What Will You Do If You Were In Her Shoes?

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I have two friends, one of them is crushing on a particular guy in our department. She and the guy are friends, not too close one though, but they talk and she couldn't bring herself to confess her love for him. One day, the guy asked them to see and she was beaming because she thought the guy was about to ask her out. Unfortunately, the guy told her she likes her friend and asked her if she could help him talk to her. She felt dejected and rejected and she doesn't know what to do.

Let's hear your opinion, what if you were the girl, what would you do?

What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By OLUWATOSIN ADEOYE - 2019-09-11 16:44:26

In my own opinion, I will do it because that means the guy didn't love me and I can't force my self on him. If I don't do it and I tell him that I love him, if he accept, he will later cheat on me. So what is my gain. 

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Eric Kalu - 2019-09-11 16:52:56

If I were the girl or to be in her shoes,I’d just forget the guy and help him get what his heart desires.A friend would not want to hurt his feelings,afterall it’s her fault for not showing how she felt since.

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Galion Ishaya James - 2019-09-11 16:54:12

I will not get worried becouse , there is no harm in trial and error. The girl the guy is dying for might not even accept his request, so why worry? The guy might change his stands eventually. I no reason to get upset.

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Thankgod Alabi - 2019-09-11 16:59:28

That's not cool at all. However, people we love to be with us may never make us their choice. But she should have made some moves to Mae the guy know she loves him. I feel so sorry for her. 

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Blessing Oshinor - 2019-09-11 17:02:30

Well it's painful. But I will hold my self up. Slowly kill my feelings for him and move on.

I will also talk to my friend about his request.

Note that I'm killing my feelings so that I would not push through to him and get a heart break.

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Uche Godswill - 2019-09-11 17:14:55

If i really love him I will deal with my feelings......be nice to him and show him love and hope that things might actually turn around for the better.if you love him you will also consider his happiness...

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Chinonso Henry Ikueze - 2019-09-11 17:14:56

As disappointing and rejecting that could be, there's no other thing to do other than to give way for the guy to go ahead with his feeling for the other girl. you cannot force or cajole someone to like or love you. if you beg him to be with you, you'll eventually beg him to stay with you. she should let them be, though it's going to be a tough call, there's no another thing to do, if she wants to keep her dignity intact.

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Abdullahi Mahmud - 2019-09-11 17:16:37

To my own perspective as a guy, I think she should open up her mind for the guy, because the guy also might have some feelings for her but due to the friend zone the guy might be thinking she would turn him down.

So that will make the guy aware of her feelings and she would also know if the guy us worth her feelings... 

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Ur Hinez - 2019-09-11 17:24:09

I quote this artist here now. 

African China he says "if you love somebody walk up to the person tell the person that you him/her because there's no crime of love "

In this situation now as a matured mind I will sit the guy down and explain to him. 

And see what he have to say. 

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Chijioke Franklin - 2019-09-11 17:24:29

I would feel heart broken, then I would confess that I love him so that I would not hold any grudge and I give him time to think if he still want my friend then he is free even though it would not be easy in my own side

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Paul Nwaso - 2019-09-11 17:31:39

If I were the girl, despite the fact that I want him to be my lover, I will happily connect him to my friend and if my friend is not interest in him, I'll then tell him how much I loved him. Maybe he may decide that we should go on

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Iniobong Akpan - 2019-09-11 17:34:43

She suppose to know the truth in there, because the guy  has told her that she want the other lady and not her. She is stressed at this moment because th e supposed love is not for her but for another person. I, myself will just keep off

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Ugolo lfeanyi - 2019-09-11 17:40:26

Alot of girls are like that. They hardly open up or summon courage to tell a guy how she feels. She will only be dying in silence. If you love somebody walk up to the person and tell him how you fell. It is never a sign of weakness. 

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Theophilus Elem - 2019-09-11 17:43:07

I think she should just let him and live her life, the most important thing is that she didn't have to find out that he doesn't feel same way about her like she does for him. We don't always get what we want in life, sometimes we win and other times we loose. Life is nit a bed of roses.

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Sunday Esther - 2019-09-11 17:49:49

Omg...  Hmm If I were  in her shoe ah I will feel bad and dejected but anyways I will just have to hold myself and try to excuse myself from the meeting then I will just have to talk to myself like he is not my own if he is mine the sprit would have connect.  Life goes on. 

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Awologbi Denyefa - 2019-09-11 17:50:44

Hmmmn... Sometimes in life we don't always get what we want that is sumtin we shud all know... I will go home and cry... Nobody shud judge me o... That's exactly what I will do than carry grudges... I will cry and get over it... Tell my friend d guy likes her... D highest I can do for him is to get him her number..... 

