A friend sent me a chat on watsapp to advice her on something, see screenshots below for the chat between us.
Was i wrong?
Your opinion please.
I understand why you read ted that way. You are probably frustrated about your situation in life and all that. Still i I would advise you to leave the man. Its dangerous if you get married to someone who already has a family. You won't really be his priority. If he's meant to be your husband though then he will, if not then God will definitely give you yours. Don't look at your age or status to decide when you will marry. My aunt made that mistake, just like a lot of women, and she has so many regrets. Choose wisely.
hmm...humans are very difficult to deal with...she actually asked for your honest opinion which you gave. she wasn't satisfied with what you said because it didn't align with her Own expectation. Although she asked you for your opinion, i think she was indirectly looking for someone to approve of what she had in mind. and I like your response, just leave it that way.
Bene is a true and good friend who knows what best for the friend she cared for
She spoke the truth and gave her friend a beautiful advice because guys and feelings can be funny at times .
From my own prospective your advice did not sound like an advice one would give to a friend if you really considered her your friend you would have given the issue more thought and your response would have been more considerate towards her feelings.
It's better you listen to your friend,look for your own husband ,he's married with kids which means some day he might go back to his wives but mind you a fisherman gives worm to the fish when he's still trying to catch it ,but once he catches it he won't care anymore,shallow(peace)
You have absolutely done nothing wrong my dear, you gave her your opinion and I see no cause for alarm on what you said. I would say she seem desperate and needs someone who will encourage her into going further. It's sad she can't understand.
You did absolutely nothing wrong my dear, she asked for your honest response on the issue and you gave her your words without mixed emotions to favour her choice, and indeed your advise is the best truth she could ever get.
She is not supposed to be that desperate for that man, he is not even divorced yet and she is trying to force herself in. Fear women.
I don't think your were wrong,if I were in your shoes I would have given her that same advice,since the man is married and he is yet to divorce the wife,there is probability that they might settle and not divorce,then she would be the loser, because the man will tell her that he's no longer interested because he has settled with his wife,if she is wise she would leave another man's husband to get her own
Some many times people ask for your honest advice when they already know what to do or when they are very sure that you cannot dissuade them from whatever they have made up their mind to do. She should at least thank you for the advice and then followed her heart instead asking for advice and when given, abused you.
My dear you give her a good advice that even a mother can give to her daughter you did nothing wrong she don't know what the first wife did that makes the man send her away instead of her to play for God to bring her own to her she want to go and scattered another person's own only God will help her she don't know what she want
Did you say she is your friend? Because if she is she should have have been able to take this advice as you gave her a honest one as she demanded. As e don be free am, she will later find out if she is right or wrong and as for you, you be better friend. Them no dey tell blind man say rain dey fall!
one thing i know for sure is that here in life the truths hurts to humans ear, so you did nothing wrong at all by making the table open to her, she just have to open her eyes to reality besides we still have many good men out there who she could marry, moreover to shake the table a little i say you can never force a rat out of its hole,
She actually vexed it out on you cos you are giving the best anyone can give a lady like her. I get what you are trying to do, trying to make her realise that guys can't be really trusted. She might think they can't get together again and at the end of the day get back together. This is one of the mistake few ladies make in marital decision, because a guy is spending on you you think you should get married to him??!!!!. You actually gave her the BEST advice and I say you are a good sister
Nope I don't think so, she asked for an advise right?. And you gave her your own reason from your point of view and she's angry, let's not forget the fact that she loves the man, no doubt that he has 2 children already she still loves the guy because of how he spends her and showers her love. So you tell her to just leave is a very difficult thing to her
There was nothing totally wrong with your advice but using a laughing emoji in serious issue like that could send different unintended messages. But the truth is your friend has already made up her mind before asking you
The friend is a confused person that has no idea of what she wants.
She should just be careful and find out what happened in the last marriage before anything
Not after rushing in to marry she will come out later like the other wife
if i say that some girls can be very surprising they will say have started. how will you get married to a man that just have problem with the wife, and besides they haven't even divorced yet. How do she knows they won't come back again. Above all the bible has forbid such because its fornication except the mans wife was dead thats the only way he can marry another woman
Babe no mind her jhawe..yhu just told her the honest truth ..as the spirit lead to yhu and after all you are married as the chat said and you absolutely know what is going on in a marriage. When she actually knows what she wanted why she come dey ask you for advice ..if you had told her that she should go on in marrying him and something goes wrong after, my dear Nah your head the thing go bounce on o. You have told her the truth , it even better for you cause you are on the safer side now. But if there mutual understanding and likeness between the two wife’s and step sons ..mehn they/should go ahead . There is nothing new under the sun ☀️.
My brother you not wrong at all it the best advice you have ever given to her but since she isafter money and not love I pray she doesn't learn it late
Your advice is not wrong at all, it know left for her to think deeply about it probably when she is alone.. She might get a good answer then, at least you have done your part as a friend
You aren't wrong dear. That's was what any person in there right sense will tell her. Leave to make the mistake of her life and when it happens refer her to this insult
Ahah, nawa o. Honestly , this person is very funny. She had her answer in her , now still seeking for your own opinion. Seriously, you gave her the best advice ever , she is just a greedy person ni. She is kind of after the guy's money. Just don't fight her please , just keep calm. Its fine. Soonest, she will realize you are the true friend.
