The Menace Of Intimate Partner Violence. What Is The Way Forward?

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It is a sad reality that at this stage of human development, intimate partner violence is now the order of the day. Whatever the reasons why it occurs, the female counterparts in most cases suffer more from physical, emotional and psychological abuse from a man who once proposed love to her. It has been so bad that some women have even lost their lives in the process either from the hands of their spouses or from suicide.

The irony is the fact that most of intimate partner violence especially to women occurs during the time of pregnancy when love and care is very crucial to the woman and baby. I feel respect, maturity, women empowerment and recognition of women rights would go a long way to help curb this. Funny enough, males are not spared because some women have even killed their husbands too in the name of jealousy.

So, irrespective of the gender affected, what could be the way out?

The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Asukwo Faith Eyibio - 2019-09-25 14:48:14

Intimate partner violent I think occur when there's no love and respect for each other and lack of trust and jealousy can cause a partner to be violent, in other to avoid this couples should learn to love, respect and trust each other. 

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Mofolu Ayo - 2019-09-25 15:07:17

Violence is something that should be found upon in the family. Spouses should talk about their problems and not beat each other up. If they feel like talking is not solving the problem then they should see a professional counselor or someone they both respect that can speak to them and advice them. 

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Nicodemus Ojapah - 2019-09-25 15:29:55

It's really sad. In my opinion people should learn to pay attention and observe their partner keenly during dating and courtship. If he or she is a violent person, it will reveal itself in one way or the other. 

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Emmy Rex - 2019-09-25 15:38:13

Domestic violence in which ever form it takes should be highly discouraged.

The family is supposed to be a breeding ground for kids.And,kids should not be allowed to be exposed to any kind of violence at all in the first place.

I know that in any relationship,there is bound to be quarrels and problems once in a while,but for love sake and the future of the kids,the partners being mature enough ought to handle any of such problems without violence.

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By oluwagalola Soyoye - 2019-09-25 16:30:57

Well I feel like the only reasonable solution to this issue is when the individuals in question respect each other. Someone who respects you will never beat you or be violent with you. So both husbands and wife should respect each other

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Magbo Paschal - 2019-09-25 16:31:21

The intimate partner violence is becoming too much in our everyday live. How can you promise a young lady love and later assault her physically and emotionally, it's not right. We should learn to live with our partners decision.

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Favour Onyenibedi - 2019-09-25 17:04:53

First of all... All this happens when the two partners does not understand themselves.. When they lack good communication skill...when they don't love and respect each other... It's wrong for a man to touch a woman and also for a woman to touch the man.  .they must love and understanding themselves 

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Ilesanmi Iyanuoluwa - 2019-09-25 17:51:26

Intimate partner violence occurs as a result of not being trusted by one's fellow partner and I think the female are the main cause of the problem. Actually before you go into a marriage,  you should have known the kind of partner you're dealing with . Not now going into marriage that would later cause problems later 

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Nwosu Vincent - 2019-09-25 18:23:40

This is a big time trouble to the country as a whole. People will prolpro to themselves it each other with great love shown on their face but ones the person agrees on their love proposal, the will the take they person as rag which is not good.

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Stella Maurison - 2019-09-25 19:04:10

I suggest caution should be well applied in choosing a life mate. Violent personality can easily be detected if one put ear on the ground during say courtship.  And if you know you can't carry it, then run for your life. But because of crace for marriage on the part of women, they will see the signs and still put head thinking they will fix it later but alas! They usually pay with their lives.

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Obalu Johnkennedy Kenechukwu - 2019-09-25 20:01:30

Before intimate violent occurs in a relationship, there must be series of argument due to lack of love, respect and mostly trust. 

I still remember a say that if there is no trust in a relationship, that relationship will be worst than that of two core enemy living in one room so I suggest that trust is mostly needed to solve the menace.

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Richard Ngirigwa - 2019-09-25 20:46:20

This is very hard in our present day relationships and marriages. People are easily jealous, maywhile you know that this or that, is gonna cause him or her to be jealous, but you still do them, anyways. 

Marriage suppose to of love, i cause the day, i will raise my hands on a woman. Future wife, no annoy me too. 

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Mariam Oguntola - 2019-09-25 21:21:49

Sadly this is the situation of things. A relationship that starts off as the most beautiful experience of a person's life but later becomes a nightmare. Personally I don't think anything that poses a threat to your well-being should still be entertained.Whenever you start feeling threatened in your relationship I believe it's time to move on so as to avoid getting hurt

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Ime Henry - 2019-09-25 21:46:45

Men you guys should stop the fake love thing and if u truely love a girl go ahead and take good care of her and if you don't stop playing the fake love role and be sending innocent women to their early graves. As for women, you should be ashamed if you kill anybody in the name of any relationship stuff. God would never be happy with you.

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Goodness Onuchukwu - 2019-09-25 21:52:47

My opinion is that, violence seldom starts one day.You should have seen the early warning signs  of impatience before becoming intimate with that person. But in cases when there were no warning signs, you should open up to someone mature who can guide you appropriately. Sometimes also, violence can be a result of your own intolerable behaviour, so one should make sure his or her character doesn't spark up violence. All in all, before entering a relationship, one should be directed by God, because only in God one can find peace.

