Understanding The Body Language Of Your Spouse By Christian James

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Every human being communicates in non verbal form whether consciously or unconsciously. It an essential part of communication that cannot be ignored. 

We all have body signs that communicates our emotions, feelings, mood, likes, dislikes, world views, passions,  expectations, resentments, biases, etc. 

The extent to which you understand the body posturing of your spouse will in a great way enhance communication and relationship in your marriage. It is great wisdom to carefully study/discover some likes, dislikes and expectations which your spouse communicates non verbally. This will help you to respond and relate better. 

Sharp disagreements often arise in the home because misinterpretation or inability to decode the message passed across by either of the parties - Husband and Wife. 

You often hear statements like:

1. "I thought your silence over the matter meant you did not approve of it"

2." I took the look on your face to mean you wanted me to attend the party"

3. "I assumed you were interested in the meeting" 

4. I didn't know that the questions you asked were intended to dissuade me from venturing into the project"

5. "but you didn't tell me you wanted sex" 

6.  "but you didn't tell me that you had a problem with the taste of the food" 

7. "You never at any time told me you were uncomfortable with my spending habit"

8." I actually thought you have been enjoying sex"

9."I never knew you were not happy with my not waking up early every morning"

10. "I had always thought you liked my dress sense" 

I can go on and on. No doubt, we can all identify with some or all these statements. Cast your mind back and you will quickly recall the several quarrels (some mild and some severe) that you had with your spouse over simple issues caused by your insensitivity to his/her body language. 

It is your duty to ask questions about some of your spouse's body language signs that are not clear to you. 

It is not good enough to live with your spouse for upward of two years and claim not to know when he/she is hungry, wants sex, wants special attention, wants to be quiet, dislikes a particular food, does not like you to visit a place or someone, etc, 

We are all work-in-progress in the hands of God. Keep working on yourself too. Marriage is not self-seeking, selfish and self-glorifying.. 

Watch your ego! 

Watch your heart and temperament! 

Don't be a control-freak (husband) 

Don't be a feminism advocate (wife) 

Shalom..

AuditorChris

Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Edward Chinecherem - 2019-09-27 13:26:38

You should be able to follow those rules and understand when you spouse wanna talk to you and when he is depressed or sad, knowing that in time of there depression or sadness that much love should be showerd on them at that time and not a start up of misunderstanding

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Iyanuoluwa Phebian - 2019-09-27 13:27:01

This is Brilliant! I love the context,to the mentality of this writer. Africans has been known for our contextual use of body languages,The most common one is the nodding. I love this kudod!

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Austin Chinedu - 2019-09-27 13:29:45

Is really good to understand the body language if spouse it helps, like looking at your spouse knowing when she sick, looking at her face knowing when she is angry, knowing when your spouse is happy. it really helps a lot.

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Tega Palmer - 2019-09-27 13:32:14

This Will go a long way in our day to day living as couples it is more important for singles or unmarried ones so that they can do better when they enter into that school called marriage because it does not have graduation dates

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Michael Akinfolarin - 2019-09-27 13:33:53

This is a very great piece if this could be practice in all marriage how awesome and beautiful would it have been. May GOD continue to help us in all endeavors of life

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Ayuba Samson - 2019-09-27 13:34:34

Is always good to understand tey body language of your spouse and satisfy his or her need.

For long lasting relationship one need to keep in check of his paterner and provide or satisfy there emotional feelings

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Anekwe Francis - 2019-09-27 13:34:59

there are five body languages that defines every individual on earth. and its very vital, that we should undestand our partners body language for love to abound in our relationship. just as we all have different views to life, our body languages also differers and should be respected 

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Anekwe Francis - 2019-09-27 13:38:25

its very vital to understand body languages cause body language differs. mine might be appreciation . and yours might be gift. for someone whose body language is appreciation, no matter the kind of gift you gift him, hr or she can never appreciate it more than when you say thank you. or praise him foe what he did for you. so body languages is very important in every relationahip 

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Mathew Paul - 2019-09-27 13:44:32

Wow... Thanks for this great insight, I have always been a lover of body languages, with that so many people thinks I'm weird, some say I'm a wizard... Body language is a Bae! 

