Struggles With Bodyshaming, How I Defeated The Monster!
Body-shaming is the practice of making critical, potentially humiliating comments about a person's body size or weight
It can be by telling the person he/she is too fat or too skinny
Both genders go through body-shaming everyday and trust me when I say it's part of the top reasons why most teenagers are depressed
It's a popular belief that females are the ones that experience body-shaming in most case scenarios and that is the truth, the males experience it too but it's mostly the female species dominating up to 80% of the victims
I am a victim of Body-shaming, I have experienced it first-hand from people (friends, relatives, neighbors et.c) whether intentionally or non-intentionally, and I must say it's not a good feeling.I would literally stand in front of a mirror for minutes looking at myself and thinking of ways I could have looked better. You know that feeling when you know you have a flaw, you're not up to standards and you keep beating yourself up for it everyday then have people reminding and telling you about that same flaw every time? Yeah! That's what I've been feeling since my early teenage years ( just to be clear, I'm still a teenager) . I know you guys are probably thinking, what is she getting body-shamed for? is she too fat or too thin? I will give you few seconds to guess.
Yeah! You guessed right, I was too fat and I hated it. So, I started stressing over it, beating myself up, going on ridiculous diets, exercising till I can't feel my limbs, thinking I would lose weight. Well, I did lose the weight but I gained it back whenever I made a headway, Every Single Time!
So, I gave up. I was always so mad at myself and the people around me weren't helping either. I hated myself for it
Not to be all mushy on you guys, I also have people who encourage me and told me to accept myself, that I'm beautiful just the way I am. People like my Dad, my Mum and my closest friends. That's it!
The rest? They always have something inappropriate to say about my weight
I was almost depressed but luckily got a grip of my sanity before I fell into that dark loop, I thank God and my parents for that...
Now? I'm just a fat, short, almost 17 year old girl, studying pharmacy at one of the best school in Nigeria (that's Unilorin by the way ?)
I have learned to love myself just the way I am, not to care about what others have to say about me. I'm still working out actually but I've learned to take everything slow, move at my own pace and beat all of my insecurities one day at a time!
To all the body-shamers out there, you all need to stop! Like seriously, just stop! Body-shaming doesn't make anybody look the way you want them to look, instead it makes the victim feel miserable and useless. It is an Inhumane act!
And to all the victims of this Inhumane act out there... You're beautiful, you are loved, you are amazing, you are the best version of yourself! Don't let anyone look down on you or make you feel less about yourself!
You all are Kings and Queens and wonderful people, Your flaws makes you perfect! Do what you love, spend time with your loved ones, don't fall into that deep dark hole of depression and anxiety!
Whether fat or skinny, you're beautiful! Remember you're created in HIS image, so You Are Beautiful!
Adjust your crowns and face the world, beat down your insecurities one day at a time, the journey of a thousand miles start with a step so, try hard! I know it's not easy, it wasn't easy for me too but You Can Do It!
When you love and accept yourself, the world does the same and move on, they're so quick to move on, trust me...
Stand up, dust off your coats, tie up your shoe lace, adjust your tilted crown and face that insecurity!
Remember, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL!
Please feel free to share your experience or thoughts about body-shaming in the comment box below.
Love you all!❤