I have been in this relationship for over two years, and we are planning of getting married when things are settled. His family knows me already, in fact they call me their wife, they love me and take me as their own.
I grew up with my aunt here in Lagos, so last month she called me and told me a rich man from our home town came asking for my hand in marriage, I refused bluntly, telling her I have someone already, to cut my long story short, all my aunts and uncles vowed to disown me if I don't marry the rich guy. They insisted that he is financially stable and will help the whole family if I marry him.
Pls I need your advice, I love my boyfriend and don't want to lose him. Should I marry the rich guy or damn the consequences and continue with my boyfriend?
Just continue with what makes you happy if it's your boyfriend that makes you happy go with him if it's the rich guy that makes you happy continue with him all you need is basically peace and happiness
Follow who will pay your bill my sister .Buh if he is paying ur bills I mean your boyfriend continue and if he is not my sister marry rich boy
My advice for u is to marry your boyfriend, because if you marry the rich man you won't be happy in that marriage and may cause divorce no time.
Money is'nt everything my dear, happiness and peace of mind matters alot in marriage.
just go with your heart and make sure you're happy with it if you fail your uncle they will live your life what I mean like to control it I will never be happy with it so just married to love of your life and nothing else
Follow your heart if its for your boyfriend then forget about what everyone is saying if your boyfriend becomes rich at the end they will all come back to beg
if you sure love your boyfriend , you don't have to listen to what people are saying, this rich man you're talking about might not love you as well as your boyfriend does, stick with your man, stay by his side ,work with him, help him archive, with this you'll be able to fight for your right in the future .
Money is'nt everything dear.
I will advice you to marry the man after your for peace of mind and happiness. Let the rich man go since you don't have feeling for him dear.
My sister just continue with your boyfriend because if he's hard working he'll be rich and God can lift him up at anytime and when he's rich he wouldn't want to hurt you because he knows you've been there for him when he doesn't have.
If you follow the rich guy he might cheat on you or he should be behaving somehow to you because he knows you can't leave him.
So my sister choose widely .
It seems to me that your uncle and aunt are greedy and just want to marry you off to the richest person they could find. How else could they expect you to marry someone you have never met and most importantly don't love? But maybe am wrong,l and they just want the best for you. Try to talk to them and make them understand that you already love someone else. I wish you the best of luck
The truth is, Money is very attractive but if you follow the one your heart Loves because you feel assured that he loves you too, you'll have a secured future... The rich guy may leave you for another lady because he probably just wanted you..
I'd say you go for your boyfriend, fight everything possible with him. You won't regret it, don't be enticed by the riches of the new guy, my mum was a victim of this once, and its arguable that I'm a victim as well. So stay with your boyfriend, and let him even know what you are going through presently.
If u don't like the rich guy then I strongly suggest that yo leave him and remain with ur boyfriend. No one can force you to marmarrt him unless you want to. If the rich guy really loves you, the I thin h won't force himself on you. You have nothing to fear.
Wealth is not everything you don't know the source of his wealth and speak to your boyfriend about what they said know his opinion and let ur aunt know that you are not interested in him give them good reasons I bet they will respect your decision
This kife we're lhvilinie is not a life of imposing on someone. it's a life of do your thing your own and face anything that comes from it. My sister online disregard any other thing thatll happen and stick to your boyfriend he too will be successful and Rich one day if you hustle with him.
Don't let someone choose for you
This is life real issue that has to do with your life and destiny. My question for you is, does your boyfriend has vision and aspirations and is he doing for a living? If you love him and these two vitures and you will be fulfilled if you marry him please go ahead because your family is only interested on how the rich man will take care of them and not your joy and happiness.
my dear marry your boyfriend if he is your best friend your not marrying to be bank for your whole family , don't marry someone you won't be happy with
To me marriage is not by force, marry who u love don't let d love of money make you to take a wrong step, marriage is for life while wedding is a day something
Marrying the rich guy will do you a lot of good and to your family but one thing i will like you to think is how much do you know this guy, his character and attitude. You can get married to him and didn't have a blessed home, my advice is for you to remain with your boyfriend cos the devil you know is better than the angel u don't know.
Don't ever get married because of pressure and on the basis of money
I know a lot of people do that but if you go deep into their lives, they're not happy they seem to be
Get married to whomever you want to get married to .nobody should decide for you
Your family memebers at only greedy
They're just looking for what will benefit them that's all
Family means a lot in ones life especially when they're dependable, but marriage is life time and it will be a bad choice yo marry wrong, if you truly love your boyfriend just let him know the pressure from your family and try to see the rich guy and have some discussions with him, let him know you feel nothing for him and you don't want him, he should ne able to understand if he's mature
This is a self-specific question that only you can provide an accurate respose to. Just make sure your answer goes along with either of the two parties whom you think would make you happy.
I'd advise you to do whatever your mind sees as the right thing to do based on which kind of person is your boyfriend or the rich guy, you will be the one to face the consequences of your decisions, so choose well.
Your family doesn't even know where the rich guy gets his money from,all they are after is he is financially stable I rodonknow why people are so dumb,my dear aissis please follow your heart so has not to regret later and pray to God for the right husband.
