Should I Quit The Relationship?

My name is Kelly, I just need you guys opinion.

I met a girl a girl October last year which was 2018. I asked her out and she agreed to date me though she had to trim me round before finally agreed to to date me

Our relationship started 24th November 2018, that was the day she agreed to date me. Every was okay, she do call everyday, send me texts and always give me attention. Our love for each other was so sweet that even when my parents couldn't stop me from loving her when they tried to.

Unfortunately, her mum felt ill and needed urgen surgery. Due to financial issues she was taken to Christ mercyland in Warri where Kate my girlfriend met Cameroon guy.

Her behaviour changed totally after her encounter with the Cameroon called Lewis. She no longer call me, even when I call her she don't pick up. So I went through her Facebook because I have access to it and I saw she was loving Lewis. I added Lewis as a friend on Facebook and told him how I love Kate and that he please stay away from kate, Lewis being a good guy apologized for asking my girlfriend out. Then I called Kate and told her what I saw on her Facebook and she got angry and said she hate me, that she do t love me anymore, I felt really bad though I took her virginity but I Still loved her, I so I forgot about her after some time she came back to me and apologize that it was because she wanted money from Lewis to pay for her mum's hospital bills. So guys should I accept her back? Because I feel she can also s8x for money if she can throw away our love for money...

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  • My dear read the handwriting on the wall. Kate does not love you, i perceive she was just there for you cause she has not seen the real guy she wants. Please let her go as far as you have no grudges for her and you love her . Since she has told you she hates you that means even if you are there with her she will still cheat on you.

    - Ukaha Edith - 2019-10-06 09:36:02 Quote

  • That girl is not sincere towards you. If she needed money so badly, must she force herself on a man when she is in a relationship. I will advise not to take her back because that same girl can leave you for another rich guy when you dont give her doe

    - Nana Aisha - 2019-10-06 09:38:50 Quote

  • I'm really touched with this situation, but nevertheless if you still have some feelings left for her you should definitely take her back even though she made a wrong decision throwing your love for her away and started dating Lewis for money. I can't blame her on that coz she couldn't bare to loose her mom that's why she made that decision. Just put yourself in her shoes and follow your instincts to judge her..

    - Akeem Adewale - 2019-10-06 09:40:08 Quote

  • Yes dear, Please do accept her back. It really hurts but please do if you still have feelings for her .No one will ever allow her mother die because of insufficient money available, she did what she had to do for the betterment of her mom

    - Nwafor Ujunwa - 2019-10-06 09:40:49 Quote

  • it would be better if you accept her back. You made mention that you love her and I'm sure you still do. She left you maybe because she got angry after you told lewis you loved her and she wanted to get money from lewis to pay her mum hospital bills and she wasn't able to get the money she wanted. She truly loves you,that was why she can back.

    - Honey Idinoba - 2019-10-06 09:46:37 Quote

  • Yeah you can take her back since you still got the love you had for her and if she never had a problem I felt she wouldn’t have done what she did. You loved her for you to text the Cameroon guy and he understood and left her back for you then you guys could continue your relationship 

    Just forget what she had done for the money she had to use to treat her mom 

    - Amadin Blessing Osamudiame - 2019-10-06 09:49:35 Quote

  • You should know that people's choices and preferences change. In this case, going to Lewis won't solve the problem. What you didn't include in your story was what you did to that innocent girl that loves you so much. Maybe she was the one always calling you and when she traveled, you were still waiting for her call. You left a gap that needed to be filled and that was what happened. So just count your loss and move on

    - CHIKWADO B OSUCHUKWU - 2019-10-06 09:57:06 Quote

  • Well some girls can turn to green snake under green glass, she left you because she felt she has gotten all she wanted, the guy has finally disappiont her so she doesn't have any other option than to come back. The truth of the mater is that even if you accept her back once once her meet another guy than offer her whatever she want, she will also leave you.

    - PRINCE ENYI - 2019-10-06 10:03:13 Quote

  • I can categorically tell you that any relationship that is not build on trust can not last. So my brother if you know in your heart that you do not trust her anymore don't let her back into your life. 

    Although she might be telling the truth about dating the guy just because of her money, and because of her mother illness but that doesn't mean she wont do the same when next she finds herself in a situation like that again or that is related to that. 

    But you know what they say, live heals all wounds.  If you still love her, please do go ahead and let her back. Everybody deserve a second chance.

