Single Motherhood: Untold Hardship

A single lady gets pregnant by a guy who she thought will remain the gentleman he was at the beginning, only to find out she is left alone after the baby came to cater for the needs of herself and the child. Things were still manageable before the child starts school, but immediately school fees and other requirements begin to come in thousands then problem starts. Then she begins to run around for support and then calls the father of the child who will suddenly be lacking the funds and have challenges that are incurable.. 

 The community does not help matters as they only 'push mouth' against the lady and her child rather than support. When the child stops going to school, they say:" when she knew she couldn't take care of the child why did she open her legs".. okay, that was in the past.. now the lady and her child are in dire need of support..  if you can't support don't attack.

Most of the women that goes around talking about a single mother probably have once in their lives gone ahead to ab*rt or their daughters might have done the same.. so actually no one should judge a single mother or backlash them, because in my own opinion they are actually stronger women who chose to stand against all odds and bare their child. 

What are your opinions and takes on this?

Comments Reply
  • true word !  it take only a strongand determined woman to bare a child and train the child only, is not easy, thats why some other woman will abort which is not good at all. An advice for woman !  if you are not ready for a child stop opening your legs.

    - Anaekwe Chidinma Perpetua - 2019-09-25 19:29:25 Quote

  • Motherhood alone is a hard phase of life, single motherhood is hell. I pray that God bless my mother and grant her abundance of blessings in her resting state. Single motherhood is so tiresome when the mother had to play the role of a mother and a father which is a great burden to bear. God bless all striving mothers.

    - Ridwan Salaudeen - 2019-09-25 19:42:04 Quote

  • In my own opinion, the best is for a woman to have a job she is doing irrespective of whether the man is responsible or not. Because even the so called responsible men get tired at some when responsibilities are too much. I wouldn't blame the woman because she never thought things would come out that way. 

    - Jimoh Nimot - 2019-09-25 19:45:46 Quote

  • The hardship single mothers face is indeed real. The societal segregation and stigma can even lead to depression which could result to unwanted occurances. Having to care for a child with little or no support is really a tasking responsibility. So I say if you can't bear the burden don't engage in the act.

    - Ndukwe Ikechukwu - 2019-09-25 19:46:06 Quote

  • No body should blackmail a single mother because it's not easy to have the mind and carry tgt baby for 9months and still give birth to the baby without thinking of abortion.

    - Nwosu Vincent - 2019-09-25 19:54:00 Quote

  • I hate it so much when women are subjected to this kind of problem. The role of parenting is a collective effort which needs support not only from the parents but the  whole community at large. God strengthen our mothers, who are most a times, the victim of this problem.

    - Chidiebere Uzo - 2019-09-25 19:55:00 Quote

  • Its well, but what has happen has happen. i do not have anything to give to her, but what i have i give. If am right, the problem here is money. Introduces her to NNU, i promise you she will have enough to take care of her self and the child. 

    - CHRISTIAN IFEANYICHUKWU - 2019-09-25 20:09:07 Quote

  • Ladies as much to loose than men, once you get pregnant for a man who hasn't marry you. Your education or other things in your life. So it's better to stay away from it or protect yourself

    - Ayoola Morddiyyah Ayomide - 2019-09-25 20:14:18 Quote

  • Let's be guided plz,  let's stop judging people, good and fine you didn't do it  who knows tomorrow your daughter or any of your child might end up doing it. Those single mothers are really strong because they face the shame,  carry the child till nine months instead of abortion. 

    - Okwute Chinecherem - 2019-09-25 20:20:42 Quote

  • This is really a message for the public to see. The worst part is that those who attack single mothers must have committed one abomination or the other, but seems to forget theirs.

    - Isomkwo Clement - 2019-09-25 20:27:30 Quote

  • Obviously, this isn't her fault in any way. The guy was also involved in the baby making. People around might be shaming her but she has to be determined to support her child

    - Agbomoagan Oyinkansola - 2019-09-25 20:47:18 Quote

  •  I pray that God bless my mother and grant her abundance of blessings in her resting state. Single motherhood is so tiresome when the mother had to play the role of a mother and a father.

