Should I Continue Dating My Girlfriend Now I Found Out She Is A Lesbian

I met my Girlfriend when we were still in university and After we graduated she started working in a nearby city close to mine,  so it could be easy for us to visit each other,  sometimes I visit her without telling that I am coming just to surprise her . So one of day I decided to visit her and give her an expensive gift so I  entered transit and traveled down to her city, 

When I  reached I boarded a taxi straight to her apartment,  so I climbed up to her own flat I opened the door protector and entered inside and I came into her sitting room I saw female shoes and female hand bag there in the sitting room there,  , I went straight to her room meanwhile music was playing loud in the sitting room,  immediately I reached her room her door was wide open and saw what broke my heart,  I saw her with one of her friends I knew far back in university days  I stood for like 5mins frozen to my shock,  and I broke down in tears and I was so damn disappointed with her I left immediately they saw me and she ran to me to apologize but I pulled the door and left traveled back to my base,  

What should I do now I found out she is a lesbians?

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  • Just get over it, cuz love don't care, and you gahs to forgive her and since she has beg/seek for forgiveness, she has to see. One thing I want you to understand is she loves you. Cuz if she don't she wount even bother with your presence. Talkless of she would run to you for forgiveness. 

    - Taofeek Mustapha - 2019-09-25 18:34:30 Quote

  • If you truly love call and sat her down counsel her, let her know how much you love her and how dissapointed you are on discovering her hidden way of llife. And I will want you to find a place in your hear to forgive her and let her know you are willing to continue with the relationship if only dmshe is ready and willing to leave such a way of life 

    - Eklou Gbenga Tunde - 2019-09-25 18:38:18 Quote

  • This is a serious wahala o. You found her with an old friend in school back then, that means she has been doing it since and she is already addicted to it. Ladies like that are so dangerous to move on with. But if truly there is love between you guys, now that you have discovered, tell her you dont want her to be involved in that again. Nobody is perfect, and you can never get a lady without flaws, sit her down and settle things Amicably. I am sure she will be ready to change if she wants to move on with you.

    - Adekoya Ayomide - 2019-09-25 18:40:20 Quote

  • You are the only one that can stop her from that lesbian but if you leave her now she will become worster than.ever doing that lesbian but I will advice you to go more closer to her more then before and give her some good motivational quote and quote from Bible or Quran and make sure you monitor her and show her more love I think with all this she will change.

    - Olorode Fuad - 2019-09-25 18:40:40 Quote

  • The big question is "do you really love her?" 

    Love conquers all. You should try and hear her out first before coming to a random conclusion. After all, we all have our differnment flaws. If you lover her ao much that you can't stop thinking about her, my best advice is that you go visit her. Pay her another surprise visit. Talk to her heart to heart. 

    It could be that you got the whole picture all wrong. Inquire if she sincerely loves you as she claims. Because if she truly does, she'll stay away from lesbianism. Hear her out first. Find out if she's truly willing to change. Circumstances push people into very strange acts. That's why we're all humans. It could happen to anyone. Just make sure that she pours out her heart to you. Give her a second chance. Even a prostitute can still make a good wife. Do not kick her out without first hearing her own side of the story. You can help her change to good. If you love her so much as you say too. 

    - Debbie Kamsiyochi - 2019-09-25 18:41:00 Quote

  • Ask yourself can you live with her for the rest of your life with what you have seen? If the answer is Yes then forgive and take her back, it's quite difficult to forget something like this but if No, forgive and move on with your life, time will heal the wound In your heart, not all girls are like that, it simply means that she's not meant to be yours.

    - Ola Mercy - 2019-09-25 18:41:13 Quote

  • Woaw. That's serious. But seriously if u love her so much like you just claimed! Then do not let what you saw pull down your feelings for her please. There's always a second chance! 

