Children are gift from God, so therefore they deserve the best in life. Don't have the assumption that when you bear your children God will provide without having any plan for their well- being has parents.
If you can't afford to train them well, then fon't bring them to the world for them to suffer.
I will be talking about three things to consider before bearing children in your marital home.
1: Financial capacity: This is very important in planning for your unborn kids. No child is worth to bear suffering and mal- nutrition due to low income.
While you are planning for uour honey moon, make sure you have your plan for the kids too, so you won't end up causing them pain.
2: Attention: Your kids need your attention more,they need someone to talk to, someone to share their feelings and taught with.
Makesure you have this quality, it is important before bearing children in your marital home.If you know you are the type that pay more attention on social media, pls take note to do away with such habit, to prevent damages in your home.
3: Education and awareness: kids needs to be educated at home and not only in school, as a parent consider to teach your children the way to behave, the way to bring God first in whatever they do and the way to communicate to their elderly outside your home.
You also need to make tgem know certain things like their private part and what it is use for, because in our present society, things like rape,happen to this innocent kids because their parents refuse to teach them what they need to know about sex education.
Pls if you have any suggestion about this topic, you can as well contribute to it.
Its the truth, children deserve a good life from from parents, they we're not aware of coming to this world, the parents brought them. God will continue to strengthen parents.
Actually marriage is a uninion of a man and a woman according the the word of God. However, many couples today pay more attention to bearing of children not the help mate which God created women for. Children are gifts from God actually but they are not to be slaves in our hands. They need to enjoy life. So, we should bear children based on our ability to shoulder the responsibility of parenthood. They must eat good food, wear good cloths, go to good school, etc. We should regulate child bearing.
Raising kids is a great responsibulity,and it must be planned for.it should not be by accident,the woman must be ready to sacrifice a lot of things to be called a good mother.it must be planned for,prepared for and prayed for.its a respinsibility entrusted in our hand and we must not fall God and the society
You also have to make sure you are medically sound. If you are not and you have money, you may end up spending the money on the child. Also bring God into your home. He will guide you through your marital life.
Children are not only a gift from God but a blessing to the family. They need attention,care, love, provision protection and role models for them to learn and be responsible in the society. That is why it is necessary to plan for their coming so they can be catered for adequately.
All of this is true, parents must be ready and able to invest time and money into their children. Adequate attention must be paid to the children and their needs must be met.
Its sad that some people don't have all the requirements to take care of their children and will still go ahead and give birth to them in large quantity. God will help us all.
I believe couples should consider these steps as it will really help, then they should also have accounts for both born and unborn kids so that they wouldn't be depriving their children from their right and to avoid a home filled with unhappiness.
Kids also need their parent love and time.some parent don't even have time for their kids all they care about is work work work.many kids get influenced by bad people easily because their parents don't have time to advice them.
Addition to the point raised earlier, properly upbringing and inculcation of moral lessons. I discovered that most of the children nowadays don't have manners. They seems to be rude in their doings. Parents take note.
Most kids don’t have or get much love they needed from their parents. Nowadays most parent don’t have time for their children what they only want is for them to go to a good school but they don’t care how they live or what they face outside
Its sad that some people don't have all the requirements to take care of their children and will still go ahead and give birth to them in large quantity...its important that we all know that our children are our future
You have said it all. I will also like to say, the issue of prayer and making them know God cannot be overemphazied!
They should also know the kind of friends they keep. Like the way our parent brought us up; we're friends to everyone but no close friend. All our friends ends at church or school! And I think its a good way as Well to training our kids... Am doing better on the ones with us here...smiles..
It's becoming unbearable how some parents unnecessarily give birth to children the know very well that they cannot take good care of,many children wander in the street doing nothing, some of them has caused damages by stealing and fighting around
It is true children brought into this world needs a better training cus even the bibBi admonished us to give them a better training . So if you know that you can take care of the responsibility of training up a children go ahead and take the task
Most people think just because they are comfortable financially they can raise a child but that's not all it takes. Raising a child takes dedication, you can't raise a child properly if you don't have time. Inculcating good morals in children at an early age is important because after that it may be too late. So parents need to determine if they are ready to raise kids and how many they can cope with before they decide to give birth.
