What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself?

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Last year 24th November I got married to my husband. We we lived happily even after our honeymoon till we traveled to the village for Christmas. Everything was fine till the 1st day of January, 2018 when my husband raised a topic about taking all his siblings to port Harcourt where we live.  when he made the statement I did not object to it but was thinking on how we can feed them all. Thankfully when my in-laws got to know about my husband's plan, they objected to it, but my husband insisted on taking them along with us. 

The next day, my husband travelled back to Port Harcourt city alone, leaving me behind to join him two days after. His youngest sibling cried throughout the night for being left behind against her hope of going to the city with my hubby. I took pity on her, pleaded on her behalf for her to go with me promising to enrol her in school, not knowing what was ahead of me.  

Coming back to the city with her, I tried registering her in school but was not able because it was late already so I was asked to come back in September to enrol her. Unfortunately I am no longer  working and my husband's means of income is presently nothing to go by. There's no money to register her in School and my husband keeps complaining and blaming me for bringing his sibling to the city, that I should have left her in the village since he left too.

Right now I'm confused. I don't know how to come out of this issue. Should I send her back to the village? What will my in-laws think of me, if I send her back? I really need advice please!

What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Olorode Fuad - 2019-09-25 18:56:43

Leave her and let her knows how things is going for her not to be thinking you are punishing her because if she's happen to be your daughter you will not send her away so let her be and do what you are capable of doing her.

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Adekoya Ayomide - 2019-09-25 18:59:11

This is really  critical situation that should be handled with care. If you can't afford sending her to a private school, you can enrol her to a public school. And if you cant, speak with your husband about it, both of you should know how to tell his parents, explain things to them, they should be able to understand you guys.

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Adebisi Opeyemi - 2019-09-25 18:59:29

Firstly, explain the situation of things to her and let her understand then discuss with your husband and let him take the decision and step of sending her back. Its not advisable for extended families to start living with newlyweds.

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Adegbemileke Alex - 2019-09-25 18:59:32

Is not a must you a register her in a private institution, I believe there are good government school where payments are cheap you can register her there and she will get a sound education if she's focus on learning.

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Udoma Promise chukwuka - 2019-09-25 19:00:08

Very kind of you.  You are not to be blamed  because you never planned  that there will be economic down turn. Is there public school where you can enroll her? Please do or discuss with your husband about taking her back. 

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By olalekan Adetutu - 2019-09-25 19:01:21

Hmmm this is not a easy task I will kindly advice you to talk to the girl and let her know what really going or should find a government school and put her

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Chinwe Okeke - 2019-09-25 19:02:58

She is a human being and she sees and knows what is going on. Explain things to her I think she will understand you. Send her home and tell her that if things turn around that you are going to come for her. 

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Silas Nweke - 2019-09-25 19:05:04

Just swallow your pride and take her back to the village now that she hasn't stayed with you for a long time,reasons being that you no more work and there no way your husband can help, take back to village and tell your people you story.

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Okwute Chinecherem - 2019-09-25 19:06:43

You can't kill yourself neither should you go and steal,is not your  fault.  I think you should take her back to the village  let them talk whatever they want, once you get money and once everything is fine you can still pick her back and fulfill your promises. 

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Osikha Cynthia - 2019-09-25 19:09:17

I feel for you dear. I think you should take her back and explain the situation on ground. Because I believe your in-laws are wise so they will definitely understand. Ok dont do more than your power

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Irene Obas - 2019-09-25 19:12:02

First of all I would advice you to enrol her in a public school, that shouldn't be so expensive and when there is more money she can be enrolled in a private school.  If that still can't be done then maybe you should send her back to the village, as she would loose two years in school if she stays longer at home.

You can tell her that you would bring her back to the city to enrol her once there is enough money. She will cry but she will get over it.

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Peace Oyerinde - 2019-09-25 19:12:43

you should not have taken the girl with you.you should have consulted your hisband first as he consulted with you,and you one the way things were financially.you should just explain the situation to ypur in-laws and hope for the best.