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Idi Grace - 2019-09-25 21:56:06

Couple's should be advised more on how to trust and love each other as they should to avoid the intemate partner violence that has seems to be the oder of the day. Couple's should avoid being jealous easily. They should also avoid pretence while courting when you pretend you eventually get tired of it and your real colour will have to show so be yourself to avoid trouble in your marriage. 

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Okwute Chinecherem - 2019-09-25 22:02:33

This occurs when the man doesn't love or have respect for the woman from the very start. Violence in marriages is very  bad and really needs to stop.  If you don't love someone better don't go for him or her to avoid this. 

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Abdulmaleek Habib - 2019-09-26 03:40:35

when social violence becomes a serious crime I thing eyes of the government, then I guess people start having a rethought of what they are about doing, because to me the only way out is make good and severe example to the offenders either male or female, then we can have a reduction in this aspect. 

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By John Ekerete - 2019-09-26 04:13:12

I'll say this mostly affects the women especially when the are pregnant maybe the husband where not financially stable or ready to have children them boom the are pregnant and then the men are frustrated and do the take it down on the women which is very wrong to hit a women so please anyone involved in such act should stop

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Jeriel Onyema - 2019-09-26 06:44:15

It is an absurd thing for a man to ever raise a hand on a woman not to talk of his partner,that should be enforced in the law,its shear cruelty,men should learn how to control their anger,and as much a possible stay away from drugs and alcohol, also women should learn how to relate wity their husbands especially during an argument or quarrel, whatever it may be he is the head of the house and so that respect should be accorded to him

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Sheu Yusuf Amura - 2019-09-26 08:11:51

People have said it all, but based on my own experience what usually caused this is lack of loves and affections, understanding etc. in order to get out of this government is expected to make use of those places of worship to continue preaching to  people as this ll curb this immoral acts...

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Light Udoyo - 2019-09-26 13:33:15

Sincerity,openmindedness, rebuking any bad at the first instance, love and care are some of the way of partners menace and violence. Husbands and wives should learn to respect each other. . this way they can stay as one as possible without any trouble. 

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Light Udoyo - 2019-09-26 13:33:15

Sincerity,openmindedness, rebuking any bad at the first instance, love and care are some of the way of partners menace and violence. Husbands and wives should learn to respect each other. . this way they can stay as one as possible without any trouble. 

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Omosivwe Jonathan - 2019-09-26 14:19:56

In other to avoid these acts of violence from either the man or woman, they should learn to control themselves. Men should learn to control their anger and even when angry should never lay hands on their woman; women on the other hand should understand that it’s not all things they should say, as words trigger their emotions too. If these two things are controlled then there’d be relatable peace among couples. 

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Olamide Oluwatosin - 2019-09-26 14:26:29

Couples should learn to love, respect and care for their partner all the time, then understanding really matters too, they should understand each others' need when the need arises, neglect should be avoided and there should be transparency too so as to avoid violence. 

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By OLALEKAN OLADAPO - 2019-09-26 15:03:13

It is unfortunate that our society is turning to a divorced ground or rather violence arena...women are at the receiving end in most cases and its not fair at all.more sensitization is needed to corp this act.

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Akinade Taiwo - 2019-09-26 19:29:30

the main reason is just that partners tends to get tired of themselves as time pass by I think it's both of them work to work on the relationship because it's like a sinking ship

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Dairo Idowu - 2019-09-26 21:34:04

What I will suggest is that they should try not hold grudge till other day. I mean if there is anything one has done against each other, they should ensure they settle before sleeping. Why ? It's because this violent we are talking about didn't just start like that but as a result fail or offence been pile up in the mind. 

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Abimbolu Abayomi - 2019-09-26 23:17:42

No matter the gravity of the matter I don't feel violence is next I feel settlement is best even if u are not are fault just make Sure you settle it and don't sleep with grudge

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Okpala Obinna - 2019-09-26 23:43:29

I will advise anyone in this situation or going to be in this situation to find a way of getting his or her space because only that alone will make you get a way of letting thing's of your head before any form of thinking comes in because even the Bible said " An idle mind is the Devil workshop"

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Trisma Ezekiel Yaki - 2019-09-27 06:20:20

They main reason for this is lack of Love, Respect for each other and inhumanity. Another factor that also contributes is lack of communication and understanding between the two partners involved. Let both parties open up, no telling of lies, no keeping of secrets and no malice 

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Maureen Okoh - 2019-09-27 07:53:44

Violence from partners or domestic violence generally is bad. People should study and know their partners well enough before getting into marriage with them.

As for the ways to curb it,  I believe love and respect is the key. No man or woman will hit the partner he so much love and cherish. If you know that you don't love or respect him or her, don't bother getting married to them because situations will surely come up and the love and respect you have for your partner will help you control yourself.

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Shalom Michael - 2019-09-27 10:51:42

Violence really bad in any relationship. Respect and trust is the key,taking responsibility for wrongs,talking about their probelms and learning to talk to each other not at each other.