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Ayanfeoluwa Adeniyi - 2019-09-27 13:57:41

This is interests quite impressive, it's true everyone has way of communicating through body which is call body language and it's essential for us all to understand it because it's not everything we say through out mouth. ..

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Bello Joy - 2019-09-27 13:58:57

This piece is really nice, I have really learnt alot, no marriage can actually work without understanding, when we understand the body language of our spouse, we tend to live peacefully for a long time 

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Iornumbe Daniel - 2019-09-27 14:08:48

Its a good thing to understand the body language of your spouse and satisfy his  need.

For long lasting and perfect relationship one need to keep in touch of his paterner and meet up or satisfy there emotional feelings.

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Charles Innocent - 2019-09-27 14:18:54

Its very best to understand the body posture as a human being. If truly you are still living but don't understand you body posture i think their is a problem because in life without understnding your body posture you will always feel frustrated and rejected.. 

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Onekeneke prince - 2019-09-27 14:20:19

This is an excellent article. Nice one by the author. The use of body signs and the perfect understanding of them is very important in every relationship. Because not at all times will your spouse able to voice out his/her thoughts. And lack of understanding always leads to problems in a relationship.

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Okeke Uche - 2019-09-27 14:26:13

It is not everything we expect to say,and most times we use body languages to express ourselves but we need to understand that our partners are not robots and they can misunderstand a certain message.but I believe body languages are necessary.

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Ayomiposi Ebenezer - 2019-09-27 14:30:49

Most relationship get broken because of lack of communication and I think with this info by chris so many relationship will be settled amicably and there are some of this relationship whereby some things will be going on and we won't be able to talk except will use body language.

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Ugochi Lucy - 2019-09-27 14:35:07

This is great. Understanding the body language of your spouse is so very important and it's very easy if you are caring and observant enough. Not everybody likes to talk or express his or her feelings verbally. Understanding the body language of such people will make relationship move smoothly.

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Charles Igala - 2019-09-27 14:36:16

I have always said understanding comes first after love.  It can be a very dangerous thing to marry a lady/guy who lacks understanding. Learn to understand signs, moods, seasons, times and all .it will go a long way to strengthen your bond with your husband

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Fhard Ayodola - 2019-09-27 14:39:52

Body language is one of the major ways of communicating, bck then in my year one in the uni we use to offer one course called Acs " African communication system" and we mostly discuss body and sign language as one of the ways of communicating but most times they are mis interpreted 

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Alalade Taiwo - 2019-09-27 14:45:44

Body  languages of an individual has a difference meaning to one another. And thats why spouses need to understand and interprete their body language. If your husband start tapping his feet on the ground , the wife should immediatelly understand his feeling or the messsages his passing accros

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Paul Tochukwu - 2019-09-27 14:55:04

Knowing the body language of your spouse is very very necessary for every couple because when you know the body language of each other that means you both understand your self though is not easy that is why marriage is every day learning.

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Ijomah Rocky - 2019-09-27 14:57:05

Body languages are one vital way to express wordless communication but some people find it difficult to understand... Especially now that certain gestures like 2fingers, thumb circle opening among others..

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Otito Okigbo - 2019-09-27 15:46:16

I've always been looking out for the kind of vibes and body signs she gives me when we are together so I'm glad to say i know my spouse fully well, and i know when she is good or not, when she wants me the most and when she just need to relax

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Daniel Chinedu - 2019-09-27 16:30:31

To me it is the best way of communicating to ur friends or anyone without the other person knowing.e.g like my dad he like using that medium to communicate,so he thought us right from small. 

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Aliyu Gana Aliyu - 2019-09-27 17:12:53

It is necessary to understand body language so that you can interprete what is not said. Most times people don't usually express their feeling, for fear of hurting their partner. It is your job to understand such body language so as to be able to act accordingly.