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By YUSUFF OLUWATOSIN - 2019-09-25 19:19:09

I will suggest you shouldn't send her back to the village, why don't you just go to God in prayers and tell Him to help you out because He said in His word that ask and it shall be given unto you and it also written that his ears are not deaf that he can't hear our cry neither are His hands shortened that He can't bless us. So pray to Him to fix both you and your husband financial instabilities

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Patrick Juliet - 2019-09-25 19:22:55

I don't think sending her back will help the matter

What you have to do it to look for any government school within and let her start schooling there,  I guess that will be a good idea and will save you from stress

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Kelvin Jennifer - 2019-09-25 19:24:43

It wasn't  really  your fault ....your intentions  was for her to go to school but it is so unfortunate  that things turned  out the way they are now.... So I think u should  talk to your husband  and her sisters  they should  see reasons  with you... And you guys should  think of another  solution 

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Charles Igala - 2019-09-25 19:24:50

There's nothing complex in this . from what you said you brought her to the city,so do yourself and your husband a favour and take her back. Just explain to your Inlaws that things are tough and that you will redeem your promise when things gets better  

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Cecilia Tolulope - 2019-09-25 19:25:47

Taking her back will be wrong but you should be able to afford public school instead of sending her back to the village because your in laws will not be happy with you even the girl will also hate you.

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Omotolani Ruth - 2019-09-25 19:35:39

You should try and talk to your husband and give him reasons why you couldn't leave her in the village and also ask for forgiveness for bringing her without his will and whatever you both conclude you let the girl know and be plain with her am sure she will understand. 

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Anaekwe Chidinma Perpetua - 2019-09-25 19:36:04

your guys will have checked your capability before making that kind of decision, but meanwhile the mistake has been made, you need to send  the kid back, it doesn't matter what your in-law will say, your in_law will still talk when out of hardship you and your husband pack to the village.

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Odion Glory - 2019-09-25 19:38:18

Firstly you made a mistake of not calling your husband before carrying her along with you to the city... Now your finances are down and it's not your fault, if you can't care for her anymore you better send her back to the village...

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Adedoyin Adegboye - 2019-09-25 19:45:14

You should have had a talk with your husband before bringing her to the city

All this would not have happened if you did that

Also, you would have to look for how to enroll her in school

Because it would be unfair to send her back to the village

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Adeola Eunice - 2019-09-25 19:45:51

I will advice you to send the girl back to village since that's what your husband want. It not like what you did was wrong though,so just explain to your in laws that things are difficult in the city.

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Ndukwe Ikechukwu - 2019-09-25 19:55:39

Taking your husband's sibling back to the village will not help this situation. What I will suggest you do is to look for a good government school to enrol the child since you are low on cash with your husband. All will be well soon. I also think your husband should stop blaming you. You did good.

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Nwosu Vincent - 2019-09-25 19:58:42

You made a mistake of taking her with you to the city, since your husband brought up the issue and didn't later take any with him. Before you take that one you took to the city you should have asked you hubby and know his opinion.

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Adeniyi Victor - 2019-09-25 20:07:14

I am seriously not seeing difficulties in this. It is a very simple case to handle. Just take her back to the village and explain to your in-laws why you returned her. Let them know you will come back for her as soon as things get better. 

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Okorie Chidinma - 2019-09-25 20:10:30

Her staying at home is not a go idea cause people will say m "If it was your own child you won't let her stay at home, just explain things to your in-laws and then take her back.

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Sayaolu Remilekun - 2019-09-25 20:10:37

I will suggest u take her to a government school let her start from there, and continue to pray to God fir turn around. Returning her back will not be a good idea mostly in these situation.

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Okorie Chidinma - 2019-09-25 20:11:40

Her staying at home is not a go idea cause people will say m "If it was your own child you won't let her stay at home, just explain things to your in-laws and then take her back.

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Mercy Donas - 2019-09-25 20:20:07

Well, there's no need for you to send her back to the village. What you and your husband should be thinking of now, is how to see that she goes to school

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By CHRISTIAN IFEANYICHUKWU - 2019-09-25 20:23:14

Wisdom is profitable to direct. You just make a mistake that is cable to destroy a home. Who is that man that want to start a project without checking the possibility. I advice you to take her back home, because man propose but God is the best master planner. But if she must stay, than your husband should accept the resposibility, which may not be possible. Please i beg you in the name of God, do not destroy your home with your hand.

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Godson Omejua - 2019-09-25 20:25:22

Blaming you is not the best treathe should give, the deed has been done. The best way to escape from the misinterpretation of your unknown decision is to speak to her and tell her you'll get her back ones things are balanced. Talk to her with your husband so it doesn't look you're single handedly sending her back .