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Aliyu Gana Aliyu - 2019-09-27 10:59:26

It's becoming too rampant these days, guys beating their partner for trivia reasons. I believe most times they do it to prove that they are in control. While we bash the people doing so, it is worthwhile to also consider what offence the other partner might have committed to warrant such actions. Most ladies now adays are too saucy, and men can not stand to be insulted without acting out.

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Temitope John - 2019-09-27 11:23:47

The way out? Quite simple.

Stop saying I love you to rubbish. 

When your partner abuses you violently, take actions against them. If you don't want to involve the police, involve your lawyer atleast. Get them to sign an undertaken to prevent future occurrence.

We have heard and seen too many stories about domestic violence in the past few years to not take an action immediately it happens. 

I know you love him but love yourself too. 

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Akobe Tomide - 2019-09-28 09:03:53

Intimate partner violence occurs where love and respect is no more, and that should not be the order of the day.  In a relationship each partner is meant to be treated with love, care and respect. 

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Ruth Oyeleke - 2019-09-28 19:41:48

Genuine love is the answer,  prayer is also important,  a family that prays together will stay together,  don't go into marriage without you being sure of the mutual love,  also pray to God to be sure you are making the right decision. 

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Rotimi Adebayo - 2019-09-29 00:35:16

For a family to stand firm they have to understand and love one another. Many families have fallen due to lack of love. And how individual in a family is raised determines how strong the love would be, all children should be trained how to love one another in a family to bring peace and avoid family break down

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Favour Ifeoluwa - 2019-09-29 07:04:01

    There is no sensible reason for violence in a relationship. If such a thing happens,the woman is to flee as quick as possible from that man and end the relationship. No matter the offence, a partner should never hit his wife or girlfriend.

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Okafor Chigaemezu Ifeanyi - 2019-09-29 10:00:11

Women empowerment is a good way forward. The victims should always report excess abuse to the right persons. Because this abuse is contrary to human rights and also contrary to the agreement between the couples. The person who is punishing the other will get what he or she deserves. 

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Emmanuel Agbasielo - 2019-09-29 13:34:43

Lack of understanding among spouses bring about this violence. When a man doesn't feel what his wife feels,when he hates what his wife likes, then violence is inevitable. The same applies to the women. When she doesn't respect her husband and care for him,they are bound to quarrel always.

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Queen Sharon Gift - 2019-09-29 13:42:46

Well I think what causes violence in a intimate relationship is when the two partners doesn't understand each other and no love in the relationship.Some lady will use because a guy is rich and try to tie the guy up with pregnancy knowing fully well the guy doesn't really love her because she is there because of the wealthy, that's what result to men beating them because the guy doesn't truly love her...

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Ugo Pauline - 2019-09-30 14:42:27

For years there had been cases of violence from the opposite partner, and I feel the society needs to started looking into this. Most people abused in their marriage or relationship remain in it because of pressure from family that hates the idea of divorce. They remain in it until the victim loses him or her life. If you're facing physical violence from you partner it's best to speak up and look for help. 

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Adelokun Temitayo - 2019-10-01 10:30:32

I think this violence happens between partners who don't feel the spark again in their relationship. Or partners that don't sit to talk about their problems. If there's anything wrong in a relationship, partners should endeavor to sit themselves down and talk things out. 

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Mmesoma Udeh - 2019-10-01 10:47:18

Violence from partners or domestic violence generally is bad. People should study and know their partners well enough before getting into marriage with them.

As for the ways to curb it, I believe love and respect is the key. No man or woman will hit the partner he so much love and cherish. If you know that you don't love or respect him or her, don't bother getting married to them because situations will surely come up and the love and respect you have for your partner will help you control yourself.

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Mmesoma Udeh - 2019-10-01 10:47:50

Lack of understanding among spouses bring about this violence. When a man doesn't feel what his wife feels,when he hates what his wife likes, then violence is inevitable. The same applies to the women. When she doesn't respect her husband and care for him,they are bound to quarrel always.

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Bethel Wayne - 2019-10-02 23:12:56

Most times the way women talk to their man or embarrass him is not encouraging, which can lead to violence as a result of anger from the man. If he can't control himself at that point in time another problem begins. 

Please ladies should mind the way they talk to their husbands.

And no man should ever lay his hands on a woman to feel like a man after all he's still a man. 

Just learn how to control yourself and move out from that point. 

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Durotimi Oluwatoba - 2019-10-03 01:41:55

Violence should never feature in any form of sexual relationship. Both parties should take keen note of how their partner reacts to things and most importantly both parties should have a head like and elderly person they submit to. This will make them be accountable for their acts.

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Oyinkuro Precious - 2019-10-06 12:30:48

This is becoming a prominent feature of marriages these days which ought not to be so men should try to discipline themselves from the habit of beating their wives whenever there is an argument and women on the other hand should be weary of their mouth

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The menace of intimate partner violence. What is the way forward? - By Oluwasegun Olaleye - 2019-10-12 23:42:11

We need more marriage counsellors in the country. Then from a tender age they need to be taught how to respect a lady  I was just wondering if morals could be taught to kids as it is done in Asia

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