Should I Divorce My Wife? I Caught Her Masturbating Herself.

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I love my wife so much and I do all in my power to meet and fulfill her needs. We live in our own house and we have two kids already. She has her shop and I work as a marketer for a company. Am a busy man due to my work but despite this, we have a great s3x life. We have s3x at least twice a week and I think I do satisfy her any time we do. 

One day, I took permission to leave work earlier than normal due to a slight headache and got the shock of my life. I met my wife servicing herself with a dildo. She didn't notice me come in and when she did, she was just about to climax and all she could do was squint her eyes till she was satisfied before standing up to greet me.

She defiled our matrimonial bed and greeted me like she did no wrong. I know truly that it has been a while I made her feel that high but she doing this behind me mean she could also break our marital vows and that's if she hasn't been doing that because I don't know how long she has been doing this.

I wish to end the marriage but am I justified?

I need help.

Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Lizz Dremo - 2019-10-03 23:49:47

Divorce is never the solution, i know you still love her.she is your wife you should pay a little attention to her.women needs attention ,i know seeing her masturbating would be a shock to you and you would feel irritated for the moment, but life goes on .don't make a mistake by divorcing her instead pay more attention to her.

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Jerry ifeoluwa Adebayo - 2019-10-04 06:50:48

Obviously you don't satisfy her and she doesn't want to cheat on you that's why she's doing that to satisfy herself, you don't have to divorce her just because of that, create more time for her, show her more love, let her know you re not in support of her using dildo, she would tell you what's wrong and you will settle it. you don't know if you divorce her and marry another woman, maybe the one you will marry next will be bringing man to your matrimonial bed. Divorce is an option.

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Muhammed Abdulhazeem - 2019-10-04 07:29:53

I wouldn't advice dissolving the marriage since you truly love her. what both of you need to do is to talk, ask if she's not been satisfy enough so that you can make necessary adjustments 

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Oyeleke kemisola - 2019-10-04 07:29:58

You can't quite your marriage and leave your children on the issue you and your wife have to solve together.. I will suggest, you talk to her in a cool way(don't be harsh because of what you saw), ask her way she did it, is it that you haven't been satisfying her enough... Let her say her mind, pray with her and settle the matter amicably..

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Emmanuel OmokhAfe - 2019-10-04 07:30:00

Hello bro, you don't need to divorce your wife at all. If you do dat u have sin against God.

What I think she needs right about now is attention. Spiritual attention, emotional stability, and your readiness to be available for her almost Everytime.

Keep on getting Involve to her personal urge and give her attention, and that's it. That urge of masturbating will leave her when those steps is take.

It's well with u

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Oluwakemi Badejo - 2019-10-04 07:47:51

To be honest I don't think divorcing her is the right thing my advice to you is that you should change the negativity in her to positivity what am I trying to say You know her weak point you know where is she at fault just try to talk to her change it with calmness don't throw shades at her because of her sin you have sinned before no body killed you so try to take thing easy and mind the people you tell her story to so they don't use it against her 

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Alalade Taiwo - 2019-10-04 08:07:41

Please do no break your home . There are two things that can leads to that , firstly if a man does not satisfy her woman at home, and she feel like doing it without having secreat lover. Secondly when a woman is Possess, i mean spiritually attack. Though there are solution to this kind of problem.

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Precious Luke - 2019-10-04 08:16:01

Divorce  is not the best option.  You can talk  to her about it without  quarrel  or fight, just let her know  that  you are not in support  of what she is doing , she will stop if she loves you as much as you love her. It is obvious  that masturbating has been a habit of hers.

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Ibitoye Michael - 2019-10-04 09:35:38

Divorce is not the best solution for this, to me you have a lot do concerning this issue. Maybe she's the type that loves having s3x on daily bases but u only satisfy her just twice a week and you never even try to find out if she was okay with that. My advice is that you sit her down and ask why she do that and also what you can do to make her stop the habit. Maybe God help you.