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Idiris Opeyemi - 2019-09-25 20:45:47

Sending her back is not the best thing for you to do,you really need to be careful on this matter and you have to be praying about this

They would never believe she has done something bad,they will talk bad of you and what ever she told them will be the right to them

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Nsikak Bassey Essien - 2019-09-25 20:46:35

I would suggest you should go to God first in prayers,  because even the Bible says that prayer is the key,  so with prayers, everything can be solved. Taking the child to your care can be a blessing to you. So don't think of sending the child back just like that, seek God's direction first. 

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Paul Arinze - 2019-09-25 20:55:12

If I were you I'd send her back, try and explain to your in-laws that you ain't capable enough to pay her fees, I'm sure they will understand instead of leaving her doing nothing. 

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Ishaya Tanko - 2019-09-25 20:59:57

You just make a mistake that is cable to destroy a home. Who is that man that want to start a project without checking the possibility. I advice you to take her back home, because man propose but God is the best master planner. 

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Richard Ngirigwa - 2019-09-25 21:02:50

Haha, yahoo husband, meaning he intentionally left so he won't get to take them as promised, but he would have called you to tell you his plans though. 

You guys have to try, it's not gonna be easy, but you have to, you guys have not yet started having babies na

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Chimezie Okafor - 2019-09-25 21:09:52

You took things in your own hands well that's unfortunate but you have to send her back because if you keep her they'll think you are using there daughter your husband's sibling as a made

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Joy Ifeanyi - 2019-09-25 21:15:58

Firstly you should have spoken with your husband before making a decision...

I advise you to explain thunth to the girl and enroll her in a public school ..till you are stable and able to afford a private school 

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Deborah joel - 2019-09-25 21:17:30

There are affordable public school all around..since you can't afford private school and heaven knows that you don't have the money...

I suggest you take her to a public one,when things gets better,you can change school from there...

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Olugbenle Olamide - 2019-09-25 21:26:05

You should have consulted your husband before making such a decision. You do not have to send her back to the village, all you need to do is enrol her in a good government school for the main time till you have a secure source of income.

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Grace Adeyemi - 2019-09-25 21:31:00

Her presence  could be a  blessing  in disguise, please treat her the way you woild treate your daughter but let her know  the situation  of things so thatcshe wont feel you are maltreating her. 

God bless you 

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Chiedozie Anaekwe - 2019-09-25 21:32:43

This is really absurd. How did your husband plan to feed all his siblings as he originally planned on taking them?  Now it's just one and you're taking the fall. It doesn't sound right. Don't take her back. God will make a way. 

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Ismail Motunrayo - 2019-09-25 21:38:04

It's not your fault now, just take her back home and explain everything go your in-laws am sure they gonna understand you, but please once everything is back to normal, go back and pick as promised. 

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Iyidah Peace - 2019-09-25 21:50:21

This should be taken with care, sit her down explain things to her, tell her were not the way you expected when you thought of bringing her I'm sure she'll understand and if she's not understanding or being stubborn bout it, Send her home 

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Ime Henry - 2019-09-25 21:53:30

The right thing is that you should discuss with your husband about it and tell him to stop putting pressure on you am sure your younger sibling can also survive the same way your children are also surviving. Then try and be searching for a job in all way possible.

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Nwosu Vincent - 2019-09-25 21:59:29

You made the bad choice by taking the sibling to the city without asking your husband, despite he was the one who first talked about bringing all of them to the city

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Gloria Samuel - 2019-09-25 23:03:43

It's really not your fault that you lost your job and same with your husband, and sending her back and explaining things to them in the village I guess it's really not bad. That's if you have understanding family but if u don't Hmmmmmm I think there's going to be a little bit of problem 

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Oke Olamilekan - 2019-09-26 02:04:55

I will advice that you explain to her the way things are going on and send her back home so she can continue her studies because education is the best gift you can give a child and promise her that when times change and things get better you'll send for her and She'll continue her school in port Harcourt buy for now send her home.

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Oloruntobi Omoyeni - 2019-09-26 02:10:44

The first thing to do is to sit her down and explained the situation to her so that she will be fully aware of what going on..Then also u can look for a trade for to raise a little fund before that September at least it will solve the problem half way...

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What Should I Do To Get Out Of This Critical Situation I Landed Myself? - By Saka Adefemi - 2019-09-26 02:14:29

It's really hard to be on the bad side of in-laws but first of all your husband should have supported you or at least understood tour plight in the situation but yet he choose to blame you. You can only do two things, firat, and her back to the village with explanation and make them know you couldn't do anything about it and I'm sure if they are good people, they will understand and then the second thing you can do is let her stay with you in the city while you struggle to feed her and send her yo school. The choice is really yours to make 

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