My name is James Segun I live in fct Abuja I came to a Abuja year 2013 and I met this little girl cute and beautiful I want to talk to her but she told me she have someone she is dating but because of her beauty and I love and concern I have towards her I forced myself into the relationship along the line she gave me long time or let me say hard to crack to get her at the end she finally accept my proposal. but she told me that she has nothing to do with the person she is dating and I'm the only one she now prefer so I believed her I will continue but every time I go to her house I will see her with the guy ?️talking chatting and I'm asking you just saying there's nothing between them just friend? things that I believe every time I go there and see different. every time I go there I see both of them please and she keep telling me that she have nothing to do with him? please what must I do should I quit noun is early or I should continue to prove myself to her thank you.
Firstly, it's not good to force a lady for a relationship when she's dating someone already, To me I will advice You to leave her because she don't love you that's why she can't stay away from her first date.
My brother you cannot kill yourself ooh. If you notice enough and loose your patience, please leave her and go to someone else. They are alot of others girls that like you sef. Its just for you to find them out. Leave her, if she really likes you, she will come back to you.
Don't let love blind your eyes
If someone is deceiving you just leave the person quick so that you don't get so attached and then the heart break will be painful
Guard your heart Sir
Quiter never win. If love her try all your best to get her. concerning the guy that is blocking you,don't let that be treat to you.keep close relationship with your babe,this will definitely drive the guy away.
You forced yourself on her. Maybe all she wants from you is your money and she truly loves the other guy.have you thought about another guy that is richer, more handsome comes along and keeps pestering her and in turn she gives in along the way and she keeps you for keeping sake.. My brother don't stress yourself there is a woman out there praying for a man like yourself
Since you have not yet proven that she is a relationship with the other guy I say you don't rush into any conclusion yet. Try doing your investigation, check her chat with the guy that is a good start
I don't just know why you are forcing yourself in a relationship. She earlier told you that she is in relationship and you are not getting ride of it because of her beauty but is not fear. So the earlier you get out of her, the better for you
If truly she loves you and she accept you wholeheartedly, then am sure you can ask her to stay away from the guy and that would show how sincere she is with you in the relationship.
lol, you are very funny indeed, dont you know that what she did to that guy will be your turn next, and moreover this might be a plan between the guy and the so caalled gf of yours, you are now in the middle, Mr loverman, sharp your brain
Firstly i might be forced to say you have trust issues.. This is as a result that you forced yourself in, now you might be feeling the same thing could happen..
Secondly if you love someone and you start doubting the person's loyalty, I advise you quit because it's takes only someone that loves to prove to you they're still loyal to you.
Make up your mind to accept anything that comes out of the relationship else you might get a huge blow unexpectedly
First of all, u need to sit her down nd ask her if she still wish to continue with u or the other guy because I believe she can't just be friends with the guy she was previously dating...I think there is something fishy going on..the guy can't just be cool with you dating is ex, who knows maybe they didn't even breakup in the first place
U have said it all, firstly you said you force into enter relationship with her which is very bad because it not willingly from the girl heart and she even let you know that she has someone she dating already so it is better you go and look for your bae somewhere else
You are the architect of it, she already told you from the first time that she's dating someone and you insisted to force her. May she's love to you is not from the heart rather in the mouth only. It is better to get out of her or keep on trying and see whether she will fully get back to you.
The attention she is giving to the guy is an indication that they are still in love with each other. And he will be telling the guy also that you are just his friend. Tell her that you don't want to be seeing him with the guy again. If he is yours, he will oblige and if he is not the result will come out.
is giving to the guy is an indication that they are still in love with each other. And he will be telling the guy also that you are just his friend. Tell her that you don't want to be seeing him with the guy again. If he is yours, he will oblige and if he is not the result will come out.with her which is very bad because it not willingly from the girl heart and she even let you know that she has someone she dating already so it is better you go and look for your bae somewhere else
I think she just wanted to have a taste if both of you. And I advice that you let her be. You are forcing yourself on her and she is been convinced. She love you and she love her other friend as much. You either live with it or you find another person who is vacant.
Brother you can't force a lady to loves you.
the two of them are In love,and if you continue to believe her she will disappoint you sooner or later.So it's better to find your way out.
love has not to be by forcing.
First of all, relationship should not be forced but be built, but since it has already happened. I believe Loving someone is a choice , if you can't keep up with what's happening, just ensure the Maximum benefit of both of you by just being friends who care for each other.
Firstly, you can't force yourself into a relationship. A relationship will only be successful when there is agreement, truth and love between two people. I would advise to talk to her about the issue, ask her what she wants in the relationship if she still wants to continue or end the relationship
First you have to be honest to yourself then sit her down and tell her your concerns over her with a listening ear and not just you talking. That way when she sees your honesty she will open up to you. If after talking things over she still continues with the same attitude then end the relationship before stories that touch Will crop up.
Sometimes in life, we make certain decisions ourselves.
Love is sacrifice too, if you feel you love her but can't cope with the heart breaks you get each time you see them together, instead of hurting yourself more tell her you don't want the relationship again.
Breaking up with her doesn't mean you don't love her, it shows how much you really love her.
If she loves you, she'll come back for you. You not having her now doesn't mean she can't be fully yours later.
see, the real truth is, whatever you lied to get you need that lies to keep it as yours and when you force yourself on your partner to love you, you will need to keep forcing yourself on him or her to maintain the relationship, one thing have learnt about love is that both parties needs to love volountrily, willingly and passionately, that's when real love can exist, fact is that a woman will never cheat if she truly loves her man....
Forcing a lady into a relationship is a bad thing,
At first the lady told you that she has someone in her life, why can't you let go of her, instead you fell in love and later back fire on you... Because of her beauty.