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Eyaru Princess - 2019-10-04 09:35:44

Well, if you say you love her the way you do then don't divorce her just because you caught doing that...it's not as if you caught with someone else...just try and create more time for her to fufill her needs because it seems like twice a week wasn't enough for her

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Tsekar Leonard Aondoakula - 2019-10-04 09:36:51

Divorcing your wife because you caught her masturbating, this may affect your children happiness when they don't have motherly love. Just tell your wife that you don't want her to do that again and make sure you satisfy her bed needs in order to keep a happy home

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Philip Fadoyin - 2019-10-04 09:58:06

Divorce is not an option for you now. You should be happy she even continued when you entered! Now what you need to do is for you to talk with her and understand her well and know way forward. You have to communicate with her and know how to solve this as it's either ways now maybe she doesn't get satisfied with you or she's always in need of more every now and then. Just try to know her well.

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Rahmat Usman - 2019-10-04 10:21:49

Divorce isn't the solution, you should talk to her and ask her why she was doing that, probably you don't satisfy her enough which is left to you to adjust if you want her to discontinue it

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Abideen Yusuf - 2019-10-04 10:46:29

Don't divorce her, instead, try making yourself available for her without using work as an excuse. She might be shy to tell you that you don't satisfy her because she might think you'd start having negative feelings towards her. Do you study her expressions anytime you guys make out, she not just be putting out a happy front for you but deep down, she's not. KNOW YOUR PARTNER.

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Soyemi Issa Taiwo - 2019-10-04 10:49:32

Divorce can't solve the matter,i view it as normal thing for her to do,you said it yourself that you got her so high to that extent by not touching her.

Apparently she doesn't want to cheat on you,just walk up to her and explain how you feel about this and make things better for her.

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Suleiman Hafiz - 2019-10-04 10:59:26

I don't really think divorce is the solution right, but rather sit and talk, know were things have gone wrong, and try to resolve it, I guess that would be much more better, don't jump into conclusions, have you even thought about your kids, how do you think they'd feel when their parent eventually break up, don't you think it would also affect them mentally??... just take your time and look for the best way to settle this!!

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Igwe Gideon - 2019-10-04 11:08:20

Divorce shouldn't even come to mind in a thing as this. Instead, you should know why which may not be far from that assumption that you don't satisfy her. If it be that your inability to satisfy her is behind the act; do everything possible to do so. She too can help you in doing so by telling what exactly she wants.

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Ishola Damilola - 2019-10-04 11:57:59

I don't think divorce is the next because she didn't commit adultry,she knows her husband is the busy type and you might think you satisfied her anytime you meet but she might not be and won't want to disturb you or argue.

Although am not saying maturbation is good but at times we can't cheat nature,she might be in the mood and you weren't around so she has to use that instead of cheating.

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Allwell Ekpe - 2019-10-04 12:46:15

She has really done nothing to deserve divorce, she was in the mood and couldn't help it pleasing herself considering the fact that you was out. I think it's normal for ladies.

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Oscar Macaulay - 2019-10-04 13:45:15

Your wife loves you if she doesn't love you she would have satisfied herself with another man. But instead she masturbated thinking of you as she was doing it. Divorce is never the solution for a perfectly built relationship. If you divorce her what will you tell your kids when they are older . So love her and give her more attention

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Anyanwu Benneth - 2019-10-04 15:26:35

Divorce is not the solution here. You need to have one on one discussion with your wife and find out what is wrong. I suspect that you are not giving it to her the way she wants it. Find out where you need amendment in that area, I hope she will open up. Tell her how much you love her, she will tell you the areas you need to touch her.

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Udokwu Chiazam - 2019-10-04 15:32:36

Divorcing her won't be the best thing to do. Just think it this way that if she don't have much love for you, she would have been cheating on you outside, just try talking with her, rub minds together on different ways and styles, give her much attention and try your best satisfying her.