Child bearing is a very very essential and critical issue to consider when planning for marriages.One important aspect of marriage is to consider career pusuit so as to know the number f kids to give birth to.As lack of planning may lead to futuristic concussion of purpose.0
This is a problem that has been right from time...even our parents also are guilty of this and in one way or the other it has affected our life..so we are the ones who shouldn’t make such mistakes...how i wish this broadcast can reached nation wide so as for young youth and singles wont fall prey of this henceforth...
This is a problem that has been right from time...even our parents also are guilty of this and in one way or the other it has affected our life..so we are the ones who shouldn’t make such mistakes...how i wish this broadcast can reached nation wide so as for young youth and singles wont fall prey of this henceforth
This article is really interesting. And it really make sense because many family don't know that they have to get some things before giving birth to children .but if many of them can get opportunity to read this type of post they Wil also change their mentalility .
God bless the writer. Must time I hear people say "The God that bring them will provide for them". One need to know that wisdom is profitable to direct. Because you suffer when you were a kid, does not mean your children will suffer also, and that your friend start having children without any source of income, will not make you to do same, because is not right.
In addition to what you have said about financial capacity, this is one of the most important point. If you are not able to cater the needs of your children, hmmnn you in great trouble, they are mingling with many friends in their life, some are from reach family, if they do something which your children can not afford, and they are highly interested in that particular thing, this can makes them to be involved in terms of committing anything that you can call it a sin or an offence, in as much as they can get that money.
So try to have a business that your children can inherit from you, of which they can at least depends. If they are engage in business, their mind will not be a devil's workshop.
I feel due to the disturbing high rates of population in the country, couples should cut their coats according to their sizes when having children. You shouldn't bring children to the world without having a legal means of livelihood.
The conducive growth environment for children to grow is one vital point you cannot neglect.
The children needs the necessary serene environment, a place free of abusive words, good communication and respect for each other.
An orderly place of good sense of humour.
These amidst others should be put into consideration...
Another thing you should consider is to know that nothing goes as planned, how good are you at responding to critical situations when they take you unawares, if you like attend all the family planning seminars in the world, surprising situations would come, how good are u at handling them. As a father too, you should have this kind of respect emitting spirit so that you children would not under estimate you.
That's true. I really love the last one that talked about education, we shouldn't allow the teachers alone to train our children, they are to give them formal education, while we teach them the basic things they need to know as our children in the society at large
Availability of parents to train the children in a Good and Godly way in other for the child/children not to be wayward and act abruptly to tarnish the reputation of the family
Parents must be Available to always correct the mistakes of their children and advice them always
Nice one. The way kids suffer neglect this days is alarming. There is this saying in the mind of people that The God that gives children will also send provision for their upkeep. This has made so many people to born more than they can train .
Parents are really trying may God almighty bless our parents and also soon to be parents because is not easy to be a parents it only takes the grace of the almighty. I must say that children really deserve everything good in life, they deserve a good and healthy life and they also deserve to be showered immensely with a greater love from both the parents and the society as a whole.
Yeah everyone wants to have children immediately after marriage which is a good thing but many fail to plan and planning I mean what you have to offer those children. The resources needed to cater for their needs. All these need to be thought about well before the issue of having children come up
Yes..most homes are experiencing excruciating pains now just to see to.it.that the wayward child changes ..forgetting that there was once moment where they could handle the child and he/she would have to say yes/no accordingly
You're very right! Why bring someone into the world to let them suffer afterwards? Both arrives in matrimony should agree as to why they have to hold on in childbearing issues. Don't please mother-in-law and later cry secretly in penury and debauchery. Get kids the right time -- when you're ready to train them.
The major problem in Nigeria marital home is not able to plan for kids based on there financial status. This kids deserve all the best and to be able to say yes my parent are my rock during my upbringing. So many parents jst keep giving birth to children without planning thus leading to disaster.