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Awologbi Denyefa - 2019-09-11 17:52:55

Hmmmn... Sometimes in life we don't always get what we want that is sumtin we shud all know... I will go home and cry... Nobody shud judge me o... That's exactly what I will do than carry grudges... I will cry and get over it... Tell my friend d guy likes her... D highest I can do for him is to get him her number..... 

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Manfred Ugwulo - 2019-09-11 18:05:46

I think there’s nothing she can do because it’s obvious the guy doesn’t like her,there’s this saying that goes this way”when you love,don’t expect love in return”all I can advice her is to sacrifice that feeling”meaning killing the feelings inside”and just be friends with him.

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Hyeladzira Musa Malgwi - 2019-09-11 18:12:17

Hmmm she has failed be that since she couldn't approach him to express her feelings towards him on time. If i were the one i will conclude that he doesn't belong to me, so will go ahead to help him out by talking to my friend on his behalf.

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Samuel Wongla - 2019-09-11 18:18:08

Though the girl she has already made a mistake by not telling the guy her filings for him, if I were the girl, I would just use that opportunity to speak up my mind to him, because two things are involved, he either reject me or he accept me.

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Adeseolu Kazeem - 2019-09-11 18:21:22

If I am her, I will simply confess to him that he have been crushing on him for a long time ago but I couldn't bring myself to letting him know how am feeling about him. It is better to be rejected after trying than not trying at all. The guy may also have some iota of feelings for her which he can actually build on to love her

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Adewumi Sunday - 2019-09-11 18:32:20

She is at the edge loosing him, there's a way a lady will say her mind to a guy and he will reason with her.. Be confident and matter enough to open up in a sensible way.

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Okede Nkemjika - 2019-09-11 18:47:46

It's a pity though

This is my advice to girls out there,if you love a girl walk up to and tell him your mind let it be he regreted, swallow your pride and do it and see what happens at the end. 

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Dairo Idowu - 2019-09-11 18:48:52

If I were the girl, stylishly I will let him know my feeling for by asking him some certain question and I his response I will accept my fate. But I won't tell my friend about him. All o would say is that he should be a man. That is he should approach her by himself.

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Eterigho Emmanuel - 2019-09-11 18:50:45

At some point we all get disappointed... It could be at different time intervals or about different situations but we get disappointed nonetheless. 

So it's not the end of the world... She ought to move on

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Adekola Adekola - 2019-09-11 19:11:00

The most important thing to know is that you can't forced someone to love you ,so don't take it personally ,just move on ,your own time will come.

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Emmanuel Favour - 2019-09-11 19:11:10

Something similar happened to me though he didn't tell me about it but I found out that he likes her not me he eventually asked her out and she declined because she knew it'd hurt me since I already had a crush on him so I'd advise you to make up your mind. If you eventually agree you might lose your friend maybe not totally but partially so follow your heart😩

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Joshua Oritogun - 2019-09-11 19:14:44

Sometimes people don't know what they want until it's in front of them. We live in a society that condemns Lady speaking up about what they feel about guys, that's why she waited that long and lost him. Well, if you help him and he gets the girl, you'll be damm heart broken. Just tell him how you feel about him. 

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Joshua Oritogun - 2019-09-11 19:15:20

Sometimes people don't know what they want until it's in front of them. We live in a society that condemns Lady speaking up about what they feel about guys, that's why she waited that long and lost him. Well, if you help him and he gets the girl, you'll be damm heart broken. Just tell him how you feel about him. 

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By John Vincent - 2019-09-11 19:24:45

For love or any relationship to work it must be mutual, if she likes the guy and the guy doesn't like her back, it just can't work so she would be wasting her time, but if she has talked to the guy earlier it would have been better, unfortunately for her, the guy likes her friend and not her. I don't think she would be in the right frame of mind to do the talking for the guy

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Odiohamma Ericson - 2019-09-11 19:28:15

Its tricky though because same thing happened to me like I was into a girl but I couldn't tell her gradually there was this friend of mine also we we were hanging out with so she later told me to help her talk to him I was kind  of feeling bad but all the same I did help her and after 1 month they broke up. Still didn't know what happened 

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Richard Olumide Okorocha - 2019-09-11 19:30:24

Well if I were in her shoes; I'd confess my love for the guy and tell him straight in the face that I won't assist him in gaining a chance with my friend 

I would rather look for a way to keep them as just friends and prevent them from becoming more than that, this is something that has to be done with respect and done in a way that their feelings or friendship won't be hurt or broken in any way

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Prince Robinson - 2019-09-11 20:00:12

I won't allow his love for her to push through. If i can't have him, nobody should have him.

Helping him get her will only me jealous and envy her which may even make us enemies. So to prevent that on time, i will stop him from approaching her.

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Yakubu Shelong - 2019-09-11 20:14:02

Two things are involved in this case, is either she open up and tell him how she feels or she keep quiet and help him talk to her friend for him. And it is not her friend's fault not the fault of the guy. It is no body's fault at all 'cause love is something one cannot deny.