    - Chukwu Anthony - 2019-10-06 10:05:38 Quote

  • Well she had to do what she did due to her mother's illness and you're pretty lucky she came back begging cause girls nowadays after saying she hate you trust me yhete is no coming back they're gone so i think maybe you should give her a last chance who knows maybe she has changed her ways

    - Sodipo Olamilekan - 2019-10-06 10:11:24 Quote

  • Quit the relationship because she's probably gonna go back to the guy if she has some need that maybe u can't help with . And since she slept with the guy either for money or whatever, there's always gonna be a connection between them.

    - Blessing Olububechi okereafor - 2019-10-06 11:26:00 Quote

  • I personally don't think you should take her back. First of,  she had to 'trim' you to fit her standards and secondly if she could go as far as dating someone else for money,  my brother she's liable to continue even if you decide to marry her. All options may not matter until you take a stand for yourself. On this note I rest my case 

    - Okonte Samuel - 2019-10-06 11:27:44 Quote

  • The relationship can still be good if you still love her and she tell you the reason for dating the guy is because of her mom illness which can happen to anybody if someone important to you is sick you can do the forbidden thing just to make the person fit again 

    - David Adebayo - 2019-10-06 11:28:21 Quote

  • It's better to just leave her bro, even do it's going to be very hard. Just spend your time on your developing your self, chilling with friends or family. before you know a better lady will come your way. Even before you started dating her you had to trim her according to you. So I'm not being judgy and all that but seems she just dated you for dating sake. And when she saw someone with the financial capability (I'm not saying your broke dude) she ran to the person and trust me that relationship won't last sef.

    - Isa Gabriel - 2019-10-06 11:28:34 Quote

  • My man,she gave you her virginity which you can't buy anywhere and no. She is back, c'mon she loves you,that is why she came back..she has told you why she did what she did,I will just advise you to be more cautious this time though

    - Damilare Desmond - 2019-10-06 11:29:51 Quote

  • The truth about life is that you cannot heal where you were broken,if you take her back, in another case she can leave you again and come back because she knows you will always be there.

    She would have confided in you from the onset, a relationship without trust is futile. 

    - Ewomaozino Omovoiye - 2019-10-06 11:30:19 Quote

  • The decision of taking her back is yours. Since you said you love her. It was circumstance that made her do what she did. If you feel she is still that lady you fell in love with then you can continue with her, if not back off.

    - Rachael Omikunle - 2019-10-06 11:31:56 Quote

  • Yes ...you really have a point...she can s3x for money...but she really loves you...for her to come back for you....it is so obvious...she was so much wrong...if she had told you earlier.... it would be more understanding...but....now the ball is in your court...how well do you love her???

    - Chisom Constance - 2019-10-06 11:37:06 Quote

  • Yes ...you really have a point...she can s3x for money...but she really loves you...for her to come back for you....it is so obvious...she was so much wrong...if she had told you earlier.... it would be more understanding...but....now the ball is in your court...how well do you love her???

    - Chisom Constance - 2019-10-06 11:37:38 Quote

  • This us a hard decision to make because she did what she did to save her mum and you would have done the same if you were in her shoe but after accepting her watch her steps

    - Jimoh Abdul - 2019-10-06 11:38:06 Quote

  • The first question you should ask yourself is this .....can I forgive her or have I forgiven her? Then, if this has been answered .your love for her still has a saying. get back to the relationship.

    - Olu Grace - 2019-10-06 11:43:02 Quote

  • Wow! This is quite sensitive. I will suggest you accept her back if you truly love her and also if her apologies are genuine. But you might also want to consider the fact that she left you because of money to be with another person.

    - Ndukwe Ikechukwu - 2019-10-06 11:43:45 Quote

  • Seek the face of God towards your life,  seek direction so as not to miss the right person for your life. 

    Be positive minded and go for  what rightly belongs to you

    - Emmanuel OmokhAfe - 2019-10-06 11:44:58 Quote

  • At a point, I understand where she is coming from. Although, no situation should make her react like that if she truly loves you. She probably does not believe in your hustle. 

       Someone you have not gotten married to is acting like that, what would now happen if you guys eventually finalize your relationship? The fact that she left you for another guy because of money during courtship means that she can do the same thing to you when you eventually get married. If you truly love her and you think you can deal with her without remembering the fact that she left you for another guy you can try having a second relationship. Although I will advise you to give room for disappointment. 

            Don't place too much on her. Anything can happen. We have women who are all about money all over the world. 