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Prince Michael - 2019-10-04 18:41:24

I won't say divorce is the answer to your issue, you caught her masturbating, have you asked yourself if you give her attention? Do you make time to please and satisfy her? Because that's the way you help her stop

Treat her with love, and warn her to stop that rubbish

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Obaji Odinakachi Mbaba - 2019-10-04 19:18:56

Sir, Divorce is not in my Dictionary. Women does not only need attention, they deserve attention, especially this one you made it clear that you still love her. Just explain to her that what she did was wrong, she will apologise and live move on. That's my humble Advice.

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Joseph-Ayomide Adeokun - 2019-10-04 19:25:44

DDivorcing her is not the best way if you divorce her it doesn't stop her from masturbating all you have to do is coach her and always support her with prayer and with time she'll stop it

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Ebire Ifeoluwa - 2019-10-04 19:31:47

Divorce is not the next option since you love your wife, just ask her the reason why she's masturbating and you need to seek spiritual deliverance cause it's not normal for a housewife to masturbate. Thank you

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Olawale Isaiah - 2019-10-04 19:34:07

Divorce isn't the best option, what will happen will surly happen you've caught her the best thing is to confront her of doing such then you wait for what she would say

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Rosanwo Happiness - 2019-10-04 20:00:26

Divorcing her isn't the solution and it might be as a result of your negligence or because you're not giving her enough attention that's why she's masturbating... rather than divorce her pay more attention to her.

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Shofodun Tobi - 2019-10-04 20:01:27

Trust me divorce is certainly not the best option for this. Other men have faced worse but they are still happily married with their family. My advice for you is to try create more quality time for you and your wife so you can sort out more of her needs. May be she was masturbating because you didn't create much time for her at that period in time. I'm not saying masturbatiuon is good though but create more time for her because women never get satisfied.

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Christabelle Obi-Wali - 2019-10-04 20:03:12

She didn't break any matrimonial vows. I haven't heard any that includes satisfying herself. U should spice up ur marriage have her masturbate I'm front of u and watch her cum ..  Keep things a little biy interesting. She did nothing wrong in my own opinion

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Maxwell Dominic - 2019-10-04 20:06:30

Divorce shouldn't be on your mind cause you found your wife masturbating, you might want to talk, know if you're actually satisfying heroes maybe twice a week isn't actually enough for her. Divorce won't solve anything. 

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Okunloye Kehinde - 2019-10-04 20:12:45

My dear brother I will never advise you to divorce her but call her and let her know what she did was totally wrong because if you should divorce her what kind of character did you know the one you will meet has, so please don't break up with her since you love her.

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Taiwo Itunuoluwa - 2019-10-04 20:23:50

Divorce is not an option ,atleast she didn't cheat on you with another man,the wrong thing was she should have let you to know about this dildo of a thing so if you don't like it you will tell her but now you know,forgive her and know the reason why she did what she did

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Offiong Eyo - 2019-10-04 20:42:15

Divorcing your wife because you caught her masturbating is wrong. What would you do of you caught her in bed with another man? Just try to give her your best attention and speak with her on the way the both of you make love so you can get that spark again.

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Hammed Jide - 2019-10-04 20:45:47

Well, this is not a serious issue from my own perspective, the fault could be from you the husband, if you are not always around as expected, or not always making her feel like a woman she really is, because, this is just a story from one side, 

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Aliyu Abubakar - 2019-10-04 20:47:56

I don't think divorcing her will be a smart thing to do. You already have kids. Ask her to explain the reason why she had to masturbate. Do not let your marriage shatter because of a crack. 

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Israel Gogo - 2019-10-04 20:51:04

Oh, come on, Divorce is never an option.dont forget so soon you said for better and for worse, question her, talk with her, build a relationship with her and above all, pray for her. You can't tell, it might be the devil at work. Whence she was not given birth to like that, then she can as well change. I know you still love her, prove to her you do by changing her. 