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Ayobami Korede - 2019-09-27 17:28:53

Thank you for this interesting piece, its really informative. In every relationship, non verbal communication which includes busy language is louder than words spoken. It is very important to watch out, understand and digest our partners non spoken words. It is misinterpretation of body language that causes unnecessary fights and arguments sometimes in the home. We should always learn to read in between the lines to properly understand the message the other party is trying to communicate.

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Nwokoukwu Jerome - 2019-09-27 17:29:28

I understand that marriage is all about understanding.  Although, courtship might not reveal every aspect of our behaviour but when we come together as a couple, we can ammend some areas and learn some things so as to flow in the system.  The man needs to learn the body language of the wife likewise the woman.  This will enable them to enjoy their relationship as a couple. This is because, if they fail, they would misunderstand each other from time to time and quarrel would set in.

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Joseph Tochukwu Ayogu - 2019-09-27 18:10:06

An interesting piece up there,yes partners are supposed to understand each others body language because not everyone tend to voice out an issue that is bothering them over something

Because if a partner does not read the signs then it would be hard to understand your partner

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Olayinka Oluwafemi - 2019-09-27 21:05:23

I understand that marriage is a good thing ordained by God. Words alone cannot express our total thought, emotions, feelings, regrets, happiness, motives and so on. Body language is highly needed for expressions are n the marriage. Even strangers can communicate with body rhythm, less a couple. There are places you need not to talk verbally, but a spouse's mere twisting of wrist will get the other on. It is very important to be calmed enough to understand your partner better and gets it when speaking orally/communicating with his or her body to avoid misunderstanding. When a partner intentionally ignores his or her partner's body language to  bring his or her own motive, hiding under, since you didn't talk, I thought that was what you meant, am sorry!. Wow the other partner wiil not be happy and it can springs up a real issue.

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Olayide Soaga - 2019-09-27 23:57:01

Well written. But then, there are people whose body language says one thing and what they mean is another thing entirely, how do one cope with such situations. In my own opinion, I believe verbal communication(use of words to portray thoughts) is the best type of communication. Mostly because there is no form of misunderstanding

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Emmanuel Agbasielo - 2019-09-28 00:21:38

But sometimes it's really difficult to explain what a person's body sign is trying to mean. Some people are of double natures. You may find them laughing but inside of them they are boiling in anger. So determining what thus kind of person is really in need of is difficult to do.

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Victor Anodoro - 2019-09-28 08:28:29

This is a really nice write-up.we humans are unpredictable and complicated a little bit.there are different forms of communication which are verbal and nonverbal.married couples should learn the nonverbal form of communication so as to understand their partner's emotions even when they don't express it.

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Esther chinaza - 2019-09-28 09:45:58

Effective communication is one of the keys to every successful marriage, more so  the use of non verbal communication as part of communication makes marriage more unique and successful. This is because it enables spouses to share some relevant information without allowing third party to know about it.

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Omosivwe Jonathan - 2019-09-28 19:19:01

I feel in as much as I can only try my possible best to understand your sign language as my spouse, the times I might misread and I ask you should atleast tell me your opinion on certain things. It’s normal to make mistakes yes, but tell me. Sometimes some things could happen or I’m about to make a decision  and I ask my girlfriend about it; she’d say something that doesn’t normally signify that she’s not in agreement. And after I’m done taking the decision, she’d start complaining when that’s clearly something she should have just said she won’t be okay with. If you see your spouse doesn’t really understand your body language I think you should be verbal; as that’s very easy to understand. Body language gets too complicated most times for people to understand. 

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Okwute Chinecherem - 2019-09-28 20:34:05

This is so lovely and brilliant.  You should know when your spouse is depressed, angry and really need someone to talk to. You ought to shower him/her with much love and care because that's when they are highly needed. 

