I have been searching for a Job for a long time but no positive result. Recently, I got an interview letter in one of those companies I submitted my application, I was interviews, also chosen to have the job and I was given a date to assume the post. I was so happy but this is my fear.
I was told that I will have to work in a branch located in another State different from where my family resides. My weakness is that I can't leave my wife because I can't endure not to stay with my wife so as not to engage myself in extra marital affairs. I also need the job, so as to be able to cater for the need of my home. Should I go for the job or not. What do you think I can do?
I need your candid advice.
You just have to go for the job so far where you are going is safe even though the family needs you but they need a good standard of living more through you getting a good job and providing for them.You just have to take it like that and travel then later you can take your families along side with you when you are financially OK
Looking at the condition of how things are in this country one is willing to take any job that comes his or her side no matter the conditions attached to it; but since it merits you staying away from your wife, it would be advisable to drop it; that is if you are the kind that control the urge of the body.
In this situation, you also need a job to sustain yourself and your family, this kind of opportunity may not come to you again if you let it go.. I'm pretty sure the company will be the one to finance part if not all of your accommodations since they're the one who transferred you to other state knowing fully you don't reside at where they transferring you to.. All you need is to relocate with your wife since you can't afford to leave her behind... But If you choose to reject the company's offer all because you can't leave your wife behind or it's another state entirely, your wife will be the one to blame you later if there's no means if income for you
My brother please take the job just for the sake of your kids and wife and to be able to maintain your fatherly duty in the house and the issue of staying away from your wife you can come check on her anytime you are free or on leave or you can actually move with your wife down to the state and start a new fresh life there.
I respect you for understanding your weakness, not many will. Here is my suggestion: understand the nature of the job before taking it. If its a long term stay, then take it and in few months relocate your family down with you. But if the job is something that can't hold on for long, I mean it involve frequent transfer, then it will be hard. All the same, I will advise you take the job and seek a way to work your transfer by discussing with your company management, by then even if they refuse you can resign but by then it will be some months with some cash to rest on while you shop for a new job.
You can't really be too picky with jobs in Nigeria. You should accept the job and then keep searching for another one in your state of residence. You can also visit your family every weekend and keep yourself busy with work on weekdays that way less chances of an affair. But I think that someone who wants to be faithful to his wife will be faithful to his wife whether in the same state or not and vise versa.
You should accept the job and take your family along with you if you can't stay without your wife .. but if you can't take your family along , you can come visit them weekends. You not satisfied with leaving your family, I think you should go in search of another job still hold on to that one but at the main time before you resume, see if you can get a better job
You should accept the job and try and see if you can take your family with you, if you can't you can come visit them every weekend. You can also keep searching for another job in your state while you're working. So, once you see another job, you apply for that one so you can be with your family.
you can't be picky in searching for job in Nigeria. Go for the job and ensure you settle down well and move your family down to were you are working and if you think that can't be possible continue your job and visit them every weekends and make sure you continue to search for other jobs near your family and if God help you to get one then quit the job and start work at the new office because to get jobs now in our dear country is hard
It's better you accept the job and keep searching for other jobs with more favourable conditions. If you don't see your wife and family for a while you will not die and what do mean by extra marital affairs don't you have self control.
Your choice will be centered in many things
Talk to your wife to know if you could relocate to the state where you've Been posted if she says yes fine ,if no then convince yourself into keeping your body
Go for the job so that your family won't suffer for it and we are fine and okay you can take them to live with you. If possible you can take one of your kid with so that will always remind you you have a family
Accept the job first and try to make provision for them to join you. If you stay back and unable to provide for your family it is worst. I believe your wife will support you to go for the job so that family don't continue to suffer. Hold yourself for something and don't engage in extra marital affairs sometimes it is easy to enter but very difficult to come out from. Just endure till she comes around.
I think you should find out if you can travel over there with your wife....if they say yes then you should go with your wife...or you can travel there first to work and arrange a place over there and bring your family there with you
You will have to take the job. You just have to be strong as a man for your family, yourself and for God. The financial situation of your family is a top priority for you as a man. As long as the job is worth the risks, take it. Well, till God surprises you with something much better.
You really need the job now for the up keep of your family, quitting it can't do any favor for you what you have to do is to relocate over there with your wife and children.
Job in Nigeria these days is not easy to come by, if you have got one, don't let it go away. Find a way of managing your staying far away from your family.
With the condition of the country hard economic situation you can't find a job and reject it cos you can't leave your wife if you don't work hard for your family that wife of yours can eventually leave you for another man when she can't endure hardship anymore all you need to do is to go for the job then later you can earn to get comfortable accommodation then you let her relocate in with you
I will suggest you should take the job because there is not usefulness of being at home not doing your responsibility at home. Even your wife will be happy for you having the job because she knows that there won't be any lack of financial broke down again. What you will just be doing is to be sending money every weekend to your family and find time to be checking on them.
You can only take proper care of your family when you have a good job. The fear of you having extramarital affairs will not bring food to your table. Believe in yourself and take up the job, you might even take your family along when things gets better.
At least you should share your fears with your wife and you both can sort it out as a couple.... You should be counting yourself lucky for having a job when so many people are begging for one....... Couple up with your wife and solve the problem but please take the job
Job ain't easy to see these days. You know the amount of days you went through without seeing any and since God has blessed you with this one I think you should grab it really hard. You are right to be scared about your family but I think you should go there first and check things out and then you can move your family over to the new state.