    - Ishaya Tanko - 2019-09-25 20:54:39 Quote

  • It is indeed true, its fact that people do underestimates single mothers. Being a single mother is one of the difficult task I ever see and heard, government should look into this and see if they can afford any helpful hand in this aspect.

    - Adindu Godsgift - 2019-09-25 20:55:19 Quote

  • Like this adage says and I quote"not All that glitters are gold", This should be a big lessons to the ladies out there,not all guy you see, or probably meet for the first time are responsible_sorry to say this, but you think because they wear good clothes and you come to conclusion that all is well...girs be wise, try to have an handwork.learn something, acquire a skill or the other, you don't know what future holds.

    - Olajide Emmanuel - 2019-09-25 20:57:59 Quote

  • I seriously recommend this, you open for a guy because he has flashy cars and all sort of flashy things forgetting to know if he has really come to stay or just to sleep with you and leave. Ladies be careful 

    - Ebenezer Umoh - 2019-09-25 20:59:43 Quote

  • Like this adage says and I quote"not All that glitters are gold", This should be a big lessons to the ladies out there,not all guy you see, or probably meet for the first time are responsible_sorry to say this, but you think because they wear good clothes and you come to conclusion that all is well...girs be wise, try to have an handwork.learn something, acquire a skill or the other, you don't know what future holds.

    - Olajide Emmanuel - 2019-09-25 21:00:20 Quote

  • Parenting can be quite an arduous adventure. It is hard
    enough with a committed partner, but when you are
    doing it alone, especially in Nigeria, the difficulty rises
    to a whole new level. It can be tricky, maintaining good
    mental health, thriving as an individual and nurturing
    your children in the best possible manner.

    - Okoro chidiebere Henry - 2019-09-25 21:07:25 Quote

  • It is better to suffer to keep what is of God safe because bible says children are the heritage of of God. Abortion is an act of murder. Please take care of your child

    - Akinmusayo Olajide - 2019-09-25 21:12:27 Quote

  • What's that they say about"putting yourself in one's shoes" and "Don't judge"???..

    If there's something I won't do is to judge others..she made a mistake yes! But we've done one or two regretful things for love..

    And her keeping the child is a bold step,who knows what that child will turn out to be??..

    She deserves better than mouth thrashing...

    - Deborah joel - 2019-09-25 21:12:52 Quote

  • Single mothers are like bad influence in this part of the world. People do not want to know the circumstances surrounding her condition, and label her all sorts of names. They need our support and are not mandated to remarry.  God bless all the unfortunate  single mothers out there. 

    - Chiedozie Anaekwe - 2019-09-25 21:16:05 Quote

  • Single mothers are not only strong but super mums, it isn't easy, it might not be their fault to get pregnant but they should be given credit because they are really trying.

    - Abubakar Hope - 2019-09-25 21:29:54 Quote

  • I wish non of us will go through wah single mothers are going through. It is always hard for them because they're like the breadwinner of the fam. All the children needs comes from which is so unfair. I pray God give them the strength to keep pushing. Amen. 

    - Solomon OAMEN - 2019-09-25 21:30:04 Quote

  • Motherhood is is supposed to be a thing of joy but because of bad planning or being decieved by so call nice guys.all these guys should be punished very well according to law

    - Rutherford Edidiong Etinwa - 2019-09-25 21:35:45 Quote

  • So touching, their is a lesson to all the ladies who trust a guy who is deceiving them, all ladies should study their so called lover before doing such a thing. 

    - Ojetunde Adeoluwa Samuel - 2019-09-25 21:44:41 Quote

  • Anytime anyday i will always support and appreciate the single mothers out there because the sacrifice this women make for thier children. It hard for any how person to make such sacrifice. Kudos to you single mothers out there

    - Ayobami Faruq - 2019-09-25 21:53:11 Quote

  • Honestly, I think people who are undergoing such menace also the windows should be fend for in the society. Most women are in this situation of catering for children, etc. This could be the reason why we see babies being thrown into dustbin... 