    - Abubakar Blessing Oyiza - 2019-09-25 18:41:35 Quote

  • I think you should listen to her hear her out before making any decision because a lesbian in a relationship with a guy means she is not a really involved in lesbianism so she must have a reason 

    - Alexander King - 2019-09-25 18:41:38 Quote

  • You have to break the relationship. It is very dangerous. How can she have you and have her lesbian friend. Even if you end up marrying her, she will still continue. It is a taboo and against the will of God. Lesbianism is a cult and very hard to denounce. Don’t put your daughters in problems when you start bearing children.

    - Jinatu Akinsola - 2019-09-25 18:44:41 Quote

  • You have seen it all already so I don't think it advisable for you to back out now, you need to talk with her asked her things about what you saw let her explain to you and after that you can go ahead with what your heart tells you to do but for now you need to sit her down and talk things out. maybe she's still in love with you.

    - Iniobong Mathew - 2019-09-25 18:49:51 Quote

  • If your girlfriend still loves you and she is ready to stop being a Lesbian, you should not abandon her. But if otherwise you can leave her explaining why you are leaving 

    - Christian Utsu - 2019-09-25 18:50:00 Quote

  • Love is all about compromise, you can help her instead of avoiding or running away from her, is not a disease, is not a sickness.. It is just an urge that can be controlled, you just have to teach her how to control herself among other girls.. With strong determination and commitment... She will overcome it! 

    - Mathew Paul - 2019-09-25 18:51:45 Quote

  • My advice is that if you truly love that lady you shouldn't leave her, and you will be the one to change her because all she need now is counseling and a lot of attention. She might  not be doing such before but got influenced 

    - Hismaheel Soliu Olamilekan - 2019-09-25 19:01:32 Quote

  • this is the time she needs you more than anything, maybe she has been trying every possible means to stop it but the urge wouldn't let. You can still be the reason for her to stop her old life, so do forgive her if sincerely she's sorry

    - Adaeze Nwafor - 2019-09-25 19:01:34 Quote

  • If you truly love her call her and sit her down, try and find out from her what lead her into it and how long it has been going on. Let her know the implications of what she's doing and let her know is a great sin against the Lord, forgive her and move on with your relationship.

    - Adegbemileke Alex - 2019-09-25 19:03:48 Quote

  • wow!!! that's deep bro, but my advice is this, break up with her and move on with your life cos to my own understanding homosexual don't change so move on brother.

    - Idowu Samuel - 2019-09-25 19:09:27 Quote

  • Well since you are asking of dating, you can still hang around and be collecting your own, but if you are out for marriage I advise its a no no . You had to first cure that disease unless you are in the other side of the game ,,,,gay. If not you will remain a miserable dude all the days of your life

    - Stella Maurison - 2019-09-25 19:10:31 Quote

  • My brother Lesbianism is a very bad act but I would advice you not to run away from her because you may the last hope she would ever have to change from the act, advice her, make her understand how bad what she is doing is and make see reasons why she should desist from it.

    - Silas Nweke - 2019-09-25 19:13:24 Quote

  • I won't judge a book by it cover,my advice to you,is to call,her one on one ask her what got here into that shameful art,she will have a reason,and if u truely love this lady...tell her u want her to quit been shameful...ND if she loves u she will... love conquers all

    - Bunmi Bamidele - 2019-09-25 19:13:47 Quote

  • Don't ever take any decision to take her back because for a lady been a lesbian, men will never satisfy such girls at all because that os what they are use to. They will always enjoy to have fun with their sec mates. Don't dare take her back. 

    - Akinmoyede Bolanle - 2019-09-25 19:14:24 Quote

  • Well, did you let her explain? You just saw and concluded. Do you know if one thing led to another? Mistakes can happen and nobody bis above mistake. She might want to experiment i.e some people have the fantasy of being with same se& .so maybe they where just playing because you said with someone you knew right. Please allow her explain herself and ask her why she did what she did. It might be a one time mistake

    - Osikha Cynthia - 2019-09-25 19:15:31 Quote

  • It is better u leave her now before is too late bcos if u marry her with that attitude, there's no way that she won't go back to it again, the earlier u leave her the better for u.