        As I said before, I get where she is coming from concerning her needing the money to help her mum. Money can make you do anything but applied the wrong method.

    - Ismail Damiyato - 2019-10-06 11:46:47 Quote

  • It’s not advisable to accept back cause she would always leave you for money ..there is a way women get things from men without been in love or even accepting a relationship 

    - Emmanuel Ekundayo - 2019-10-06 11:50:26 Quote

  • Personally I don't think it is wise to accept her back. All you need to do is forgive her and move on with your life. Unless you are ready to to be enduring it especially whenever problems arise. Because it seems she cannot stay faithful in times of need. Such a person is not a wife material. Like I will always say, "a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage"

    - Ugochi Lucy - 2019-10-06 11:54:36 Quote

  • It's so pathetic but since she has realised her wrong and now she's back please accept and talk to her about it. Also, forgive her sincerely so you can enjoy the best from the relationship. 

    - Philip Fadoyin - 2019-10-06 11:54:41 Quote

  • Forgive her and accept her back only if you still love her don't just accept her for accepting sake, she was in distress when her mom fell sick and it's obvious you can't help it that's why 

    - Ogwo Odinakachi - 2019-10-06 12:03:50 Quote

  • I dont like it when men becomes egocentric. Did you help Kate when she was in need of financial help or was it just you loved her? Come to think of it, you invaded her privacy by going through her Facebook without telling her. Accept her and even apologize for not being there for her when she needed you most

    - Chimezie Anyiam - 2019-10-06 12:04:36 Quote

  • This is serious and at the same time mean. I wouldn't blame the girl not because I am a woman but because girls will always be girls in all ramifications. She needed the money but shouldn't have behave so frivolous to the extent of snubbing you, at least she'd tell the cameroon guy about his relationship status before anything else, who knows... We all humans anyways!

    - Funke Grace Fapohunda - 2019-10-06 12:08:17 Quote

  • A lady that can leave you, insult you and hate you at the sight of money from another guy is a *risky person* ,She doesn't know what she wants from a man. It calls for carefulness. She can live you anytime, she will keep doing on and off from the relationship, In fact leaving you when if you eventually get married will be a normal thing to her.  if she's *genuinely* coming back (I don't know how you will measure the genuiness), maybe you can accept her, since you still love her.

    - Anuoluwapo Adediran - 2019-10-06 12:10:57 Quote

  • If you can cope, then forgive her. But if you cannot, if you will not able to get the incidence out of your mind, then please don't. 

    You can let go and find someone else.

    You can also forgive her and have a wonderful relationship

    - Inoko Cyprian - 2019-10-06 12:13:38 Quote

  • One thing we men should know is that all women have the same character, my dear, what matters is the love, if she come with sincere mind, for the infact that is the nature of  a man to forgive I will advice u to accept her apology.

    - Onwueyi Enyere20 - 2019-10-06 12:16:55 Quote

  • Well is very simple if you still love her accept her back. The decision lies in your hands, but the truth of everything is that her love is on material things,her love is not real

    - Francis Emmanuel - 2019-10-06 12:20:42 Quote

  • I advise you accept her back everyone deserves a second chance and come to think of it you took her virginity so why abandon her now just forget and forgive

    - Oyinkuro Precious - 2019-10-06 12:21:20 Quote

  • If you still love her, accept her, then give her certain conditions like if you through away the love I have for money then we are done forever. Then watch her attitude towards you. please is not right to look into her privacy rather ask her first then if u think she is lying to you, you can now monitor her closely without her knowing. 

    - Chibundom Eunice - 2019-10-06 12:23:36 Quote

  • My advice for you is that you should quit your relationship with Kate because Kate don't love you at all. How will all of a sudden someone that usually call and text you is no more calling you and she doesn't even pick your calls. She is just all about the money. Since she saw you cannot afford her mother's hospital bills she then jumps to Lewis who can afford it.  A situation where you cannot also afford her needs she will leave you and follow another man who can afford her needs. That your girlfriend Kate can do anything for money. If you marry her, it will be the worst mistake of your life. She told you she don't love you anymore so why the sudden love now because Lewis has left her. That your girlfriend Kate doesn't even know what she wants. You should never accept Kate back if not, you will continue to have heartbreaks.

    - Anita Eberechi Ehuehu - 2019-10-06 12:30:37 Quote

  • To me forget her since she told you that the love is no longer there you don't force love it is flow natural, fine another person take it that she is not yours, because it will be hard for her to love you again, so let her go and yours will come.