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Goodness Onuchukwu - 2019-10-04 20:56:38

I don't think you should divorce her. You may satisfy her but masturbation has become a habit she cannot drop. Take time, talk with her, pray with her, counsel her. Discover if it's just a habit or there's is something more to it. Divorcing her isn't an opinion please.

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Ofejiro blessed Okperigho - 2019-10-04 21:02:49

If you file for a divorce then you will be following the wrong path, you love your wife and she loves you so talk to her and figure it out were you fucked up.

You might think tou always satisfied her but no so talk to her, thats tge best way.

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Oniyide kemi Funmilayo - 2019-10-04 21:05:06

Divorce is nt th solution, firstly give her warning to sstop and try to play love to her and be satisfy. ask her questions if she is always satisfy ,tell her you want her to say the truth, if nt , work on your self pls do

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By olalekan Adetutu - 2019-10-04 21:20:45

Divorcing your wife is not the right decision for you to make because it might be because you are not always with her and she miss you alot and she don't want to cheat on you DAT why you she did it but to call her and have some word with her she will tell the reason while she did dat

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Obalu Johnkennedy Kenechukwu - 2019-10-04 21:31:04

How shameful it is for a man to be in the house and the wife goes through such act, it is never a wise decision to take a divorce because this is her weakness and you are meant to stand by her and help her out of it

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Patience Sunday - 2019-10-04 21:32:33

I would say no because it might be unfair 

At lease give her attention, listen to her from there you could get a reason, a lot of people do that out of lust,either she was in the mood and couldn't help it, so please sir I suggest you seat her down talk to her and help her get out of it

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Wilfred Ogidan - 2019-10-04 21:35:03

Lol!  But so sad that people  do fall in some kind of stupid  act, but divorce Is never the solution I suggest  you sit her down question her try and know  what going  on with her  coz there is some kind of people  that just love s*x it could  be at that moment maybe she is in the mood and you were not at home dough she supposed to  wait for  you but maybe it's so deep and she couldn't resist it so for her not to do something cr*zy like having s*x with another  person  she then do that . Anyway  that act is very bad and out of ignorance  

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Adeyemi Kayode - 2019-10-04 21:36:13

Sincerely i would say u have been missing the signs that she needed it. Tho it is not right what she did but then divorce is not an option. Sit her down and talk to her, find out why she is doing that and get an ever lasting solution to the problem. Good luck!

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Oyekola Olamide - 2019-10-04 21:44:19

Brother, to me Divorce is not the best solution. Even if you divorce the woman, you have sin against the God. Because she didn't have anything with another man, as you too also explained. The Almighty God that create all of us, he create our fingers with different height. So that is how he also create some people. Maybe her satisfaction is Hours by Hours and she can't stop you from your work.

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Eze-Ogwa Chinecherem - 2019-10-04 21:53:14

I dont want to say thank God it's not another man but I wont because I understand that you're hurt. I don't think that reason is enough to put her away. Sit down and talk things over with her

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Ibitoye Oluwafemi - 2019-10-04 21:56:12

For her to go that far it means you don't satisfy her enough or she's addicted

So get yourself together tell her that you don't like what's she's doing then reach a conclusion with her

And I don't really think a divorce is the answer

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Henry Onyemekesi - 2019-10-04 21:57:43

First of all I don't see anything wrong in what she did. Had it been you saw her satisfying herself with another man, it would have been a big deal. Women are easily ar0used and if you don't see to that need very well. They can go to any extent to get it. So bro easy on her, she's your wife, you people should talk it out and settle it.  

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Should I divorce my wife? I caught her masturbating herself. - By Chukwuemeka Okoronkwo - 2019-10-04 22:00:32

No, do not divorce her!

It means that you are not satisfying her enough and that she would rather do so than mess up her relationship with you and go cheat with another man on you.

Instead of divorcing her, why don't you help her and talk to her.

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