    - Nelo Zac - 2019-09-25 21:58:25 Quote

  • The most strongest women are those set of women who could still live and cater for their family without getting aid from their husband,it is not easy as a women to be doing the work of a man and a woman just to fend for your family. So I think whenever we see a single parent we should applaud them and not disgrace or insult them

    - Favour Okrotor - 2019-09-25 22:06:09 Quote

  • No woman wishes or prays for single parenting in her life. its terrible as its challenging. single parenting is caused mainly by unplanned parenthood. two people going out but didnt plan their lives accordingly but yet expects a child. as the saying goes, " when you fail to plan, you have planned to fail" when a couple knows they dont have the wherewithal to take care of a child, then they should avoid bringing one into the world, only to lbring the child here and let him or her suffer.

    - Chinonso Henry Ikueze - 2019-09-25 22:20:45 Quote

  • Very true!. The hardship faced by single mothers is at times not really bearable anymore to the extent they think they should just take their child to an orphanage home so that the child can get the best care and that's the reason why some ladies tend to abort their unborn child once they discover they're mistakenly pregnant buy abortion is never an option who knows if the aborted child would be the only child of the lady so please let us all be careful to the males don't just go out there and impregnate any girl that comes ur way it's not easy to bear a child even parents that are together complain talk less of a single mother and to the female pls don't fall for any sweet word or promise they make to you when you get pregnant they'll run and leave u o.

    - Oke Olamilekan - 2019-09-26 01:59:08 Quote

  • ladies should please stop falling for any guys that comes close them because most guys are like snake their plan is to come and divine you and you are not lucky he impregnat and run away. Ladies you all should be care. 

    - Paul Tochukwu - 2019-09-26 04:32:16 Quote

  • You really spoke well but what I would have to say is that a times you ladies just have to so it right from the start. I no is not an easy task taking care of a child from tender age but nevertheless, had it been the parent of the guy knows about it especially his mother, I trust she would be of help. She can't neglect her ground child. I give kudos to women for that. 

    - Dairo Idowu - 2019-09-26 05:47:43 Quote

  • To be a single mother is not an easy task. To have the mind to carry the baby for months and still give birth is not easy, why not we help them and stop using our mouth and tongue to make them feel vulnerable

    - Nwosu Vincent - 2019-09-26 05:49:33 Quote

  • I respect single mother because they refuse to be frustrated by the community they live and they refuse committing murder through abortion of a innocent child hence one need to give them help and even support because they are the definition of a true woman. 

    - Oluwaseun David Ajiboye - 2019-09-26 05:49:41 Quote

  • Fear and irresponsibility is what make guys cower from their responsibility after getting a girl pregnant. I will they can be a woman for 5 years so they may understand the pain. As for the girls, I wish they can understand what is at stake, count the cost and consider whether to go on with that relationship or not. However, we must open our heart to love these single mothers and in many ways support them instead of tongue lashing them. NGOs should be formed to support and carter for them.

    - Oletu Cornelius - 2019-09-26 06:05:25 Quote

  • Single motherhood is a terrible place to be if you dont have money and an understandable child, it isnt easy for a woman alone to train up a child, no matter how hard she tries the space for the man will always be open and the training will never be complete, may God help all single mothers outside to achieve the best training for their wards and may they eat the fruit of their labour.

    - Damilola Talabi - 2019-09-26 15:21:25 Quote

  • My sister, it's not an easy decision but it's the best, I have seen lots of them and most of them are really seeing hell. no one is ready to help except those that are attending churches where the pastor help widows they tend to assist single mother outside that, men alway wasn't to get in between their legs before willing to do anything, and out of 100 men only 5% will be genuinely be ready to assist. I really feel for them.

    - Ekigwe Chinedu Raymond - 2019-09-26 18:42:53 Quote

  • I believe single mothers are very strong and determined women.Most of them were left by their partners and many were in a situation to perform abortion but they didn't. Single mothers shouldn't be judged instead they should be praised because it's not wash raising children on Your Own. They should be respected and even the community should help and cater for their needs regularly. 