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By PETER MMADUEKE - 2019-09-28 20:42:49

This topic is interesting, cux having a grounded knowledge of who we call our spouses is not enough by just knowing their origins and their family background. Rather on a first hand basis, how well do you understand what your partner likes, loves, hates and what they really don't approve. 

That is understanding their body language, also understanding your partners s*xual prowls is in this category. 

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Ogonna Nnajiude - 2019-09-28 23:44:03

The concept understanding body language is something that should be very important in maintaining any established relationship. Effective communication is necessary in any relationship or business and body language goes an extra mile in expressing an opinion. 

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Odujirin Emmanuel - 2019-09-29 07:14:35

It is very important to be calmed enough to understand your partner better and gets it when speaking orally/communicating with his or her body to avoid misunderstanding. When a partner intentionally ignores his or her partner's body language to bring his or her own motive, hiding under, since you didn't talk 

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Jamiu Babalola - 2019-09-29 12:53:57

A lot of People ignore that reality of conversation neung the key to any relationship. 

Don't assume, ask!

If you see something and you're not sure what it is, just ask. I never heard of anyone dying from asking a question. 

We need to build ourselves and understand that communication is one of the foundation of a long lasting relationship. 

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Omoloye David - 2019-09-29 13:08:44

U are right. Body language is very essential and go a long way to understand the message ur spouse or other person is trying to pass across to u.

It can also symbolize the mood of the fellow.

As human we have to get ourselves to understand the term 'body language'

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Mercy Nwaimo - 2019-09-29 13:22:47

This is a very critical issue that's not to be neglected in a relationship, marriage, courtship or what have u understanding body language has a great connection attached to it and have a way of spicing up any relationship build in love, 

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Faith Amanda - 2019-09-29 16:02:20

Body language bus something we as human have to exhibit in all areas of our lives like in our offices  and businesses in other to promot how we relate to people as an individual 

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Frank Ifeanyi - 2019-09-29 19:21:54

Awesome!

This is simply educating, i pray God helps us in our various homes, so we can build it to his glory, honestly ones home is their pride when well kept and attended to. The lord is our strenght ooo, especially good women out there, we keep living and making our husbands and home proud.

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Idi Grace - 2019-09-29 22:45:00

This right up is very timely and will go a long way to save marriages. Marriages this days end because of minor misunderstanding that the couple cannot resolve every couple is supposed to love and understand each other very well to avoid fights.

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Ndukwe Ikechukwu - 2019-09-29 22:59:01

The body language is a very quick but highly ignored system of communication among spouses. Once someone can understand certain body languages of his or her spouse it will foster growth in a relationship and give room for free flow of communication.

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Ndukwe Ikechukwu - 2019-09-29 22:59:02

The body language is a very quick but highly ignored system of communication among spouses. Once someone can understand certain body languages of his or her spouse it will foster growth in a relationship and give room for free flow of communication.

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Chinyere umeh - 2019-09-29 23:07:45

this is quite a nice read.many couples are oblivious to the body language of their partners.at marriage couples shouldhave gotten to the stage of communication without words.understanding ur partners moods and silence is key.therefore the need to be sensitive

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Paschal Iheanyichukwu - 2019-09-29 23:27:52

Yeah thats a good one , I would say when both partners can understand one another very well without talking,wow  its a big heat chase it will make that relationship stronger and great because y?  , the have understood them self's so much that the can understand them self's without talking ....

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Ezekiel Aromasodu - 2019-09-30 00:07:53

Nice write up. The points listed in this article are based on mere assumptions and you need to be sure about all these question to be able to deal well in a relationship. Understanding one another is key.

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Understanding the body language of your spouse by Christian James - By Olaniyan Damilola - 2019-09-30 05:40:20

I am not married yet though,  but my mom taught me so many body languages,  if she doesn't want me to eat something,  she don't need to talk,  if she doesn't want me to do somethings, she won't even say a word,  but the way she react to the word,  determines what to do.  Understanding this has saved me from so many punishments while growing.  I think this will help me in my matrimonial home too 

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