    - Adedolapo Obe - 2019-09-25 19:15:51 Quote

  • She needs help brother, you dont just leave her like that forget about her being your girlfriend for now just link her up with a good counselor or so. Telling people about her shortcomings won't yield  anything good. She needs help

    - UTHMAN AGBOOLA - 2019-09-25 19:29:10 Quote

  • Wow this is a serious issue, and it seems you really love her but am sorry to tell you that you need to forget her because being a lesbian cannot just be corrected, that's what she is. Move on bro and get yourself a new lover. 

    - Jeremiah Fasoyin - 2019-09-25 19:33:47 Quote

  • U dont need to leave her now. May be this could be the time she needs to change her life. She may have been addicted to it. But if you show her love and care, maybe you can bring her to normal again.

    - Chidiebere Uzo - 2019-09-25 19:33:52 Quote

  • U dont need to leave her now. May be this could be the time she needs to change her life. She may have been addicted to it. But if you show her love and care, maybe you can bring her to normal again.

    - Chidiebere Uzo - 2019-09-25 19:34:01 Quote

  • U dont need to leave her now. May be this could be the time she needs to change her life. She may have been addicted to it. But if you show her love and care, maybe you can bring her to normal again.

    - Chidiebere Uzo - 2019-09-25 19:34:19 Quote

  • First of all you should hear her out and know what lead to all this. You shouldn't jump into conclusion that she is a lesbian or bise*ual.. she could have just wanted to "experiment", which is still wrong, since she is in a relationship.

    Then you should forgive her and if you really love her you guys can work it out.

    Wish u good luck!

    - Irene Obasuyi - 2019-09-25 19:38:26 Quote

  • wow !  i don't know what the enjoy in that, but i think she needs help.Meannwhile, no one can answer that for you, the answer is in heart search well and you will see it.

    - Anaekwe Chidinma Perpetua - 2019-09-25 19:41:18 Quote

  • You see my dear brother,my own opinion is that she needs help right now,you can try your own possible best by taking her to a counselor for counseling, moreover you can also pray for her because I personally think it's not an ordinary case,there are cases like that nowadays.proper guidance and support,counsel her,if you truly love her, don't leave her.

    - Olajide Emmanuel - 2019-09-25 19:54:37 Quote

  • it's not too late for you guys to reconcile. .And it's good for you knowing this early.. What I will advise is for you to call her attention to her mistakes and try to let her know about your feelings about what you saw.. Then you tell her to stop.. And give  her conditions because things like that are very hard to be corrected .

    - Adaramola Michael - 2019-09-25 19:54:43 Quote

  • A big yes! 

    I still remember when my dad use to tell me that is only love that conquers and when it happens the impossible change becomes possible because we need each other to live and love... Am sure she will change if only you make her feel real love. 

    - Obalu Johnkennedy Kenechukwu - 2019-09-25 19:55:19 Quote

  • You can't leave her just like that not even at this stage, you need to hear her out she might need help don't be too hard on her if you leave her do you know the type of lady you will see again...ask her what led her into that or maybe you are not meeting her sexual urge

    - Adebusuyi Precious - 2019-09-25 19:56:28 Quote

  • Now she needs you more right now...... Just stick to her and help her out.... She is a bi not lez...... She ran after you simply means she loves you... So just help her out of it.... The only thing she needs right now is excess love and attention from you

    - Owolabi Esther - 2019-09-25 19:57:21 Quote

  • Don't leave her, if you truly love her try to convince and console her not to go back to it again and let her promise you she won't do it again and both should start a new life.

    - Emmanuel Mayowa - 2019-09-25 19:58:05 Quote

  • Obviously you can't continue the relationship but you can get her the help she needs, probably by going to a  counsellor. That's if she's interested in dropping lesbianism. If not, forget it.