    - Akolawole Precious - 2019-09-26 21:23:17 Quote

  • I believe single mothers are very strong and determined women.Most of them were left by their partners and many were in a situation to perform abortion but they didn't. Single mothers shouldn't be judged instead they should be praised because it's not wash raising children on Your Own. They should be respected and even the community should help and cater for their needs regularly. 

    - Akolawole Precious - 2019-09-26 21:23:25 Quote

  • Seriously I have a high respect for single mothers I see them as strong women who can face their troubles. The way the society is treating them is bad people should help them in any way they can even if not for the sake of the mother but if the child.

    - Idi Grace - 2019-09-26 21:53:01 Quote

  • My opinion is the same as yours. The community we are in now rather criticize than help. They just throw words at the lady than to support her and her child. But if the lady didn't open her legs too, she would not be in that situation 

    - Teniola Odunlami - 2019-09-27 08:49:15 Quote

  • They are strong women,  because they decided to keep the baby, its not right to backlash them,  bur we should rather praise their courage,  its not easy,  and later in life,  when the child grows up,  the men wi then know they have a child somewhere,  even when they didn't take any responsibility. Single mothers are strong. 

    - Ruth Oyeleke - 2019-09-27 10:11:04 Quote

  • As a guy I'm begging women to be psychologically stronger than how they are so that they will not fall prey to the inticing and alluring words from guys. Lots of movies, series, written articles and verbal speeches have been presented to show the sad end of ladies who end up in the trap set by guys. Please don't allow yourself to end up in such situations of unwanted pregnancies because at the end, the society will not call the guy a white, a prostitute or a slut. It is the lady who suffers it all. 

    - NDU-ELUWA CHIMELA - 2019-09-27 12:20:17 Quote

  • I have once experienced this instead of saying in your area in your state why don't you changed it begin a new life your son show even go to public school work hard and hard so that you can support yourself that's like how they are produce to do what do you think about it

    - Abubakar Sadeeq Salihu - 2019-09-27 12:29:51 Quote

  • Yeah

    Single motherhood is not an easy thing 

    Evenbif you have enough money to take care of The child, the stress will be overwhelming because the father is not there 

    And there are some things only a father can do because there's a role he has to play

    Now the woman would have to play double roles

    - Joseph Lawrence - 2019-09-28 18:48:48 Quote

  • I won't advise any lady to give birth when she is not yet married, lady's need their boyfriends by their sides during mensuration talk more of pregnancy period, child delivery and training the child...  That is not a burden to be carried by one person 

    - Daniel Chidera - 2019-09-28 22:47:29 Quote

  • Been a single mother is truly an untold hardship.I know this because I was raised by one. I know all the sacrifices she made for me even to the extent of starving her self just to make sure I get something I need or to feed me.And also, been raised by a singleMother also takes alot ecause there can be no how she tries hard, there will always be some things you will missand however, if you are raised by a Loving and caring Mother, it will show in the way you relate with others and will definitely make way for you.

    - Lawal Ajibola - 2019-09-29 00:40:30 Quote

  • It take by the grace of God and a strong woman to take care of a child alone

    So advice us is let us know how self even if you are to di it,  make sure you are protected to avoid long story

    Nice post 

    - Patrick Juliet - 2019-09-29 17:30:05 Quote

  • Single motherhood is not an easy thing 

    Evenbif you have enough money to take care of The child, the stress will be overwhelming because the father is not there 

    And there are some things only a father can do because there's a role he has to play

    - Williams David - 2019-09-29 21:41:13 Quote

  • It is really difficult for single moms out there, some didn't choose this for themselves, some gave their love and wasn't appreciated, some was raped, some was sweet talked, we all need to understand this, when people see a single mom first thing they think is she is a prostitute, or a player, no one even thinks if she had loved a man enough to keep pregnancy and he disappointed her.

    - Christiana Benjamin menku - 2019-10-01 21:49:12 Quote

  • Really true. Single mothers go through the stress of raising their alone some with the help of their parents and some without the help of their parents. 

    They look for ways to make sure their children are happy despite them not having anyone to support them. Kudos to them and kudos to all mother's out there.

    - Babatunde Wuraola - 2019-10-03 01:38:35 Quote

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