The girl doesn't know what she's going into if she agrees to marry that man. She asked for your advice and when you gave her one she started raining insults on you. My dear you have done your part as a friend the only thing you can do again is to pray for her so she doesn't regret her swift decisions.
My sister you are not wrong at all, you told her the truth, but she does not want to listen to you, because she just wants to get married.
But I pray she does not realise her mistake late.
Your advice is very nice and sounds matured. If she tries talking him into keeping up with his wife and he still insist on a divorce then she can know were she stands. I like your advice it even showed your condemnation as regards divorce. Nice one.
Did you say she is your friend? I don't think she is. Jealousy is written all over her response. Well, I don't see anything wrong in marrying the man and the man spending on the kids from the other woman. But before she agrees to his proposal, he has to formally divorce the other woman if not she can charge him to court for bigamy.
I dont know what to call you but let me give this small name, do you know that the brain of a fowl is better than yours, you are talking as if you not a human being made to have a complete senses, if you know what is good for you listen to your friend, that guy you claim to follow because he wants brake up with his wife will still do the one you will go and hang yourself if you jump into staying with him, you are older than your friend doesn't mean you two have the same destiny, pray to God to give you a better husband than that man rather than to help a family scatter,when the family is on fire if you enter you wont be able to stop it. Be wise dear.
You actually gave her the honest advice based on her fears, but unfortunately she didn't think about it logically, her eagerness to get married might put her in trouble. You are so right about your opinion dear.
Screenshot below is not a problem at all, because is a private discussion between you too. Where it we be problem is when it will be exposed to other people, and it will be very serious matter
My dear there is nothing wrong with your advice she is only gullible trying to reap where she did not sow. How come she said she was friends with the man knowing fully well he is married some girls sha. She is scared of the man taking care of his own kids that's selfishness instead of her encouraging the guy to iron things out with the guy. Leave her to make the mistake of her life. God knows you have done your part .
Lol..i thought someone asked for advice? why the tongue lashing? My dear, you gave the advice you think was best, leave the rest for her to decide, afterall she's the one marrying an already married man not you. By the way, i wonder why people ask for advice if they aren't ready to receive it🤷
You were not wrong at all...telling her to talk the man into reconciling with his wife was the best advice....even I, will say something similar to her dropping the idea of rushing time because she doesn't know what amazing husband awaits her
She's actually the jealous and hypocritical one here. Just let her be, with time she'll come around. She's just being unnecessarily emotional because you gave her the best advise you could offer.
Don't mind her, u gave her the best advice a friend could give a friend. So if she now see you as a wicked fellow don't mind her, time will come and she will regret it.
You aren't wrong,you actually have her an honest answer and what was on your mind and it is her fault if she fails to accept. Moreover she doesn't seem to love the guy but his money and she's eager to get married likewise.
You did what you could, at least you have her the advice any good friend would. Let her go into it and it crashes with an issue is the other she's going to come back blaming you for advising her to go into it in the first place, Marriage shouldn't be rushed into like that out of frustration that time is going
You are not wrong at all. She is not suppose to get married to a man that is still married to another woman,so far they have not divorce they are still married and she is not suppose to go into the marriage. If she really wants to marry the man then she should wait for the man to get a divorce
My dear sister, you tried. She called wicked, bad friend. My dear, you are the true definition of a true friend. You have told him the truth. Your advice is well accepted. God bless you and your family. A fly who does not hear advice do follow corps to the grave. A word is enough for the wise. Leave her with her problem. Had I known come at Last.
My sister you are not wrong o, infact you have advice her for real but she had already made up her mind on what to do, she just want to here your own opinion to see if you will support her.
She was actually surprise at your advice. Money is everything but peace of mind is very important in a relationship.
When she learn her lesson she will remember your advice.
I think you had great intentions. And you did the right thing by telling her the facts. But then, I guess she must have been hurt because of the approach you used. I noticed the laughing emoji you used, so she might have felt that you were making fun of her situation. But I hope she comes around, but if she doesn't, its OK. You did what a good friend would, you told her the truth.
The truth they say is bitter
this a sincere advice coming from a true friend, i'm sure she does not know what she is going into maybe she thinks money is everything by the time she enters into that marriage and see what it takes in sure she will remember you warned her against it
To me you have given her your honest opinion but she has taken it in her myopic reasoning. You've done nothing wrong besides, if she already known what was good for her why then did she seek your opinion. She should just bear in mind that it is somebody's house she is about breaking now and if she is not very careful someone would break her own house one day since she has refuse to look for her own husband to settle down with.
You gave her the best response ever, how can she go ahead with a marriage whereby the guy already has two kids and about divorcing his wife. She did not bother to know the reason why the divorce is happening, whether the guy or the wife is at fault.. She should just let go of the guy and let him go settle with his wife and two kids instead of jumping into you even without divorcing his wife
Wow she's jealous to me if she were the one that asked me for opinion I will also tell her the same answer cuz probably one day one time they will get back together like before no matter what don't ever fall in love with a married man but our ladies are so much angry they need money that's all they care for
My dear friend what you said was not wrong at all.if it was me i would give the same advice, i think the real hypocrite is that girl you were chatting with.she talks like a runs girl and all she really seems to care about is the money.she dosent even thing about how her life will be like living in that house.you have tried to give her your advice, the rest is now left for her period.