You don't have to be confuse all you just need to do is to accept the job since is well pay, because job is not easily get now adays in our country so be very smart to make a choice.
You should take the job. You need determination and discipline to stay off extra marital affairs. Always keep your family in mind when you take the job and call them always
You should go for the job, always believe in yourself, if you believe in yourself you will not do anything stupid whereever you are with or without your wife and family.
Go for the job first in order to be able to perform your responsibility. Then after think of how you can relocate your family. If you reject the offer and stay with your family, you only have more time to look at one another's face and suffer together. It will be boring and you will start loosing your respect. So take the job so as to be able to take care of your family.
You need the job bacause it will help carter for the family. I will advice you go with your wife to this new branch it will make things easier so as to safe you from having extramarital affairs
Then relocate your family I don't see any big deal there🙄. As long as it's a well paying job just talk to your wife and she'll understand, that way you get to keep your job and your family too.
Oga in this one chance life, utilisie the opportunity that comes your way,! You are not the first that left his state or family to go somewhere and work!! How do they manage to do so?? You too can do it!! Believe me, if you're together with your wife or not, you can engage in extra marital affairs if you are interested... The same if you are not, no matter how far you are from her nothing will happen.
Congratulations for the job. My take is that you try and discuss with your wife and also see if it's possible you family relocate with you to a nearby place close to your work
Please take the job, and be making plans to bring your family over. But in a situation your wife also has a well-paying work currently that makes it difficult for you to relocate to a different state- that should be what you are considering. Take the job, besides are there other opportunities.
Hmm. Considering your current situation, the first thing to do is to accept the job and resume work as soon as possible. If the company says you are work in another branch located in another state, simple! You can take your wife along and get an accommodation for both of you over there instead of leaving here in your present home.
However, if your wife is also working in your current location, its means you might have to be coming home every weekend. There are lots of men living like this. Moreover, you living with your wife does not guarantee no extra marital affair. It depends on your conviction.
Your wife needs your care more than your presence. If you stay around without providing for her needs, chances are that she will still keep extramarital affairs if she sees someone that's rich. So go for the job and the lord will put everything in order
Personally, I think you should take the job because if you don't it might cause greater issues in your marriage. After taking the job if possible find out ways you can relocate your family. As for the issue of extra-marital affair, just be in constant communication with your family so as to serve as a reminder
I think you should reject this job because if you accept, it will definitely affect your marriage of which you will still need to resign. So just reject the job and wait for a better one which I am sure would still come your way as long as you're working really hard towards it. Make sure you don't leave your wife's side for anything or she may seek solace elsewhere.
Hmmm your problem is an infidelity issue that should have been long dealt with... Many people with such issues conclude that when they get married their S8xual urges for this tjings would stop, God help you in you married a lady that is not as much of a "PRO" as you are cause you would be putting her into unnessary expectations thereby killing yoir marriage...
I must say your wife is a good woman as i can imagine her constantly stepping up her game to satisfy your s8xual urges that wont stop...
I would advise you to quit the job and run to God for total deliverance first, if that jib is yours after the deliverance session, go to them they would still take you and thats if the job is meant for you, and if they dont do not bother a better offer would come...
You see its important you deal with this first cause if you dont, what happens if better oppurtunities of trillions comes your way and you would be needing to travel over the world, those it mean that you would continue to service all the women you visit their country? Thereby endangering your health and that of your woman?
Do a retrospect first and rethink
Bros take the job try to keep self for your wife, when you later have money you now take your wife to where you are working and continue your thing from wey u stop
I may advice you to accept the job even do the location is far away from your home take it in case of your family, so that it will not be difficulty for you to provide for them and also explain to your wife so that she will understand it more better.
My brother you have to take the job. Go there alone, make earnings for six months and come pick your family to stay with you over there. There's nothing much about it.
In this century that we are, I see no reason for you to reject any reasonable job, the least you can do is to gather money nd relocate with your family. That will be much better, in that case you won't have to engage yourself in extra marital affairs
I will suggest you take the job because if you don't you won't be providing your family their need so except you have a better offer in that state then you should take the job and then seal with your insecurity issue
Yes of course! If there is acompany for provision of shelter you are good to go with your family. Cox u can't continue being jobless like that if you really love your family you have to plan well for them and use that opportunity since you don't want to cheat on your wife go with them
Hmmm......the write up looks a little bit complicated in the sense that it involves your wife and your job which are two most important factors in consideration for a good family. But I will advice you to take the job because the wife might eventually leave you if you are not able to provides all the needs of the family. So stick with the job then you can probably invite your family to come stay with you later on
If yoyr family truly come first then you must consider taking the job. Your wife will understand why you made that decision and its for the best of their interest. When you are okay,you will get an aparyment and make arrangement for them to join you.
you just have to take the job and in case your wife is not working the both of you may leave but in case if she is working you just have to go sir just to make your home survive.
This shouldn't worry you my brother. Instead you should be grateful to God Almighty for getting the job. You are the head of the house. You should let your wife know about the new development and y'all should have a new plan of relocation since its for the betterment of the family