If they choose to disown you that is there own problem,your life is yours and you know what you want.
If you really love your boy friend go for him, cause what matters most actually in marriage is love, without love there is no marriage, without love war takes over, so go for the man you love and forget the consequences
Go for the one you love because you barely know the rich guy,his occupation, his character, nothing about him.... No condition they say is Permanent... I advise you just go for your boyfriend
In as much as you didn't say it is your biological parents that wants to disown you for not marrying the rich guy, that makes your problem lighter. How can they disowm you, are they your parents? Please marry the young guy. Both of you can build your life and become rich too. Marrying already made man sometimes crumbles as he may not place much value on you.
Do not leave your boyfriend please. Going into marriage because of wealth is not encouraging. All you need to do is prove to your family you have hope in your present boyfriend.
it’s your choice sister, but your bf can still be richer than this guy and how long have you know this rich guy and are you sure he loves you more then your current boyfriend, tho your aunts are right, but you won’t have a happy home if you marry the person you don’t love and your aunts won’t be there to suffer with you.
You should be old enough to know that forsaking, your boyfriend for materialistic things is not good. And you should be also old enough to stand on your own and make certain decisions. So I advise you explain to your family that you have no love for whom they are forcing on you, he may be able to help your family financially but your happiness is at stake here. So do the right thing by sticking to your boyfriend.
I'll suggest you stay with your boyfriend. Marriages built on wealth don't last. But on love, trust it'll. What's the essence on following your people's wish and displeasing yourself. Stay calm, hope on God and pray hard. You'll get through this.
Hmmmm my only little advice for you is to follow your mind, because if u said u want to Marry your boy friend and accept your family to thesone you, and at the end of the day your boy friend said he can't marry u again, what will you do? Like wise if you follow the other of your family to Marry the rich man and you don't have happy home? BUT I pray that MAY GOD ALMIGHTY GUIDE YOU IJS
The decision is all yours to make, you can chosen to Wait for him or not is a choice. Money is not everything, money can buy everything not all. If you're well convinced that he have future with you. It's all depends on you.
If truly you're in love with your boyfriend, stick to him no matter the Harding and keep hoping things will get better rather than getting married to the rish man because of his richness
you should know the rich guy source of wealth and also try give him a surprise visit at his office that's if he told you..... and if he passed this test,you can marry him cause we nor come life to suffer
First pray about it, then I would suggest you look past the consequences and go for your boyfriend, because no one should dictate to you who or who not to marry.
Pls marry for love, blissful home and a happy ending than marrying for money. You don't know the source of his money. Even if it's clean, remember marriage is a forever covenant
It's your life and you should have say over your life, marry your heart desires, I'm sure he's hardworking and things will fall in places for him soon, but if you decide to go for the rich man that you dont love, you might end up regretting. Stick to your hustling boyfriend and encourage, pray for him as well. Things will be alright
I will advise you to stay with your boyfriend no matter what He will will still do more better than the rich guy because you don't know the source of that rich guy money do you know may be he go for money ritual before he get rich so don't leave your boyfriend because of rich guy
I don't really know why riches are mistaken or seen as a substitute for love.if you marry a guy because he is rich now,what happens when the riches are no more there?.money is not everything.
Actually the choice is yours to make, you can either marry for love or money but remember the poor can later become rich and the rich might later get poor
My advice for you is to marry the guy you're in love with, moreover this rich man your aunt discuss with you, you people didn't know the source of his wealth maybe it's what will vanish in a day. So please follow your own mind
Please stay with your boyfriend so far you love each other, how will you cope with a man you do not know, he might even make you understand later that you and your family accepted him because of his money, and you know what that means, pls if your boyfriend has vision and you know he is hardworking please cling to him.
Just follow your heart, if you really love the guy you are dating, both of you Will eventually get rich, but if you let the wealth of a stranger to entice you, your family won't be there if anything goes wrong
Don't forget that love and money cannot keep a marriage or home . understanding,wisdom and knowledge is what that can keep marriage. So involve God into it and make wise decision for yourself.
Love superceed every other circumstances. If truly you love your boyfriend, do not let anyone come between you two. No matter how hard a situation can be, when there is true love and strong bond between two lovers, the situation will always be conquered. So i will advice you stick to your boyfriend and forget about the rich guy. Who says your boyfriend can't get richer anyways?
This life is all abt love ,u cant just go nd marry someine cox he is rich whereby u dnt love him i bet u d relationship wnt last long
Life is about risk, a wise person once said "when you must choose between the hard and the easy path,conquer the hard path to unleash the best in yourself". If you love your boyfriend and you are sure he genuinely loves you risk everything for him... A saying even says a known devil is better than an unknown angel.. BE CAREFUL
See if you really love ur boy friend dat much and he loves u more than u love him ,, Marry ur boy friend ,,, than having a problem when you marry a rich man
Should I continue with my boyfriend or marry the rich guy
My dear marry your boy friend and not the rich guy, after all you don't know the source of his income. Don't mind your aunts because they will not move into that house with you. Whatever you will seeing there at last, you will be seeing it alone.
If you really love him as you have said then go ahead and marry him because you family won't be with you in the marriage when things start falling apart so you have to get married to the one you love