    - Austin Chinedu - 2019-10-06 12:31:58 Quote

  • Well... I think you should actually have a re-think on this issue. Because its the heart that matters... For the fact that she said she hated you and just stop taking your calls or calling back. Means that she actually really liked that guy. Am a girl oo.. Iffa do something bad, I try to cover up for my mistakes... She has noticed that she has lost Lewis and she doesn't want to loose on both sides... So she came up with that... I hope I helped

    - Martha Onakinor - 2019-10-06 12:34:10 Quote

  • I won't advise you to quit the relationship because she has realized her mistake, due to the love you have for her,  please accept her back. We are all human beings and we all make mistake so let go of the past and continue with your love journey.

    - Bamidele Toheeb - 2019-10-06 12:37:16 Quote

  • To my own opinion,You will need to be very careful even if you are to consider her back.

    Because for her to go for another guy because of money it explain the type of love she had for you.From this your write up,I could sense that its because you've warned the other guy that's why she came back,so be careful.

    - Sabitu Idris - 2019-10-06 12:38:25 Quote

  • If you really love the girl, you should accept her back into your life. Love is something we cannot buy with money. Yes we humans pretend to love when we see money but inside you, you knows who your heart beats for.  I want you to understand that women can do anything when they are desperate. She dose what she did to save the life of her mother. And don't judge her by asking she can s8x for money okay. The girl still loves you by coming back to apologize and explain things to you. So my advice for you is to accept her back and try winning her love back and more in order to erase the moments she spent with Lewis away from her head.

    - Emmanuel Ferdinand - 2019-10-06 12:40:11 Quote

  • I assure you that if you look at things at other angles you will see reasons either to stay or go... Don't judge it from.one side alone...Do this and you will never be pushed around by your feelings rather understood by them

    - Okpala Obinna - 2019-10-06 12:41:36 Quote

  • This is really a confusing decision. But trust me either way you choose to go, its cool. And dis is more of personal decision, you know how you feel. So just trust your emotions and never neglect your brain, all will be well.

    - Billy John - 2019-10-06 12:41:42 Quote

  • Since she realized her mistake.. There is nothing bad in taking her back and at the same time you can put her on condition buh don't be strict about the condition  so she won't think youu don't love her anymore

    - Timilehin Adesanya - 2019-10-06 12:44:59 Quote

  • Take your girlfriend back my brother. Next time be man enough to solve your girlfriend's problem. You forced her to accept Lewis the Cameroon guy.               To have a girlfriend is good but to be able to provide for her needs is another thing. To buy a car is good but to fuel the car is far more important.                     Did you want her to let her sick mum die? Thinking that way is very bad. I am not saying what she did is good; she only tried to help her sick mother.

    - Light Udoyo - 2019-10-06 12:46:09 Quote

  • Brother happy Sunday.. my own sincere opinion..you just need to follow your heart on this matter..true love forgives and the fact that she came back apologizing Shows she still care and had her reasons for what she did ..that time she might have asked you for help and you were not financially stable to do that time ..it’s hPpens , we are all human , she had to do what she did . If that time yhu provided for her and she still did that stuff it another issue differently... so to err is human to forgive is divine . Please forgive . And you guys talk your love and have understanding again.

    - Fabunmi Daniel - 2019-10-06 12:48:42 Quote

  • In my opinion, feel that you do whatever comes to your mind. You are the one in the relationship you know what she's like. I can't conclude on what to do or what not to do as there is two sides to every story. But if you think you can forgive her and let the past go you should and turn your back at whatever she did, give her the second chance cuz everyone deserves a second chance as we are not perfect. If she repeats herself again then let it go, but if you think you can't let the past go then let the relationship go no one deserves an unhappy and unhealthy relationship. The ball is in your court

    - Oluwadami Titilayo - 2019-10-06 12:48:56 Quote

  • Some girls can throw away a true love all in the sake of money. They think it is a means of survival. But they are wrong. Look at this now. She threw away her body and love for money. She  is now coming to be taken back. Anyways my dear, I will advice you to follow your mind. Don't be deceived by her tears, she might do another one worse than that..

    - Owolabi kikelomo - 2019-10-06 12:51:09 Quote

  • Once bitten twice shy. If you love her like you claim then let her go. What if another situation comes up and you are not financially buoyant to help out? What will she do then? To prevent your love for her to turn into hate please call it off

    - Gabriel Moses - 2019-10-06 12:53:21 Quote

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