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Ayodele-olorunfemi Praise - 2019-09-11 20:19:41

If I were her I would of course i would help him get my friend and I wouldn't try to cause problems by telling him I have feelings for him because it would definitely cause a fight between me and my friend. If the feelings persist in me for the guy then I would find some ways to win his heart but I won't make it obvious because I'm trying to avoid a fight.

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Izuchi Gospel Okogbue - 2019-09-11 20:25:26

That is why some Nigerian girls are somehow stupid sometimes, you love someone and you are waiting for the one to come and tell you first, maybe the guy love her and wanted to see her reactions that's why he came to her.

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By A. Adetutu Adenowo - 2019-09-11 20:41:14

If I were to be the girl, since love should be a mutual thing, I would just overcome mine, move on with my life and help him talk to that my friend for him...I could try not to be close to the two of them anymore though...

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Ruth Ikpotokin - 2019-09-11 20:49:34

The key word here is maturity. It won't be easy for me to take a walk but it's something I'd rather do than force myself on him and end up having more regrets. If I were in her shoes, I would wish them all the best and keep my emotions in check. 

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Nwosu Vincent - 2019-09-11 20:49:48

Give him an Okay as answer, then go to your friend with a smile talk to her about the guy, go home think of things that will make you fall out of love with him, try your best to do so

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Izuchi Gospel Okogbue - 2019-09-11 21:02:05

If am in her shoes, I will be like via my response to the guy.

Is it that you don't use to see the girl on the way that you're telling me to tell for you. You don't know her house or you don't have mouth to tell her.

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Taiwo Itunuoluwa - 2019-09-11 21:28:47

I see no reason why a lady can walk up to a guy to tell him her mind but now since the lady was not able to take quick step and the guy fell in love with another lady ,she just has to let go and wait for her own lover,we never can say the lady the guy want might not want or love the guy,so thibgs can still turn around for her

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Isaac Olalere - 2019-09-11 21:38:27

Well i would feel bad that is normal and if out of jealousy of my friend wanted by the same guy I'm in love with i would rather tell him there outrightly that i can't speak to her on his behalf. I wouldn't want to act as an intermediary between them in anyway to avoid any kind of hard feelings for me.

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Emmanuel Ugbeye - 2019-09-11 21:59:29

She should just control her emotions and she should not let it take the better of her. The guys doesn't love her and that is very obvious, going into a relationship with someone who doesn't love you is the worst thing you can do to yourself, you only end up getting hurt. If i were her i would tell the other girl everything and maybe just keep hoping that he sees me for more than just a friend

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Odinaka Duru - 2019-09-11 22:06:30

A delayed obedience the wise man says is a disobedience the first gear might hard have his chances lost if not that he refused to speak up probably the guy might have giving her a chance and Love Grows with affection whoever that you are so close with you tend to start loving them that would have been a way good start for him but none the less she missed opportunity let's she just pass over the baton to the next friend if she's a true friend indeed

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Ruth Okoloeze - 2019-09-11 22:13:06

Assumption! This has landed many girls in trouble, always thinking what is not. It's bad to assume a guy likes you when he has not said so. It's either she let the guy know her feelings or better still forget about it. If she can help the guy get her friend, good then, if not, she should just tell him to man up and talk to the girl herself.chikena!

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Beulah Adaeze KenManufor - 2019-09-11 22:28:08

First of all I'd be hurt 

This is a sensitive case but if I were her I'd link him to my friend it's obvious he liked what he saw Like they say there's a man out there for every girl so I'd believe he wasn't meant for me

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Nasiru Abass - 2019-09-11 22:39:33

Assuming she has express her feelings to the guy, the guy would have had feelings too.. Her mistake is that she's expecting the guy to take the first move.. This kind of issue will surely hurt her but she doesn't have choice than to talk to her friend on behave of the guy and she should get someone else to love her...

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Sayodun Aminullahi - 2019-09-11 22:54:35

I think, the cool thing for her to do is to confess her love for the guy, Buh if she gets rejected, she should just lock up and help her crush out... If her feeling is true sha, His happiness would be her priority

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Maureen Okoh - 2019-09-11 22:56:26

I won't be happy to hear that quite alright

But I will give up and allow him to befriend my friend, this is because he likes my friend as not me, so it's better I look elsewhere and not allow jealousy build up in me. I cannot settle for less and the right guy for me may just be closer than I can imagine.

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What will you do if you were in her shoes? - By Prince Michael - 2019-09-11 23:02:25

The first mistake she did was that she didn't tell him earlier on how she feels for him, had  it been she did, the guy might have falling for her ,I my self was once spoken to by a girl, though I didn't have her in mind, I still fell for her.

So she wasn't able to speak, then is up to her to just move on, because the guy might not be for her, there is a woman for every man. 

Let her move on, she might see someone much Loving. 

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