It is true and most parents don't consider all this things before bringing the children into this world though sometimes it's not their fault but due to lack of education cos if they had a proper education while growing up they would have known that giving birth to more children than you can take care of that's why illiteracy rate will not decrease
I won't disagree with this because it's of good idea and must have plans for your unborn babies not to come to this world and suffer,always be able to provide for them in times of need.provide them with shelter,clothing,lead them in the way of God
Of a truth we should have better plans for our children before we bring them to this world. I’ll prefer to have a low key wedding and plan ahead for my home and my kids than having an elaborate wedding and in the end I and my family doesn’t even have what to feed on.
we should always be prepared to hear from our children, we shouldn’t create too much fear in them that will make them keep things away from us
There are indeed a lot of things to consider before bearing children in one's marital home, first, is to make sure you and your partner are fully ready and prepared to have a family, second, is your financial capability, cos no matter how ready you can be, I feel one should make sure you are financially stable, if not flabouyantly,but at least at an average level, cos we all don't want our children to come into this world to suffer. There are more reasons though... But they all should be taken into consideration in order to have a happy and fulfilled family.
Before you open your legs for anyone just make sure you know fully well the consequences of that no matter how careful you think you are just make sure that should in case a mistake should arise that your partner is fully up and equal to the task otherwise don't do it. Do not bring kids into this world without planning because most of the kids we see selling pure water on the road side is as a result of good planning from the parents.
Children are a gift from God and a blessing to the society. Couples should consider their resources, before giving birth to children. Most couples give birth to children they end up not having enough resources to take care of. Children shouldn’t be brought into this world to suffer and for those who are blessed with children, they should guide this children to be a blessing to the society.
Children are heritage of GOD. So if its the right time for you to have that child GOD will always provide a means but also you knowing your level of capacity you should know when to have ur kids if you're the type that plans so leave GOD to take control.
Gone are those days when kids were special. This days they are being made without consideration. Lot of children out of wedlock and married couples who could barely feed giving birth to too many kids like its an investment. I think there should be a law on how many kids couples should have
Very true and both spouses should ensure they Get used to living together, and being able to communicate together before putting a child in the middle so as to avoid blames on each other to the extent of blaming the woman of getting pregnant unexpectedly. Many things should be considered before having a child.
Good preparation prevent poor performance.If your marriage was prepared for very well,you will plan well for your marriage and children.
That is why there is space for courtship,where both parties know each other very well and plan their future.
Other things to consider before bearing children are,
Morals and so on
The three points you listed are important I agree. The children need good education, good home training and a healthy environment to grow up in. They shouldn't be made to suffer and the parents should give them utmost attention.
Yeah what you said is so true. I love your article. Most people today expecially those that are into a relationship doesn't have a family planning . They would be having s8x anyhow without considering the side effect . In a family that has so many mouths to be fed and doesn't have enough money yo cater for there children is rubbish we should have a good family planning so that our children won't cause us or suffer
But, it is something that saddens the heart that, most parents before they give birth to a child they don't take into consideration of the important things, you see that most of them are not always capable of taking care of their children, most children's life from childhood is a wasted.
Yes you are right, a lot we need to train our kids on before they grow up. Is our responsibility to always look out for them, provide their necessary needs and always be a good parents to them. And not to forget that is also our responsibility to train them in godly way.
I really love this topic here, it's important to have plans for your kids and also train them to be useful for themselves and the nation and also you must be a good role mode to your children by acting good and be the best you can be in the view of your kids so that they can follow your step and be happy for them in their future days. Note this-don't always believe or put it on your mind that that your children is your future that they will be the one to feed you in your Old age. No, you should work hard yourself and always make plans for your old age so that you won't become a burden to your children, God bless all parents in the world.....
Children deserves the best ever one can offer them being their parent, guardians or as mentors.
As young couples, one should endevour to give birth to how many kids he can afford to take care of at any particular time in their family life, and make sure to give them the best home training and give them best and quality education to survive tomorrow's cause when the sunny days comes.
One should be able to consider his financial capabilities most importantly to, without money in a marriage, its not easy to ride along.
Undoubtedly, everyone needs the first and last, which is GOD's grace and lead.