My brother the best decision to take is to leave her and let go of her because she doesn't love you at all that was why she's still with her formal date.
My brother, u can decide to go into an investigation about it if truly she's flirting with him or she's cheating on you. It might just be mere friendship with him. If you wanna go on with her, sit her down and tell her you aren't comfortable with what's going on, and if she truly loves you, she would correct her ways, and if don't feel comfortable that way, u can move on bro, life doesn't end like that.
My dear forcing yourself into a relationship will bring you nothing but heart breaks. She stated it to you point blank that she already has someone else in her life, which means she is not willing to accept you whole heartedly. Maybe she said yes because she thinks you were pestering her. So I think is better you leave her and move on with your life.
Please you don't have to force yourself on any lady who does not love you neither should you force her to love you in return no matter how much you do love her. You will live to regret it if you force it to be.
That behavior is sure that she didn't love you, to me.
With what you said I think she you are the side nigga and she is cheating on his boyfriend which is the guy she was dating before you met her and she is not ready to leave her I think she agree for you because you keep pressurising her. It's better you let her go before its too late.
In my opinion, it was wrong for you to force yourself on the girl, since she was already in a relationship. It's not the best to snatch a girl from your fellow girl.
I just think it's because you practically snatched her away she is still in love with her ex. She can't find closure. Normally it takes time for a person to get over someone and in this case I guess the guy didn't do anything wrong you just intruded.
All you should do is to apologise to her for snatching her and then you should ask her if she truly loves you or if she is still in love with her ex. If she is, then I think you should let her be. What is yours will find you.
If you find out that your girlfriend is cheating on you the best thing for you to do is to get in a conversation with her to knwo why she did it don't be to quick to decide for a break up or get into an argument with her,incase after the conversation her reasons for doing it was too poor or unreasonable then you can break up with her or forgive her
Follow your heart my dear friend. You are the one who is practically affected and you know your true feelings for this girl. If it is s*x you want from her, you are almost there..but if it is love you want from her,then you have to give her time to make up her mind.
My brother u cant force a lady to like u o...afterall she was not into u at first may u forcing your way into heart made her accept ur proposal just to avoid pressure from u..well she might love u just .just setup a date 4 both of u then tell her how u feel ,be completely honest.u never can tell she might open up to u too
My brother you made a mistake, you would have first get to know if the lady love you before anything, and also you wouldn't have force her into the relationship, because she may not like you, now you have see the result, i will advise you to leave her and find a girl that loves you
If I should find out girl friend is cheating on me, iy depends on who she s cheating with..
Is no big deal of giving her a second chance, but if she decides to repeat it for the second time that will be the end of the relationship then.
you had better let her go and continue with your life, She will keep doing that over and over again because byiu can never tell why she's cheating in you, maybe she doesn't love you in the first place
These are some things u consider before making a decision
You know how you feel when you see them, let her know, cause they might not be together but because of what they had they are still friends, so if she vaule your relationship with her would change but if you doesn't change after a while you can let go of the relationship.
One question you should answer before entering a relationship is knowing if the other party loves you the way you love them, cheating is a common thing, ask her the reason for what she did and know if she's happy in the relationship, or if they are just friends
My advice is, for you to live the relationship, its not going to work out and its not going to end well as well. You dont have to force yourself into a relationship in the first place, that's the mistake some people make. Its not advisable at all. Cut it off, that's all i have to say.
My own personal opinion on this is that you can't force a lady to choose her own heart desire and since she is answering you still continue and don't trust her fully so that whenever she fails you can put your self toghther and start again .
If you really love her and thinks she is good for you and she's got what you like from a lady, the just keep playing cool and acting nice. But make sure you prove to her that you trully love her and she should tell you where you belong otherwise you're giving up.
If she is cheating on you brother, its not her fault at all.my reason for saying that is because you forced her to accept you which is never the right thing to do.one sided love is never the best in any case.just let her go
My brother just quit as soon as possible before it too late, you even said you forced yourself on her and it obvious that she don't love you to tell you the truth she is just deceiving you, herself and her so called ex are still dating.
If she can tell you previously that she is dating and then later accept you, then she can use you and thereafter accept another guy. Well dont give up on her and dont also force yourself on her. thanks
First and foremost you don't force yourself to people, if you do they will mistreat you, the fact that you forced yourself to the lady, i think you are faulted, since she told you she has someone she is dating, you should have quit.
It was wrong of you at first to force a relationship with her ... There's something about things that comes with force they do not last long and they tend to crack along the way ... What I think is best is for you to sit her down talk to her then ask her if she truly loves the guy and if she says no tell her about how you feel about his presence
Brother quit,at first you forced her into the relationship she doesn't want to be any part of,but because of the pressure she have to play along .....so you don't have a choice than to let go. the population of women inthe world tripple the male,find yourself another girl!
I think two things are involved. It is either you are the jealous type or you have trust issues. When you forced yourself into the relatinship and you now want her to drop her old friends that she had even before she knew you. As far as i am concerned, the guy she always chat with might be her friend; a best friend at that. If you feel you cannot cope with her playing with other guys, i think its best you move on with your life so that you wont have heart attack.
Brother sincerely speaking ladies are full of pretence,she said that she has nothing to do with that guy,it is a chronic lie she loves him more than you.Remember you forced yourself to her and as matter of fact you will be doing everything possible to make her happy both material things and others,bro all those prentence is all about the material things she gain from you, believe me she do extort from you to make that guy happy all because he loves him more than you,she hardly have time with you unless when the guy is not around ,so brother I advise you to let her go,and wait for God time he will send the one that is yours,never force yourself into relationship the end point is always regret
Its better to just leave the relationship because she must have agreed out of pressure, her mind is possibly with her main guy, its good for the love to be mutual, if its one-sided, hurt is inevitable.