    - Ifeanyi ubakamma - 2019-09-25 19:58:42 Quote

  • Leaving her won't help you, because judging from your reaction to your discovery i think you are in love with this girl. Just brace and try to change her with proper guidance and counsel. If she doesn't want that then you will have to take a walk.

    - Ndukwe Ikechukwu - 2019-09-25 20:01:07 Quote

  • There are two things u could do: either leave her or stay with her... It depends on the situation... Have once heard of two girls in secondary school who were kissing and doing things to themselves... Funniest part is I knew one and she wasn't a lesbian...

    So it depends on who she really is, why she did it(I once saw a post in this platform where a girl asked if she should sleep with another woman for the money or leave it).. so if u love her truly, you have to find out which type she is .... And also both of u have to come together and talk about this

    Whew... It ain't that easy tho

    - Ayomide Sanni - 2019-09-25 20:05:54 Quote

  • Wow I know you're heart broken right now but you have to talk to her first or better still listen to what she have to say and if she's ready to change or drop the act you guys should work it out together but if you know you won't treat her well again it's better you leave her

    - Cecilia Tolulope - 2019-09-25 20:06:24 Quote

  • My advice for you is to leave her alone and find another lady because no matter what you do to satisfy her she will sleep with a lady of her lesbian of herself

    - Yusuf Sekoni - 2019-09-25 20:08:18 Quote

  • You don't have to leave her in this situation, she needs help. Take her to your pastor I believe you're a Christian, then seek guidance.

    For she to run after you, she loves you too

    - Mercy Donas - 2019-09-25 20:10:54 Quote

  • If you still live her there is nothing God cannot do if you ask of him, you can take her picture to any man of God that is balanced spiritually for deliverance lesbianism is not ordinary is demonic so it can be deliver

    - John Deborah - 2019-09-25 20:15:35 Quote

  • My advise to you now if you truly love her and she loves you. You have to prove to her that you love her by way of counseling and prayers. Lesbianism is an evil spirit, and it takes God's intervention to be liberated. Please help her out and she will forever be happy for you.

    - IWUJI DARLINGTON - 2019-09-25 20:18:21 Quote

  • If you are a child of God,you can take her to your church,and meet the pastor,and explain it to him or you can get a counselor that can counsel her.

    - JOHN CLETUS DUNIOH - 2019-09-25 20:20:13 Quote

  • You need to help her out of that situation she needs help don't neglet her now,may be u should take to a counselor or a man of God for prayer. I pray God will deliver her

    - Sayaolu Remilekun - 2019-09-25 20:20:23 Quote

  • You can talk to her and make her choose between you and her lesbian partner.i believe she loves you.I don't think she is a lesbian. If she still do the do with you then she is a bi-sexual. 

    - Okafor Ifeoma - 2019-09-25 20:20:30 Quote

  • The bible warned us to flee away from all evil appearances. I will kindly advice you to walk away now that you can still work away. Lesbians are addicted people. Leaving it is kind of tough for them. Just let her go and press forward. 

    Wishing you the beat of luck bro!!! 

    - Adeniyi Victor - 2019-09-25 20:29:03 Quote

  • That's cheating, but with same s3x,  i won't feel so bad, if i were to be in your shoes, but were as, it was a guy, na craze. 

    You can still be with her(your choice), there's nothing wrong, but i doubt if you can satisfy her, someone that's being eat, and lick down there can't easily be satisfied with just your joy stick. 

    - Richard Ngirigwa - 2019-09-25 20:41:26 Quote

  • Well i don't advice you to leave her,i believe getting to hear her side of the story is better because when i was in secondary school i was also a lesbian.Not that i don't like boys but just the fear of getting pregnant(lol).Therefore i believe you should just talk to her,just pray she's not addicted

    - Deborah Edmund - 2019-09-25 20:42:41 Quote

  • Don't judge a book by its cover... She might be very responsible but that is a spirit that's disturbing her, you can get her out of it. She's your girl work on her 

    - Ebenezer Umoh - 2019-09-25 20:44:58 Quote

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