:15 Quote

  • In my own view, I think you should move on with your life, and don't accept are back into your life because she is not trustworthy and you should not think of taking such a girl as your wife.

    - AHMED AHMED GBOLAHAN - 2019-09-17 09:47:05 Quote

  • It is quite pathetic. Love come with a lot of challenges. I could see that your girlfriend is playing a smart one on you. This you should not condone. You can call her and talk to her, revealing your plights. Let her know how you feel about her unruly behavior. If need be, you can talk about reconciliation

    - Olawale Odewole - 2019-09-17 09:47:44 Quote

  • I hope ur not considering going back to her cause that's a big NO. Just move on with your life she ain't worth it at all. N sometimes people decieve themselves they have best friends my dear u have no best friend

    - Divine Dimkpa - 2019-09-17 09:48:46 Quote

  • In life circumstances helps us to see things hidden from us. If you had not gotten admission, you wouldn't know she can do such a thing. Fate just did you a favour by letting you see she can't be trusted. My brother just move on, and thank God you didn't end up marrying her.

    - Brown Sugar. - 2019-09-17 09:50:24 Quote

  • Well I know how hard it can be for you now but you should ask yourself can you live happily without her in your life if you can let her be but if you can't please forgive her and continue you love. 

    - Emmanuel moses - 2019-09-17 09:50:59 Quote

  • I will advice, you forget about her and pray to God to grant you a faithful wife.since she can date your friend not even any other man,sometimes later she can do same with your brother if work transer you out.

    - Ibebunjo Funmilayo - 2019-09-17 09:51:56 Quote

  • That's ladies life, they can say more than that to man. What if you're spending for her and last last she's saying to people that you did not for her and you have married each other. They have no brain more than that. Including men, there are some bad things your friend would have told her about you. If it's true she has nothing with him which means she should still a virgin, you can forgive her and move on since you also still love her.

    - Wasiu Abiodun Adegboye - 2019-09-17 09:52:11 Quote

  • Hi, it hurt but you just have to let go or if you still do love her and she loves you back you can come back to eachother and forget about the past things happens in this world you can still fight back for your relationship okay..

    - Ifeoluwa Emmanuel Owolade - 2019-09-17 09:53:23 Quote

  • My advice will be that you consult relationship cancelor and also pray to God before you accept her back since you don't have anything with her yet. Ensure that she is still a virgin too.

    - SAM ADELABU - 2019-09-17 09:53:38 Quote

  • First of all I will say that you should prepare your heart for an incoming heartbreak after you've accepted her back. She will never be the same and so you need to let her go and then look for another person after all you are a guy and it will be quiet easy for you to take your time and look for a lady that you will love to spend your lifetime with. 

    - NDU-ELUWA CHIMELA - 2019-09-17 09:55:57 Quote

  • My brother, mistake are bound to arise in every or whatever relationship in life, but one must learn how to tolerate all the nonsense that arise in the cause. Still give her a chance, the facts that she has blackmail you does not mean you should not forgive. I know it hurt but try. Take heart.

    - Galion Ishaya James - 2019-09-17 09:57:26 Quote

  • Bro,focus on your school,when you are done and successful,you'll begin to see ladies.but If you feel you love her so much and are willing to try again,even if it hurts you,then go ahead.but to be on the safe side,since you don't trust her,let her go.

    - Okeke Uche - 2019-09-17 09:57:26 Quote

  • I suggest you should forgive her 

    But in the other hand I think you should leave her because she is not trust worthy and you don't know what she might do in the future if you forgive her...I advice you should forget about her and move on with your life

    - Chioke Sophia - 2019-09-17 09:57:42 Quote

  • Walk away and never look back she doesn't deserve you, you'd be better of without her, for her to come back it is obvious she has lost what you respected her for, she left and kept saying to your friends that you aren't man enough and she wants nothing to do with you, you should do the same. 

    You are a good guy and you deserve better than her and you would surely get a better lady. 

    - Richard Olumide Okorocha - 2019-09-17 09:59:00 Quote

  • My dear, I suggest you forgive her. But tell her that you have moved on with your life that there is no more space for her in your heart. I know it won't be easy but you have to try because for me I think that a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.

    - Ugochi Lucy - 2019-09-17 10:00:06 Quote

  • I will advice you to leave her because that kind of a girl is a rubbish girl and he can destroy your future. The girl wants to mislead you on your way of success because once you lay on her all your good fortune has gone for ever so please bro leave her alone. 

    - Eniola Peter - 2019-09-17 10:11:28 Quote

  • I will advice to take her back if she still remain virgin. Cos you dont know how will another one you will go with be,  may be she will be good or not especially a virgin female now adays is scarce. Lastly,  if she is truely sincere she wont make similar mistake again

    - Oladeji habeeb Ademola - 2019-09-17 10:14:37 Quote

  • Is better you leave her because she is not a good girl but the girl can can spoil someone's life. She just a devil because how could she lie on you that you are not a man enough to your friends. That shows that she can do anything to hurt you. 

    - Eniola Peter - 2019-09-17 10:14:59 Quote

  • You should not accept her back if she can do this little act to you and your felt so bad just imagine what she could do to you. Relationship is not just about s*x but about love caring for each other. Don't accept her, she is not a worthy partner for you

    - Godsent Omokhua - 2019-09-17 10:15:16 Quote

  • Forgive her if you have not but move on with your life.  To be sincere it may repeat itself again and by then you would not be yourself.  So live your life you will find someone else. 

    - Ooreofejesu Olubunmi - 2019-09-17 10:15:30 Quote

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