The Idea Of Selfishness Being Bad

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Whenever the word selfishness is mentioned or when a person is being tagged as a selfish person. The negative concept comes to mind. The message is clear; you are paying more attention to your own needs and well-being and not enough to that of others. Most experts often say that selfishness isn't only immoral, it is also detrimental to one's mental well-being .But what most people don't realizes being selfish every now and then isn't about being self absorbed, instead it's comes from the idea of priotizing one's self care and pursuing one's happiness and peace of mind.

There are 3 different forms in which selfishness could be displayed.

The bad selfishness which is like a win lose transaction in which you fulfil your own wants and desires at the expense of someone or something. This could be in form of fraud, theft, of emotional Manipulation, exploitation and victimization.

The neutral selfishness is a form of  selfishness in which you fulfil your needs and wants in ways that do not directly involvr other people.. they may represent time and resources that could have been used to help others but they also put u in a better position to help other people

The good selfishness is a situation in which you are willing to give out something in order to gain something you really value. It involves the courage to give priority to our wants and needs and the confidence to be straight about our wants not because we want to harm or exploit other people but because we want to be able to serve others in a better way

The idea of selfishness being bad - By Kingsley Amadi - 2019-11-21 11:06:57

For me I don't see selfishness as a tag on anybody. Because it is not a constant thing. I use myself as an example: I usually give as my spirit leads, there are times when i go out of my way to give someone something, there are times when I don't feel like giving even when i have, and trust me that is not selfishness. It is choice

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The idea of selfishness being bad - By Damilola Ajala - 2019-11-21 21:33:13

selfishness isn't a bad thing at all, and I agree with this post. People have used this word to emotionally blackmail people. They expect you to give up your happiness or something you have just for them and when you don't, you're tagged as selfish. I have learnt to prioritize myself above anyone else.

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The idea of selfishness being bad - By Ajiboye Victor - 2019-11-23 04:47:46

I agree with this post. Its not by force to help or do anything for the sake of others. There should be be free will and that help should be given after the person has finished evaluting his or her own  priorities. No body should be blackamiled to give or do something that doesnt come from their own mind

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The idea of selfishness being bad - By Eboh Jeffrey - 2019-11-23 11:05:59

We are all selfish one way or the other 

Thinking about your self first before others isn't always a bad thing ,in order to love Your neighbor or to value ur neighbor's life you must first love yourself and value your own life 

It's okay to be selfish sometimes 

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The idea of selfishness being bad - By David Ohaeri - 2019-11-28 08:53:14

We all should be able to draw a clear line between being selfish and watching out for ones own interest. Selfishness is a vice that involves placing ones interest at the expense of that of others. But one can still protect his interest while ensuring that he doesn't hurt others in the process

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The idea of selfishness being bad - By Francis Kcee Wilfred - 2019-11-28 10:15:50

We are all selfish one way or the other 

Thinking about your self first before others isn't always a bad thing ,in order to love Your neighbor or to value ur neighbor's life you must first love yourself and value your own life 

It's okay to be selfish someti mes 

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The idea of selfishness being bad - By Mashood Sofiyyullahi - 2019-12-01 06:05:49

We all should be able to draw a clear line between being selfish and watching out for ones own interest. Selfishness is a vice that involves placing ones interest at the expense of that of others. But one can still protect his interest while ensuring that he doesn't hurt others in the process 

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The idea of selfishness being bad - By Oshoreame Aseghiemhe - 2019-12-02 13:44:28

There is no such thing as good selfishness . Selfishness is like greed and i have never heard any one say good greed . There is a big difference between self love and self care and selfishness . Self love is when you prioritze yourself above others but also putting others into consideration . Whereas selfishness is neglecting the needsof others totally and focusing on your self alone 

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The idea of selfishness being bad - By Balogun Boluwatife - 2019-12-04 15:47:45

Selfishness I'll say can be defined differently according to the difference in our personalities.i believe one should give if and only if you are comfortable doing it and not out of force.giving should be willingly.so if you demand something from someone and you are not given,I believe we should understand that everybody can never be the same and giving depends on choice.

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The idea of selfishness being bad - By Shedrack Odey - 2019-12-05 15:18:52

Been selfish isn't bad, It's a choice to make when u feel like giving. As for me I do give when I have, and I also don't give when I have, so it's a choice to make. But giving attracts blessings and the person who you give will always remember you for that. 

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